Name: 我如何在30歲時獲得在日本生活的夢想生活 (How I Got my Dream Life Living in Japan at 30 Years Old)
Uploaded: 2021-11-15T21:00:28.000Z
Duration: 19 min 23 s

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growing up, I was taught that the world can be a scary place older you get influenced by so many in my life about how getting older, you lose out on more opportunities and adventures.

在我的成長過程中，我被教導說，世界可能是一個可怕的地方，在我的生活中，有很多人對我說，年紀大了，你會失去更多的機會和冒險。

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But that couldn't be further from the truth.

Looking back on the chapters in my life, I couldn't be more proud of myself.

回顧我生命中的這些篇章，我為自己感到無比自豪。

We forget how much we've accomplished in our lives and the lessons we've learned and how much we've grown to be the human we are today.

我們忘記了我們在生活中取得了多少成就，我們學到了多少教訓，我們成長為今天的人類。

Not only do we become teachers as we get older, we remain students.

隨著年齡的增長，我們不僅成為老師，而且仍然是學生。

That's another thing that you need to remember as we inch towards our thirties, forties, fifties and beyond, Never quit learning and continue to educate those who need a lesson or two in life.

這是在我們逐步走向三十歲、四十歲、五十歲和更遠的時候，你需要記住的另一件事，永遠不要放棄學習，繼續教育那些在生活中需要一兩課的人。

The best thing about growing older is how much of an impact we have on society and younger generations.

老年的最好的事情是我們對社會和年輕一代有多大的影響。

It's also important to remember that it's never too late to do anything.

同樣重要的是要記住，現在做什麼都不晚。

We're taught that certain ages mean we can't do something, but that is only a limiting belief and we need to stop listening to and preaching that to others, start to believe that once you hit a certain age that you can do something not can't becoming 30.

我們被教導說，某些年齡意味著我們不能做某事，但這只是一種限制性的信念，我們需要停止聽從和向他人宣揚這種信念，開始相信，一旦你到了某個年齡，你就可以做一些不能成為30歲的事情。

I know now is the best feeling, knowing I can continue my passion for teaching and impacting others.

我知道現在是最好的感覺，知道我可以繼續我對教學和影響他人的熱情。

The twenties were my moments to discover, grow and learn and I can't even begin to tell you what my thirties might hold a whole new adventure awaits.

二十幾歲是我發現、成長和學習的時刻，我甚至無法告訴你三十幾歲可能會有什麼，一個全新的冒險正在等待著我。

是啊，是啊，是啊，是啊，是啊。

Happy birthday to me that it's not actually my birthday, my birthday is tomorrow and he's washing stuff for me today.

祝我生日快樂，其實這不是我的生日，我的生日是明天，他今天為我洗東西。

But yeah, so today we're going to go for a walk even though it looks like it's gonna rain on my birthday and then we're gonna get cake.

不過是的，所以今天我們要去散步，儘管我的生日看起來要下雨，然後我們要去吃蛋糕。

I was so excited and then we're going to get stuff to make tacos because it's my favorite meal.

我非常興奮，然後我們要去拿東西做玉米餅，因為這是我最喜歡的一餐。

Yeah, I don't know what else I'm going to do today.

是的，我不知道我今天還能做什麼。

實際上，我打算在今天進行規劃。

Ug booked a super expensive hotel for us to stay in a nico for one night.

Ug為我們訂了一家超級昂貴的酒店，讓我們在niconico住一晚。

That is going to be actually my birthday present.

I had to choose between sushi or tacos and choose tacos.

我不得不在壽司或玉米餅之間做出選擇，並選擇了玉米餅。

But I feel like I'd get sick of sushi after a while.

但我覺得我過一段時間就會對壽司感到厭煩。

I feel like I never get sick of mexican food.

我覺得我永遠不會對墨西哥食物感到厭倦。

I want to eat like Sushi once a week and maybe uh Mexican food for the rest of the 60s.

我想每週吃一次壽司，60年代的其餘時間也許是呃墨西哥菜。

So today's video is going to be not so cinematic or voice ovary.

是以，今天的視頻將是不那麼電影化的，或者說是聲音卵翼的。

Maybe the intro is going to be like that.

