She just breaks down and articulates certain concepts like the mother wound, the mind-gut connection, disassociation so well.

她會精闢地剖析某些概念，例如：缺乏母愛、心腸連結性、解離。

And today she actually shared this post about common core beliefs that just resonated with me.

今天她分享了一篇關於共同核心信念的文章，讓我感到很有共鳴。

Every single one felt like very relatable or exactly like someone I knew.

她分享的內容都讓我覺得感同身受，或像某個我認識的人的經歷。

And I'm pretty sure that Nicole just wakes up every day and chooses personal attack, and I love it, I'm living for it.

我想妮可每天一起床就挑一種人身攻擊，我愛死了，我為此而活。

So, LePera explains that a core belief is a belief created in the subconscious mind between birth to age seven that a person has internalized as a truth or a reality.

LePera 解釋說，核心信念是人在出生後到7歲之間，在潛意識中產生的信念，並逐漸將其內化為真理。

The reticular activating system, RAS, is this bundle of nerves in the brainstem that filters out information from our environment to confirm our core beliefs.

網狀激活系統 (RAS)，是腦幹中的一束神經，負責過濾環境中與我們核心信念不一致的資訊。

So, once you have a core belief, it's basically a filter that you're looking at reality, and you experience confirmation bias.

所以，一旦你有了核心信念，基本上就像用濾鏡觀察現實一樣，所以會出現認知偏差。

So, becoming conscious of our core beliefs will allow us to unlearn the ones that we do not like and make new decisions to create new responses.

所以，認識自己的核心信念，就能讓我們摒棄我們不喜歡的東西，進而創造新的回應。

You ready? Here we go.

準備好了嗎？開始囉。

Common core belief number one.

共同核心信念一。

I am not worthy, good enough, something is wrong with me.

我不配、我不夠好、我有問題。

Ha-ha, it's me.

哈哈，在說我。

The adult behaviors displayed by this belief are self-betrayal, negative self-talk, procrastination, chronic fear of criticism, performing or playing a role and denying one's own needs and boundaries.

這種信念衍生的成人行為表現是自我背叛、消極的自我對話、拖延症、畏首畏尾、假裝成另一個人並否定自己的需求和界限。

Common core belief number two.

共同核心信念之二。

I must betray myself or parts of myself in order to be loved and chosen.

我必須背叛自己或一部分的自己才能被愛和被選上。

The adult behaviors show up as codependency patterns, enabling partners who harm you and themselves, fear of stating your own needs, a lack of boundaries and inability to be vulnerable, avoidance of romantic relationships or losing yourself in romantic relationships.

成人的行為表現為依賴模式，放任夥伴傷害你和他們自己，害怕說出你的需求、缺少界限、不懂得脆弱；、逃避戀愛關係或在其中迷失自我。

Common core belief number three.

共同核心信念之三。

I must compete, smear or tear down others in order to win or get what I want.

我一定要爭、要抹黑或擊敗別人，才能得到我想要的東西。

The adult behaviors are fear-based decision making, an inability to collaborate, assuming everyone has negative intentions or is out to get you, black and white polarized thinking and the inability to see a perspective of another.

成人的行為表現是基於恐懼的決策、無法合作、假設每個人都意圖不軌或想害你、非黑即白的思維，以及無法尊重他人的觀點。

Common core belief number four.

共同核心信念之四。

People will never stay and will always abandon them.

沒有人會留下來，我們最終肯定會被拋棄。

This shows up in adults as insecure attachment in romantic relationships, push and pull behaviors, an inability to follow through with tasks, controlling tendencies and impulsive behaviors, like shopping a ton or changing jobs, or quitting a relationship without being intentional or fully thinking these things through.

成人的行為表現有不安全的依戀、戀愛關係中的推拉行為、無法徹底完成任務、控制傾向和衝動行為，例如瘋狂購物或頻繁地換工作，或未充分考慮就輕易放棄一段感情。

Common core belief number five.

共同核心信念五。

I am unlucky and good things do not happen to me.

我很倒楣，好事情不會發生在我身上。

The adult behaviors are sarcasm as a coping mechanism, playing small, fear over revealing dreams, goals and aspirations, chronic complaining and emotional dumping as connection.

成人的行為表現是將諷刺作為應對機制、故意示弱、害怕暴露自己的夢想、目標和願望、將習慣性的抱怨和情感宣洩視為情感連結。

And finally, for your last attack, common core belief number six.

