Well, hi, boys, but one of the things I've been actively working on is to stop trashing men.

嗯，嗨，孩子們，但我一直在積極努力的一件事就是不要再糟蹋男人了。

Because, yes, even though we can all agree the undeniably have some inherent privileges that women do, Not me.

因為，是的，即使我們都同意不可否認的有一些固有的特權，女人做，不是我。

Lumping them all together with phrases like men are garbage.

用男人都是垃圾這樣的詞組把他們混在一起。

They're literally garbage is not fair or helpful.

他們從字面上看就是垃圾，是不公平的，也是無濟於事的。

And I certainly do not like hearing men say things like all women care about this, how tall you are, how much money you have.

我當然也不喜歡聽男人說，所有女人都在乎這個，你有多高，你有多少錢之類的話。

So, in an effort to be the change you want to see in the world, I am consciously trying to be more sympathetic to the male experience and to stop using language that is harmful and dismissive and generalizing.

所以，為了成為你想看到的世界的改變，我有意識地努力讓自己更同情男性的經歷，不再使用有害的、不屑的、以偏概全的語言。

What provoked this?

是什麼原因引發的？

Well, I was at a party talking to a girl when she said, Yeah, I just don't think real men cry.

我在一個聚會上和一個女孩哈拉的時候 她說："是啊，我只是不認為真正的男人會哭。

What?

什麼？

Yeah, No, he, like, cried and I got super turned off, so I stopped seeing him.

是啊，不，他一樣，哭了，我得到了超級關閉， 所以我停止了看到他。

Seriously, uh, he's a human being.

說真的，呃，他是一個人。

Of course he's gonna cry.

當然，他要哭了。

No, I just want my boyfriend to be like a rock, You know, she 100% serious.

不，我只是想讓我的男朋友 像一塊石頭，你知道，她100％嚴重。

I was like, Oh, my God, you're the problem.

我當時想，哦，我的上帝，你是問題。

You're perpetuating toxic masculinity in these harmful stereotypes that men have to suppress their emotions.

你在延續有毒的男性氣質，在這些有害的刻板印象中，男人要壓抑自己的情緒。

How dare you breeze frame on my dumb, stupid face In the middle of my high horse lecture, I remembered every single instance where I unconsciously fed into toxic masculinity, like denying a friend's reality just because of his gender.

你竟敢在我那張蠢蠢欲動的臉上微風架 在高馬講課的過程中，我想起了每一個我不自覺地餵養毒舌男性的例子，比如因為朋友的性別就否定他的現實。

You know, it's really hard as a dude.

你知道，作為一個男人，這真的很難。

What's hard is a dude.

難的是一個紈絝子弟。

Please, Jimmy, please enlighten me.

求你了，吉米，請告訴我。

I can't wait to hear this.

我迫不及待地想聽這個。

Oh, my God.

哦，我的上帝。

What it's so hard is, dude.

這有什麼難的，夥計。

So when you have to say hi to someone, you've got to give him, like, a handshake, right?

所以當你要和別人打招呼的時候，你得給他，比如，握手，對嗎？

But what if they want to go for the clasp?

但是，如果他們想走釦子呢？

What if they wanna bumpers?

如果他們想要保險槓呢？

Well, if they want to five it.

好吧，如果他們想五。

Sometimes I got to catch the whoa.

有時候，我得抓住哇。

I can't keep up with these trends.

我跟不上這些潮流。

And you have a split second to decide.

而你有一瞬間的時間來決定。

And if you mess it up, it's awkward as hell, dude.

如果你搞砸了，這是尷尬的地獄，夥計。

Wow.

哇哦

Yeah, Okay.

是啊，好吧。

Actually, that does sound.

其實，這的確是一個聲音。

I mean, like, as a girl, I have, like, smile and wave handshake, hug.

我的意思是，喜歡，作為一個女孩，我有，喜歡，微笑和揮手握手，擁抱。

Those are my only options.

這是我唯一的選擇。

I'm glad I could enlighten you or even jokingly saying phrases that minimize pain.

我很高興能給你啟發，甚至開玩笑說一些能把痛苦降到最低的短語。

Like man up, Jimmy can't I'm dead.

就像男人一樣，吉米不能... ...我已經死了。

Grow some balls and get back into your body.

長點膽子，回到你的身體裡去。

Even I have at one point or another in my life bought into the fall societal ideas that really men are supposed to be powerful, strong, capable convicts anything un emotional providers, commitment of verse because they value independence more than companionship shouldn't enjoy girly activities like baking or knitting, or can't be victims of abuse as seriously as women can and on and on and on.

甚至我在我的生活中的一個點或另一個點買進了秋天的社會想法，真的男人應該是強大的，強壯的，有能力的罪犯任何不情感的提供者，承諾的詩句，因為他們重視獨立比同伴不應該享受女孩的活動，如烘焙或編織，或不能成為虐待的受害者，作為嚴重的婦女可以和上和上。

And toxic masculinity at its core says that really men don't struggle, and if they dio, they should struggle silently and without complaint, which is right, because real men are real humans.

而毒舌男權的核心是說，真正的男人是不奮鬥的，如果他們dio，就應該默默地奮鬥，毫無怨言，這是對的，因為真正的男人是真正的人。

And we all know that the human condition is pretty much just suffering all the time.

而我們都知道，人的狀況幾乎就是一直在受苦。

I think we can all agree that being a humanist, tiring and hard and very painful.

我想大家都同意，做一個人文主義者，很累很辛苦，也很痛苦。

So from this moment on, I wanna be more conscious of how I've been contributing to the Heteronormative gender divide and toxic masculinity and full stop I'm an anaconda and thank you so much to square space for sponsoring today's video.

所以，從這一刻起，我想更加意識到我是如何一直在為異性戀的性別鴻溝和有毒的男性氣質做貢獻的，並完全停止我是一條蟒蛇，非常感謝你對廣場空間贊助今天的視頻。

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Squarespace是一個建立一個美麗的在線存在和運行您的業務，完整的營銷工具和分析的平臺，讓您的網站或在線商店是最好的，它可以為所有誰愛偉大的音頻內容。

You can use audio blocks, which allows you to embed audio on your site.

您可以使用音頻塊，允許您在您的網站上嵌入音頻。

And then you can tag the audio for iTunes.

然後你可以給iTunes的音頻打上標籤。

When your audio block is placed into a blogged, I am alone.

當你的音訊塊被放入博狗娛樂網址是多少時，我是孤獨的。

But if you are not, you can have multiple contributors receive selective access to your sites.

但如果你不是，你可以讓多個貢獻者有選擇地訪問你的網站。

Website manager.

網站經理。

And don't worry, all the content that you put on the square space platform is yours, and they also offer one click data portability.

而且不用擔心，你放在方塊空間平臺上的所有內容都是你的，而且他們還提供一鍵數據移植。