That movie Jerry Maguire, you complete me, really messed a lot of people up.

那部電影《傑瑞-馬奎爾》，你完整的我，真的把很多人都搞壞了。

There wasn't a dry eye in the movie theater and all the women with Oh, he completely completes him when in fact no one complete.

電影院裡沒有一雙乾澀的眼睛，所有的女人與哦，他完全完成了他，其實沒有人完成。

You know that instead of looking for the right person, work to make yourself the right person for you, and the right person will then be drawn to you based upon the work that you've done for yourself.

你知道，與其尋找合適的人，不如努力讓自己成為適合自己的人，然後合適的人就會根據你為自己所做的工作來吸引你。

That's that's what I hear you say.

這就是我聽到你說的。

That's exactly everybody who's looking for somebody.

這正是每個人都在尋找的人。

And believe me, there are lots of people who are like looking for Mr Right or Mr Right or whatever that is to complete them, that no one will love you until you love yourself.

相信我，有很多人都喜歡找Mr Right或者Mr Right什麼的來完成自己，在你不愛自己之前，沒有人會愛你。

No one can complete you until you yourself are complete.

在你自己完整之前，沒有人能夠完整你。

You must get to the place where you don't need another, but you can enjoy another without attachment, where you can give love without the need of receiving it back.

你必須到達一個地方，你不需要另一個人，但你可以享受另一個人，沒有依戀，你可以給予愛，而不需要接受愛的回報。

Love without conditions, you are not you, plus the other person you existed before the other person and you will exist long after you will always be yourself and knowing that you can give more.

無條件的愛，你不是你，再加上對方你存在之前，你會存在很久之後，你永遠是你自己，知道自己可以付出更多。

When it comes to love and relationships, you can think of it like a mirror.

說到愛情和感情，你可以把它當成一面鏡子。

If you love yourself, you will find more.

如果你愛自己，你會發現更多。

People have love for you.

人們對你有愛。

If you respect yourself, you will find more People have respect for you.

如果你尊重自己，你會發現更多的人尊重你。

If you value yourself, you will find more people value you.

如果你重視自己，你會發現更多的人重視你。

If you are mostly happy, joyful and positive, you will find you attract mostly happy, joyful and positive people and relationships.

如果你大多是快樂、喜悅和積極的，你會發現你吸引的大多是快樂、喜悅和積極的人和關係。

So don't focus on finding someone to complete you.

所以，不要把注意力放在找人完成你的任務上。

Focus on completing yourself first, then the right people will show up if you do the work on you.

先專注於完成自己，然後你在你身上做文章，就會有合適的人出現。

If you become the person you want in your life, it will happen for you and you'll be thankful you didn't give up.

如果你成為你生命中想要的人，它就會為你而發生，你會感謝你沒有放棄。

Believe that love is the most powerful force on Earth.

相信愛是地球上最強大的力量。

Some say that finding a genuine connection today is harder than ever, but that's no reason to give up trying.

有人說，今天尋找真正的聯繫比以往任何時候都難，但這並不是放棄嘗試的理由。

That's no reason to give up, believing you deserve it.

這不是放棄的理由，相信你值得擁有。

Knowing you deserve it, really love will find you when you're ready for it.

知道你值得擁有，真的愛會在你準備好的時候找到你。

Really.

真的嗎？

Love will find you when you understand that you don't search for love and others, but you find it in yourself.

當你明白，你不去尋找愛和別人，而是在自己身上找到愛的時候，愛就會找到你。

First way.

第一條路。

All deserve to be loved in the first step on the journey to real love is toe love yourself first.

所有的人都值得被愛，在通往真愛的第一步是先愛自己。

Next, you will need to do the work rather than waiting for someone else to come along and fix you.

接下來，你需要做的工作，而不是等著別人來修理你。

And finally, now is the time to let go of the habits that have kept you from getting hurt, but are also holding you back from a true partnership built on love and respect.

最後，現在是時候放下那些讓你無法受到傷害，但也阻礙你建立在愛和尊重基礎上的真正夥伴關係的習慣了。

So if you're asking, will I ever find love?

所以，如果你要問，我還能找到愛情嗎？

You must stop doing these five things.

你必須停止做這五件事。

First number one.

第一條。

You have to stop looking for others to love you and instead love yourself first in the search for riel love, the very first step must be loving one self first.

你不要再尋找別人來愛你，而要先愛自己，在尋找里爾愛的過程中，第一步必須先愛自己。

If you don't love the special being that you are, how can you expect anyone else to?

