It’s finally time for that first date

最後，第一次約會終於來了。

The door bell rings and suddenly, You are so nervous!

門鈴響了，你突然非常緊張！

It feels like those butterflies in your stomach are about to fly up and out and all over your date

就好像肚子裡的蝴蝶越飛越高，快要飛到約會對象的頭上了，

Okay. Okay. Okay. Okay! Look!

好了，好了，好了，好了，看！

We can’t make those first date’s jitters go away entirely and honestly first dates would be pretty boring without them.

第一次的約會，我們不可能完全不緊張，而且，其實第一次的約會如果不緊張，會變得非常無趣。

Today at wellcast, we’re gonna give you three simple ways to totally rock your first date.

今天，健康好卡司要給你三招，讓你徹底顛覆第一次約會。

Welcome to dating 101, brought to you by Wellcast.

歡迎從健康好卡司來到約會101，

Let’s get to it!

快來學學吧！

Pause! And Print this wellcast worksheet.

暫停！先列印這個備忘錄，

Are you ready?

你準備好了嗎？

Step 1: the pre-game! “Self esteem pump-up”

第一招：預賽準備！「增加自信心」

One way to ease those turbulent butterflies before your first date is to give yourself a nice booster shot of self-esteem.

撫平騷動的蝴蝶的方法就是在第一次約會之前，為自尊打一針強心針。

Now, that’s definitely easier said than done.

現在，說總是比做來得簡單。

However, we have three ideas for you: Exercise a few hours before you date;

無論如何，我們要告訴你三個概念：在約會前幾個小時運動，

Even if it’s just to walk, this will make you feel strong and energized;

甚至只是走路，這都會讓你感覺強而有力且充滿活力。

Plus exercise gives you endorphins flowing which promotes a sense of well-being.

再加上運動會使你的腦內啡上升，讓你感覺更幸福，

And this will definitely help out with those first date’s jitters.

而且這絕對有助於第一次約會的緊張感。

Crank your favorite music while getting ready, sing-along, dance if you want to

當你準備好的時候，就聽最喜歡的音樂，如果想要唱歌跳舞也可以。

Listening to something you love will make you feel good

聽些你愛的音樂，會讓你感覺更好。

Make a list of all the things that you like about yourself, they could be physical things like…

列出所有你喜歡的東西，像是身體上的…

Hey, I have really awesome hair or more abstract things like I am good at listening to others

嘿，我有烏黑的秀髮，或其他吸引人的東西，例如，我善於傾聽。

At your worksheet, write down at least three awesome things that you love about yourself and play them up on the date.

在備忘錄上寫下至少三項你自己的優點，並且在約會時強調那些優點。

If you’re good listener, make sure to listen, if you’re funny, tell a joke.

如果你善於傾聽，就要聽對方說；如果你愛開玩笑，那就開個笑話。

But this is important, don’t list all your attributes; show them off by pumping up your self- esteem before your big date.

但重點是，別列出所有的特質，在約會對象的面前充分展現你的自信心，

You are gonna feel ggggggggggggggreat.

你就會感覺超棒！

You‘re probably still be nervous though but you won’t be down on yourself.

你可能還是會緊張，但不要看不起自己。

Step two: Become a better listener.

第二招：成為一個好的傾聽者

Why? By actively being an engaged listener, you’ll learn more about your date.

為什麼？主動做個傾聽者會讓你更了解你的對象。

This way, you’ll be able to interact with them better and it won’t be all about you.

這樣一來，你就可以和他們有更多的互動，而且話題也不會一直在你身上。

So this is what you need to do: first, be present! Focus on the here and now instead of drifting in your own head.

所以這就是你需要做的事：第一，活在當下！集中注意力在現在這裡，而不是一直埋頭苦幹。

You want your date to pay attention when you talk so pay them some courtesy.

你想要約會對象注意聽你說話，那你就要對他們有禮貌。

Don’t forget to ask questions. If you’re stuck for conversation topics or you just want to know more about the person you’re on the date with,

別忘了問問題。如果你不了解談話的主題，或是你想要更了解約會的對象，

Ask questions. It’s a proven fact that people love talking about themselves.

那就問問題吧！事實證明人們都愛談論他們自己。

So, by asking questions, you’ll get to know your date better.

所以，透過問問題，你就可以更了解你的約會對象。

Step 3: “This above all else: to thine own self be true!” In other words, be yourself.

第三招：首先對自己坦承，換言之，做自己。

It might feel like you’re gonna have a more successful date if you behave the way you think your date wants you to.

你可能會認為按照對象想要你做什麼就做什麼會讓你有個更成功的約會，

But that’s not the case.

但事實絕非如此。

I mean, for one trying to put on a front all night is gonna make you feel more awkward than if you tripped and fell down a flight of stairs right in front of your date.

我的意思是說，一個人為了掩蓋自己的情感而竭力表現出快樂的樣子，會比你在約會對象面前從樓梯上跌落讓你感覺更糟。

And second, it`s better unravel.

而且其次，最好要解釋清楚。

I mean, do you really want a relationship based on a lie? And can you imagine how stressful it would be trying to keep up that front?

我的意思是說，你會想要和約會對象的關係建立在謊言上嗎？而且你能想像壓力會有多大嗎？

Look, do yourself and your date a favor

看，幫你自己和約會對象一個忙，

Just go with yourself, easy as that!

就做自己，這麼簡單！

Chances are, they’ll like you for you anyway.

不管怎樣，機會可能就是你的！

To recap, dating especially those first dates can be stressful and it’s impossible to banish this first date’s jitters entirely.

再重複一次，約會都會非常緊張，尤其是第一次約會，而且第一次約會的緊張感不可能完全排除，

But, with our three easy steps to a fun first date, We’ll have everything coming up roses for you at no time flat.

但有了我們這三個簡單的步驟，就可以有個愉快的約會，我們會隨時為你準備任何事情。

So, listen up! Pump up your self-esteem; Be a good listener; and more importantly, be yourself!

所以，聽好啦！增加自信心；做個好的傾聽者；而且最重要的是，做自己！

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