Name: 菲爾博士WE'RE NOT EQUAL（2019年最重要的演講之一）。 (Dr. Phil WE'RE NOT EQUAL (One of the most important talks of 2019))
Uploaded: 2020-12-03T18:50:48.000Z
Duration: 14 min 23 s

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you cannot legislate that everything is going to be equal for everybody because everybody is not equal.

你不能立法規定所有的東西都要人人平等，因為每個人都不平等。

They may be equal in terms of their value as a human being, but they're not equal in math skills.

他們作為一個人的價值可能是平等的，但他們的數學能力卻不平等。

But that doesn't mean their marketable skills in an open society in an open market are going to be the same.

但這並不意味著他們在開放的社會開放的市場中的市場技能會是一樣的。

Just think if you're in your life and there's you don't have something that you're passionate about.

試想一下，如果你在你的生活中，有你沒有的東西，你的激情。

If there's not something where you wake up every day and there's nothing in your life that you're excited to do, man, you need to go back to the drawing board.

如果你每天醒來時，你的生活中沒有什麼讓你興奮的事情，夥計，你需要回到畫板上。

Because if all you're doing is just grinding it out every day, go to a job you don't like, do task.

因為如果你每天只是磨磨蹭蹭，就去找一份你不喜歡的工作，做任務。

You don't care to do and come home to a home.

You don't want to come home to and wait to get up and do it again.

I don't care if it's gardening or music or art or athletics or something.

我不在乎是園藝還是音樂還是藝術還是運動什麼的。

People don't want to look at things for how they are.

They wanna look at things for how they want them to be.

他們想把事情看成他們想要的樣子。

You could accept not being good at other things.

你可以接受在其他事情上不擅長。

It's much easier if you find the thing that you're good at, whether it's gymnastics or singing or painting.

如果你能找到自己擅長的事情，不管是體操還是唱歌、畫畫，都會輕鬆很多。

For if you could find a thing that you're good at, it will make you.

因為如果你能找到一件你擅長的事情，就會讓你。

It will give you, Ah, a feeling of self worth and you won't need to be good at everything you could accept.

它會讓你，啊，有一種自我價值的感覺，你不需要在一切你能接受的事情上做好。

And you can enjoy other people being good at things as well.

而且你也可以享受別人的好東西。

It just seems like you gotta find your own lane.

只是看起來你得找到自己的路。

So I got myself into a lane where I talk for a living.

於是我把自己弄到了一個以說話為生的巷子裡。

I read, I talk, I it's qualitative, not quantitative.

我讀書，我說話，我它是定性的，不是定量的。

Find what you're good at at a given time and do what you're good at.

在特定的時間找到自己擅長的事情，做自己擅長的事情。

Find something you're passionate about, that you could also excel at.

找到你所熱衷的事情，你也可以擅長的事情。

Expose yourself to different things with that very purpose of finding something that you love because there's something out there.

讓自己接觸不同的東西，目的就是為了找到自己喜歡的東西，因為有東西在那裡。

Not everybody is meant to be an athlete, So Okay, look, go do something else.

不是每個人都能成為運動員，所以... ...好吧，聽著，去做別的事情吧。

是啊，要做好自己擅長的事情。

And if you really want to do it, well, you've got a long road.

如果你真的想做，那麼，你的路還很長。

So find what you're good at and watch yourself achieve in that lane, they took students in the class where they put the steps of learning the information so close together that there was never a failure experience.

所以找到自己擅長的東西，看著自己在這個道上取得的成績，他們帶的學生在課堂上把學習資訊的步驟非常緊密，從來沒有失敗的經歷。

It would say the War of 18 12 happened in 18 12.

會說1812年的戰爭發生在1812年。

Then the next thing would say the War of 18 12 happened in blank.

那麼接下來就會說18 12年的戰爭發生了空白。

You feel in 18 12, they would teach the information and they would teach it to criteria where you mastered the information.

你覺得在18 12年，他們會教資料，他們會教到你掌握資料的標準。

And they took him out of that program and put him back in the regular classroom.

他們把他從那個項目中拿出來，讓他回到普通的教室裡。

and the first time they came to questions, they didn't know the answer to the first time they didn't get 100.

而他們第一次來提問的時候，他們不知道答案，第一次沒有拿到100分。

他們就像一件廉價的衣服一樣被拆開了。

They didn't know how to handle adversity.

They didn't know how to handle it when they didn't have the right answers.

