That's true to a certain extend.

這在一定程度上是正確的。

However, multiple studies have shown that emotional intelligence is far more important.

然而，多項研究表明，情商的重要性要遠遠大於智商。

People with higher emotional intelligence tend to have better relationships, stronger

情商較高的人往往擁有更好的人際關係，更強的?

friendships and in general, tend to be more successful in life.

友誼，在一般情況下，往往在生活中更成功。

And that's not by accident because, as humans, we are emotional creatures.

而這並不是偶然的，因為作為人類，我們是情感動物。

We befriend people we trust and enjoy being around.

我們與自己信任和喜歡的人交朋友。

We work with people who know how to deal with other people.

我們與懂得如何與他人打交道的人合作。

But emotional intelligence isn't something that you are born with.

但情商不是天生就有的。

Often it's a skill that you should learn.

往往是你應該學習的技能。

Let's find out if you are a mentally strong person.

讓我們來看看你是不是一個心理強大的人。

Here are the seven signs of mental strength.

以下是精神力量的七個標誌。


 mentally strong people are not reactive

精神強壯的人是不會被動的

I remember back in college, the students who use to get bad grades would always complain

我記得在大學的時候，以前成績不好的學生總是會抱怨

about everything, the textbook was difficult to understand, the teacher wasn't good enough,

關於一切，課本難懂，老師不夠好。

the paper was harder than they expected.

論文比他們想象的要難。

And that's what reactive people do.

而這就是反應靈敏的人所做的事情。

They always focus on the things they can't control.

他們總是把注意力放在他們無法控制的事情上。

On the other hand, a proactive person would say that the textbook is quite difficult to

另一方面，主動出擊的人會說，課本的難度挺大的

understand, and the lecturer isn't the best, but that's not something I can control.

明白，講師也不是最好的，但這不是我能控制的。

So instead of focusing on the thing that I can't change, why don't I focus on the things

所以，與其把注意力放在我無法改變的事情上，不如把注意力放在

that I can control?

我可以控制的？

I can control the amount of time and effort that I can put to get ready for this test.

我可以控制自己投入多少時間和精力來準備這次考試。

And that's the difference between a proactive person and a reactive.

這就是主動者和被動者的區別。

Reactive people are more concerned about their environment, if the weather is good, the food

反應型的人對環境比較關注，如果天氣好，食品

good, if it's not, then it's going to negatively impact their attitude and performance, but

好，如果不是，那就會對他們的態度和表現產生負面影響，但。

a mentally strong person understands that he has absolutely no control over the weather,

一個心理強大的人明白，他完全無法控制天氣。

so whether it shines or rains, they don't care, they only focus on what they can control.  

所以無論晴天還是雨天，他們都不在乎，他們只關注自己能控制的東西。

2.

2.

They Do not compare themselves to others

他們不與他人比較

People often value their worth by comparing themselves to others.

人們常常通過與他人比較來評價自己的價值。

If you haven't achieved as much as your peers, you probably worth a lot less.

如果你的成就沒有同齡人高，你的價值可能會低很多。

And in the world of social media and Instagram, it has only got worse.

而在社交媒體和Instagram的世界裡，情況只會變得更糟。

Every time you pull out your phone to check out what's going in your Instagram feed, you

每次你掏出手機查看你的Instagram feed中的內容時，你都會

come across your friends who are doing something great, who's lives seem a lot better than

遇到你的朋友誰是做一些偉大的事情，誰的生活似乎比很多更好的

yours.

你的。

That destroys your self-esteem because you were on the same level a while ago, and somehow,

這就破壞了你的自尊心，因為你前段時間還在同一水平線上，不知為何。

they have surpassed you.

他們已經超過了你。

But mentally strong people understand that life, in general, is not a competition, and

但心理強大的人都明白，一般來說，生活不是競爭，而

comparing your worst times to your friend's best times isn't wise.

把你最糟糕的時候和你朋友最好的時候相比較是不明智的。

That will only lead to depression and anxiety.

這隻會導致抑鬱和焦慮。

Then, how should you measure your progress?

那麼，你應該如何衡量自己的進步呢？

By comparing yourself to who you were yesterday?

通過和昨天的自己比較？

If you are moving forward, if you are changing your life for the better, then you are on

如果你正在向前走，如果你正在改變你的生活，讓你的生活變得更好，那麼你就會在

the right track!

正軌

We are all different in many ways, and your journey on this planet is going to be unique

我們在很多方面都是不同的，你在這個星球上的旅程將是獨一無二的。

to you.

給你。

The moment you compare yourself to others, you put yourself down, and mentally strong

你一和別人比較，就把自己放低了，心理上也就強大了

people understand that.


