Name: 我應該和我以前的高中老師約會嗎？- 問斯蒂芬 (Should I Date My Old High School Teacher? • Ask Stephen)
Uploaded: 2020-11-05T20:22:01.000Z
Duration: 7 min 41 s

如果你在BuzzFeed上花了點時間。

Basically, the way it works is people DM me

基本上，它的工作方式是大家給我發DM。

人們給我發來了他們最狂野，最瘋狂的。

as I possibly can right here on BuzzFeed.

因為我可能會在這裡BuzzFeed的權利。

我一直是我的朋友向我求助的人。

每當他們需要諮詢時，都會向。

I'm a hot mess in virtually every life department,

我幾乎在每一個生活部門都是一團熱。

但我喜歡認為我是一個邏輯的。

在我們開始之前，快速的免責聲明。

So I recently got a DM from someone who wants to know

所以我最近收到了一個DM，有人想知道

"I'm currently 23 years old and I'm talking

"Yes," in all capitals, "I know what it must

"是的，"所有的大寫字母，"我知道它必須

"and moved away to pursue a career in law.

"從那以後，我就再也沒有見過他了。

Okay, so let's just do some quick mental math here.

好吧，讓我們在這裡做一些快速的心理計算。

She's 23 years old now, she had him 10 years ago,

她現在23歲了，她10年前就有了他。

which I guess means she was 13 when she had him.

我想這意味著她13歲時就有了他。

Now she's 23 and he's 11 years older than her,

"我們聯繫得這麼好，是因為我們的關係

"He would text me every day, but nothing too inappropriate.

"他每天都會給我發簡訊，但沒有什麼太不合適的。

"to see me in real life and have a conversation in person.

"看到我在現實生活中，並有一個談話的人。

So your question was, "Is this a bad idea?"

所以你的問題是，"這是個壞主意嗎？"

Could we flip that and ask a different question?

我們能不能翻轉一下，問一個不同的問題？

If your question is, "Is this a good idea?"

如果你的問題是，"這是個好主意嗎？"

That one I can answer and I'm pretty sure the answer is no.

這個我可以回答，我很確定答案是否定的。

那個人在你13歲的時候就教你了。

你們現在都是自願的成年人了。

perfectly capable of doing whatever you wanna do,

完全可以做任何你想做的事情。

but the fact remains you were 13 years old when you met him.

但事實是，你遇到他的時候，你才13歲。

I can't help. but think there's something

a little bit off about a man who would take on

the very important responsibility of educating young people

in their most formative, vulnerable, impressionable years,

在他們最成長、最脆弱、最易受影響的歲月裡。

but I am saying it's a little weird, right?

and your teenaged life was long forgotten,

也許這不會是一個很大的問題。

And that's just the teacher aspect of things.

I would also have concerns about the age difference,

even if that man had never been responsible

I call Stephen speaks in sweeping generalizations

that are probably gonna get him in trouble with commenters.

這可能會讓他在評論員的麻煩。

who have age differences with their partners

However, when a 34-year-old wants to date a 23-year-old,

然而，當一個34歲的人想和一個23歲的人約會。

I think it's worth at least asking a few questions.

An 11-year age difference isn't unheard of.

11歲的年齡差並不是聞所未聞。

And the older you get the less of a gap it becomes.

一個40歲的人和一個51歲的人約會。

這真的沒有什麼大不了的，在所有。

between a 23-year-old and a 34-year-old is vast.

23歲和34歲之間的差距是巨大的。

to date someone in their very early twenties,

it means there's something else going on.

Maybe they're kind of immature and they don't wanna grow up.

也許他們是那種不成熟的，他們不想長大。

that a partner their own age would know to look for,

一個同齡人都知道要找的伴侶。

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我應該和我以前的高中老師約會嗎？- 問斯蒂芬 (Should I Date My Old High School Teacher? • Ask Stephen)

perspective

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situation

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