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音樂

Are you ready Wolfy?

你準備好了嗎 小狼

Yeah?

是嗎？

Yeah [laughter]

是啊[笑聲]

So it's been a crazy last five months

過去的5個月真是太瘋狂了

If you don't already know

如果你還不知道

we just recently released a video

我們最近剛剛發佈了一個視頻

of Wolfy and his "Day in the Life"

沃爾夫和他的 "生活中的一天"

a few weeks ago

幾周前

We will leave links in the description

我們會在描述中留下鏈接

This whole process the last five months

這整個過程過去五個月

has kind of opened our eyes

開闊了我們的視野

to how Japanese raise their children

日本人的育兒方式

And we wanted to specifically talk about that in this video

我們想在這段視頻中特別談談這個問題。

Maiko is Japanese

舞子

I am Filipino-American raised in the States

我是在美國長大的菲律賓裔美國人。

We wanted to share

我們想分享

what we're going through here in Japan

日本的情況

trying to raise Wolfy

養狼

You know some of the surprises

你知道其中的一些驚喜

that we've had along the way,

我們一路走來所經歷的。

especially surprises for me because Maiko grew up in Japan

特別是舞子在日本長大，讓我很驚訝

so she experienced a lot of this,

所以她經歷了很多這樣的事情。

but this is what the stereotypical

但這是什麼刻板的。

way to raise a Japanese kid would be

培養日本孩子的方法是

But again it doesn't apply to everyone, everyone's different

但這又不是適用於每個人，每個人的情況不同

Also, we wanted to know

另外，我們想知道

what you guys thought about some of these things

你們對這些事情有什麼看法

that we're going to talk about

我們要談的

How it applies to your country, how it relates to your country

如何適用於貴國，與貴國有什麼關係？

Maiko: And in this video I decided to join

Maiko。而在這個視頻中，我決定加入

because I did experience being raised in Japan

因為我有在日本長大的經歷

and I have Japanese parents

我的父母是日本人

So I just wanted to share my experience with you guys

所以我只想和你們分享我的經驗

Before we start,

在我們開始之前。

if you wanna support the channel check out the "Hold My Miso" merch

如果你想支持該頻道，請查看 "Hold住我的味噌 "的商品。

If you wanna see what we're doing on the daily

如果你想看看我們每天都在做的事情

check out the IG accounts

查看IG賬戶

If you have any questions about Japan or your Japan travels,

如果你對日本或你的日本旅行有任何疑問。

check out the Discord community right here

在這裡查看Discord社區

Wanna say hello to everyone before you go?

走之前要不要跟大家打個招呼？

- Hey everyone! - Hey~

- 大家好!- 嘿嘿

There you go, he's such a smiley boy

給你，他是個愛笑的孩子。

Love you! Bye Bye!

愛你！拜拜！

So this one is kind of crazy

所以這個有點瘋狂

Japanese moms spend only 2 hours

日本媽媽只花2小時

away from their baby each week

每週都要離開孩子

Whereas compared to American mothers,

而與美國母親相比。

they'll spend 24 hours away from their babies

他們會花24小時離開他們的寶寶

Basically there's no time ever

基本上沒有時間了

where the baby is apart from the mom

嬰幼兒與媽媽分離的地方

At least in Japan

至少在日本

Why do you think that is?

你覺得為什麼會這樣？

Well in Japan,

那麼在日本。

babysitters are not so common

保姆不常見

I mean, it's changing nowadays

我的意思是，它的變化現在

since there's more working mothers

因為有更多的工作母親

But back in the days

但在過去的日子裡

I think there were no babysitters

我想是沒有保姆吧

and people expected mothers to almost "suffer"

和人們期望母親幾乎 "受罪"

