If you like a guy, they probably don't get compliments all that often.

如果你喜歡一個人，他們可能不會經常得到讚美。

So when you do say something nice, they're gonna eat it up, and it's going to stick with them a lot longer.

所以，當你真的說了一些好話，他們會把它吃了，而且會讓他們記得更久。

But if you like a girl, they probably get a little bit more compliments.

但如果你喜歡一個女孩，他們可能會得到更多的讚美。

So you have to make it stand out.

所以你要讓它脫穎而出。

Don't just say hey, like your shoes Say, Hey, I really like how you wear your hair down like that.

不要只是說嘿，喜歡你的鞋子 說，嘿，我真的很喜歡你把頭髮梳成這樣。

It looks really good.

它看起來真的很不錯。

Or like, Hey, I really like the color of that shirt.

或者說，嘿，我真的很喜歡那件襯衫的顏色。

It makes your eyes pop psychology tricks on how to get your crush to like you back then.

當年如何讓暗戀的人喜歡上你，這讓你眼睛一亮的心理學技巧。

I know work because I use them.

我知道工作，因為我使用它們。

If you're having a face to face conversation with your crush, make eye contact and smile.

如果你和你的暗戀對象面對面交談，要有眼神交流和微笑。

I'm telling you, guys, I told you last time smiling will change your life.

我告訴你們，夥計們，我上次告訴你們，微笑會改變你們的生活。

It's going to show them that you're interested and listening to them, which is going to get you some points.

這會讓他們知道你對他們感興趣，並且在聽他們說話，這是會讓你得到一些分數的。

I want to know how to tell if somebody has a crush on you.

我想知道如何判斷某人是否對你有好感。

There's usually a lot of subtle signs in somebody's body language.

通常在某人的身體語言中會有很多微妙的跡象。

And if you know what to look for their like dead giveaways, like if somebody really likes you, they're gonna unconsciously copy your mannerisms.

如果你知道要找什麼 他們喜歡死的贈品， 像如果有人真的喜歡你， 他們會不自覺地複製你的舉止。

Use that to your advantage.

利用這個優勢。

You might also catch this person looking at you.

你也可能會發現這個人在看你。

Ah, lot like a lot, a lot.

啊，很多像很多，很多。

And if somebody likes you, they're gonna be laughing at everything you say.

如果有人喜歡你，他們就會嘲笑你說的每一句話。

And I can promise you you're not that funny, but they think you are so like people also really like to be in close proximity with the people that they like.

而且我可以向你保證，你並不是那麼有趣，但他們認為你是如此喜歡的人也真的喜歡和自己喜歡的人近距離接觸。

So somebody has a crush on you.

所以，有人對你有好感。

They're going to try and be around you all the time.

他們會試圖一直在你身邊。

And if they have open body language and their feet are facing you in a conversation Oh, they like you, bro.

如果他們有開放的肢體語言和他們的腳是面對你的談話哦，他們喜歡你，兄弟。

And I mean growing like the most gender neutral way Don't flip out.

我的意思是以最中性的方式成長，不要翻臉。

And honestly, if you're asking yourself if somebody likes you, you probably already know it in your gut like you either have that vibe that somebody's drawn to you or you don't.

說實話，如果你在問自己，是否有人喜歡你，你可能已經在你的直覺中知道了，比如你要麼有那種氛圍，有人被你吸引，要麼你沒有。

This next one is super easy.

接下來這個超級簡單。

Just ask them questions.

就問他們問題。

Get your crush talking about themselves because everybody likes to talk about themselves.

讓你的暗戀對象談論自己，因為每個人都喜歡談論自己。

It's gonna make them think that you actually want to know about them, which you should.

這會讓他們覺得你真的想了解他們，你應該這樣做。

You like them.

你喜歡他們。

Plus, it's gonna make them feel more connected to you because they're opening up and sharing a part of themselves.

另外，這會讓他們覺得和你更有聯繫，因為他們在敞開心扉，分享自己的一部分。

Plus, if they ask questions back, this is a great, great sign that they're interested back, even if it's just a little bit.

