Name: 有毒的人對你有好處（與Vera Bambi）。 (Toxic people are good for you (w/Vera Bambi))
Uploaded: 2020-11-13T20:10:24.000Z
Duration: 3 min 44 s

我們的生活中都有過有毒的人。

我可以給你任何你想要的東西。

I'm gonna take four hours of your undivided attention, sympathy and emotional labor.

我要佔用你四個小時的注意力，同情和情感勞動。

And the doctor says that there's a really high chance I have to put him down because the masses spreading beyond his skull it's fine.

而醫生說，有一個非常高的機會，我必須把他放下，因為民眾蔓延超過他的頭骨它的罰款。

What cancer is such a first world problem.

什麼癌症就是這樣一個第一世界的問題。

I'm really sorry to hear about your break up.

我真的很抱歉聽到你們分手的消息。

It's been really hard, but I do wish him well.

這真的很不容易，但我真的希望他好。

I guess it's no surprise considering how he was acting at the party last Friday.

考慮到他上週五在派對上的表現，我想這並不奇怪。

哦，我的上帝，他是不是在欺騙我？

But if we reframe it, toxic people actually give us an opportunity to better understand ourselves, improve our relationships and find that balance between holding space for another person while still honoring your own needs.

但如果我們重新定義它，有毒的人實際上給了我們一個機會，讓我們更好地瞭解自己，改善我們的關係，並在為另一個人保留空間，同時仍然尊重你自己的需求之間找到平衡。

As we move through life, we're inevitably going to encounter various forms of toxic people, and we have to learn to accept others for who they are and wherever they're at.

我們在生活中，難免會遇到各種形式的毒舌人，我們要學會接受別人的身份，無論他們在哪裡。

Their behavior is not personal, because a person's behavior is a reflection of their inner world, their past trauma and their current struggles.

他們的行為不是個人行為，因為一個人的行為是他們內心世界的反映，是他們過去的創傷和現在的掙扎。

And when you recognize that toxic behavior exists because it has helped that person survive in the past, somehow you stop feeling victimized by it.

而當你認識到有毒行為的存在是因為它在過去幫助了那個人的生存，某種程度上，你就不會再覺得自己是受害者了。

I mean, does that mean you have to tolerate it?

我的意思是，這是否意味著你必須容忍它？

But toxicity in your life forces you to pay attention to how people make you feel and act accordingly.

但生活中的毒性迫使你注意人們讓你的感覺，並採取相應的行動。

Maybe you have to distance yourself or cut that person off completely.

也許你要和他保持距離，或者徹底和他斷絕關係。

Maybe it just means having a hard but compassionate conversation.

也許這只是意味著要進行一場艱苦但富有同情心的對話。

Either way, toxic people help you learn how to set your boundaries and speak up for your own needs, because ultimately we are responsible for the energy that we allow into our lives.

無論哪種方式，有毒的人都會幫助你學會如何設定你的界限，併為自己的需求說話，因為最終我們要對我們允許進入我們生活的能量負責。

It happens, and before you know it, you'll realize that your behavior is a reflection of some survival mechanism that served you in the past and when other people, except US set boundaries for themselves and make space for our emotions without internalizing our behavior.

它發生了，在你意識到這一點之前，你會意識到你的行為是過去為你服務的某種生存機制的反映，而當其他人，除了US為自己設定界限，為我們的情緒騰出空間，而不將我們的行為內化。

We can now learn how to adjust so we can grow into healthier, balanced people.

我們現在可以學習如何調整，從而成長為更加健康、平衡的人。

In all of our interpersonal relationships, toxic people are lessons to themselves and to us, so thank them and also thank you of your Bambi.

在我們所有的人際關係中，有毒的人對自己是教訓，對我們也是教訓，所以要感謝他們，也要感謝你的班比。

For being in today's video, be sure to check out her channel.

對於在今天的視頻中，一定要去她的頻道看看。

I'll link it below for you and, of course, thank you to square space for sponsoring today's episode from websites and online stores to marketing tools and analytics.

我在下面給大家做個鏈接，當然，也感謝方圓空間對今天節目的贊助，從網站、網店到營銷工具和分析。

Score space is the only one platform to build a beautiful online presence and run your business.

分分彩空間是唯一一個可以建立一個漂亮的網上商城並運行的平臺。

Squarespace allows for simultaneous posting so you can authenticate all of your social media profiles and auto post your website content to Twitter, Facebook, tumbler and more.

Squarespace允許同時發佈，這樣你就可以認證你所有的社交媒體資料，並將你的網站內容自動發佈到Twitter、Facebook、tumbler等。

And if that's not enough, you can even do email campaigns, which make it easy to unify your brand voice, whether that's on your homepage or in those in boxes.

如果這還不夠，你甚至可以做電子郵件活動，這讓你很容易統一你的品牌聲音，無論是在你的主頁上還是在那些盒子裡。

Of course, I am an analytics ho, so I love all those built in tools that give me insights into my traffic sources.

當然，我是一個分析愛好者，所以我喜歡所有這些內置的工具，讓我深入瞭解我的流量來源。

I just love seeing the data about what device types or browsers or operating systems are being used by visit.

我只是喜歡看到有關訪問使用的設備類型或瀏覽器或作業系統的數據。

You can go to squarespace dot com for a free trial, and whenever you're ready to launch, go to squarespace dot com slash anna to save 10% off your first purchase of a website or domain with the offer code.

你可以去squarespace點com進行免費試用，無論何時你準備啟動，都可以去squarespace點com斜槓anna，用優惠代碼為你首次購買網站或域名節省10%的費用。