But every morning when I stand here and I stare at myself in the mirror and I raise my hand in defiance of all that's happened to me.

但每天早上，當我站在這裡，盯著鏡子裡的自己，舉起手來，蔑視發生在我身上的一切。

I keep going.

我繼續前進。

I am saying I believe in myself.

我是說我相信自己。

When you raise your hand to your own reflection, it is impossible for you to thank God.

當你對自己的檢討舉手時，你不可能感謝上帝。

I look that I really screwed up my life.

我看我真的把自己的生活搞砸了。

You can't do it because your lifetime association with this motion is all I believe in you.

你不能這樣做，因為你一生與這個議案的聯繫是我對你的全部信任。

I got you.

我抓住了你。

I see you, I celebrate you, you in the moment of doing it, override decades of negative self talk.

我看到了你，我慶祝你，你在做的那一刻，超越了幾十年的消極自我談話。

It's incredible.

這真是不可思議。

Being hard on yourself is not motivating.

對自己嚴苛的態度是沒有動力的。

It's de motivating.

這是一種激勵。

And if you already feel like a failure or you feel a sense of shame or you're overwhelmed beating yourself up for where you are doesn't work.

如果你已經覺得自己是個失敗者，或者你覺得有一種羞恥感，或者你被壓倒了，為你現在的情況打壓自己並沒有用。

It drives you into the gutter.

它把你趕進了陰溝。

The most motivating force in the world on the planet is empowerment, encouragement, support and celebration.

在這個星球上，世界上最有動力的力量是授權、鼓勵、支持和慶祝。

There's a tremendous amount of stuff you gotta change and do you have been given the message over and over and over, even though it's not true that you don't deserve it, That there's something wrong with you.

有大量的東西你必須改變，你已經被賦予了資訊，一遍又一遍，儘管這不是真的，你不值得，你有問題。

If you don't at some point, be defiant against what the world or your past experience has pounded into your brain incorrectly, unfairly, you will forever be stuck with that story.

如果你不在某個時候，對世界或你過去的經驗不正確、不公平地灌輸到你的大腦中的東西持蔑視態度，你將永遠被這個故事所困。

You are not responsible for what happened to you, you survived what happened to you, but you do have a responsibility to heal yourself and to do the work to change so that you can be the happy fulfilled person that you were born to be in a moment when you feel alone, you can give yourself the boost the support the empowerment that you need to keep going.

你對發生在你身上的事情不負責任，你對發生在你身上的事情倖存下來，但你確實有責任治癒你自己，做改變的工作，這樣你就可以成為你生來就應該成為的快樂充實的人，在你感到孤獨的時刻，你可以給自己提振，支持，授權，你需要繼續前進。

When somebody high fives, you, you feel seen, you feel heard and you feel like somebody has acknowledged you for the unique person that you are, your brain will let in anything that it believes is important to you.

當有人與你擊掌時，你會覺得自己被看到，被聽到，你會覺得有人承認你是一個獨特的人，你的大腦會接受任何它認為對你重要的東西。

Your brain opens up a checklist in your mind and now your brain wants, it puts this item on your checklist, it will store the checklist in your subconscious, your filter will change in real time, how you see the world, you now know how to change your brain to work for you.

你的大腦在你的腦海中打開了一個清單，現在你的大腦想，把這個項目放在你的清單上，它將把清單儲存在你的潛意識中，你的過濾器將實時改變，你如何看待世界，你現在知道如何改變你的大腦為你工作。

It is unbelievably cool that you can change the way that you view the world.

你可以改變你看待世界的方式，這是令人難以置信的酷。

If I can change what I see based on what I tell it, maybe if I got serious about not constantly saying I'm a failure, I wouldn't attach that or see it everywhere.

如果我可以根據我告訴它的內容來改變我所看到的東西，也許如果我認真起來，不經常說我是個失敗者，我就不會附和，或者到處看到它。

Maybe if I got serious about saying I can figure anything out, this is happening for a reason, you say, okay, I'm gonna learn something with this, it changes the way your brain filters everything when you start to have a moment with yourself.

也許如果我認真地說，我可以弄清楚任何事情，這是有原因的，你說，好吧，我要用這個學習一些東西，當你開始與自己有一個時刻，它改變了你的大腦過濾一切的方式。

The crazy part is you start to build a partnership with yourself, this is actually making me feel like the wind is at my back, it's making me feel just like when you leave a huddle in sports and you high five or you're a runner running a race or doing some big endurance challenge and some spectator high fives, you or another racers like come on, you got this as you're dragging down low, it gives you a little energy, you have a lifetime positive association with giving other people high fives stored right here in your subconscious mind.

