Name: 情感操縱者的跡象 (Signs of an emotional manipulator)
Uploaded: 2022-05-20T16:46:23.000Z
Duration: 5 min 15 s

- Some of you aren't doing the work, and it shows.

- 你們中的一些人沒有做這些工作，這一點很明顯。

So a few months ago, two women who I know,

所以幾個月前，我認識的兩個女人。

我覺得自己就像《黑客帝國》中的尼奧，"

just dodging emotional manipulation left and right.

只是左躲右閃地進行情感操縱。

而且要清楚，比如，禁止虐待者。

most people who do this operate unconsciously.

大多數這樣做的人都是無意識地操作。

They're not even aware of what they're doing,

他們甚至不知道自己在做什麼。

You know, it's a learned survival strategy

你知道，這是一種學習到的生存策略

can be a coping mechanism learned in childhood,

可能是在童年學到的一種應對機制。

And it doesn't make manipulation okay by any means,

而且，這並不意味著操縱行為是好的。

deal with all these walking wounds out here,

處理所有這些行走的傷口在這裡。

just flailing around, flinging their shit.

只是到處亂晃，甩動他們的狗屎。

besides a simplified carousel all over your Instagram

除了在你的Instagram上有一個簡化的旋轉木馬之外

when a person seeks power over someone else

and employs dishonest or exploitative strategies to gain it.

並採用不誠實或剝削的策略來獲得它。

Manipulative people attack your mental and emotional sides

操縱性強的人攻擊你的精神和情感方面

to get power, control, benefits, or privileges.

以獲得權力、控制、利益或特權。

So sign number one that you're dealing with

是以，第一種跡象表明你正在處理的是

the three hallmarks of manipulative behavior.

So manipulators will evoke these three emotions

playing all the characters, creating all the drama.

扮演所有的角色，創造所有的戲劇。

他們會讓莎士比亞感到非常自豪。

Hell is empty and all the devils are here.

地獄是空的，所有的魔鬼都在這裡。

- (哭)所有閃光的東西都不是金子。

- Methinks the lady doth protest too much.

- 我認為這位女士抗議得太多了。

- 我告訴過你，我有工作上的義務!

- To be cool or not to be cool, that is the question.

- 耍酷還是不耍酷，這是個問題。

- Oh my god, okay, alright I'm so sorry, alright?

- 哦，我的上帝，好吧，好吧，我很抱歉，好嗎？

- 我們是在一個莎士比亞的舞臺上。

and they might use aggression, threats, and intimidation

他們可能會使用侵略、威脅和恐嚇的手段

But, when they decide to play the victim,

但是，當他們決定扮演受害者。

他們採用的是一種內疚的感覺。

They act really hurt, they weaponize tears,

他們表現得很受傷，他們把眼淚當作武器。

they make you feel incredibly bad about what you're doing

他們讓你對自己所做的事情感到無比的難過

An emotional manipulator typically will always assign blame

情緒操縱者通常總是將責任歸咎於人

and there's also a new sneaky, evolved version -

而且還有一個新的偷偷摸摸的進化版--

someone who knows how to say all the right things

when they can tell that you're really fed up

當他們能看出你真的受夠了的時候

but they never actually change their action.

但他們從未真正改變他們的行動。

they lie, misrepresent, fib, or make misstatements

他們說謊、歪曲事實、撒謊或作出錯誤陳述

They may exaggerate events to make themselves

or understate their own role in a conflict

或低估他們自己在衝突中的作用

Whatever the case, almost all emotional manipulators

不管是什麼情況，幾乎所有的情緒操縱者

The best way to deal with this kind of manipulative behavior

處理這種操縱行為的最好方法是

is to hold your boundary and stand in your truth.

是堅守你的邊界，站在你的真理中。

Now that you know the signs of an emotional manipulator

現在你知道了情感操縱者的跡象

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