Welcome back to Lavendaire.

歡迎回到 Lavendaire。

I am sweaty from dancing around for that intro, so I hope you liked it.

我跳完開場舞已經汗流浹背了，希望你們會喜歡這支影片。

Today I'm going to talk about positive habits that will change your life.

今天我要談論改變你人生的正面習慣。

I thought I'd do this one standing, have a little more energy.

這支影片我會站著說，這樣比較有活力。

As you know, we're doing the Habits mini-series right now, and I've shared a ton of habits that have changed my life.

如你們所知，我現在正在做「習慣」的迷你系列影片，我分享了很多改變我人生的習慣。

I'll list my entire Positive Habits playlist down below.

我會在下面貼上我的正面習慣清單。

Today I'm going to share five positive habits that I know, for sure, will change your life.

今天我要分享五個我確定能改變人生的正面習慣。

And if you've heard some of these before, it's because they're that important that they're worth repeating again and again.

如果你之前聽過其中一些，那是因為它們非常重要，值得一遍又一遍地重複提起。

And I will keep repeating it until every single person in the world will live with habits like these, okay?

我會一直重複述說，直到世界上每個人都能像這樣保持這些習慣，準備好了嗎？

So the first positive habit that will change your life is to:

能夠改變人生的第一個正面習慣是：

Stop playing the victim; stop complaining; stop blaming others for your problems or for anything that happens in your life.

停止扮演受害者；停止抱怨；停止將你的問題或生活中發生的事情歸咎於他人。

At the end of the day, no one's life is perfect.

說到底，沒有人的生活是完美的。

We're all dealt a different set of cards,

我們每個人都被分配了不同的牌，

and it really is up to you to do what you can with what you have, including your problems or your shortcomings and any of that.

真正的問題在於你如何處理你所擁有的，包括你的問題、你的缺點以及其他的。

It's up to you to use everything – your gifts, your strengths, and your problems – to create something of value, to create something good and beautiful in the world.

用你的天賦、你的優勢和你的問題來創造有價值的東西，在這個世界上創造出美好的事物。

And it's up to you to be kind despite anything horrible that's happened to you.

然後，儘管發生了任何可怕的事情，你也必須保持善良。

Another way to say this is: You have to take responsibility for yourself and for your life because you are in control.

另一種說法是：你必須為自己和自己的人生負責，因為你掌控著它。

You are in power of your life and you can shape your life as much as you want to shape it.

你掌控著你的人生，你可以塑造你的人生，就像你想要塑造它一樣。

Some people just live in that mindset like "I'm poor" or "I'm broke" or "I wasn't born with all of these things." "Life gave me a bad hand."

有些人的心態認為「我很窮」、「我一文不名」、「我天生沒有這些福利」、「生命給我了一手壞牌」。

And they complain and they blame others for their problems.

他們抱怨並將自身的問題責怪在他人身上。

But at the end of the day, nobody's going to change your life but you.

但說到底，除了自己，沒有人可以改變你的人生。

So you can either complain about it and do nothing.

所以你要麽抱怨然後什麼都不做，

Or go out there, learn, experience, and improve yourself so that you can get better, create a better self, and create a better life for yourself.

或者走出去、學習、體驗，提升自己，進而讓自己變得更好，創造一個更好的自己和更美好的人生。

One resource that I highly, highly recommend you guys check out is Red Table Talk with Jada Pinkett-Smith, and it features the whole Smith family.

我強烈推薦大家看的一個資源是由潔達·蘋姬-史密斯主持的《Red Table Talk》，節目中還邀請了整個史密斯家族。

I'll link the episode down below where they talk about stepping into your control and learning to take responsibility for your life.

我會在說明欄放上該集的連結，在這一集中他們談論如何掌控自己的人生，並學會為自己的人生負責。

It's so good.

很棒的一集。

The second positive habit that will absolutely change your life is: Reading books.

第二個絕對會改變你人生的正面習慣是閱讀書籍。

I know it's a little obvious and I've said this many times, but honestly, who is reading every single day?

