And usually, when I'm working, I like to read during my downtime set.

而平時，當我工作的時候，我喜歡在休息時間集閱讀。

The little annoying overachiever inside of me is like I'm gonna pay to read.

我內心的小煩心事超乎想象，就像我要花錢讀書一樣。

I'm gonna pay to learn.

我要花錢去學。

It's just like college, just without accumulating hundreds of thousands of dollars in debt and a flailing job market economy.

就像上大學一樣，只是沒有積累幾十萬的債務，也沒有脆弱的職場經濟。

Fix your education system America.

修復你的教育系統，美國。

But anyway, I like to binge authors or genres, and at this time I was binging relationship self help books.

但無論如何，我喜歡狂歡作者或流派，此時我正在狂歡戀愛自助書。

Shut up!

閉嘴！

Don't scroll down to the comments right now, and the book I was reading was called How to Be an Adult in Relationships.

現在不要往下看評論，我看的書叫《如何做一個成年人的關係》。

And trust me, I know everyone who saw me reading.

相信我，看到我讀書的人我都認識。

It was like judgment, judgment.

這就像判斷，判斷。

Oh, judgment.

哦，判斷。

Finish her, George man judge away.

幹掉她，喬治，判官走人。

We never learn how to be in relationships except by actually being in them.

我們永遠也學不會如何在關係中，除非真正置身其中。

And you would read a book about surgery before attempting surgery, wouldn't you?

而在嘗試手術之前，你也會看一本關於手術的書，對嗎？

But one of my co stars actually saw what I was reading, and we bonded over her mutual love of What is that?

但是我的一個搭檔明星居然看到了我在看的東西，我們因為她共同的愛而結緣，那是什麼？

Oh yes, you guessed it therapy and personal development, and he said You know, I went to couples therapy years ago with my wife, and they give us really good advice.

哦，是的，你猜對了治療和個人發展，他說你知道，我幾年前和我妻子一起去做夫妻治療，他們給了我們很好的建議。

They said, if you're ever in a fight with anyone, ask yourself, How old do I feel right now?

他們說，如果你和任何人吵架，請問自己，我現在感覺自己有多大？

E.

E.

It all kind of made sense.

這一切都有點道理。

E mean, if you're in therapy, you probably know that your therapist always brings it back to your old wounds from childhood, right?

E是說，如果你在接受治療，你可能知道，你的治療師總是把它帶回你童年的舊傷，對嗎？

You always roll your eyes because you're so tired of freaking talking about the anxious attachment style you form with your parents.

你總是翻著白眼，因為你對自己與父母形成的焦慮的依戀方式厭惡得抓狂。

But this question really works, because when I thought about it, there are several instances where it's like when I fought with my best friend Cat about feeling left out, I felt like I was 13 and my friends had ditched me at the mall.

但是這個問題真的很管用，因為我想了想，有好幾次，就像我和好朋友貓貓吵架覺得自己被冷落的時候，我覺得自己13歲的時候，朋友們就把我丟在了商場裡。

When I fought with my partner about being ignored inside, I felt like I was like, nine years old and struggling for my father's attention against my siblings.

當我和夥伴爭吵內心被忽視的時候，我覺得自己就像，九歲的孩子，在和兄弟姐妹爭奪父親的注意力。

So whenever I ask myself that question, I would always find out what was really going on, because I could trace it back to a time when I was rejected or bullied his kid.

所以每當我問自己這個問題的時候，我都會發現到底發生了什麼，因為我可以追溯到我被拒絕或者欺負他的孩子的時候。

Then I could just explain those core feelings to her and we would work it out on.

那我就可以向她解釋這些核心的感情，我們就可以解決了。

I thought this was just such great advice, you know?

我覺得這就是這麼好的建議，你知道嗎？

I mean, my brother and I were even talking about how ridiculous it is that we're not equipped to deal with relationships.

我的意思是，我哥哥和我甚至在談論我們沒有能力處理好關係是多麼的可笑。

I know.

我知道，我知道

Why don't they teach this shit in school like there should be classes on how to manage your emotions, how to communicate in relationships and just generally, how to sort out your stuff?

為什麼他們不在學校裡教這些狗屁東西 就像應該有課程教你如何管理情緒，如何在人際關係中溝通，以及一般來說，如何整理你的東西？

I couldn't agree more like we need to remember.

我不能同意更多 像我們需要記住。

The mitochondria is the powerhouse of the cell.

線粒體是細胞的動力源。

E couldn't agree more like Oh, no, wait, you're doing great.

E不能同意更喜歡哦，不，等等，你做得很好。

You're doing great.

你做得很好

It's great acting great acting.

這是偉大的演技偉大的演技。

That's what you're being seriously on.

這就是你認真的原因。

Just generally, how to sort out your stuff.

只是一般情況下，如何整理自己的東西。

I couldn't agree more.

我非常同意。

I'll wait.

我等著

No, lets always remember.

不，讓我們永遠記住。

The mitochondria is the powerhouse of the cell.

線粒體是細胞的動力源。

E get Never forget the nucleus.

E得到 永遠不要忘記核心。

I'm Anaconda.

我是蟒蛇。

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留在這裡看Bethany Radl關閉Awesome Gotham的動畫廣告。

What?

什麼？

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認為是廣場空間對今天視頻的贊助？

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Squarespace擁有漂亮的獲獎模板和一個一體化的平臺，所以您永遠不必安裝補丁或升級。

They offer a unique and simple set up experience.

他們提供了獨特而簡單的設置體驗。

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如果你需要一個域名和24小時客戶服務。

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