他們在沒有正確答案的情況下，不知道該如何處理。

So they scrapped the whole program because they said, You can't do this because that's not the way life is.

所以他們取消了整個項目，因為他們說，你不能這樣做，因為生活不是這樣的。

You're not teaching them how the real world were.

你不是在教他們真實的世界是怎樣的。

Those kids were absolutely screwed up when they got into a truly competitive environment.

那些孩子到了真正的競爭環境中，絕對是完蛋了。

I mean, the whole idea about school is you're supposed to be setting kids up for the future.

我的意思是，關於學校的整個想法是 你應該是設置孩子們的未來。

You're supposed to be teaching them not just information, but teaching them how to learn and how to improve.

你應該教給他們的不僅僅是資訊，而是教他們如何學習，如何提高。

In it, somebody will have a complex thing that comes from childhood, or maybe it's a drug background or they've had trauma in their life.

在這裡面，有人會有一個複雜的東西，來自於童年，或者是毒品背景，或者是他們的生活中有過創傷。

But the solution is change your behavior.

I mean, stop rewarding bad behavior, choose a different path in life, just behavior way to success.

我的意思是，不要再獎勵不好的行為了，選擇不同的人生道路，只要行為方式成功。

Sometimes the solutions are very simple, even though the problems are very complex because at some point you have to stop focusing on why and start focusing on what, instead of why it happened.

有時候解決方案非常簡單，儘管問題非常複雜，因為在某些時候，你必須停止關注為什麼，開始關注什麼，而不是為什麼發生。

So sometimes the solutions are pretty simple.

I don't think problems are simple at all.

In fact, I think problems air really most of the time.

其實，我覺得問題的空氣真的大多數時候。

They have a lot of different origins there, often times co morbid.

他們那裡有很多不同的起源，往往是共病的。

A lot of things exist together, so I don't think problems are simple.

很多東西是一起存在的，所以我覺得問題並不簡單。

But the solutions are often simple, don't you think?

但解決方案往往很簡單，你覺得呢？

Yeah, it just seems that people have, Ah, they have this comfort in their patterns.

是的，它只是看起來，人們有， 啊，他們有這種舒適性 在他們的模式。

And even if their patterns your self destructive events, drug abuse or alcoholism or those those comfort in those patterns falling into those patterns, it seems very compelling to a lot of people.

而即使他們的模式你的自我毀滅事件，藥物濫用或酗酒或那些那些舒適的模式落入這些模式，它似乎非常引人注目的很多人。

Yeah, and payoffs don't necessarily mean that it's a positive payoff.

是啊，而且回報不一定就是正向的回報。

E mean payoff for taking heroin is you get high and so your high for a while.

服用海洛因的回報是你會很興奮，所以你會興奮一陣子。

That's not a positive payoff, but it's a payoff on if you if you get high and so you don't get a job and you don't take care of your kids.

這不是一個積極的回報， 但它的回報，如果你 如果你得到高，所以你不找工作 你不照顧你的孩子。

That's a payoff, that you're not doing things that you need to do that you should be accountable for.

這就是一種回報，你沒有做你應該負責任的事情。

It's a pathological payoff, but it's a payoff nonetheless.

這是一種病態的回報，但還是一種回報。

The next year is gonna go by whether you're doing something about your life or not.

無論你是否在為你的生活做點什麼，明年都會過去的。

I mean, we're sitting here right now at the end of February, and the next 10 months are going to go by whether somebody is working to make change or whether they're not.

我的意思是，我們現在坐在這裡，2月底，接下來的10個月，不管是有人在努力改變，還是沒有。

They may think, you know Oh my God, I'm so far away I'll never get into controller.

他們可能會想，你知道，哦，我的上帝，我這麼遠，我永遠不會進入控制器。

I'm so behind in my bills or I'm so of, you know, just depressed or everything is so out of control.

我是如此落後於我的賬單，或者我是如此的， 你知道，只是鬱悶 或者一切都如此失控。

You make those incremental changes and then, you know, pretty soon in December you go.

你做出這些漸進式的改變，然後，你知道，很快在12月你就走了。

Hey, I'm way better off than I was at the end of February.

嘿，我比二月底的時候好多了。

So should you made a little changes, and they all added up, and if you don't by the end of the year, you're just in deeper, so every little bit matter e mean, just sit around dreaming.

所以應該你做了一點改變，他們都加起來，如果你不在年底，你只是在更深的，所以每一點物質e的意思，只是坐著做夢。

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