我知道這大家都懂，而且我已經說過很多次了，但是，老實說，誰每天都會閱讀呢？

Comment below if you have a habit of reading every single day.

如果你有每天閱讀的習慣，請在下方留言。

I'll be honest.

我老實說，

I've been on and off of reading, but when I do, and when I'm consistent with it, I'm impressed with how many books I can get through in a month or a year.

我會時不時閱讀，但當我堅持下去時，我對於自己一個月或一年能讀完多少本書感到驚訝。

And it really is – small, consistent actions will add up to a huge amount.

這是件可以積少成多的事情。

If you told me to read 50 books at once, I'd be like, "Oh my god, I can't do that. That's impossible."

如果你讓我一次讀 50 本書，我會覺得「哇，我不可能做到！」

But if you told me to read ten pages a day, every day, I could do that – it's doable.

但如果你告訴我每天只需讀十頁，我就能做到，那是可行的。

And eventually, you will have read 50 books.

最終，你會讀完 50 本書。

And within even one book is a lifetime of knowledge.

在每一本書中，都蘊藏著豐富的知識。

There's so much wealth in one book, and there's so many great books out there.

每一本書中有這麼多知識，而且還有很多很好的書。

I'll list my Favorite Books website page where I list my favorite books, and you can start there.

我會把我喜愛的書籍網頁放在下面，你可以從那裡開始你的閱讀之旅。

There's just so much out there to learn, so much to...

透過閱讀有很多知識可以學習，太多了...

No other word for it, but reading is amazing.

沒辦法用其他言語形容，總之讀書都是很棒一件事。

Go read some more; it will change your life – positive.

去閱讀吧，它會改變你正面地改變你的人生。

The book that I'm currently reading, I highly recommend. It's called "The Richest Man in Babylon".

我強烈推薦我現在正在閱讀的書，它叫做《巴比倫最有錢的人》。

I mentioned this on my Instagram, if you follow me.

如果你有在 Instagram 上關注我的話應該知道我提過這本書了。

It is a book that is actually pretty old.

這其實是一本相當古老的書。

It was written in the 1900s or something, and it is set in ancient Babylon.

它是在 1900 年左右寫的，而且背景是在古巴比倫。

It teaches you all of these financial habits, financial wisdom.

這本書教你所有的金融習慣、財務智慧。

And it's a book that I truly believe every person out there must read.

這是一本我認為每個人都必須閱讀的書。

Because I feel like a lot of people complain that they're poor,

因為我覺得很多人抱怨自己很窮，

they don't know how to make money, they don't know how to keep money, they don't understand why some people are so wealthy and some people are not.

他們不知道如何賺錢、不知道如何存錢、不了解為什麼有些人這麼富有，而有些人卻不是。

And it really is knowledge.

這是知識性問題。

The money is out there for you to make,

錢就擺在那，等著你去賺取，

and if you have the knowledge of how to get it, how to keep it, how to grow it, then you'll be so much better off than most people in this world.

如果你懂得如何賺錢、存錢、增加財富，你就會比這個世界上的大多數人更有優勢。

You'll be financially free, which is what I want for all of you out there.

你會財務自由，我想這是所有人都想要擁有的。

So read this book: The Richest Man in Babylon.

所以請閱讀這本書：《巴比倫最有錢的人》。

The third positive habit that will change your life is: Cultivating more gratitude in your everyday life.

第三個能改變你人生的正面習慣是：在日常生活中培養更多感恩的心。

This is the one that I repeat over and over again because if you are not practicing daily gratitude, you need to,

我一遍又一遍地重申這一點，因為如果你沒有每天練習感恩，你需要這樣做，

because if you wake up grateful for each day and end your day grateful for your day,

因為如果你每天都感謝每一天的到來和結束，

grateful for your life, everything that you have, you'll be infinitely happier of a person.

感謝你的人生，感謝你所擁有的一切，你會成為一個更快樂的人。

Just because gratitude is the key to happiness, it is just something that we forget sometimes.

感恩是幸福的關鍵，但有時我們會忘記。

We brush over gratitude like,

我們經常忽略了感恩之情，說著：

"Yeah, yeah, yeah, I'm thankful BUT I want more, more, more. I want to get this, and I want to get that."

