And I want to preface this whole thing by clarifying I absolutely love my family.

我想在這之前澄清一下，我絕對愛我的家人。

If they ever need me, I will be there in a heartbeat.

如果他們需要我，我一定會馬上趕到。

But you know, I have a feeling my dad is going to stop talking to me after a few watches this.

但你知道嗎，我有種感覺，我爸看了幾眼這個就不會再跟我說話了。

Oh, wait, he already has.

哦，等等，他已經有了。

So my dad and I stopped talking in July And can you guess why kids drumroll politics?

所以我和我爸在7月份就不說話了 你能猜到孩子們為什麼要鼓動政治嗎？

Of course.

當然了

What else gonna be?

還會是什麼？

And then August rolled around and trust my birthday?

然後八月來臨，相信我的生日？

Excuse me, sports spokesman.

對不起，體育發言人。

I'm a Leo.

我是獅子座的

So not wishing me a happy birthday when you are the literal reason I have a birth date.

所以不祝我生日快樂，而你是我有生日的字面原因。

That's the biggest betrayal I have ever known, Dad.

這是我所知道的最大的背叛，爸爸。

But this video, for once, is not about my daddy issues.

但這個視頻，這一次，不是關於我的爸爸問題。

No, today I want to talk about what has gotten me through this estrangement from my already pretty distant Minaj.

不，今天我想說的是，是什麼讓我度過了這段與我已經相當疏遠的米娜傑的疏遠期。

And that is chosen family society from the time we're born feeds us so much unhealthy, unrealistically language around traditional nuclear family.

而這就是選擇的家庭社會從我們出生開始就圍繞著傳統的核心家庭給我們餵養了太多不健康、不現實的語言。

Family is everything flood.

家庭就是一切洪水。

Above all, you should be willing to forget any sin, make any sacrifice and hold.

最重要的是，你應該願意忘記任何罪過，做出任何犧牲和保持。

Family is the most important pinnacle of commitment in your entire life.

家庭是你一生中最重要的承諾的頂點。

Eat up, sweetie, but we don't get any messages about the people we choose to surround ourselves with as we go into adulthood.

吃吧，親愛的，但我們沒有得到任何資訊，我們選擇與自己周圍的人，當我們進入成年。

And I am definitely not taking my chosen family for granted this year.

而我今年也絕對不會把我的擇偶家庭當做理所當然。

I'm out of town, obviously.

顯然，我不在城裡。

And full disclosure.

並充分披露。

It's been very, very hard on my mental health and my best friends surprise facetime me for my house and give me, like a cat tour of all of my cats.

這對我的心理健康是非常非常難受的，我最好的朋友們為我的房子驚喜的facetime我，給我，就像我所有的貓咪旅遊。

And and for my birthday, they set up a scavenger hunt.

而在我生日的時候，他們設置了一個尋寶遊戲。

And I have never felt more scene.

而我從來沒有感受過更多的場景。

I was like, I love puzzles.

我當時想，我喜歡拼圖。

I love gifts.

我喜歡禮物。

This is both in one Q ugly, crying and then just on a daily basis, they are so encouraging and supportive and reflective and thoughtful.

這既是在一個Q醜，哭，然後只是在日常，他們是如此的鼓勵和支持，反思和思考。

That sounds so stressful.

這聽起來很有壓力。

I'm sorry your boundary was totally valid, baby girl.

我很抱歉你的界限是完全有效的，寶貝兒。

Oh, I totally trust you to make the right decision for yourself, eh?

哦，我完全相信你會為自己做出正確的決定，嗯？

We'd love to see it.

我們很樂意看到它。

You're gorgeous.

你真漂亮

Wait to celebrate.

等著慶祝吧。

My chosen family encourages me to grow.

我選擇的家庭鼓勵我成長。

They celebrate my success.

他們慶祝我的成功。

They uplift and empower me, and they make me feel loved and welcomed.

它們讓我振奮，賦予我力量，讓我感到被愛和歡迎。

And it's been hard, you know, not talking to my dad for half of this year, which is saying a lot because we don't talk often as it iss.

這一年有一半的時間沒有和我爸說話，這很難受，你知道的，這說明很多問題，因為我們不經常說話，因為它是。

You know, when my friends say that they call their parent every day or every week that feels so foreign to me.

你知道，當我的朋友們說他們每天或每週都會給他們的父母打電話時... ...我覺得很陌生。

And I always wonder like, am I a bad daughter?

我總是在想，我是個壞女兒嗎？

But we just have never been a close family, and I always thought there was something wrong with me or wrong with us for not being close on, like I do want to acknowledge, like we have pretty significant trauma behind us, having lost my sister that undeniably fractured us.

但我們只是從來沒有一個親密的家庭，我一直認為有什麼不對我或錯誤的我們不密切上，像我確實想承認，像我們有相當重大的創傷在我們身後，失去了我的妹妹，不可否認的裂痕我們。

But that makes the lack of intimacy all the more painful.

但這讓缺乏親密關係的人更加痛苦。

You would think an event like death would bring us together.

你會認為像死亡這樣的事件會讓我們聚在一起。

But 13 years later, and I honestly don't think it has, and wanting that wanting that closeness, it just brings me so much pain.

但13年過去了，說實話，我覺得並沒有，想要那種想要的親近感，卻帶給我太多的痛苦。

And as my friend Melissa says, you, you shouldn't go shopping for milk at the hardware store, so I'm learning how to love my family from a distance and to keep people who make me feel loved clothes.

就像我的朋友Melissa說的那樣，你，你不應該去五金店買牛奶，所以我正在學習如何從遠處愛我的家人，如何讓讓我感覺到愛的人的衣服。

I'm an Americana.

我是一個美國人。

Sorry for almost crying with emotion isn't cool.

對不起，差點哭的情緒不冷靜。

I'm anaconda and thank you too rich for sponsoring today's video staple snack.

我是蟒蛇，感謝太富贊助今天的視頻主打零食。

Baby Ritz believes that where there is love, there is a family.

瑞茲寶寶相信，有愛的地方就有家庭。

And I hope that wherever you're celebrating the holidays, you feel welcomed, loved and a true sense of belonging and also full from all the delicious Ritz you're gonna be snacking on join us and helping create a more welcoming world at taste of welcome dot com.

我希望無論你在哪裡慶祝節日，你都能感受到歡迎、愛和真正的歸屬感，同時也能從所有美味的麗茲中獲得滿滿的滿足感，加入我們，幫助創造一個更溫馨的世界，在 taste of welcome dot com。

Happy holidays, Yeah.

節日快樂，是啊。