Um, we have to break up.

嗯，我們必須分手。

Well, you just lost a fan.

好吧，你剛剛失去了一個粉絲。

If you found yourself in this situation, I know how you feel.

如果你發現自己處於這種情況，我知道你的感受。

Sorry

對不起

You can't eat, you can't sleep, all you can do is cry, think about your ex, what went wrong

吃不下飯，睡不著覺，你只能哭，想你的前任，到底出了什麼問題？

And why you're such an unlovable piece of shit

還有為什麼你是個不可愛的垃圾

But listen to me: you're going to be okay. Not now, not anytime soon;

但聽我說：你會好起來的。不是現在，也不是很快。

but, eventually, and with the help of

但是，最終，並在

friends, friends, friends, friends, friends, friends. You need your support network right now more than ever.

朋友，朋友，朋友，朋友，朋友，朋友，朋友。你現在比以往任何時候都更需要你的支持網絡。

So call your friends or family and ask them to come over, or just get on the phone to talk or schedule a lunch or

所以，打電話給你的朋友或家人，請他們過來，或只是在電話中交談或安排午餐或。

dinner or whatever. You're gonna

晚餐或其他什麼。你會

have a lot of free time on your schedule between all the crying and crying that you're doing, and that's when you want to lean

有很多空閒的時間在你的日程表上，在你做的所有哭哭啼啼的事情之間，這時候你要靠著

on the people who love you; a lot.

在愛你的人身上；很多。

Because that's an opportunity to process this

因為這是個機會來處理這個

relationship without all the negative

撇開一切負面關係

spiraling that you're bound to do in your own time because your support network is gonna say really supportive things that you won't say to

螺旋，你一定會在你自己的時間做 因為你的支持網絡會說真正的支持性的東西，你不會說，以

yourself. Things like:

自己。諸如。

"He wasn't right for you.

"他不適合你。

I didn't say anything at the time, but you know we all knew you guys weren't a great match."

我當時沒說什麼，但你知道我們都知道你們不是很合適。"

"You're amazing you're gonna find someone who understands you and appreciates you and wants to work it out."

"你真了不起，你會找到一個懂你、欣賞你、想解決的人。"

"I love you. I'm so sorry this is happening."

"我愛你，我很抱歉發生這種事。我很抱歉發生這種事。"

"Do you want some tea?"

"你要喝茶嗎？"

When you're not leaning on your friends, pick up old or new hobbies. You're gonna

當你不靠朋友的時候，就撿起舊的或新的愛好。你會

have a lot of free time on your hands, as I mentioned, and a very active

有很多空閒的時間，正如我所提到的，和一個非常活躍的。

anxious mind to occupy and I please encourage you to not make drinking, smoking, or any other unhealthy form of escapism a hobby.

焦慮的心態來佔據，我請你鼓勵你不要把喝酒、抽菸或其他任何不健康的逃避方式作為愛好。

Because I have done that before and it just prolongs your grieving process gives you a lot of bad tweets.

因為我以前也這麼做過，它只是延長了你的悲傷過程，給了你很多不好的推文。

And, you know, just doesn't make you feel very good so pick up something that you love

而且，你知道，只是不 讓你感覺很好 所以拿起你喜歡的東西。

but you haven't tried it in a while, or something that you've always wanted to try. With my blindside breakup,

但你有一段時間沒有嘗試過，或者你一直想嘗試的東西。隨著我的盲目分手。

I finally decided, like, I'm gonna try to cope with this in a very healthy way. And, over the last month

我終於決定，像，我要去嘗試 應對這個在一個非常健康的方式。而且，在過去的一個月

I read, like, 30 books I spent 40 hours getting reacquainted with drawing and poetry,

我讀了，像，30本書我花了40個小時重新認識了繪畫和詩歌。

meditated twice a day for 20 minutes, took a weekly yoga class, journaled a fuck ton, time saw two therapists and a life coach;

每天冥想兩次，每次20分鐘，每週上一節瑜伽課，寫了一大堆日記，看了兩個治療師和一個生活教練。

Yeah, I was, it was a lot.

是的，我是，這是一個很大的。

But, that said, I do know that this breakup is gonna be all you think about all the time so try to

但是，說到這裡，我知道你會一直想著這次的分手，所以你要試著...

understand what you're going through.