And to give up everything for the baby,

為了孩子放棄一切。

was actually a good thing

其實是好事

They value the "suffering" of mothers

他們重視母親的 "痛苦"。

Paolo: So basically, you're a more respected mother

所以基本上，你是一個更受尊敬的母親。

if you are sacrificing for the babies and for the kids

如果你是為了孩子和孩子們而犧牲的話

That's kind of surprising to us, but times are changing

這對我們來說有點意外，但時代在變。

so that's not necessarily the case for some parents these days

所以現在有些家長就不一定了。

But it's still one of the mindsets

但這仍然是一種心態

that a lot of the parents have in Japan

在日本，很多父母都有

The next thing was

接下來的事情是

I don't know if it was much of a shocker,

我不知道這算不算是一種震撼。

but I anticipated it because of the size of our apartment

但我預料到了，因為我們公寓的大小

The sleeping arrangements here in Japan

日本的睡眠安排

and sleeping in the same room with your baby and your child

並與您的寶寶和您的孩子睡在同一個房間裡。

In fact, if you've seen our "Day in a Life" video with Wolfy

其實，如果你看過我們和小狼的 "生活中的一天 "視頻的話

then you'd know he sleeps in the same room with us

那你就知道他和我們睡在一個房間裡了

Not in the same bed,

不在一張床上。

but he has a crib right next to our bed

但他有一個嬰兒床就在我們的床邊上

I think about 88% of kids between 0 and 3 years old

我認為0到3歲的孩子中，約有88%的人是這樣的

sleep in the same room with their parents

同室操戈

and about 68-69% of kids sleep in the same bed as their parents

約68-69%的孩子和父母睡在同一張床上。

But it's common for kids to be in elementary school

但是，孩子們上小學是很常見的事

and still be staying in the same room with their parents

同室操戈

or maybe even the same bed

甚至可能是同床異夢

until they're like 10 years old or something

直到他們像10歲或東西。

For me, when I was a kid

對我來說，當我還是個孩子的時候

our house wasn't that big,

我們的房子沒有那麼大。

but since we had 3 kids

但由於我們有三個孩子

we used to sleep together in the same room

同室操戈

We would call it a "Kawa no Ji"

我們稱它為 "川之智"

"We sleep like a kawa no ji"

"我們睡得像個川之司"

means we sleep next to eachother

意思是我們睡在一起

Paolo: So I think one of the differences in Japan

所以我認為日本的一個不同之處是

is that they don't have beds, but futons Maiko: Oh, that's true

是他們沒有床，而是被褥舞子。哦，那是真的

Paolo: So you have this bedroom with tatami mats

所以，你有這個臥室與榻榻米。

where people lay out their futon mattresses

鋪墊

- And it's not just beds lying around-- - That's right

- 而且不只是床鋪在周圍...