最後一個人身攻擊，共同的核心信念六。

I am not safe and the world is not safe.

我不安全，這個世界也不安全。

This shows up as addiction or negative behaviors as an attempt to regulate the nervous system, isolation, high reactivity, defensiveness, over independence and a lack of resilience.

其行為表現為成癮或消極的行為，以試圖調節神經系統、孤立、反應力強、防禦性強、過度獨立和缺乏韌性。

So, chances are, some, if not all not all of these, really spoke to you.

所以，可能上述中有幾點或全部都符合你的情況。

And if you think about it, what are the phrases that you have ultimately heard in your family dynamic again and again that solidified some of these beliefs for you?

你仔細想想，你在家中常聽到那些不斷地鞏固你的信念的話語為何？

So, my parents, although inadvertently, reinforced the messaging that achievement is everything, that I am only worth as much as my productivity or my education, and that the world wasn't safe so I had to enroll in an adult karate class when I was a child because they thought I would most likely be attacked by an adult as a child and must be able to defend myself.

我的父母不經意地強調成就代表一切的觀念，我的生產力和教育決定了我的價值，而且這個世界並不安全，所以我小時候就得去上成人空手道班，因為他們認為我很可能會被成人攻擊，我必須有保護自己的能力。

And then also I had to conform to the idea of a good girl, a.k.a., just basically being obedient, in order to be loved and chosen.

然後我也得遵循所謂好女孩的觀念，基本上就是要順從聽話，這樣才能被愛或被別人選中。

I really loved this post from her, 'cause I felt like it articulated and demonstrated so much of what we live out unconsciously.

我很喜歡她這篇文章，因為我覺得它闡述和剖析了很多我們無意識中養成的觀念。

And as you know, as I harp for years and years, awareness is the first step towards seeing the invisible and subconscious patterns that guide us.

你們也知道，我彈了很多年的豎琴，識時務者為俊傑，引導我們理解潛意識模式。

And if we don't like our lives, and our choices, and what we're believing, then once we become aware of them, we can change them.

如果我們不喜歡我們的生活、我們的選擇和我們的信念，那麼一旦我們有所意識，就可以改變它們。

And LePera is all about how to heal these various childhood wounds that we carry around, that we just fricking hate.

LePera 主要分享如何治療童年的創傷，那些我們討厭的創傷。

And she says, healing is about creating a new perspective, intentionally practicing new thoughts and new beliefs, challenging our old ones and stepping away from the beliefs that create these unwanted patterns.

她說，治療是為了創造新的視角，刻意地實踐新思想、新信念、挑戰並遠離不想要的既有信念。

It is about consciously creating who you wish to be.

主要是關於如果有意識地成為你理想中的人。

So, which of the six beliefs are you working to unlearn?

那在這六個信念之中，你想努力擺脫哪一種？

I'm Anna Akana, and thank you to the Patreons who supported today's video.

我是 Anna Akana，感謝各位支持本影片的 Patreons 贊助人。

And thank you to Squarespace for sponsoring today's episode.

也感謝 Squarespace 贊助今天的節目。

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Squarespace 是一個一體化的平臺，可以打造良好的品牌形象，並經營你的業務。

Complete with marketing tools and analytics to have your website or your online store be the best that she can be.

它具備完整的營銷分析工具，幫助你盡可能地優化您的網站。

For all of you who love to create audio content, everyone has a podcast now, well, you can use AudioBlocks, which allows you to embed audio on your site and tag the audio for iTunes when your audio block is placed in a blog.

對於喜歡創作音頻的人，例如現在很多人都經營播客，可以使用AudioBlocks，它讓你能夠在網站上嵌入音頻， 並在iTunes上標記音頻。

Plus, you can have multiple contributors receive selective access to your site's website manager.

另外，您可以設定多位網站管理員的不同權限。

And don't worry, you own all the content you put on the Squarespace platform.

別擔心，你享有所以上傳到 Squarespace 平臺上的內容所有權。

They offer one-click data portability.

它提供一鍵式數據便攜性。

Head to squarespace.com for a free trial, and whenever you're ready to launch, go to squarespace.com/anna to save 10% off your first purchase of a website or domain.

前往 squarespace.com 免費試用，準備推出網站時，記得輸入 squarespace.com/anna 享受網站或網域首購減免 10% 的優惠。

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