「是啊，我很感激，但我還想要更多，我想要這個，我想要那個。」

We're so focused on our desires and what our ego wants.

我們太專注於自己的欲望和自我所需的東西。

But if you take a step back and truly take time to be grateful every single day, it will definitely change your life, and that's why,

但如果你退一步，每一天都花時間感恩，這絕對會改變你的人生。

in my Artist of Life Workbook and in my Daily Planner, I have a gratitude journal page, I have the gratitude section.

這就是為什麼我的「生命藝術家工作手冊」和「每日計畫本」中都有一個感恩日記頁面，感恩章節。

It's so important to do gratitude journaling.

書寫感恩日記是非常重要的，

And it doesn't have to be hard.

而且不需要太難。

It could just be like, in the morning you state three things you're grateful for or you do that in the evening,

可能只需要在早上說出你感激的三件事情，或者在晚上這樣做，

or you just write in your journal, a few things you're grateful for each day.

或者每天在你的日記中寫下幾件你感激的事情。

And each day, come up with different things. Be specific.

每天都寫下不同的事情，並且具體明確。

And you find that the more that you list that you're grateful for, the more you have to be grateful for.

你會發現，你列出的感恩之情越多，你有的感恩之心也就越多。

It's kind of like what you focus on grows.

這有點像你專注於什麼，什麼就會成長。

So if you focus on your gratitude, it's gonna grow, and it naturally will bring more abundance and positivity into your life.

因此，如果你專注於感恩，它就會增加，自然而然地帶來更多豐富和積極的人生。

#4 is Meditation.

第四點是冥想。

This is a habit that I've been doing for the past five or six years, but it's still tough for me to do it consistently each day.

這是我過去五六年一直在做的習慣，但我仍然很難每天都維持。

But when I am good at meditating, I notice I sleep better, I'm less stressed,

但當我冥想得好時，我發現我睡得更好，壓力減少了，

I'm more in-tune with my body and my purpose, I'm more aligned to what I want,

與身體和目標更加協調，更加符合我的意願，

I get creative ideas more often, and I'm able to enter the creative flow and be really productive.

我更常有創意點子，能夠進入創意的狀態，更加有成效。

There are so many benefits to meditating.

冥想有很多好處，

And if you feel off, if you just feel distracted and if you find yourself being on social media a lot, wasting a lot of time,

如果你感覺不對勁，分心了，如果你發現自己在社交媒體上浪費了很多時間，

try meditation because that will help you hone your mind.

那麼試試冥想，因為它將幫助你磨練你的思維。

If we don't hone our mind – it's like a muscle – you lose it.

如果我們不磨練我們的思維，就像一個肌肉，它會流失。

And when your mind is not strong, you give in to distractions easier. You give in to your ego easier.

當你的思想不強大時，你更容易分心。你更容易屈服於自己的自我。

I find that it gets easier to emotionally eat or get stuck on Instagram when I haven't meditated.

我發現當我沒有冥想時，很容易發生情緒化進食或沉迷於 Instagram。

That's because you haven't trained your mind.

這是因為你還沒有訓練好你的思緒。

You want to develop this habit to train your mind, to be zen, peace, bring it all back to yourself.

你需要養成冥想的習慣，讓自己變得冷靜和平和，讓一切回歸自我。

I keep doing this motion because you want to be grounded.

我一直在做這件事，因為找到自己的根基很重要。

Meditation helps you ground yourself, and there a billion benefits, guys.

持續冥想可以讓你找到自己的根基，而且還有無數的好處。

You should try it if you're not doing it already.

你如果還沒有體驗過，應該試一試。

Not to mention that meditation helps you strengthen your intuition.

此外，冥想還可以幫助你增強自己的直覺。

If you're an indecisive person or if you're lost or frustrated about your life, then meditating will help you get to know your inner voice,

如果你經常感到猶豫不決、迷失或者對自己的人生感到沮喪，冥想可以幫助你了解自己內在的聲音，

and that true inner voice will become stronger and louder so that you'll for sure know what is the next right decision for yourself.