like you're in an orphanage

如同在孤兒院

Yeah it's on the ground, it's on the floor

是的，它在地上，它在地板上。

In our case, we moved

在我們的情況下，我們搬到了

My parents built a new house when

我的父母建了一個新房子，當

I was in early elementary school

我是在小學初期

That's when I got my room

這時我才有了自己的房間

So I think it really depends on the family

所以我覺得這真的要看家庭的情況

for when you get your own room

當你有了自己的房間

Usually it happens in elementary school or junior high at the latest, I think

一般來說，最遲在小學或國中時就會發生，我想。

Paolo: We'll decide as Wolfy gets older he's almost six months now, so we'll see

我們將決定隨著Wolfy的長大，他現在快六個月了，所以我們會看到的

So this one kind of piggybacks off that one

所以，這個有點捎帶著那一個

It's taking a bath with your parents,

是和父母一起洗澡。

especially the opposite sex,

特別是異性。

and how long they do it here in Japan

以及他們在日本做了多久

For example,

例如：

right now we're just giving him a bath separately

現在我們只是單獨給他洗澡。

But I think at the age of 3-4 months

但我認為，在3-4個月的時候。

that's when parents start to take baths with their kids,

這時家長們就開始和孩子一起洗澡。

like that young,

像那麼年輕。

to soak them in the bath or give them a proper bath together

泡在浴池裡，或者給他們一起好好洗個澡。

But this continues on and the facts show here,

但這種情況還在繼續，事實也在這裡顯示出來。

that all the way up until maybe age ten

一直到十歲

22% of moms and sons take baths together

22%的媽媽和兒子一起洗澡。

and when they're 12: 14%

當他們12歲的時候：14%

all the way to 15 years old with 3%

一直到15歲，佔3%。

that's 3 out of a 100 kids

百裡挑一

will take a bath with their mom at 15 years old

15歲就會和媽媽一起洗澡了

You'd be shocked as a Japanese as well

作為一個日本人，你也會感到震驚的

- I'm pretty shocked - The Japanese as well

- 我很震驚 日本人也是如此

This was kind of weird, it says

這有點奇怪，它說

for over 20 years old: 6%

20歲以上：6%；

Maiko: Wow Paolo: Yeah, that's pretty shocking

Maiko：哇，是的，這很令人震驚。

The next one is father and daughter

下一個是父女倆

up to 8 years old it says 14%

8歲以下，它說14%

and to 10 years old, 25% still take baths with their dad

而到了10歲，25%的人還在和爸爸一起洗澡。

How old were you when you took a bath with your dad?

你和你爸爸一起洗澡的時候，你才多大？

I actually don't remember, but I remember I felt kind of weird

其實我不記得了，但我記得我覺得有點怪怪的。

That's one of the things

這也是其中的一件事

How is it in your country?

你們國家的情況如何？

Let me know in the comments

請在評論中告訴我

This one is more of a general thing

這個比較籠統

when they're growing up

長大後

and how to teach them or correct your child

以及如何教導或糾正你的孩子

when they do something wrong

犯錯時

And kind of show them the way

給他們指路

In Japan, typically they show a lot more empathy

在日本，通常他們表現出更多的同情心

when teaching their children

教育子女時

For example, instead of saying

例如，不說

"You did something wrong" or "You're gonna get arrested"

"你做錯了事 "或 "你會被逮捕"

it's more like,

它更像。

"How is that going to make the other kid feel

"這讓另一個孩子怎麼想？

when you take their toys or you do something", right?

當你拿了他們的玩具或者你做了什麼"，對嗎？

- So it's more of a show of empathy - Yeah, exactly

- 所以這更多的是一種同情心的表現--是的，正是如此。

How I was brought up, or how my mother taught me when I did something wrong

我是怎麼長大的，或者說當我做錯事的時候，我媽媽是怎麼教育我的？

was usually to think of other people's feelings,

通常是考慮別人的感受。

"He's hurt, you don't want to do that"

"他受傷了，你不要這樣做"

or let's say I'm screaming and jumping around in a public place,

或者說我在公共場所大喊大叫，跳來跳去。

then my mother would be like,

那我媽媽就會像。

"Don't bother people"

"不要打擾別人"

Not only the feelings,

不僅是感情。

but also the idea that you don't want to bother other people

但也有不想麻煩別人的想法。

We would say "Meiwaku wo kakenai"

我們會說 "明若若akenai"

It's like how it's gonna make other's feel

這就像它會如何讓其他人的感覺。

You don't wanna disturb harmony,

你不會想破壞和諧吧？

you don't want to disturb the peace, or everyone's quiet

你不想擾亂治安，也不想讓大家安靜下來。

Yeah, always think about others

是啊，總是為別人著想

"Life theme" of Japan

日本的 "生活主題"

Paolo: It's not like

這不是像

"Oh you're gonna get arrested" or "You're breaking the rules"

"哦，你會被逮捕 "或 "你違反了規則"

Maiko: No, you should never say that

麥子：不，你千萬別這麼說。

Paolo: I think it's great to be able to get along with the group,

保羅：我覺得能和大家相處的很好。

but then at the same time,

但同時又。

as someone always trying to get along with the group

湊合著過日子

you kind of lose your opinions and your thoughts

你會失去你的意見和想法

And you don't actually think on your own

而你其實並沒有自己的想法

You're always thinking, "What does the group want or think"

你總是在想，"這群人想要什麼，想什麼"

Maybe we have a bit of a mix in there so that our son

也許我們有一點混合在那裡，所以我們的兒子。

considers the group and is empathetic and wants the best for the group

考慮到群體，有同情心，並希望為群體提供最好的服務。

but also his own opinions about things

但也有自己的看法

And maybe it'll be okay for him to stick out once in a while

也許他偶爾出頭露面也無妨吧？

Yeah, totally

是啊，完全

To be honest,

說實話

I grew up and always having to think about others

我從小到大，總是要為別人著想。

and having to put other's feelings before what I wanted to do

我不得不把別人的感受放在我想做的事情之前。

So I never got to do what I wanted

所以我從來沒有做我想做的事

You know what I mean?

