Okay, picture this.

想像這個情境。

You're on your first date with the person of your dreams.

你正準備跟夢中情人初次約會。

You've planned every last detail: from the fuzzy orange sweater you'll wear to the cozy cat cafe you'll go to.

你精心策劃了所有細節，從你要穿的橙色毛茸茸毛衣到要去的舒適貓咖啡館。

You arrive at the cafe.

於是你抵達咖啡館。

Kittens abound and see them waiting for you at your table.

店裡滿是小貓，在你的位置旁等著你。

That's when you realize: "What on earth will I say?"

這時你才驚覺「我該跟他聊什麼？」

I mean, what happens after hello?

打完招呼後該說什麼？

Existential questions swirl in your head.

人生跑馬燈從你眼前飛過。

"What will we talk about? How will I get to know them? Will we just talk about cats?"

「該說什麼？怎樣才能更了解他？還是只聊貓？」

While spending the day discussing animals at a cat cafe sounds fun for most,

雖然整天在貓咖聊貓對大多數人來說應該很有趣，

it's not always the best way to get to know someone,

這並不能幫助你深入了解某人，

unless they'd specifically defined themselves as "the notorious cat person."

除非他特別將自己定義為「狂熱貓奴」。

So, to steer you in the right direction, here are some questions to help you really get to know someone fast.

所以，我們整理了一些問題，讓你能快速了解對方，為你的約會之行指引明路。

All right, number one: If you were immortal, how would you spend your life?

第一：如果你是不死之身，想怎麼過日子？

This question really gets them to think about what they truly want to do

這個問題可以帶你了解對方心中真正的渴望，

and how they keep themselves entertained and happy, even well into the years of immortality.

他們的快樂源於何處，即便是在不朽歲月中。

Number two: What is the one thing people misunderstand about you?

第二：人們對你有什麼誤解？

Often, others can misread us.

我們很常會受到誤解。

If only we could let others know who we really are and clear up their misconceptions about us;

如果能讓人們知道我們真實的模樣，消除誤解就好了。

this question gives them a chance to finally explain themselves and show who they really are.

而這個問題給了對方一個機會解釋，並展露真實的自己。

Number three: How do you want to be remembered?

第三：將來離開人世後，你想給別人留下什麼印象？

This question can really give insight into another's values in life.

這可以看出一個人的人生價值觀。

Do they want to be known for their achievements, their kindness, their relationships?

能知道他們看重成就、善良，還是人際關係。

Number four: What's on your bucket list this year?

第四：你今年的願望清單是什麼？

Most of us secretly have a bucket list sitting at the back of our brain piling up.

大多數人腦中都藏著一張目標清單。

Instead of focusing on your life's bucket list, ask them what they want to do this year.

與其問對方的人生願望清單，不如問問他今年想做什麼。

They may just have a surprising answer.

答案可能會讓你驚訝。

Be sure to share your bucket list as well once they've answered.

得到他們的回覆後，也別忘了分享你自己的答案。

Number five: What's something you've dreamt about doing for a long time?

第五：什麼是你想做很久了的事？

Why haven't you done it?

為什麼還沒做呢？

For many of us, our dreams and goals are an important part of our lives.

對許多人來說，夢想和目標是生命中的一大組成部分。

Upon talking about their interests and dreams, ask about something they haven't yet been able to do.

在你們談論興趣與夢想時，問問他有沒有什麼想做但還沒做的事。

Not only will this question give insight into who they want to become,

這不僅能幫助你看出他們想成為什麼樣的人，

but the "why" may even give clues into what they're going through in the present.

問題中的「為什麼」還能透漏出對方目前正在經歷什麼。

Number six: What is your most treasured memory?

第六：你最珍貴的回憶是什麼？

This question can really give insight into their past.

這個問題能幫你了解他的過去。

How far back does their memory go?

這是多久以前的回憶？

Is it from childhood, the present?

是童年還是現在？

Is someone else involved in the memory?

這段回憶中有誰？

Number seven: Do you have a philosophy you like to live by?

第七：你有自己的生活哲理嗎？是什麼呢？

This question will either tell you how they're living or how they want to live.

這個問題能告訴你他生活的樣貌，或是他想過的生活。

The next question you have to ask yourself is, does this make you compatible?

接著你必須問自己，你們觀念合嗎？

Okay, number eight: Where do you see yourself after five years?

接著，第八：你覺得自己五年後會是什麼樣子？

Everybody gets this question at a job interview, and while it may seem boring, it's asked for a reason.

求職面試中，每個人都會遇到這個問題，雖然看似無趣，但它之所以經典是有原因的。

It shows you if they like to plan ahead, if they have goals,

這能看出他是個會提前計畫，有目標的人，

or if they like to live carefree and see where life takes them.

還是他偏好隨心生活。

Number nine: What's your favorite book or show?

第九：你最喜歡的書或節目是什麼？

You need to know this question because any good friend or partner knows the answer to this question.

你得知道這個問題，因為好朋友或伴侶都清楚這個問題的答案。

It can tell you many little things.

這能告訴你很多事。

One: It will tell you if they like to read or not.

一：他是否有閱讀習慣。

Two: Are they more of a TV or film person?

二：他比較喜歡影集還是電影。

And the "why" is where it really gets interesting.

其中原因才是真正有趣的部分。

What was it about this movie or novel that affected them?

這些作品如何影響他？

And number 10: What truly makes you happy?

第十：什麼事會讓你發自內心的感到開心？

We are our best selves when we're happy.

人在快樂時才能展現出最好的一面。

So, isn't it important to know what it is that it makes us feel this joy?

既然如此，知道是什麼能讓我們快樂難道不重要嗎？

They may have to think about this one for a moment, or maybe they just know it right away.

他可能得思考一下，也有可能可以馬上回答出來。

Either way, talking about what makes us happy is likely to, well, make us happy.

不論如何，談論讓我們開心的事物本身就是件快樂的事。

So, you're already off to a great start.

所以，這已經是個不錯的開頭了。

Which of these questions intrigued you the most?

這些問題中，哪個最吸引你？

Which will you use on your next date or get together with a friend?

下次約會或與朋友聚會時，想用哪個呢？

Will you ask them at a cat cafe?

你會在貓咖問他們嗎？

Let us know in the comments down below, and be sure to share with us how it went once you ask them.

在下面留言告訴我們，也別忘了跟我們分享後續發展喔。

Until then, we will be waiting in anticipation.

在那之前，我們會耐心等待的。

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也別忘了訂閱 Psych2Go 頻道，開起小鈴鐺收看更多影片。

As always, thanks for watching.

老樣子，謝謝大家收看。