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  • Hey everybody, how's it going? My name is Mayuko. And welcome back to my channel.

  • So ever since I made the switch from being a software engineer to a content creator,

  • I realized my life kind of revolves around different deadlines. And that's because as a content creator,

  • most of the time, I'm working on different projects with different companies and different people.

  • And we're working on building something towards a specific date. So naturally, this has really tested my procrastination.

  • Also, just to be like completely honest with you, I just kind of feel like these last two months, I've been procrastinating a lot.

  • So as usual, in Mayuko form, I kind of take the time to just think about that. Where is this procrastination coming from?

  • Am I okay to be procrastinating? What really is procrastination? And what are different ways that I can think about it?

  • I mean, the moral of the story is that I realize that it's totally okay to procrastinate,

  • but let me kind of walk you through how I got there. Before we get started.

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  • So I think the story really starts at school like everybody else. I was kind of a master procrastinator,

  • especially in college between midterms and essays and programming assignments and other quizzes and finals and stuff.

  • I really only did things until I absolutely had to. And I used to really beat myself up about this

  • because like most students, I kind of was just like dreaming that I could be this really studious version of myself,

  • where I would do things as soon as things are assigned or tasks were given.

  • And not like the night before or a couple hours before it was due. So yeah, that dream of becoming a very studious person,

  • I feel like came and went sort of, you know, there are some folks who can actually do this, like do things as soon as they're assigned.

  • And I used to really admire those folks and look up to them. And I would really try, but ultimately fail,

  • because I would end up procrastinating. But then when I started work, I think

  • all of that kind of changed because there was a fundamental change in the way that I worked.

  • Because in the tech industry, there's all these structures and frameworks and methodologies for how to work on big

  • projects together and completing tasks together as a team. Basically, it's all about just like breaking big

  • chunks of work into small incremental steps. And then planning those small steps from week to week in what we call sprints.

  • So basically, like deadlines, more or less are self imposed based on what your estimates are for getting that work done.

  • Working in this environment for many, many years really helped me to get good at breaking big things into small chunks.

  • And then therefore being able to understand the scope of the work better, which therefore really helped me

  • to be realistic about what I can and cannot do given a certain timeframe. And so even when I made the jump into content creation,

  • I'm more or less brought this framework with me. But also creative work is inherently different, though,

  • because I can't plan for inspiration to strike. And I can't plan for times that are going to be ultra creative and

  • other times where I'm not going to be creative at all. And it's just all kind of hard and weird. And a lot of my work is very personal.

  • So

  • doesn't work exactly the way that it did before. But I mean content creation really is a lot of the same stuff of taking

  • big things, breaking out into small chunks and then planning it out. So really, I've just been using this

  • structure for getting work done as a content creator and it's kind of been working really Well, and so in

  • reflecting how long it's been going and how my workflow is going, I'm realizing like, I feel like

  • I'm just so much more comfortable with procrastination than I used to be. I think it's just like, I don't know, I feel

  • more at peace with it. Like, I'm not as stressed out as I used to be about assignments and midterms and stuff.

  • And you know, I've always had this inkling that procrastination and like the energy associated with it

  • was a waste of energy and time, frankly, because you know, noodling about about just like, Oh, I should be

  • doing this paper, but I'm not doing this paper. But I should be doing this paper, but I don't want to do this

  • paper is just like, then why not just not do the paper and enjoy life, and then do it later, or just do the

  • paper, you know, and this is kind of when it all dawned on me, I just have a very different lens in which to

  • look at procrastination. I'm looking at it from a method of prioritization. Basically, we all have, like

  • important things to do in life, like I'm busy, you're busy, there's like so many roles that we take on and

  • stuff, you're not going to do some things until it's actually really important to do those things. I mean,

  • basically, things don't get done until they have to, because other priorities are more pressing. So whether

  • that's about like getting enough sleep, or eating well, or exercising, or hydrating, are working on your

  • personal relationship, staying connected with family working on that essay, you've been meaning to

  • organizing your Spotify playlist, because now you can put them in folders, hanging out with other people and

  • your loved ones. And just like going to the beach, I don't know, whatever it might be, you know. And I think

  • it's just that I used to think about all of that as "Oh, I'm procrastinating on this thing, because I

  • didn't have a real good structure or framework for how I prioritize the things in my life." Like, I couldn't

  • really trust that the thing that I was doing right now was a really high priority for myself. Because at the

  • time, I was like, "This is my most important priority, and everything else falls to the wayside." But that's

  • not true. Because like, we're human, and we have a lot of needs at once. And they all have to be attended to

  • you know, and I always also thought that you could just like force things to be at the top of the priority list

  • by willing it, which you can sometimes, but sometimes you just can't like, you can't just do that. So

  • honestly, I think that now that I understand what my priorities are in life, and what's important to me,

  • I've been able to prioritize the right stuff, which really has given me the grace of not feeling pressured

  • about procrastinating. I mean, the key ingredient to all of this, too, is that I just know myself so much

  • better now than I did before. Like, I know what I need, I know what I'm lacking. I know what to do with the