And you guys probably seen the intro just because this is a very emotional time for me and it's a time for a new chapter in my life and I'm so excited for it.

你們可能看到了介紹，只是因為這對我來說是一個非常激動人心的時刻，這是我生命中的一個新篇章，我對它感到非常興奮。

I feel like turning 30 is like the best thing because there's just so much that I learned in my twenties that I can take and use for my thirties, you know like all the lessons I've learned, I'm just more prepared for my thirties and more prepared to be a grown adult.

我覺得30歲是最好的事情，因為我在20多歲時學到了很多東西，我可以在30歲時使用，你知道，像我學到的所有課程，我只是為我的30歲做了更多準備，更準備成為一個成年的人。

I really wanted to talk about the things that I learned in my twenties that can really help you guys out in the future.

我真的想談談我在二十多歲時學到的東西，這些東西真的可以在未來幫助你們。

There's so many lessons you guys so many.

有這麼多的教訓，你們這麼多。

This could be like a part two, part three video, but I'm just going to kind of highlight some of the things that I learned while living abroad in my twenties, I learned what self love truly is.

這可能是一個第二部分、第三部分的視頻，但我只是要強調我在二十多歲時在國外生活時學到的一些東西，我學到了什麼是真正的自愛。

Once I shipped myself off to the land of Japan, I realized that I was on my own that this was it, that I am taking 100% responsibility for my experience in my life, it was a slow learning curve.

一旦我把自己運送到日本的土地上，我意識到我自己就是這樣，我正在為我的生活經歷承擔100%的責任，這是一個緩慢的學習曲線。

Everyone was saying that pampering yourself like painting your nails bath, having a day off is self love although that is part of healing and taking care of yourself.

每個人都在說，寵愛自己，如塗指甲油洗澡，放一天假就是自愛，儘管這是治療和照顧自己的一部分。

Self love is what you can provide for yourself.

自愛是你能為自己提供的東西。

And I realized in the end that all the things that I had gone through the heart breaks the drama, the loneliness, all of those things are things that I can provide to myself, I can provide love to myself, I can provide encouragement to myself, I don't need to feel lonely, I can take myself out on a date, I can go and meet people if I want to, I just felt like I was always playing the victim of a lot of the times in my twenties and I soon, towards the end of my twenties realized that I don't need to play the victim that I can learn from all of these things and I can provide a lot of these things to myself.

最後我意識到，所有我經歷過的事情，心碎、戲劇、孤獨，所有這些事情都是我可以為自己提供的，我可以為自己提供愛，我可以為自己提供鼓勵，我不需要感到孤獨，我可以帶自己出去約會。如果我想的話，我可以去見人，我只是覺得在我二十多歲的時候，我總是在扮演受害者的角色，很快，在我二十多歲的時候，我意識到我不需要扮演受害者，我可以從所有這些事情中學習，我可以為自己提供很多這些事情。

Once you go to another country, it just kind of hits you harder, I think it hits you harder and realizing that you are responsible for yourself, doing something that scares you can be the best feeling in the whole entire world.

一旦你去了另一個國家，它對你的打擊就會更大，我認為它對你的打擊更大，意識到你要對自己負責，做一些讓你害怕的事情，可能是整個世界上最好的感覺。

I push myself to do a lot of scary things, starting a Youtube channel, moving to Nagoya by myself, moving to Japan by myself modeling, getting married to somebody that I met long distance, like all of these things scared the crap out of me, starting a business now, I'm starting a business and I'm starting a business to change people's lives, that, that was the end of, that was a realization that was my life purpose, finding your life purpose is a lot deeper and there is a Japanese concept that goes with it and it just has been a very good blueprint for me to follow throughout my twenties that got me to where I am today, but doing things that scare you is one thing that can help you figure out what you are good at and what your skills are and what you like and what you don't like, whether it's in relationships community career, any part of your life, in order to reach the goal of figuring out what you truly need in your life or what you want, you have to do things that scare you all my life, you know, in the beginning, in my early twenties I was always like oh this is too hard or someone else maybe can do that, but I can't do that.

