Name: 如果你覺得他們在拖你後腿，請看這個（有毒的家人和朋友）。看這個（有毒的家人和朋友）。 (If You Think They Are Holding You Back: WATCH THIS (Toxic Family and Friends))
Uploaded: 2020-10-14T20:20:29.000Z
Duration: 6 min 47 s

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today I want to share with you and I opening story about a young man and his mentor.

今天我想和大家分享一下我和一個年輕人和他的導師的開場故事。

It is a story about not letting anything anyone says or does get to you, including family or friends.

這是一個關於不要讓任何人的任何言行影響到你的故事，包括家人或朋友。

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It's about not allowing negativity inside, not allowing opinions to dictate your well being.

就是不要讓內心的負面情緒，不要讓輿論來支配你的幸福。

It's about taking responsibility for your own feelings, no matter what anyone else thinks or says about you.

這就是為自己的感受負責，不管別人怎麼想，怎麼說你。

So the story tells us that there was this young man who was living with his family because he didn't have the means to move out.

所以故事告訴我們，有這樣一個年輕人，因為沒有辦法搬出去，就和家人住在一起。

The young man would visit with a mentor once a week, and every time he would complain about his family saying how negative they were, how they always pushed him to do things that he did not enjoy while never supporting him and doing the things he actually did enjoy doing, He said his family were dragging him down.

這個年輕人每週都會去拜訪導師一次，每次他都會抱怨他的家人，說他們是多麼的消極，他們總是逼著他去做一些他不喜歡的事情，而從不支持他，做一些他真正喜歡做的事情，他說他的家人在拖累他。

But are they really dragging you down, or are you allowing whatever is being said to you or about you to drag you down?

但是，他們是真的拖累了你，還是你允許任何對你說的或關於你的東西拖累你？

Are they really dragging you down or are you allowing whatever you think they are thinking of you to drag you down.

他們是真的拖累了你，還是讓你認為他們對你的任何想法拖累了你。

Not truly understanding and growing angry at the mentor, the young man responded, No, they are dragging me down there.

年輕人並不真正理解，對導師越來越生氣，他迴應道：不，他們是在拖我下水。

No one can drag you down without your consent.

沒有你的同意，誰也不能拖累你。

They might be saying a lot of things that might not be a great way to support you, but it is still you who decides how you feel about the situation.

他們可能說了很多話，可能不是一個很好的支持你的方式，但決定你感受的還是你自己。

You can be angered by the words or choose a different meaning.

你可以被這句話激怒，也可以選擇不同的意思。

You can be angered by their lack of parenting ability or choose to be compassionate, knowing they could Onley parent at the current level.

你可以因為他們缺乏育兒能力而憤怒，也可以選擇同情，知道他們可以安利目前的育兒水準。

They were capable of knowing if they know better, they do better.

他們能夠知道如果他們知道得更好，他們就會做得更好。

They might be thinking something's Or maybe they aren't.

他們可能在想些什麼，也可能沒有。

Maybe you are overthinking what they might be thinking, and in your over thinking you are creating negative energy that otherwise would not be there.

也許你想得太多了，他們可能在想什麼，而在你的過度思考中，你正在製造原本不會存在的負能量。

Maybe they only want what is best for you.

也許他們只想做對你最好的事。

It might be true that they're not doing a good job of showing it, but again, no one can drag you down without your consent, he continued.

也許他們確實沒有做好表現，但同樣，沒有你的同意，沒有人可以拖累你，他繼續說道。

So how can you improve yourself so that nothing anyone says can ever drag you down?

那麼，如何提高自己，讓任何人說的話都不能拖累你呢？

How can you improve yourself so that nothing anyone thinks or you believe they think can drag you down?

你如何提高自己，讓任何人的想法或你認為他們的想法都不能拖累你？

How can you improve so nothing disturbs your journey in life?

如何改進，才能讓你的人生旅途不受任何干擾？

So your reactions are calm, not judgmental.

所以你的反應是冷靜的，而不是判斷的。

So you don't overthink what others may or may not be thinking.

所以，你不要過多地去想別人可能會或不可能想的事情。

So you are optimistic about other people.

So you know, with absolute certainty that no other can obstruct the path of your ultimate purpose in life.

所以你知道，有絕對的把握，沒有其他的人可以阻擋你人生終極目標的道路。

The boy responding e understand now that I need to improve.

響應的男孩現在明白，我需要改進。

But does that mean I must accept toxic people in my life?

但這是否意味著我必須接受我生活中的有毒的人？

Maybe you do have to distance yourself from some toxic people in your life now or plan for it to happen in the future.

也許你現在確實要和生活中的一些有毒的人保持距離，或者為將來的事情做打算。

Whatever the case, the most important thing that needs toe happen is you improving your internal state so people words and little things don't have the power to disrupt your journey here on Earth.

不管是什麼情況，最重要的事情，需要發生e是你改善你的內部狀態，所以人們的話和小事沒有力量擾亂你在地球上的旅程。

I'm sure there have been moments in your life where you were surprised at how well you responded to a situation that would normally upset you.

我相信在你的生活中，你一定有過這樣的時刻，你驚訝於自己對通常會讓你不安的情況的反應。

It always has been and always will be about you.

它一直都是，也將永遠是關於你的。

No matter what is going on around you, there could be a good feeling with there could be a knowing within me that this, like all other things will pass.

無論你身邊發生了什麼，都可以有一個好的感覺與可以有一個知道我的內心，這和其他所有的事情一樣，都會過去。

You are the creator of your destiny because you are the creator, the decider of your feelings.

你是你命運的創造者，因為你是你感情的創造者、決定者。

At each moment you decide the meaning of each situation and therefore you can direct your destiny however you choose.

在每一個時刻，你都決定了每一種情況的意義，是以你可以按照自己的選擇來引導自己的命運。

So step back and choose to see this situation differently.

所以，退一步說，選擇用不同的方式來看待這種情況。

Choose compassion if possible, choose kindness if possible to others and more importantly to yourself and choose to do that Work on you For when your internal state is at peace.

如果可能的話，選擇慈悲，如果可能的話，選擇善待他人，更重要的是選擇善待自己，選擇在你身上做那個工作 因為當你的內心狀態是平靜的。

No turbulence around you will disturb your path.

周圍的亂流不會干擾你的道路。