理解你正在經歷的事情。

And, if possible, embrace it because chemically, your brain is going through the same withdrawal process as a

而且，如果可能的話，擁抱它，因為從化學上講，你的大腦正在經歷同樣的戒斷過程，就像一個人一樣

cocaine addict. This is why it hurts so bad

可卡因上癮者。這就是為什麼它如此痛苦的原因

*aaaahhhAaaaaAHAHAhhAAAA*

*啊啊啊啊啊啊啊啊啊啊啊啊啊啊啊啊？

Oh God, oh

哦，上帝，哦

Grieving and crying

悲傷和哭泣

suck ass, but they're a very natural part of the process. And I know this is not what anyone wants to hear right now,

吮吸屁股，但他們是一個非常自然的過程中的一部分。我知道這不是任何人想聽到的，現在。

it's not what I wanted to hear, but try to take this opportunity as

這不是我想聽到的，但儘量利用這個機會，因為...

something good to transform yourself.

好的東西來改造自己。

You know, my friend told me to, like, try to make this breakup the best thing that ever happened to me.

你知道，我的朋友告訴我，像， 儘量使這次分手最好的事情 曾經發生在我身上。

And, I know, you like hate them for saying it,

而且，我知道，你喜歡恨他們說。

but at the same time if you try to work towards making that statement true

但與此同時，如果你努力讓這句話成為現實的話

you take a lot of actions in your life that are really healthy and good for you, because you get to choose how to

你在你的生活中採取了很多行動，這是真正的健康和對你有好處，因為你可以選擇如何去。

handle this breakup, and how you're gonna transform from it.

處理這次分手，以及你要如何從它轉變。

So, are you gonna be a victim and be like really sad? Longer than necessary, because grieving is important;

所以，你要成為一個受害者，並像真正的悲傷？長於必要的，因為悲傷是重要的。

Or, are you gonna get the best revenge

還是說，你會得到最好的報復？

possible by just leveling the fuck up as a person and really empowering yourself and being the most successful greatest version of yourself possible?

可能只是水準他媽的作為一個人，並真正賦予自己，併成為最成功的最偉大的自己可能的版本？

I'm Anna Akana. I'm very sorry that you're hurting and also if you do not know Dodie. Please check her out

我是Anna Akana我很抱歉你受到了傷害，也很抱歉你不認識朵迪。請到她那裡去看看

She's an amazing singer/songwriter and an advocate of mental health awareness

她是一位了不起的歌手/作曲家，也是心理健康意識的倡導者。

Her book is really great for those of you who have depression. It helped me a lot, and also helped me with my breakup.

她的書對於那些有抑鬱症的人來說真的很不錯。它幫了我很多，也幫我解決了分手的問題。

She's just fantastic, and if you need a good cry listen to her song '6/10.'

她真是太棒了，如果你需要一個很好的哭泣 聽她的歌曲 "6/10"。

which I love. All right, stay right here for a sponsored message. *in a sad voice* I wanna say thank you to Squarespace for sponsoring today's episode.

我喜歡的。好吧，留在這裡的贊助資訊。*我想對Squarespace說聲謝謝 感謝他們贊助今天的節目

Squarespace offers beautiful award-winning templates not to mention an all-in-one platform,

Squarespace提供美麗的獲獎模板，更不用說是一個一體化的平臺。

so there's like no installs, patches, or upgrades ever.

所以，有像沒有安裝，補丁， 或升級過。

They also have 24-hour customer service if you're, like, really sad in the middle of the night

他們也有24小時的客戶服務，如果你是一樣，真的很傷心在半夜。

and you just need someone to talk to you, and they offer a simple and unique setup experience if you don't have a domain.

而你只需要有人和你交談，如果你沒有域名，他們提供簡單而獨特的設置體驗。

I don't have a domain.

我沒有域名

They're gonna for any kind of website: like if you're an artist or photographer,

他們要為任何類型的網站：比如你是藝術家或攝影師。

you're looking for the love of your life, still like maybe they're still out there

你正在尋找你生命中的愛， 仍然喜歡也許他們仍然在那裡。

I hope they really are. You can go to Squarespace.com and start your free trial today.

我希望他們真的是。你可以去Squarespace.com開始你的免費試用。

And you can use the offer code anna up for 10% off at checkout.

而且你可以使用優惠代碼 anna，在結賬時享受9折優惠。