Especially when you are meeting each other for the first time.

特別是當你們第一次見面的時候。

Of course, there are a lot of things you can talk about.

當然，有很多事情你可以談。

But nothing interesting crosses your mind at the moment and the awkward silence begins.

但此刻你的腦海中沒有任何有趣的東西劃過，尷尬的沉默開始了。

You look at her with a weird strange face and you literally don't know what to say.

你看著她一臉怪異的表情，你真的不知道該說什麼。

We all have been there because most of us don't have good conversation skills.

我們都有過這樣的經歷，因為我們大多數人都沒有很好的談話技巧。

They don't teach social skills in school or even in college, so you kinda have to figure

他們在學校甚至在大學裡都不教社交技巧，所以你必須要想辦法

everything on your own.

一切都要靠自己。

But, In reality, it's extremely simple to keep any conversation flowing. and it doesn't

但是，在現實中，要保持任何對話的流暢性是極其簡單的。

really matter with whom you are having it.

真正重要的是你和誰在一起。

If you are going to use the following tips, you will never find yourself in that weird

如果你要使用下面的技巧，你永遠不會發現自己在那個奇怪的。

awkward situation again.

又是尷尬的局面。

you will always find something to talk about.

你總能找到一些話題。

You will always have the other person engaged in the conversation with you.

你會一直讓對方參與到與你的對話中。

But you have to put in some effort and might need to practice a little bit before it becomes

但你必須付出一些努力，可能需要練習一下，才會成為。

natural for you.

自然而然的為你。

What do most people do when they want to start a conversion, they say something along the

當大多數人想開始轉換時，他們會說些什麼呢？

lines: So, what do you do? and the other person would be like: mmm, nothing,

行。那麼，你是做什麼的？ 而對方會說：嗯，沒什麼。

I am just an accountant.

我只是一個會計。

And then the entire conversation turns into that awkward moment.

然後整個對話就變成了那個尷尬的時刻。

Whatever question you ask, it ends up with nothing but a short answer.

無論你問什麼問題，最後都只有一個簡短的答案。

In fact, the person sitting on the other side of the table doesn't seem to be very engaging

事實上，坐在桌子另一邊的人似乎並不怎麼吸引人。

with your questions, and that's absolutely normal.

與你的問題，這是絕對正常的。

Because direct questions might seem a little suspicious.

因為直接的問題可能顯得有些可疑。

So, whenever you find yourself in that situation.

所以，每當你發現自己處於這種情況時。

Instead of asking questions, just share something about yourself and then turn that into a question.

與其說是提問，不如說是分享一些關於自己的事情，然後把它變成一個問題。

An experience you had before, a place you visited, a movie you have watched, a person

你以前的經歷，你去過的地方，你看過的電影，一個人

you have met.

你見過的。

Simply talk about that experience in general.

簡單的說說這段經歷一般。

That will make the other person feel obligated to share something back, especially if they

這會讓對方覺得有義務分享一些東西回來，尤其是當他們

had a similar experience.

有類似的經歷。

You know that moment when your friend tells you what a great movie he has watched last

你知道那一刻，當你的朋友告訴你，什麼是偉大的電影，他已經看了最後一個。

night.

晚上，

And then you start talking about your favorite movies and the conversation keeps flowing.

然後你就開始談論你最喜歡的電影，然後話題就會一直流傳下去。

We all live pretty much the exact same life.

我們都過著差不多一模一樣的生活。

We all go to school, then to college, we all have families, we all have jobs.

我們都要上學，然後上大學，我們都有家庭，我們都有工作。

So, no matter what you share about yourself, the person on the other side of the table

所以，無論你怎麼分享自己的事情，對面的人

will relate to it in one way or another.

會以這樣或那樣的方式與之相關。

For instance: I wasn't a big fan of engineering when I was in college.

比如說我上大學的時候並不喜歡工程。

But my parents pushed me to choose this field and now it has been 3 years that I am working

但我的父母逼著我選擇了這個領域，現在我已經工作3年了。

as an engineer, and I am liking it.

作為一名工程師，我很喜歡它。

what about you?

你呢？

what do you do?

你是做什麼的？

You see how different it sounds when you ask the question in this way.

你看這樣問問題，聽起來多不一樣。

It's much more natural.

這樣更自然。

But the most important thing in a conversation is how do you frame it.

但談話中最重要的是如何構思。

If you push too hard trying to make the conversation interesting and engaging.

如果你用力過猛，試圖讓對話變得有趣和吸引人。

You will give an impression that you are desperate and trying to seek something from the person

你會給人一種絕望的印象，並試圖從他那裡尋求一些東西。

that you are talking to.

你在和誰說話？

And that could be very discouraging.

而這可能會讓人非常沮喪。

Or sometimes, we might keep talking to the point where we might not give the chance to

或者有時候，我們可能會一直說話，以至於我們可能不會給機會去

the other person to talk.

對方說話。

Remember, your job isn't just to keep talking, you want to find what interests them and then

記住，你的工作不僅僅是不停地說話，你要找到他們感興趣的東西，然後。

flip the table and enjoy listening.

翻開桌子，享受聆聽。

People love talking about themselves, but you have to give them that vibe in the beginning.

人們喜歡談論自己，但你必須在一開始就給他們這種氛圍。

The challenge is to start the conversation.

挑戰在於如何開始對話。

Once it starts, it just naturally keeps flowing.

一旦開始，就會自然而然地流露出來。

But even this might be too difficult for some people because social skills aren't necessarily

但即使是這樣，對一些人來說也可能太難了，因為社交能力不一定是

easy to master.

容易掌握。

And this short video definitely isn't enough, thats why I would suggest you to read the

而這段簡短的視頻肯定是不夠的，這就是為什麼我建議你閱讀

book: how to talk to anyone; 92 little tricks by Leil Lowndes which covers pretty much everything.

書：如何與任何人交談；92個小技巧，由Leil Lowndes撰寫，幾乎涵蓋了所有的內容。

Starting from how to master small talk to tips that will make you sound like a celebrity.But

從如何掌握閒聊開始，到如何讓你聽起來像個名人的小竅門。

if you are not a big fan of reading books, or you simple don't have the time, then you

如果你不喜歡看書，或者你根本沒有時間看書，那麼你就可以在這裡看書。

can get the audiobook absolutely for free using the link in the description and you

可以得到有聲讀物絕對免費使用的鏈接在描述和你

will be helping the channel at the same time.Thanks for watching and I will see you in the next

同時也會對頻道有所幫助，謝謝大家的觀看，我們下期再見。

one.

一。