  • energy that's flowing within me and how to direct it towards the things that I want to now I know that I can

  • also push when I really need to. And I can also take a step back and take a break and readjust when I need to

  • as well. But I mean to be real, I still do procrastinate a lot. I think I just don't stress out

  • about it as much anymore. Like my priorities and my bandwidth are constantly changing all the time. So I'm

  • constantly needing to readjust how I get work done, and how do I prioritize the things in my life? And how do I

  • take care of me and everything else? And you know, sometimes that means I procrastinate on stuff. But I am

  • now a little bit more forgiving. Because I know that if I miss a deadline, or if I'm neglecting a part of my

  • life, I know that it's usually for like a good reason. And a good reason to me sound something like Oh, I

  • didn't have enough energy that day, or there was something else in my life that needed attention, or I

  • just didn't have the creative juice in me to bring that to life yet. I mean, yes, there are a lot of times

  • where I'm just like working till 10pm because I have a deadline. Because you know what, I'm not perfect

  • either. And I'm not going to get it right all the time. But after that 10pm deadline is done, then I'm probably

  • going to rest a bunch. I wouldn't really I think it's all about just like honoring my feelings and validating

  • it, listening to it and accepting it. I guess. So. Yeah, I don't know. I think that mindset has really

  • helped me in thinking about procrastination in the mindset of prioritization. I also have like a couple of

  • other mindset tips that I think really helped me to not stress out about procrastinating anymore. The first of

  • which is really just that, like everything's gonna be okay, this is something that I think I realized over

  • like accumulating lots of experience and like, being older and stuff, but like, everything's gonna be okay.

  • Like, literally no deadline or task or something in your life, like, rarely is it ever going to be so

  • pressing, that it's going to completely ruin your life. I guess. If you miss writing an email, you know, for a

  • day, like big whoop, it's gonna be okay.

  • And I think like parallel to that it's okay to fail too like, it's okay if you don't meet the thing because

  • maybe you fail and then you learn how to do it better next time. The second thing is just really having

  • realistic expectations of what you can and cannot do. We all like to think we're superhuman, and we can get

  • so much work done or that we think that other people can really get a lot of work done, but not us. And so

  • we have these really unrealistic high expectations for ourselves, but like, just figure out what is your

  • capacity? And what are you comfortably able to do and then stretch that little by little over a long period

  • of time. I mean, I constantly make I'm huge superhuman, and my to do list is never ending. But like, it's

  • always really satisfying to me. And I feel really proud of myself, when I can actually complete the things on

  • my to do list because I was realistic with the time and energy, I had to do those things. The third thing to

  • help me with this whole procrastination mindset is really just to like, show up and try it. This is

  • something that I kind of learned from my whole creative journey, I guess, if you will, because there's a whole

  • thing about like showing up to creativity. Like I think mindsets and mental states are a really big factor in

  • whether we're able to do things or not. But sometimes, like your brain, and body and the mind just need a

  • little kickstart a little warm up or something. So if there's something that like I really need to do or want

  • to do or have to do, and I'm just not really feeling it all still kind of go through the motions of doing it,

  • but for just like a small amount of time. So usually what that looks like is setting like a 25 minute

  • pomodoro timer, and then just giving my whole focus to that. And then you know, honestly, half the time I'm

  • like, Yeah, okay, I'm like, I'm warmed up. Now I'm ready to do this. And then there are other times where

  • I'm just like, yeah, I still don't want to do this at all. In which case, I'm like, Okay, I gotta honor that.

  • Like, I think I'm not ready for it. It's like, you know, at Costco, you get samples and stuff, and how are

  • you able to commit to a bulk size thing of something if you don't know if you're going to like how it tastes

  • right now. And of course, the last mindset shift that I've had to help me not stress out about

  • procrastination is to know thyself. I think this is a really important thing to do, especially after college,

  • because it's kind of like, You're on your own. You lead your life, however you want to do. And so get to know

  • what you need out of life, what you want out of life. And then I think it makes it easier to know how to

  • prioritize your life, honor your priorities and not stress out about things. Like I think in doing that,

  • I've been able to forgive myself. I'm just like, you know, Mayuko. You're trying your best, but I know you are.

  • And, you know, maybe we can do a little bit better next time, but I'm proud of you, girl.

  • So yeah, it's totally okay, to procrastinate. I don't think it's a bad thing. It's just a natural thing that happens.

  • So I hope that you know, you're not judging yourself too harshly for it. And I hope that this video has provided

  • a new perspective that at least you might consider in helping to reframe procrastination, by the way,

  • like none of my videos are meant to be like you should do this or you have to do X to achieve Y.

  • Like, all I can wish for is that you consider my perspective and you take what you want.

  • Alright everybody, thank you so much for watching.

  • If you'd like to see videos on other topics related to like my perspectives about life,

  • I guess then let me know in the comments down below.

  • Make sure to subscribe if you'd like to see more videos like this on my channel, and I'll see you next time.

  • Take care. Bye

Hey everybody, how's it going? My name is Mayuko. And welcome back to my channel.

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