Name: 如何自信 | 自信的三個關鍵 | 琳達-雷尼爾 (How to be Confident | 3 Keys to Self-Confidence | Linda Raynier)
Uploaded: 2022-05-17T17:55:28.000Z
Duration: 17 min 55 s

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Hey, ambitious professionals, It's linda Rainer of linda Rainer dot com guiding you to a career in life you'll truly enjoy now if you lately because of the situation that we're in been feeling a bit stuck a bit empty, maybe lonely, stressed out, frustrated and anxious on a day to day basis than this video is for you because I am going to talk to you.

嘿，有雄心壯志的專業人士，我是琳達-雷納點com的琳達-雷納，指導你在生活中找到你真正喜歡的職業，如果你最近因為我們所處的情況而感到有點卡住，有點空虛，也許是孤獨，有壓力，沮喪和焦慮的一天，這個視頻是為你準備的，因為我將與你交談。

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It's a bit of a more in depth video where I'm going to share with you the reasons why you're likely feeling this way and what you can start to do and how you can start to see yourself differently so that you can feel better about yourself on a daily basis.

這是一個更深入的視頻，我將與你分享你可能有這種感覺的原因，以及你可以開始做什麼，如何開始以不同的方式看待自己，以便你可以每天對自己感覺更好。

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This is all about boosting your confidence and finding value in who you are.

這都是為了增強你的信心，並在你的身份中找到價值。

So if you're interested in this, let's get started mm hmm.

是以，如果你對此感興趣，讓我們開始吧，毫米嗯。

As a career strategist, I've had the honor of being able to help numerous professionals land their dream job offers.

作為一名職業戰略家，我很榮幸能夠幫助眾多專業人士獲得他們夢想的工作機會。

And so if this is something that you're interested in working with me one on one, I can give you details about that at the end of this video.

是以，如果你對與我一對一合作感興趣，我可以在這段視頻的結尾處給你提供相關細節。

Now, like I said earlier, today's video is going to be a slightly different video from what I normally do, where I'm just sharing my three reasons for why I feel you're not feeling the greatest about yourself and how you can improve that.

現在，就像我之前說的，今天的視頻將是一個與我通常做的略有不同的視頻，我只是分享我的三個原因，為什麼我覺得你對自己沒有最大的感覺，以及你如何能夠改善這一點。

Instead I want to share with you three reasons that I was able to learn from a very specific book that I've been reading over the last several weeks and months and that book is called a course in miracles.

相反，我想與你們分享我能夠從過去幾周和幾個月來一直在閱讀的一本非常具體的書中學習的三個原因，那本書叫做《奇蹟課程》。

你們中的一些人可能聽說過這本書。

Some of you may have not basically the premise of this book is it's considered a spiritual text.

你們中的一些人可能沒有基本上這本書的前提是它被認為是一個精神文本。

It's not the bible, it's not a religious text of any sort, but it does have some, I guess spiritual and religious connotations in it.

這不是聖經，不是任何形式的宗教文本，但它確實有一些，我想精神和宗教的內涵在裡面。

我的意思是我只是把這句話說出來。

But what I was able to do from reading this book and I haven't finished it.

但我從閱讀這本書中能夠做到的是，我還沒有讀完這本書。

By the way, I've only read several chapters is as I've gone through, I've been able to gain some insight and some wisdom that I find is completely applicable in everyday life.

順便說一下，我只讀了幾章，但隨著我的閱讀，我已經能夠獲得一些洞察力和一些智慧，我發現這些智慧完全適用於日常生活中。

And I think this is something that you can do as well with any book that you decide to read any sort of motivational, uplifting spiritual or religious book.

我認為這也是你可以做的事情，你決定閱讀任何類型的激勵、振奮人心的精神或宗教書籍。

You're going to be able to find lessons that will apply to you and be able to use them for yourself.

你將能夠找到適用於你的課程，並能夠為自己所用。

So that's what I want to be able to do with you today is share with you three reasons why I feel that you aren't feeling great right now about yourself that I was able to find from a course in miracles and then we're going to be able to talk about each of those reasons and how we can overcome them so that you can feel more confident and feel more optimistic as the days and months go on.

是以，這就是我今天想和你做的事情，就是和你分享我覺得你現在對自己的感覺不是很好的三個原因，我能夠從奇蹟課程中找到這些原因，然後我們將能夠談論這些原因中的每一個，以及我們如何能夠克服它們，以便你能夠在日積月累中感到更加自信，感到更加樂觀。

The first reason is a direct quote from a course in miracles.