你知道我的意思嗎？

That sucked, so... [laughter]

這很糟糕，所以...[笑聲]

It's like

這就像

"I feel bad for her so I guess I'm not gonna do that"

"我為她感到難過，所以我想我不會那樣做"

You know?

你知道嗎？

That will make you lose your personality

那會讓你失去個性

or lose your identity

或失去身份

If that makes sense

如果有道理的話

You won't develop your own uniqueness

你不會發展出自己的獨特之處

- Yeah - We'll see

- 是啊 我們會看到的

Before we continue,

在我們繼續之前。

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我想對我們的贊助商--Bokksu表示一下敬意。

If you don't already know, Bokksu provides a gourmet experience

如果你還不知道，福壽提供的是美食體驗。

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送到家門口的日本點心

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隨著假期的到來。

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Bokksu是送給遠近親朋的最佳禮物。

They work with factories, some over a hundred years old,

他們與工廠合作，有的工廠已有一百多年的歷史。

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為你提供零食

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而且每個月的盒子都有自己獨特的主題。

so you get new snacks every time

所以你每次都能得到新的零食

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首次使用的用戶將獲得 "日本四季 "禮盒。

and after you'll get a theme box like this one

然後你就會得到一個像這樣的主題框。

When you open the box

當你打開盒子的時候

you get a booklet that goes through the snacks

你會得到一個小冊子，通過小吃。

and information about Japan

和日本的資訊

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根據您的選擇，您可以在您的盒子裡得到10-25種零食。

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全是日本各地精選的道地日本風味。

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並節省高達47美元使用我的代碼。PAOLO10

Link in the description

說明中的鏈接

That said, let's continue on with the list

說到這裡，讓我們繼續列舉一下

Another interesting thing about Japanese culture and raising kids

關於日本文化和養育孩子的另一件趣事

is that discipline is not only from parents,

是，紀律不僅來自父母。

but also from groups

但也有來自團體

meaning that you'll go to school or you'll join clubs

意思是說，你要去上學，或者你要參加社團

and the discipline is shared throughout the community

並在全社會範圍內開展紀律教育

So it's not just from your parents

所以說，這不僅僅是你父母給的

which could be a good or bad thing

時好時壞

I guess, maybe in some cultures

我想，也許在某些文化中

you know the parents are the ones responsible for the discipline

你知道父母才是管教的責任人

but in Japan it's a shared communal thing

但在日本，這是一個共同的公共事物。

Maiko: Yeah, as I grew up I was always in that environment,

麥子：是啊，我從小到大都是在這種環境中長大的。

that I had to follow the rules

我必須遵守規則

That applies at school, at clubs, and after-school school

在學校、在俱樂部、在課後學校都是如此

So I think if you're in Japan,

所以我覺得如果你在日本。

you're naturally going to be disciplined

戒驕戒躁

Paolo: I think what's also interesting

我覺得也很有趣的是...

is even as a little kid in school,

是即使是在學校的小孩子。

you clean all together

你一起清理

I'll be walking by nurseries and see kids wiping down

我走過託兒所，看到孩子們在擦屁股

the entrance of the school and wiping down the--

學校門口，擦拭... ...

- Elementary school? - A nursery or something

- 小學？- 幼兒園什麼的

Maiko: I feel like I started in elementary school

麥子：我感覺自己是從小學開始的。

But yeah, it's good to learn how to be responsible for your own room

不過也是，學會對自己的房間負責也是好的

Paolo: The kids could barely stand and were wiping

孩子們幾乎站不穩，都在擦拭著

So cute [laughter]

好可愛[大笑]

They were teaching them how to wipe the windows

他們在教他們如何擦窗。

- They're probably not good at cleaning - No, they were terrible at cleaning

- 他們可能不善於打掃 不，他們打掃得很糟