瘋狂的部分是你開始與自己建立夥伴關係，這實際上讓我感覺到風在我背後，它讓我感覺到就像你在運動中離開集合點，你擊掌，或者你是一個跑者在跑比賽或做一些大的耐力挑戰，一些觀眾擊掌，你或其他賽手喜歡來吧，你得到了這個，因為你拖累了低，它給你一點能量，你有一個終身的積極關聯與給其他人擊掌存儲在你的潛意識中。

The simple idea of high fiving yourself is encouraging yourself of supporting yourself most people when you have an Aha moment and the door to your new life opens up instead of going, I got this, let's go and high fiving yourself to step forward.

與自己擊掌的簡單想法是鼓勵自己支持自己的大多數人，當你有一個Aha時刻，你的新生活的大門打開了，而不是去，我得到了這個，讓我們去和自己擊掌，以向前邁進。

Most of us go, I don't know if right now is the right time to do this, I don't think I'm good enough, I failed so many times, I can't go through that door, There is somewhere in your life that you know what you want, you can feel it pulling you and you are actively arguing against it, you're bringing yourself down, you're beating yourself out just how much people are holding themselves back and how much pain people feel folks know what they dream about and what they want and yet they're spending all of their time and energy arguing against what they want.

我們中的大多數人都會說，我不知道現在是否是做這件事的正確時機，我認為我不夠好，我失敗了那麼多次，我不能穿過那扇門，在你的生活中，有一個地方你知道你想要什麼，你能感覺到它在拉你，而你卻在積極地反對它。你正在把自己拉下來，你正在把自己打倒在地，就像有多少人在阻礙自己，有多少人感到痛苦，人們知道他們的夢想是什麼，他們想要什麼，但他們卻花了所有的時間和精力來反對他們想要的東西。

You can have all these epiphanies if you don't take action.

如果你不採取行動，你可以有所有這些頓悟。

The ah ha moment is the door that opens but your new life does not begin unless you step through the door, it's so easy to see what somebody else should do.

啊哈時刻是打開的門，但你的新生活並沒有開始，除非你踏進這扇門，看到別人應該做什麼是如此容易。

It's so easy to cheer for somebody else.

為別人歡呼是如此容易。

We plan birthday parties for our friends, we take on extra work from our colleagues, we support everyone around us, we do not know how to do it for ourselves.

我們為朋友策劃生日聚會，我們從同事那裡承擔額外的工作，我們支持我們周圍的每一個人，我們不知道如何為自己做。

What I've discovered that is heartbreaking, is the average person cannot celebrate themselves.

我發現，令人心碎的是，普通人無法為自己慶祝。

I have this habit of every single morning I stand in front of the mirror and I take a moment and I raised my hand and I give my reflection a high five instead of seeing yourself having this moment in the mirror.

我有這樣一個習慣，每天早上我都站在鏡子前，花點時間，我舉起手，和我的影子擊掌，而不是在鏡子裡看到自己有這樣的時刻。

First of all, we beat ourselves down and when you start going down that road with your reflection, you're now checking out and that moment in the mirror every morning could be a profound moment where you lift yourself up and you check back in with your intention.

首先，我們把自己打倒了，當你開始對你的反思走這條路時，你現在正在檢查，每天早上在鏡子裡的那一刻可能是一個深刻的時刻，你把自己提起來，你重新檢查你的意圖。

A simple moment in the morning where you set an intention about who you're going to be today impacts productivity, how you show up as a leader, It impacts removed all day long.

早晨一個簡單的時刻，你設定一個關於你今天要成為誰的意圖，就會影響到生產力，影響到你如何作為一個領導者出現，影響到一整天的清除。

Just that simple moment of setting an intention, Try celebrating yourself five days in a row.

就在這個簡單的時刻，設定一個意圖，試著連續五天為自己慶祝。

Try starting your day by waking up and raising your hand and high fiving yourself in the mirror just because you're breathing and see what happens.

試著從起床開始，舉起你的手，對著鏡子與自己擊掌，只因為你在呼吸，看看會發生什麼。

One of the biggest objections that people had to standing in front of the mirror.

人們對站在鏡子前的最大反對意見之一。

Take a moment.

花點時間。

Look at yourself is people said over and over and over again, I haven't done anything worthy of high fiving.

看看你自己是人們一遍又一遍的說，我沒有做任何值得擊掌的事情。

High fiving feels like a celebration.

擊掌的感覺是一種慶祝。

I don't have the number on the scale that I want.

我在體重計上沒有得到我想要的數字。

I don't like my bank account.

我不喜歡我的銀行賬戶。

I don't enjoy what I do for a living.

我並不喜歡我的工作。

I'm struggling with trauma.

我正在與創傷作鬥爭。

I don't have anything.

我什麼都沒有。

So and what I realized is people are making a fundamental mistake.

是以，我意識到的是人們正在犯一個根本性的錯誤。

You are withholding the very support empowerment and celebration that you need to change to do the hard work and to face the things that you're scared of and that's why you're not changing.