第一個原因是直接引用了《奇蹟課程》的內容。

And it says our sense of inadequacy, weakness and incompletion comes from the strong investment in the scarcity principle that governs the whole world of illusions.

它說我們的不足、軟弱和不完整感來自於對支配整個幻覺世界的稀缺原則的強烈投資。

Just to put it out there, the language that they write in with this book, it doesn't sound like the way that you and I would speak, but essentially what they're saying here is that the feeling that you have of feeling incomplete, feeling inadequate compared to others feeling not good enough.

只是要把它放在那裡，他們在這本書中寫的語言，聽起來不像你和我說話的方式，但基本上他們在這裡說的是，你有的感覺是不完整的，與其他人相比感覺不夠好。

Actually stems from a very specific belief that you have.

實際上是源於你的一個非常具體的信念。

And that belief is called the scarcity principle.

而這種信念被稱為稀缺性原則。

What does scarcity mean scarcity means that there isn't enough to go around that maybe somebody else has more and I have less and therefore in order for me to get more, I have to take that from someone or I have to figure out a way to get more outside of myself.

稀缺性意味著什麼？稀缺性意味著不夠用，也許別人有更多，而我有更少，是以為了讓我得到更多，我必須從別人那裡得到，或者我必須想辦法從自己之外得到更多。

So if you can understand that, ask yourself, do I have the idea of the scarcity principle as a belief for me.

是以，如果你能理解這一點，請問你自己，我有沒有把稀缺性原則的想法作為我的信念。

Do you believe in the scarcity principle?

Do you believe that it's a dog eat dog world that unless you're aggressive unless you go after what it is that you want, but and have to push people out of the way that you won't become more if you believe that and to be honest 99.9% of us do believe that because we were raised in a society that has taught us to be competitive.

你是否相信這是一個狗咬狗的世界，除非你積極進取，除非你去追求你想要的東西，但必須把別人推開，你不會變得更多，如果你相信這一點，說實話，我們99.9%的人確實相信，因為我們在一個教會我們競爭的社會中長大。

That has taught us to look at others as potential competition, as potential enemies, as individuals who might beat us when it comes to, for example, looking for a job, if you feel that that does exist for you, and that's a reality for you, then that's the reason why you feel less than because you don't feel that you are enough as you are.

這讓我們學會了把別人看成是潛在的競爭者，潛在的敵人，看成是在比如說找工作的時候可能會打敗我們的人，如果你覺得這對你來說確實存在，而且這對你來說是一個現實，那麼這就是你覺得不如意的原因，因為你不覺得你是足夠的人。

You feel that you have to compete with others.

You have to prove your worth in order for you to feel good about yourself.

你必須證明你的價值，以便你對自己感覺良好。

And I'm here to tell you that honestly, that way of thinking and that belief is something that I myself have struggled with as well.

而我在這裡要告訴你，說實話，這種思維方式和信念是我自己也曾掙扎過的。

And it's still a work in progress for me, because if we hold on to those types of beliefs, what we find is that we'll never feel enough.

對我來說，這仍然是一項正在進行的工作，因為如果我們堅持這些類型的信念，我們會發現，我們永遠不會感到足夠。

Because no matter how much we try to demonstrate to the world that we're capable, no matter how much we try to prove to everyone else that we can do it, no matter how much we try to show what we're capable of to the world, we ourselves will never feel good enough because we're looking to the world to give us that approval.

因為無論我們如何努力向世界證明我們有能力，無論我們如何努力向其他人證明我們可以做到，無論我們如何努力向世界展示我們的能力，我們自己永遠不會覺得自己足夠好，因為我們在期待世界給我們這種認可。

And the truth is you can't you can't look to other people to give you approval if you decide to live your life that way where you choose to give up your power to other people's opinions, other people's perceptions, unfortunately, you will always feel not good enough.

而事實是，你不能，你不能指望其他人給你認可，如果你決定以這種方式生活，你選擇放棄你的權力，接受其他人的意見，其他人的看法，不幸的是，你將永遠感到不夠好。

That's the nugget that I was able to get from this one quote, is that your sense of incompletion, your sense of inadequacy, your sense of worthlessness or feeling not a value comes from the idea that your value and your worth exists outside of you.