如果你不愛自己這個特殊的存在，又怎麼能指望別人愛你呢？

If you are looking for a true partner to share your life with someone who will walk with you and encourage you to live your best life, you have to treat yourself that way first.

如果你正在尋找一個真正的伴侶，與你分享你的生活，並鼓勵你過上最好的生活，你必須先這樣對待自己。

When you find yourself frustrated in your search for a loving and respectful partner.

當你發現自己在尋找一個充滿愛和尊重的伴侶時感到沮喪。

Take a step back to examine how you honestly feel and treat yourself.

退一步審視自己的真實感受和對待自己的方式。

Take a close look at yourself, talk and begin to shut down the negativity that we can often inflict on ourselves.

仔細審視自己，交談，開始關閉我們經常會給自己帶來的負面情緒。

When you are at peace with who you are and you are constantly waiting for someone toe fix you, you will likely attract toxic people who are looking for someone to take advantage of.

當你對自己的身份心平氣和，而你又不斷地等待別人來修復你的時候，你很可能會吸引那些正在找人利用的有毒的人。

Don't fall into this trap.

不要落入這個陷阱。

Take the time to do the difficult self work that makes you an attractive partner and will help you to attract loving and respectful people into your life.

花時間做困難的自我工作，使你成為一個有吸引力的伴侶，並將幫助你吸引愛和尊重的人進入你的生活。

When you want someone else to do the heavy lifting for you, you will likely be disappointed with the caliber of people who into your life.

當你希望別人為你做重任時，你很可能會對進入你生活的人的口徑感到失望。

When you know that you are a whole and complete person who was looking for a partner rather than a savior, you are opening yourself up to attracting like minded people who are also seeking someone toe walk the journey of life with number two stop wearing mask and trying to appear perfect.

當你知道你是一個整體和完整的人，誰在尋找一個合作伙伴，而不是救世主，你打開自己，以吸引志同道合的人誰也在尋找一個人走生命的旅程與第二號停止戴面具和試圖出現完美。

Be yourself.

做你自己

The most common mistake people make when looking for a real connection is inauthenticity true love will never find you If you aren't ready to reveal your true self If you want someone toe love you despite your faults you must be ready to do the same for them False advertising has never been higher Tender Facebook Snapchat instagram are all at times authenticity killers people Seymour obsessed with appearing perfect than ever before.

當人們在尋找真正的連接時，最常見的錯誤是不真實性真正的愛情永遠不會找到你如果你沒有準備好揭示你的真實自我如果你想讓一個人趾高氣揚地愛你，儘管你的缺點，你必須準備好為他們做同樣的事情虛假廣告從來沒有更高的溫柔Facebook Snapchat instagram都是有時真實性的殺手人們西摩迷戀出現完美比以往任何時候。

If you want love be yourself You're raw, true, authentic self flaws and all learn to love We do our and stop hiding it from the world One day someone will fall for who you are not how you wish to be perceived If you're always wearing a mask covering up your riel self How could anyone ever love you for who you are really love?

如果你想愛你自己，你是原始的，真實的，真實的自我缺陷和所有學習愛我們做我們的，停止隱藏它的世界有一天，有人會愛上你是誰，而不是你如何希望被認為，如果你總是戴著面具掩蓋你的瑞爾自我怎麼可能有人愛你，你是誰真正的愛？

Can Onley come to those who are really themselves?

安利能來到那些真正的自己身邊嗎？

Remember, the right person is always waiting for you to reveal your riel self All the wrong people will always be available for the mask to you Most people don't learn this until much later in life.

記住，對的人永遠在等著你露出你的里爾自我 所有錯的人永遠可以給你戴上面具 大多數人要到很久以後才會知道這一點。

So start expressing your true character today because you never know who's watching number three Stop expecting someone to be something you are not giving back.

所以從今天開始表達你的真實性格，因為你永遠不知道誰在看第三條 停止期待別人成為你沒有回報的東西。

This is the concept of the mirror.

這就是鏡子的概念。

Most people aren't actively looking for someone who is negative, pessimistic, lazy or uninspiring.

大多數人都不會主動尋找一個消極、悲觀、懶惰或不思進取的人。

You set the standard for the type of person you want in your life.

你為你生活中想要的人的類型設定了標準。

If you want a particular type of person, you must mirror that quality.

