thousand decisions throughout the day, and 226 out of them were on food alone.

整天千篇一律的決定，其中有226個是關於食物的。

And now, think about how many decisions you take a week, how about a month, how about

而現在，想想你一週要做多少決定，一個月如何，怎麼樣？

an entire year.

一整年。

If you give it a closer look, life is all about decisions, and our day to day choice

如果你仔細觀察，人生就是要做決定，我們每天的選擇

shape our reality.

塑造我們的現實。

what you are going to decide today will be your life tomorrow.

你今天要決定的，將是你明天的生活。

however, not all decisions are equal, deciding which college to enroll in is far more important

然而，並不是所有的決定都是平等的，決定報考哪所大學要重要得多。

than whether you should get a latte or cappuccino.

比你是否應該得到一個拿鐵或卡布奇諾。

But even among all the crucial decisions, Some of them are far more important because

但是，即使在所有關鍵的決定中，有些決定也要重要得多，因為

they influence every other decision that you take.

它們影響著你所做的每一個其他決定。

so in this video, we are going to take a look at 5 most important decisions you will ever

所以，在這個視頻中，我們要看看5個最重要的決定，你將永遠。

make.

使。

If you chose them poorly, you will probably live a miserable and mediocre life.

如果你選擇不好，你很可能會活得很痛苦，很平庸。

First, how would you let people treat you?

首先，你會讓別人如何對待你？

A wise man once said: people are going to treat you the way you allow them to do so.

有位智者曾經說過：人們會以你允許的方式對待你。

there are essentially two types of people, one who is always respected and the other

人無完人，人無完人

is the one who is always made fun of.

是那個總是被人取笑的人。

People feel comfortable putting him down and unsurprisingly, its the nice guy all the time,

人們覺得把他放下來很舒服，不出所料，其一直是好人。

who is trying to be liked.

誰是試圖被喜歡。

We make this decision unconsciously because it's mostly based on how are we raised when

我們無意識地做出這個決定，因為它主要是基於我們是如何被撫養的，當

we were kids.

我們是孩子。

As little kids, we know little about this world, and our personality gets shaped by

作為一個小孩子，我們對這個世界瞭解甚少，我們的性格也會被塑造出來

our environment.

我們的環境。

But that doesn't mean you can't change that, just because you had overprotective

但這並不意味著你不能改變這一點，只是因為你有過度的保護性

parents for example.

比如說父母。

Don't get me wrong.

別誤會我的意思

I am not suggesting you to start being rude or aggressive, but sometimes, to be liked

我不是建議你開始變得粗魯或咄咄逼人，但有時，要被人喜歡。

or accepted by society, we chose to be mistreated.

或被社會接受，我們選擇了被虐待。

And if we are going, to be honest about

如果我們要去，說實話

it! it's a choice?

吧！這是一個選擇？

what are you going to value more?

你會更看重什麼？

your dignity or social acceptance.

你的尊嚴或社會認可。

if you chose dignity, that doesn't mean you will never be accepted by anyone again.

如果你選擇了尊嚴，這並不意味著你將永遠不會再被任何人接受。

But you are going to behave in such a way that if someone is going to mess with you,

但你要表現的是，如果有人要惹你。

you are going to bite them, you aren't just going to accept it and swallow it.

你要去咬他們，你不是接受了就吞下去。

You are going to stand for yourself, and let everyone know that your dignity is above them,

你要站在自己的立場上，讓大家知道，你的尊嚴高於他們。

and if they aren't comfortable with that, it's their problem.

如果他們不舒服，這是他們的問題。

And here is why this is important, every time someone bites you and you don't do anything

這就是為什麼這一點很重要，每次有人咬你而你什麼都不做的時候

about it, you are going to spend the rest of your day imagining different scenarios

關於它，你要花你的一天的其餘部分想象不同的場景

in your mind of how you should have taken revenge.

在你的腦海中，你應該如何報仇。

You will eventually be living in the past.

你最終會活在過去。

However, If you start being extra aggressive, you will push everyone away, which isn't

但是，如果你開始特別積極，你會把所有人都趕走，這不是

really a good idea either, so start by learning to say No for example.

真的是個好主意，所以從學會說No開始，比如。

Remember, Being respected and being aggressive are two different things.

記住，被尊重和被侵略是兩回事。

Something you don't like to do, somewhere you don't wanna go with friends, something

一些你不喜歡做的事，一些你不想和朋友去的地方，一些...

you are just not comfortable with.

你只是不舒服。

Just stand up for yourself and say No.

只要站在自己的立場上說不。

And that takes me to the second choice.

這讓我想到了第二個選擇。

2.

2.

Would you rather live today or tomorrow or yesterday?

你是願意活在今天還是明天還是昨天？

that sounds a little strange, how can you possibly live in the past or the future, let

這聽起來有點奇怪，你怎麼可能活在過去或未來，讓

me explain.