這就是我能夠從這句話中得到的小結，就是你的不完整感、你的不充分感、你的無價值感或感覺不是一種價值，來自你的價值和你的價值存在於你之外的想法。

And it doesn't, you already have everything that you need within you.

而事實並非如此，你的內心已經擁有你所需要的一切。

We were born with all these amazing gifts and talents and abilities and a unique personality and that is what we have to focus in on and that's what we have to nurture and nourish within ourselves and being in the situation that you're in now where you're likely stuck at home, maybe you live on your own and you're having to deal with these frustrations and anxieties and stress on a daily basis.

我們生來就有所有這些驚人的天賦、才能和能力以及獨特的個性，這就是我們必須關注的，這就是我們必須培養和滋養自己內心的東西，而在你現在的情況下，你可能被困在家裡，也許你自己住，你不得不每天處理這些挫折、焦慮和壓力。

This is a perfect time for you to discover beneath all of that, who you really are, who am I at the most deepest level and what gifts and talents do I have available to share with the world.

這是一個完美的時機，讓你發現在這一切之下，你到底是誰，我是誰在最深的層次，我有什麼禮物和才能可以與世界分享。

You have to start first with realizing your value what you can offer and then whatever it is that you want, if it is a better job, if it is a better home you're going to be able to get it without feeling that you can't without feeling inadequate, you're going to be able to get it based on your own sense of inner confidence, that was a really long rant for that first reason.

你必須首先從實現你的價值開始，你能提供什麼，然後無論你想要什麼，如果是一份更好的工作，如果是一個更好的家，你將能夠得到它，而不覺得你不能而不感到不足，你將能夠得到它，基於你自己的內在自信感，那真是一個很長的咆哮，因為那是第一個原因。

But hopefully I made it clear, and if you can just shift this belief away from valuing yourself compared to others, and instead valuing yourself just based on your own inherent gifts, talents, and abilities that hopefully will make a huge difference for how you're going to feel in the next days and weeks to come reason.

但希望我已經說得很清楚了，如果你能把這種信念從與他人相比重視自己轉移到重視自己，而只是基於你自己固有的天賦、才華和能力，希望這將對你在未來幾天和幾周內的感受產生巨大影響。

Number two, why you've not been feeling so great according to a course of miracles, says whatever you accept into your mind has reality for you, it is your acceptance that makes it real.

第二，為什麼你的感覺不是很好，根據奇蹟課程說，無論你接受什麼，對你來說都是現實，是你的接受使它成為現實。

This statement is so simple, yet it is so true.

這句話是如此簡單，但卻是如此真實。

Whatever you have accepted to believe becomes your reality.

你接受相信什麼，就會成為你的現實。

And if you don't look at yourself and you look at somebody else, think of someone else who lives their life, where they don't feel that they're enough.

如果你不看自己而看別人，想想別人的生活，他們不覺得自己夠用。

They feel that it's a doggy dog world, that to get anything that you want, you have to fight for it.

他們覺得這是一個狗血的世界，要想得到任何你想要的東西，你必須為它而戰。

That it's all about competition, that things don't come easily, that it's all a struggle.

這一切都與競爭有關，事情來之不易，都是一場鬥爭。

Imagine how they go about their life feeling and believing and thinking those things versus someone who feels more optimistic and more connected to themselves, where they feel that they know what their strengths are, they know what their weaknesses are and they're willing to be reasonable about that.

想象一下，他們如何去感受、相信和思考這些事情，與那些感覺更樂觀、與自己更有聯繫的人相比，他們覺得他們知道自己的優勢是什麼，他們知道自己的弱點是什麼，他們願意合理地對待這些。

And then from there, they're willing to trust in their own inner guidance to take steps to move forward?

然後從那裡，他們願意相信自己內心的指引，採取步驟向前邁進？

And if things don't work out, they try a different way, but they don't judge themselves as harshly as the person who I just mentioned earlier, let's talk about you, How is your life playing out right now, based on what you've accepted to become your reality?

如果事情不成功，他們會嘗試不同的方式，但他們不會像我剛才提到的那個人那樣嚴厲地評判自己，讓我們談談你，根據你接受的成為你的現實的東西，你的生活現在是如何進行的？

Because the truth is we all have this power within us to be able to accept certain beliefs.

因為事實是我們內心都有這種力量，能夠接受某些信念。

We have the power to determine how we want to see the world.