如果你想要一個特定類型的人，你必須反映這種品質。

If you want someone fit and healthy, you must be a mirror of that person.

如果你想讓一個人健健康康的，你必須成為他的一面鏡子。

You want someone who always sees the positive in every situation.

你想要一個在任何情況下都能看到積極因素的人。

Mirror that mindset with your own outlook.

用自己的觀點來反映這種心態。

If you want someone with drive and ambition, ask yourself if you possess those characteristics like attracts, like mirror the person you want and that connection will happen much more naturally, Finding genuine happiness within yourself is one of the most important steps to making a genuine connection with someone else.

如果你想找一個有動力和野心的人，問問自己是否具備這些特點，比如吸引人，比如映襯你想要的人，這種聯繫會更自然地發生，找到自己內心真正的幸福是與別人建立真正聯繫的最重要的步驟之一。

Number four.

四號

Stop hiding.

別再躲了

Nothing will come to you in this life if you are hiding from it.

如果你一味地躲避，這輩子就不會有什麼事找上你。

Nothing will come if you are running scared.

如果你怕跑，什麼都不會來。

If you want something, you're going to have to be brave and put yourself out there.

如果你想得到什麼，你就得勇敢地把自己擺出來。

If you don't put yourself out there, no one will ever be able to find you sure this won't work for every time, but it will never work if you never put yourself out there, become someone capable of loving and being loved self worth, the stories you tell yourself become your reality.

如果你不把自己放出去，就沒有人能夠找到你肯定這不是每次都能用的，但是如果你從來沒有把自己放出去，成為一個能夠愛和被愛的人自我價值，你告訴自己的故事就會成為你的現實。

So do that work on yourself the rial deep self work that creates a better you because the better you feel about you, the better you're going to show up in the world.

所以，做的工作對自己的rial深自我的工作，創造一個更好的你，因為你覺得你更好，你會更好地顯示在世界。

Better you show up, the better your relationships.

你越是出現，你的關係就越好。

World number five Stop holding onto comfortable habits that are holding you back.

世界之五 不要再抱著舒適的習慣不放了，這些習慣阻礙了你的發展。

There are a lot of habits that you know don't serve you well, but you've become comfortable with the perceived protection that they offer habits that you know aren't helpful in your quest to find true love.

有很多習慣，你知道對你沒有好處，但你已經對它們提供的感知保護感到舒服，你知道這些習慣對你尋求真愛沒有幫助。

But you may be reluctant to give them up.

但你可能不願意放棄它們。

If you want to find love, you have to make sacrifices.

如果你想找到愛情，你就必須做出犧牲。

If this is your situation, remember that life's greatest growth comes when you leave your comfort zone.

如果你的情況是這樣，請記住，當你離開舒適區時，人生最大的成長就來了。

Don't let feeling comfortable and safe hold you back from a full and vibrant life that could lead to the love of your life.

不要讓舒適感和安全感阻礙你過上充實而有活力的生活，這可能會導致你一生的愛情。

Opening yourself up and allowing emotional vulnerability is an essential part of finding true love.

敞開自己的心扉，允許情感的脆弱，是尋找真愛的重要環節。

Let go of the defense mechanisms and withdraw strategies that have kept you from getting hurt and also holds you back from finding love.

放棄防禦機制，撤消那些讓你無法得到傷害，也讓你無法找到愛情的策略。

Do you recognize yourself in some of these five things to stop doing if you want to find love?

如果你想找到愛情，在這五件事中，你是否認識到自己的一些做法，如果你想找到愛情，就不要再做了？

If you do, it's time to get down to the hard work that is necessary to get you to a place where you can attract true love.

如果你這樣做了，那就應該踏踏實實地去做一些必要的工作，讓你到一個可以吸引真愛的地方。

Yes, it may be scary to let go of these behaviors and mindsets that have protected you from emotional hurt.

是的，放下這些保護你免受情感傷害的行為和心態可能會很可怕。

But if you truly want to find love, you really have no choice.

但如果你真的想找到愛情，你真的別無選擇。

Let your light shine brightly bravely be yourself in like moths to a flame.

讓你的光亮像飛蛾撲火一樣，勇敢地做自己在。

You will attract the right people.

你會吸引到合適的人。

Make sure you mirror the characteristics you find important and you will find love and never forget.

確保你映照出你認為重要的特徵，你會找到愛，永遠不會忘記。

No one will love you until you love yourself.

在你愛自己之前，沒有人會愛你。