你扣留了你需要改變的支持授權和慶祝，以做艱苦的工作，面對你害怕的事情，這就是為什麼你沒有改變。

If you can't stand in front of the mirror and raise your hand and high five yourself just because you got your ass out of bed and your breathing, you will never get what you want life ever.

如果你不能站在鏡子前，舉起你的手和自己擊掌，只是因為你從床上爬起來，你的呼吸，你將永遠不會得到你想要的生活。

There is something in the resistance to it.

有一些東西在抵制它。

And if you unpack the resistance, you will find the reason why you don't have what you want.

而如果你解開阻力，你會發現你沒有得到你想要的東西的原因。

You either think you're not worthy of it or you think that it's kind of stupid is the negative you're saying and the support that you're withholding, helping you feel better if it's not, how do you do it to your point when you have a bunch of evidence stacked up that you've failed or reasons that you see that make you feel like you've blown it or you're not worthy of it.

你要麼認為你不值得，要麼認為這有點愚蠢是你說的負面的東西和你扣留的支持，幫助你感覺更好，如果不是這樣，當你有一堆證據堆積起來，你已經失敗或你看到的原因，讓你覺得你已經吹了或你不值得，你怎麼做才能達到你的點。

If you're celebrating yourself, there is something in the resistance to you, simply cheering for yourself, try this, You freaking raise your hand and high five yourself anyway because beating yourself up will not make you do the work to get healthy, tearing yourself down over the, that you've done or the terrible relationships that you're in, it's not going to empower you to change the patterns that are keeping you stuck, but raising your hand in an act of defiance, of the past that you survive and saying I'm still here, which means I still have a shot to change my life.

如果你在慶祝自己，有一些東西在抵制你，只是為自己歡呼，試試這個，反正你怪異地舉起你的手和自己擊掌，因為毆打自己不會讓你做工作來獲得健康，為你所做的或你所處的糟糕的關係而撕裂自己。你所做的事或你所處的糟糕的關係，它不會使你有能力改變使你陷入困境的模式，但舉起你的手，對你生存的過去進行反抗，說我還在這裡，這意味著我仍然有機會改變我的生活。

That is what this means, jealousy is one of the most powerful directional signals on the planet because you're only jealous of people that are doing things or have things that you actually want.

這就是這個意思，嫉妒是地球上最強大的方向性信號之一，因為你只嫉妒那些正在做事情或擁有你真正想要的東西的人。

It's impossible to be fake jealous.

不可能是虛假的嫉妒。

Whatever you're jealous of is hitting something deeply personal.

無論你嫉妒的是什麼，都是在打擊一些深層次的個人。

Pay attention to it instead of stewing in it.

注意它，而不是沉浸在它之中。

Go, oh, I wonder why I'm jealous.

走吧，哦，我想知道我為什麼嫉妒。

What is it about it?

它是什麼呢？

It's that they're doing it consistently.

是他們在持續地做這件事。

It's that they've built a team, It's that they've aligned their work together so that they're spending more time together.

是他們建立了一個團隊，是他們把自己的工作調整到一起，以便他們花更多的時間在一起。

The thing about jealousy is jealousy is sort of the insecurity that you have that blocks this inspiration.

關於嫉妒的事情是，嫉妒是一種你有的不安全感，阻礙了這種靈感。

If I can use that as a road map to then go figure out how I might be able to do that for myself.

如果我可以把它作為一個路線圖，然後去弄清楚我自己可能如何能夠做到這一點。

Talk about a game changer And now let's add in the high-5.

談到遊戲規則的改變，現在讓我們再加上擊掌。

What if every time I took a little step I celebrated myself for just doing it.

如果每當我邁出一小步時，我就為自己的所作所為感到慶幸，那會怎麼樣呢。

Now you're building small winds and momentum in a direction that's meant for you.

現在，你正在建立小的風向和勢頭，朝著為你準備的方向前進。

That's how you change your life.

這就是你如何改變你的生活。

At some point.

在某種程度上。

You gotta wake up and realize your life is your responsibility when I realized, wait a minute it starts with me.

你得醒過來，意識到你的生活是你的責任，當我意識到，等一下，它從我開始。

I have to be able to figure out how to make myself happy when you're responsible when you're the driver of your life, when you're not looking out to anybody else to fix it for you, you're the one that has to do the work.

我必須能夠弄清楚如何讓自己快樂，當你負責任的時候，當你是你生活的驅動者的時候，當你不指望別人為你解決問題的時候，你就是那個必須做工作的人。

You're the one who has to push your own ass.

是你自己要推自己的屁股。

You're the one who has to figure out what makes you happy.

你是那個必須弄清楚什麼能讓你快樂的人。

You're the one who has to figure out and become self aware about what you need and you get responsible for it.

你是那個必須弄清楚並自我意識到你需要什麼的人，你要對它負責。

What changes is you, mm mhm.

改變的是你，mm mhm。

Mhm.

嗯。