另外，如果他們回問問題，這是一個很好很好的信號，說明他們對回問很感興趣，哪怕只是一點點。

The bandwagon effect is a little bit more manipulative, but if you're desperate, it might work.

帶動效應的操作性比較強，但如果你急於求成，可能會有效果。

So get a friend or two to mention in front of your crush.

所以要找一兩個朋友在你暗戀的人面前提。

How cool or attractive they think you are.

他們認為你有多酷多有魅力。

Studies have shown that people will be more attracted to you if they think other people think you're attractive.

研究表明，如果人們認為別人認為你很有吸引力，那麼他們會更加吸引你。

The best advice that I've ever gotten is to treat your crush like you would a new acquaintance.

我得到的最好的建議是，對待你的暗戀，就像對待一個新認識的人一樣。

You don't meet somebody new and then immediately expect daily text or hanging out once a week.

你不會遇到一個新的人，然後立即期待每天的文字或每週掛出一次。

Or you don't over think like everything you do and say around them.

或者說你不要想得太多，就像你在他們身邊做的每一件事，說的每一句話。

And this is exactly how you should treat your crush, because it's gonna help you relax a little bit.

而這正是你應該如何對待你的暗戀， 因為它會幫助你放鬆一點。

It's gonna show you you're not completely obsessed with this person.

這會讓你知道你並沒有完全迷戀上這個人。

Even if you are, and it's gonna make all these other tricks.

即使你是，它也會讓所有這些其他的技巧。

Ah, lot easier if you just don't overthinking this sounds obvious, but not everybody does it.

啊，如果你只是不要想太多，就容易多了，這聽起來很明顯，但不是每個人都這樣做。

Take the extra steps to be attractive.

多走幾步，讓自己變得更有魅力。

Workout.

鍛鍊。

Eat right.

吃得好。

Do your hair.

做你的頭髮。

Nobody's gonna fall in love with you when you're walking around Target in your PJs and flip flops If you act super excited every time you see somebody they're eventually gonna be really excited to see you back and not even know why you could also take this the next step further and figure out your crutches favorite type of candy and then give them that candy every time you see them.

沒有人會愛上你，當你穿著PJ和拖鞋在Target周圍走動時，如果你每次看到某人時都表現得超級興奮，他們最終會非常興奮地看到你回來，甚至不知道為什麼你也可以採取這個下一步進一步並找出你的柺杖最喜歡的糖果類型，然後每次看到他們時都給他們糖果。

If you do this enough, eventually, even after you stop giving them candy, they're still gonna have that subconscious reaction.

如果你這樣做足夠多，最終，即使你停止給他們糖果，他們仍然會有這種潛意識的反應。

To be very happy to see you.

要很高興見到你。

You need to show subtle signs that you're interested in this person.

你需要表現出微妙的跡象，表明你對這個人感興趣。

Be able to spark an interest back in you.

能夠激發你的興趣回。

So, like, if there's a dance or a party or something and they ask you Oh, hey, are you going say something along the lines of like, oh, only if you're going, it's going to show that you like being around them, and it's definitely gonna bubble up some questions within themselves.

所以，比如說，如果有一個舞會或者聚會什麼的，他們問你哦，嘿，你是不是會說一些類似於，哦，只有你去了，才會顯示出你喜歡和他們在一起，而且肯定會在自己的內心冒出一些問題。

This one might come off is obvious, but just, like be you don't try to be somebody that you think your crush might like because it's gonna come off is way more genuine if you just let your personality shine through rather than trying to act like somebody you're not.

這一個可能會脫落是顯而易見的，但只是，就像你不要試圖成為一個人，你認為你的暗戀可能會喜歡，因為它會脫落是更真實的方式，如果你只是讓你的個性閃耀通過，而不是試圖採取行動像一個人，你不是。

Besides, your personality is what's gonna make you likable, and those little quirks that you have are usually what somebody likes the most about you.

另外，你的個性才會讓你討人喜歡，你的那些小怪癖通常是別人最喜歡你的地方。