人們明白，
。

3.

3.

Self-Reliance 


自力更生 
。

Mentally healthy people know that the only person they can rely entirely on is themselves.

心理健康的人知道，唯一可以完全依靠的人就是自己。

Of course, friends and family are essential, and their help is crucial, but the truth is

當然，親朋好友是必不可少的，他們的幫助也是至關重要的，但事實是

everyone is concerned about him or herself first.

每個人都是先關心自己的。

And there is nothing wrong with that.

而這並沒有錯。

That's human nature.

這就是人類的本性。

How many times you were counting on a friend or a family member, but they let you down.

有多少次你指望著朋友或家人，但他們讓你失望了。

Set your expectations low.

把你的期望值放低。

Don't expect too much from people because you will end up disappointed.

不要對別人期望過高，因為你最終會失望。

In fact, don't expect anything from anyone, and no one will ever disappoint you, and when

其實，不要對任何人抱有任何期望，也沒有人會讓你失望，而當

someone helps you out, you will be pleasantly surprised.

有人幫你，你會很驚喜的。


 4.

4.

life is unfair

人生不如意事十之八九

Everyone, at some point in their lives, experiences injustice.

每個人都會在其生命中的某個階段經歷不公正。

That's when we think that life is unfair, but the truth is life has never been fair.

這時我們就會覺得生活不公平，但事實上生活從來都是公平的。

You don't choose where you are born, and yet being born in a first-world country gives

你不能選擇你的出生地，然而出生在第一世界國家，就會給你帶來

you significantly higher chances to be successful compare if you are born in a third world country

與出生在第三世界國家的人相比，你成功的機會要大得多。

where you have to spend at least 12 hours a day just to put food on the table.

你每天至少要花12個小時才能把食物放在桌上。

You don't choose your parents, genes, or talents.

你不能選擇你的父母、基因或天賦。

You might be the most careful driver in the world, but someone else might be driving while

你可能是世界上最小心的司機，但別人可能會一邊開車一邊說

he is drunk and might cross the red light and hit you where you end up losing your legs,

他是喝醉了，可能會越過紅燈，打你，你最終失去你的腿。

for example. 

例如：

It wasn't your fault, but yet you ended up losing your legs.

這不是你的錯，但你卻最終失去了雙腿。

If you expect life to be fair to you, you won't go far.  


如果你期望生活對你公平，你就不會走遠。

5.

5.

You can't please everyone

你不可能讓每個人都滿意

A wise man once said: "if you want to be please everyone, go and sell ice-cream!" if you want

有位智者曾經說過："如果你想討好所有人，就去賣雪糕吧！"如果你想取悅所有人，就去賣雪糕！"如果你想...

to be a leader, if you want to achieve something great, you will have to upset some people,

要成為一個領導者，如果你想實現一些偉大的事情，你將不得不讓一些人不高興。

you will have competitors, you will have enemies, or at least there will be some people who

你會有競爭者，你會有敵人，或者至少會有一些人

won't like you.

不會喜歡你的。

Take an example of any successful person, bill gates, for example.

以任何一個成功人士為例，比如比爾-蓋茨。

He is not an angel, of course, but he has given billions of dollars to different charity

他當然不是天使，但他給不同的慈善機構捐了幾十億美金。

organizations, spent billions of dollars to cure malaria in Africa, tried his best to

組織，花了幾十億美元在非洲治療瘧疾，竭盡全力地

prepare the world for such a pandemic, invested billions into companies to help them develop

為這種大流行病做好準備，向各公司投資數十億美元，幫助他們研發

a vaccine faster and yet there are millions of people who hate him, criticize him and

更快的疫苗，卻有數以百萬計的人憎恨他，責備他，並。

spread different conspiracies about him.

傳播關於他的不同陰謀。

He is just one example.

他只是一個例子。

That's the case with every other successful person.

其他成功人士都是如此。

Even if you achieve slightly more than your friends, they could get jealous and try to

即使你取得的成績比你的朋友稍多，他們也可能會嫉妒，並試圖讓你的朋友們知道你的成就。

take you down or criticise you.

扳倒你或責備你。

And that's just one side of it.

而這只是其中的一面。

In life, you will have to take tough decisions.

在生活中，你將不得不做出艱難的決定。

You will have to say No to people so that you will have the time to work on your projects.

你要對別人說 "不"，這樣你才會有時間去做你的項目。

6.

6.

Acknowledging your weaknesses 


承認自己的弱點 
。

Being mentally strong doesn't just mean being able to stand your ground.