進而讓你更加清晰地知道自己的下一步選擇。

And the fifth positive habit that will change your life is to stop taking yourself and your life so seriously.

第五個能改變你人生的好習慣是，不要太過嚴肅地對待自己和生活。

We tend to overthink, overanalyze, and worry so much.

我們往往過度思考、分析和擔憂太多。

We get stressed out so much and we think that it's the end of the world if this doesn't happen.

我們常常因為這些小事而感到備受壓力，甚至覺得如果某些事情沒有發生，就是世界末日。

And we're so caught up in the little things of life that we forget that, in the bigger picture, if you zoom out, many things are insignificant.

我們太容易被生活中的瑣事所困擾，以至於忘記了在更廣闊的視野下，如果你放大來看，許多事情都是微不足道的。

Most things are insignificant.

大部分的事情都是微不足道的。

The only things that matter are love, the people you love, the things you love, and finding joy in your life.

唯一重要的是愛、你所愛的人和事物，以及在生活中找到快樂。

We all just want happiness.

我們所有人都希望快樂。

And if you just want to be happy, then have more fun in life.

如果你想要快樂，那就在生活中多享受樂趣。

To have more fun, don't take things so seriously.

要享受樂趣，就不要太嚴肅。

Be carefree, be more light-hearted.

要放輕鬆、輕鬆愉悅一些。

And I know this is easier for some people than others, but I think you can really cultivate that as a muscle too -

我知道對有些人來說比其他人容易做到，但我認為您可以像鍛鍊肌肉一樣，

the muscle of being more carefree and relaxed and finding joy and humor in all the little things in life.

養成更輕鬆、放鬆的習慣，在生活中找到快樂和幽默。

Have you ever seen those videos of monks laughing at the most minute things or finding joy in the most little things?

你有沒有看過那些僧侶因微小的事情而開懷大笑，或者在生活中找到微小的事情而感到快樂的影片呢？

I think it's because when you truly are attuned with yourself and your spirit,

我想這是因為當你真正與自己的靈魂相連時，

then you find that life is not as serious as most people make it out to be, and more things are funny and fun.

你會發現生活不像大多數人所說的那樣嚴肅，很多事情更有趣且好笑。

What I'm trying to say is: Have more fun, stop caring so much about what other people think, stop caring about how you look to others.

我想表達的重點是：去享受更多樂趣，不要太在意別人的想法，不要太在意你在別人眼中的形象。

Just enjoy your time here.

盡情享受你的時間。

Sing, dance, do all the things that make you happy, and that's that. That's what life is about.

去唱歌、跳舞，做所有讓你快樂的事情，這就是人生的意義。

And honestly, guys, you might notice that my energy is more light-hearted here because I literally did a five-minute dance session before filming this video.

老實說，你可能會注意到我現在的精神比之前更輕鬆愉快，因為在錄製這個影片之前，我真的跳了五分鐘的舞。

Do you see the difference that dancing and just living in your joy makes?

你看到了跳舞和活在喜悅中的區別了嗎？

I care less for this video, but I'm having more fun, and that just emphasizes my last point in this video: Do not take yourself seriously.

我對這個影片的在意程度比較少，但我更加享受，這就強調了我在這支影片中說的最後一點：不要太認真對待自己。

Alright, I love you guys.

我愛你們。

Let me know what you think of these habits.

讓我知道你們對這些習慣的想法。

What are the positive habits that have changed your life?

哪些積極的習慣改變了你的人生？

Let me know down below.

在下面留言告訴我吧。

My favorites – and I'm going to list them over and over again – are journaling, meditating, reading, doing yoga.

我會一遍又一遍地列出來，最愛做的事情是： 寫日記、冥想、閱讀和練習瑜伽。

Anyway, subscribe if you haven't already.

總之，如果你還沒有訂閱，就訂閱一下吧。

Give this video a thumbs up if you liked it.

如果你喜歡這個影片，請按讚吧。

And I will see you guys next time. Bye!

下次見！掰！