我們有能力決定我們想如何看待這個世界。

You can see it as a place of opportunities, you can see this experience of living this life as almost as though you are on a journey and you're here to learn some lessons and you're here too gain experiences and you're here to experience everything fully?

你可以把它看作是一個充滿機會的地方，你可以把這種生活經驗看作是幾乎是在一個旅程中，你在這裡學習一些課程，你在這裡也獲得經驗，你在這裡充分體驗一切？

Or you can see this as a never ending, dreary experience and not really understanding deeper meaning of why you're here.

或者你可以把這看作是一個永無止境的、沉悶的經歷，並不真正理解你為什麼在這裡的深層意義。

So what I'm trying to say is that what you really want to do is to understand what it is that you are believing, what have you accepted into your reality and how is that playing out for you?

所以我想說的是，你真正想做的是瞭解你所相信的是什麼，你在現實中接受了什麼，這對你來說是怎樣的結果？

Because at the end of the day, it does not matter what other people think of you.

因為在一天結束時，其他人怎麼看你並不重要。

All that really matters, is how you think and feel about yourself to help you with this?

真正重要的是，你對自己的看法和感覺如何，以幫助你解決這個問題？

I would want you to ask yourself some questions and that's to say, am I living the life that I deserve?

我希望你能問自己一些問題，這就是說，我是否過著我應得的生活？

Am I leveraging my strengths and talents and gifts to do what I'm meant to do?

我是否利用我的優勢、才能和天賦來做我註定要做的事情？

Do I believe that this is possible for me that I can achieve the kind of career and the kind of life that I really want understand?

我是否相信這對我來說是可能的，我可以實現我真正想要了解的那種事業和生活？

What are those beliefs that I've accepted?

那些我已經接受的信念是什麼？

I need to release my ownership of You need to let go of those beliefs that no longer serve you and that takes work, my friend, this is a time for you to start journaling to start understanding, diving deep into who you are so that once you release those negative beliefs, those beliefs that aren't true and really understand where they come from, you are going to be able to smoothly glide into the next phase of your life and you're gonna be able to have inspiration and gain insights into what it is that you want to really do.

我需要釋放我的所有權 你需要放下那些不再為你服務的信念，這需要工作，我的朋友，現在是你開始寫日記的時候，開始理解，深入瞭解你是誰，這樣一旦你釋放那些消極的信念，那些不真實的信念，並真正理解它們來自哪裡，你將能夠順利地滑入你生活的下一個階段，你將能夠有靈感，並獲得對你想要真正做什麼的洞察力。

Let's move on to reason, Number three miracles arise from a mind that is ready for them Now, this is not so much a reason why you're not feeling great as more of just a simple statement that says that people who are ready for miracles and whatever you want to define as a miracle, a miracle is gaining clarity into who you are, A miracle is feeling more grounded within yourself.

現在，這並不是你感覺不好的原因，而只是一個簡單的聲明，說那些準備好迎接奇蹟的人，無論你想把它定義為奇蹟，奇蹟是獲得對你是誰的清晰認識，奇蹟是感覺自己的內心更加踏實。

A miracle is being able to access a deeper part of you that is away from the mind chatter and from the judgments and really being more centered within yourself, more connected within yourself.

一個奇蹟是能夠進入你更深的部分，遠離頭腦中的喋喋不休，遠離判斷，真正地在自己的內心深處更加集中，在自己的內心深處更加連接。

Those I consider miracles, you will only experience those miracles if you're ready for them.

那些我認為的奇蹟，只有當你準備好了，你才會經歷這些奇蹟。

The reason why I brought this statement up as the third point that I wanted to make in this video is because there are people out there who will disagree with me and say that, you know, for example, during this time of being in the coronavirus, we should have the right to pout, we should have the right to complain and be fearful and be filled with anxiety and be filled with stress.

我之所以把這句話作為我想在這段視頻中提出的第三點，是因為外面有人會不同意我的觀點，說，你知道，比如說，在這個處於冠狀病毒的時期，我們應該有權利撅嘴，我們應該有權利抱怨和恐懼，充滿焦慮，充滿壓力。

我不會把這個權利從你那裡奪走。

If that is how you want to conduct your day, go ahead.

如果你想這樣過你的日子，就去吧。

But if that is not how you want to fill your days and hours and your energy, if you don't want to sit in that negativity, there is another way that's all I'm pointing to.