精神上的強大，並不只是指能夠站在自己的立場上。

It also means being emotionally strong enough to confront your deepest beliefs.

這也意味著在情感上足夠強大，可以面對自己最深的信念。

As a human being, you are subject to mistakes and weaknesses.

作為一個人，你會有錯誤和弱點。

You cannot avoid that. 

你無法避免。

If you are not ready to change your opinion when you find out you are wrong, then you

如果你在發現自己錯了的時候，還不準備改變自己的觀點，那麼你就

are mentally weak because only the strongest people have the ability to discipline their

因為只有最強壯的人才有能力約束自己的行為。

emotions and don't let anger or pride stand in their way. 

情緒，不要讓憤怒或驕傲擋住自己的腳步。

If you are bad at something, instead of denying it, pick up a book and learn.

如果你不擅長什麼，與其否定它，不如拿起書來學習。

Don't expect to be born perfect.

不要指望天生就完美。

It's absolutely normal to have flaws.

有缺點是絕對正常的。

The challenge is to recognize that and put the effort to change it.

挑戰在於認識到這一點，並努力去改變它。

7.

7.

They take the extra mile

他們多走了一英里

A lot of times, the difference between success and failure is that extra step which a lot

很多時候，成功與失敗的區別就在於多走了一步，而這一步是很多的

of people don't take because they give up too early.

的人不採取，因為他們太早放棄。

Have you watched Elon Musk's interview when both of his companies were at the brink of

你看了埃隆-馬斯克的採訪嗎，當他的兩家公司都處於瀕臨破產的邊緣時，他的採訪。

bankruptcy?

破產？

Tesla was running out of cash, and SpaceX's third lunch failed, and they didn't have enough

特斯拉的現金快用完了，SpaceX的第三頓午餐也失敗了，他們沒有足夠的資金

money to try again.

錢再試試。

Investors were suspicious about the future of the company, and musk was almost broke.

投資者對公司的未來充滿懷疑，馬斯克幾乎破產。

When he was asked why isn't he giving up, he replied: I would have to be dead to give

當有人問他為什麼不放棄時，他回答說。我必須死了才會放棄

up.

了。

That is an example of a mentally strong person.

這就是一個精神強者的例子。

He used his last dollars and miraculously saved his companies.

他用自己最後的錢，奇蹟般地挽救了自己的公司。

When you are at the gym doing pull-ups, and you feel like you can't do more, that's when

當你在健身房做引體向上的時候，你覺得你不能再做了，這時

you have to push yourself to do another one.

你要逼自己再做一次。

That extra pull up is one that's going to make a difference.

這多出來的引體向上，是會讓人眼前一亮的。

If you tried ten times and used ten different ways, but you still failed, get up and try

如果你試了十次，用了十種不同的方法，但你還是失敗了，那就站起來試試吧

one more time.

再來一次

"When you get knocked down, don't stay down; get back up again.

"當你被打倒的時候，不要停留在下面，要重新站起來。

Nothing good is going to happen as long as you're down on yourself."

只要你對自己失望，就不會有什麼好事發生。"

-Joel Osteen. 

-Joel Osteen.


 These are the signs of a mentally strong individual.

這些都是一個心理強大的人的標誌。

You might have some of them and luck others.

你可能會有一些人，而運氣其他。

But it's not a big deal because as Long as you are willing to put in the effort, you

但這並不是什麼大不了的事，因為只要你願意付出努力，你

have the ability to learn them all.

有能力全部學會。

Believing in yourself to take the extra mile or focusing on things you can control instead

相信自己能走更多的路，或者專注於自己能控制的事情，而不是這樣

of the things you have no control over is a choice.

你無法控制的事情中，是一種選擇。

And this choice comes as a result of your mentality, so start with your mind.

而這個選擇是你心態的結果，所以要從心態開始。

Be strong enough to recognize your weakness, acknowledge your mistakes, and write down

要堅強地認識到自己的弱點，承認自己的錯誤，並寫下來。

a plan on how you are going to raise your emotional intelligence and become mentally

一個關於如何提高你的情商，並在精神上成為一個計劃。

unbreakable.

牢不可破。

And now it's your turn to let me know which one of these signs is the most important one?

現在輪到你了，讓我知道這些星座中哪一個是最重要的？

And which one is your favorite one.

那你最喜歡哪一個呢。

I read all of your comments! 

我讀了你所有的評論！

And now it's time to give this video a thumbs up, hit that subscribe button and the bell

現在是時候給這個視頻豎起大拇指了，按下訂閱按鈕，然後鈴聲響起。

besides.

此外，

Thanks for watching and until next time. 

謝謝你的觀看，直到下一次。