我推動自己做了很多可怕的事情，開了一個Youtube頻道，一個人搬到名古屋，一個人搬到日本做模特，和我遠距離認識的人結婚，像所有這些事情都把我嚇壞了，現在創業，我在創業，我在創業改變人們的生活。這就是我的人生目標，找到你的人生目標是一個更深層次的問題，有一個日本的概念，它是我整個二十多歲時遵循的一個非常好的藍圖，讓我走到今天。但做讓你害怕的事情是一件可以幫助你弄清楚你擅長什麼，你的技能是什麼，你喜歡什麼，你不喜歡什麼，無論是在人際關係、社區事業、你生活的任何部分，為了達到弄清楚你生活中真正需要什麼或你想要

I started to realize throughout my mid twenties and late twenties I can do those things, anybody can do anything as long as they practice and they work hard and they try, you're gonna fail many many times or maybe something is just not gonna work out and it'll turn into an amazing story someday, like a hilarious, embarrassing story.

我開始意識到在整個二十多歲和二十多歲的時候，我可以做這些事情，任何人都可以做任何事情，只要他們練習，他們努力工作，他們嘗試，你會失敗很多次，或者也許有些事情就是不會成功，有一天會變成一個驚人的故事，就像一個搞笑的、令人尷尬的故事。

You can compare everybody's life to a book, nobody wants to read a boring ass book, People want funny things, people want to relate to a story, People want to read things that have romance failures, venture and the ups and the downs.

你可以把每個人的生活比作一本書，沒有人願意讀一本無聊的書，人們想要有趣的東西，人們想要與一個故事有關，人們想要讀有浪漫失敗、冒險和起伏的東西。

People want to read exciting story and if you're constantly afraid then you just don't have a story just gonna live on the first page for the rest of your life.

人們想要閱讀激動人心的故事，如果你不斷地害怕，那麼你就沒有一個故事，只是要在你的餘生中生活在第一頁。

I just realized slowly that these are chapters in my life life and someday I'm gonna write a biomass book about what I've done in my life.

我只是慢慢意識到，這些都是我生命生活中的章節，有一天我會把我的生活中的事情寫成一本生物書。

It led me to my life purpose today, if that makes any sense.

它把我引向今天的生活目標，如果這有任何意義的話。

But doing things that scare you is so important, going along with that you're capable of doing more than you think.

但做讓你害怕的事情是如此重要，順便說一句，你有能力做的事情比你想象的多。

When I moved abroad, I quickly realized that I didn't have anybody to depend on, you, just learn to trust your gut, you've learned to figure things out on your own and you learn to do things on your own.

當我搬到國外時，我很快意識到，我沒有任何人可以依靠，你，只是學會了相信你的直覺，你已經學會了自己想辦法，你學會了自己做事情。

I realize this kind of a small thing, but I realize I owned a lot of things.

我意識到這是一件小事，但我意識到我擁有很多東西。

I owned way too much in Japan, the house is, everything is, the apartments are way too small and when I moved here I had so much stuff, I started to accumulate more than I actually needed and things became cluttered and just really stressful.

我在日本擁有的東西太多了，房子是，所有東西都是，公寓太小了，當我搬到這裡時，我有這麼多東西，我開始積累超過我實際需要的東西，事情變得雜亂無章，只是真的很有壓力。

And so I started to kind of adopt minimalism a little bit.

所以我開始有點採用極簡主義。

I kind of became a barrier condo of my life, I started getting rid of things and being mindful of the things that I bought or had in my house, you'll experience the highest of highs and the lowest of lows, if you live in another country and throughout my twenties I experienced intense highs and intense lows, I think if I were to live in my own country, those things wouldn't be as intense because in the beginning you always have a support system, experienced a lot of the lows very, very intensely inside of me.

我有點成為我生活的障礙物，我開始擺脫東西，並注意我買的東西或家裡的東西，你會經歷最高的高潮和最低的谷底，如果你住在另一個國家，在我整個二十多歲的時候，我經歷了強烈的高潮和強烈的谷底，我想如果我住在自己的國家，那些東西不會那麼強烈，因為在開始時你總是有一個支持系統，在我內心經歷了很多非常非常強烈的低潮。

And then once and then I would experience super highs when I would travel and do exciting things and it was just a lot of ups and downs and learning and figuring things out.