但是，如果這不是你想要填補你的日子和時間以及你的能量的方式，如果你不想坐在那種消極性中，還有另一種方式，這就是我所指出的。

If you want to experience miracles, if you want to experience shifts, if you want to feel better about yourself, be more connected to who you are and be able to listen and hear that inner guidance that's within each and every one of us.

如果你想體驗奇蹟，如果你想體驗轉變，如果你想對自己有更好的感覺，與你是誰有更多的聯繫，並能夠傾聽和聽到我們每個人內心的指導。

If you want to be able to access that you have the ability to but you have to be open and ready for it and those people that want to fight for their right to complain and to be unhappy and to be filled with anxiety and to be filled with worry, clearly they're not ready.

如果你想能夠獲得，你有能力，但你必須開放並準備好，那些想爭取他們的權利，抱怨和不快樂，充滿焦慮，充滿擔憂的人，顯然他們還沒有準備好。

So you get to decide for you ask yourself, am I making myself ready?

是以，你要為你自己決定，問自己，我是否讓自己準備好了？

Or am I digging myself into a deeper hole of wanting to experience misery and anxiety and stress?

還是我在給自己挖一個更深的坑，想要體驗痛苦、焦慮和壓力？

The way you decide to live your life is completely up to you.

你決定的生活方式完全取決於你。

You have to remember that that's the truth.

你可以決定你的生活如何發展。

I mean, obviously we don't have full control of everything that happens in our life, but we have control over ourselves, we have control over how connected we are within ourselves.

我的意思是，顯然我們不能完全控制我們生活中發生的一切，但我們可以控制自己，我們可以控制自己內心的聯繫程度。

We have control over how much effort we put into nurturing, caring and loving ourselves.

我們可以控制自己在培養、關心和愛護自己方面投入多少努力。

So you want to ask yourself, how much effort am I putting into myself where I'm prepping and priming myself to be ready for those miracles to happen.

是以，你要問自己，我在自己身上投入了多少努力，我在為自己做準備，為這些奇蹟的發生做好鋪墊。

Whatever you want to define as a miracle, whether it's another job opportunity or it's a new relationship or it's something that you want to achieve.

無論你想把什麼定義為奇蹟，無論是另一個工作機會還是新的關係，或者是你想實現的東西。

Those types of things will only come to those who are ready.

這些類型的東西只會出現在那些準備好的人身上。

Being ready means you have to do the work the internal work to clear out that desire to just want to sit and be filled with anxiety and stress.

做好準備意味著你必須做工作，做內部工作，清除那種只想坐著，充滿焦慮和壓力的願望。

I mean, every single one of these points that I've brought across in order to overcome them.

我的意思是，為了克服這些問題，我所帶來的每一個點都是如此。

it all takes work in order to figure out who you are deep down inside.

這一切都需要努力，以弄清你的內心深處是誰。

And I just wanted to bring this to your awareness that there is a different way to live.

我只是想讓你們意識到，有一種不同的生活方式。

So that's the third and final point is that miracles will come to those who are ready for them, just like opportunities come to those who are ready for them.

所以這就是第三點，也是最後一點，就是奇蹟會降臨到那些準備好的人身上，就像機會降臨到那些準備好的人身上一樣。

Imagine for example that you're searching for a job right now, but you haven't prepared yourself for it.

例如，想象一下，你現在正在尋找一份工作，但你還沒有為之做好準備。

You haven't done the work of being able to prepare yourself for the interview so you can sell yourself well, you haven't done the work of preparing your application, but there's this amazing opportunity that comes up, likelihood is that you won't achieve that opportunity because you haven't done the work to match what that opportunity requires.

你還沒有做準備面試的工作，所以你可以很好地推銷自己，你還沒有做準備申請的工作，但有這個驚人的機會出現了，很可能你不會實現這個機會，因為你沒有做工作來匹配這個機會的要求。

Same goes with everything else in your life.

你生活中的其他事情也是如此。

If you want to change, if you want to be more connected to who you are, you have to do the work to get there.

如果你想改變，如果你想更多地與你自己聯繫起來，你必須做工作來達到目的。

If you want those miracles to come, you have to be willing to dig deep to rise yourself up and to match yourself to those miracles.

如果你想讓這些奇蹟出現，你必須願意深挖自己，讓自己昇華，讓自己與這些奇蹟相匹配。

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