Name: How not to take things personally? | Frederik Imbo | TEDxMechelen（How not to take things personally? | Frederik Imbo | TEDxMechelen）
Uploaded: 2021-03-26T16:58:15.000Z
Duration: 17 min 37 s
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Transcriber: María Constanza Cuevas Reviewer: Tanya Cushman

OK? And you're all part of the same team:

Hey guys, I would like to see fair play on the field,

One year ago, I decided I wanted to become a football referee.

So I won't really get rich by it, will I?

No. I decided to become a referee  for two other reasons.

Two - because I wanted to learn how not to take things personally.

"Being a referee is the perfect environment

to learn how not to take  things personally, isn't it?"

Because the spectators hardly ever  shout encouraging or positive things.

And I wanted to learn  how not to take all this personally.

because I'm trying to find a specific location

Especially when they start honking  and flashing their headlights,

Or when somebody cancels  an appointment last minute,

I get the feeling that I'm not important enough.

I give keynote speeches, and I really like it

as long as I can draw  my audience into my story.

Because the very moment  I see somebody is not paying attention -

for example, when somebody is looking at his smartphone -

and you can even start talking  to your neighbor.

Because now, here and now, I'm very conscious that this can happen.

And more importantly,  I have a strategy to deal with it.

So tonight, I would like to share this strategy with you.

Because, I guess, I'm not  the only person in this room

who sometimes takes things personally, right?

imagine you invite a friend to go to the movies, and she replies,

of her having dinner with some friends that very night!

Or imagine you really have worked very hard on a project.

and you would like to wind down and share this terrible experience.

the other one walks away  to switch on the TV.

Now, who would take one of these situations personally?

We feel hurt, neglected, offended,  betrayed by the other one.

Our ego thinks that others should take us into consideration.

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How not to take things personally? | Frederik Imbo | TEDxMechelen（How not to take things personally? | Frederik Imbo | TEDxMechelen）

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