然後有一次，當我旅行和做令人興奮的事情時，我會經歷超級高點，這只是很多起伏和學習以及弄清事情的過程。

I learned that feeling the way that I feel is okay.

我瞭解到，以我的方式感受是可以的。

Learning to accept my emotions and anxiety and stress is and sadness and loneliness and happiness and excitement.

學會接受我的情緒、焦慮和壓力是和悲傷、孤獨、快樂和興奮。

Learning to accept those things about myself and realizing that that that is part of human life, that is part of who we are, that it's okay to feel that way and to not suppress those feelings.

學會接受自己的這些事情，並意識到這是人類生活的一部分，是我們的一部分，有這種感覺是可以的，不要壓制這些感覺。

And I started to read a lot of self help books and things to feeling like my anxiety and my stresses and my loneliness of living abroad was not okay, but just, you know, those feelings in general were not okay and then I need to fix myself.

我開始讀很多自我幫助的書和東西，感覺我的焦慮和壓力以及在國外生活的孤獨感都不好，但只是，你知道，這些感覺一般都不好，然後我需要修復自己。

People were telling me like, stop complaining, stop, stop, stop, stop.

人們告訴我說，別再抱怨了，別，別，別，別。

當你有這種感覺的時候，就可以了。

It's it's a part of who we are as humans, everybody has different battles and different challenges and different things that they're going through in their life.

這是我們作為人類的一部分，每個人都有不同的戰鬥和不同的挑戰，以及他們在生活中經歷的不同事情。

And those emotions are naturally going to come up and once you start to accept those feelings and nurture them with love instead of getting angry that they're coming up and battling them, which you don't need to battle them.

而這些情緒自然會出現，一旦你開始接受這些感覺，用愛來培養它們，而不是因為它們的出現而生氣，並與它們戰鬥，你不需要與它們戰鬥。

They're trying to those emotions and those feelings are trying to protect you.

他們正試圖那些情緒，那些感覺正試圖保護你。

在現實中，沒有任何解決方案。

There's no answer to fixing anxiety or fixing sadness or fixing the things that you feel.

修復焦慮或修復悲傷或修復你所感受到的東西，沒有答案。

And I think it gets worse when we feel that there's something wrong with us to suppress those feelings.

而且我認為，當我們覺得壓制這些感覺是有問題的時候，情況會變得更糟。

We are meant to feel intensely once we begin to accept the emotions that rise within ourselves, we start to see things in a more neutral way.

我們註定要有強烈的感受，一旦我們開始接受自己內心升起的情緒，我們就會開始以更中立的方式看待事物。

But these are some of the things that I learned in my twenties and I'll probably write a whole blog post about this.

但這些是我在二十多歲時學到的一些東西，我可能會就此寫一整篇博文。

But oh my God, you guys, I'm gonna be 30 tomorrow.

但是哦，我的上帝，你們看，我明天就要30歲了。

I'm gonna go now I have to meet boujee at the station.

我現在要走了，我必須在車站和布吉見面。

We're gonna get some stuff to make tacos because it's my favorite meal lee.

我們要買些東西來做玉米餅，因為這是我最喜歡的一餐，李。

All right, du Ug finished Oh my God, this mess was so big on me.

好了，杜宇說完了，我的天哪，這亂七八糟的東西對我來說太大。

So I'm going to go meet him at the grocery store and we're gonna pick up some things and we're gonna cook a little bit later.

所以我打算去雜貨店找他，我們要買一些東西，然後我們稍後再做飯。

I'm not really hungry now because I just had lunch but I'm gonna come back, just relax, watch youtube videos.

我現在不是很餓，因為我剛吃過午飯，但我要回來，只是放鬆，看YouTube視頻。

Just beat myself, not worry about any work until tomorrow.

就這樣打敗自己，在明天之前不擔心任何工作。

They were at the grocery store and it's absolutely crowded and chaotic.

他們在雜貨店，那裡絕對是擁擠和混亂的。