我解釋一下

You are in the office doing your job, you are happy and excited for the day.

你在辦公室裡做著自己的工作，你很高興，也很興奮地度過了一天。

But for some petty reason, you get into a conflict with your boss or colleague.

但因為一些小事，你和老闆或同事發生了衝突。

You might say some nonsense to each other, but it doesn't last long.

你可能會對對方說一些廢話，但不會持續很久。

Now, the conflict has ended, but you can't stop stressing about it, for the rest of the

現在，衝突已經結束了，但你不能不緊張，在剩下的時間裡，你不能不緊張。

day, you will be thinking and imagining, why didn't you say this instead of that, why

一天，你會思考和想象，你為什麼不說這個而說那個，為什麼

didn't you punch him right into his face.

你不是一拳打在他臉上了嗎？

The truth about life is that you can't avoid problems, you can't avoid conflicts.

生活的真相是，你無法避免問題，你無法避免衝突。

They just happen to be an essential part of life.

它們剛好是生活中必不可少的一部分。

but when you are bad at controlling your thoughts and emotions.

但當你不善於控制自己的思想和情緒時。

Again you end up making unconscious decision to live either in the past or the future and

你又會無意識地決定活在過去或未來，並

never in the present.

從來沒有在現在。

There is nothing more miserable than that.

沒有什麼比這更悲慘的了。

However, the good news is, that's completely under your control, you can decide to live

然而，好消息是，這完全在你的控制之下，你可以決定生活中的

in the present right now.

在現在的現在。

No matter what happens, you aren't going to let that thing to get into your mind.

不管發生什麼事，你都不會讓那個東西進入你的大腦。

What I usually say to people is that, if

我通常對人們說的是，如果...

it's a future that you are worried about, it might never happen, in fact, you might

你擔心的是未來，它可能永遠不會發生，事實上，你可能會。

not even live to see that, and if its the past that you are stressed about, you can't

連活都活不下去了，如果是過去的事情，你緊張，你就不能。

bring it back!  so why sacrifice the present for the past

重提舊事

that you can't change.

你無法改變的。

3.

3.

Thirdly, how will you play the game of money  Most people make this choice unconsciously

三、你將如何玩轉金錢遊戲 大多數人都會不自覺地做出這種選擇。

and then wonder when they are already down the road, how on earth did they end up in

當他們已經走下坡路的時候，又會想，他們到底是怎麼落到了

a cycle where all that they do is work to pay the bills, in other words - survive.

一個循環，他們所做的就是工作來支付賬單，換句話說，就是生存。

And that's simply because its a choice that you have to make but you never get financially

這只是因為它的一個選擇，你必須做出，但你永遠不會得到經濟上的

educated, it's not taught in school nor universities or anywhere else.

受過教育的人，學校、大學或其他任何地方都不會教。

Money is a game, and some people are exceptional at it, and some are extremely bad, that's

錢是一種遊戲，有些人在遊戲中很出色，有些人則非常糟糕，這就是

why 8 richest people in the world have the same wealth as the poorest 50% percent.

為什麼世界上最富有的8個人和最貧窮的50%的人擁有同樣的財富。

and the rest of us are somewhere in the middle. and if you aren't financially literate,

而我們其餘的人都在中間的某個地方。 如果你不懂財務，

where do you think you are going to be in this equation.

你認為你會在這個等式中的哪裡。

Everyone has to make a choice whether he or she is going to play this game defense or

每個人都要做出選擇，是要玩這個遊戲防守還是

offense.

開。

Most of the people are doing their best not to drown, for them, money is a limited

大多數人都在盡最大努力不被淹死，對於他們來說，錢是一個有限的

resource.

資源。

On the other side, there are people who believe that the only limited resource that they have

另一方面，也有人認為，他們所擁有的唯一有限的資源就是

is time, so instead of spending another 2 hours in the shop to find milk that's 20

是時間，所以，與其再花2個小時在商店裡找20的牛奶，不如花2個小時在商店裡找。

cents cheaper than the one he usually buys, he keeps growing so that an hour of his time

比他平時買的便宜幾毛錢，他不斷地增長，所以他的一個小時的時間

worth much more than 20 cents.

價值遠遠超過20美分。

If you are in a dark financially position, you probably playing it wrong, maybe its time

如果你的財務狀況很糟糕，你可能玩錯了，也許是時候了。

to educate yourself financially.

來對自己進行財務教育。

4.

4.

Next, what are you going to sacrifice

接下來，你要犧牲什麼

life is all about sacrifices.

生命在於犧牲

No matter who you are, rich or poor, famous or unknown, strong or weak, you can't play

不管你是誰，不管你是富人還是窮人，不管你是名不見經傳，不管你是強者還是弱者，你都不能玩耍

out the time.

出的時候。

It's a limited resource.

這是個有限的資源。

instead of watching this video, you could have done all sort of things, but you sacrificed

而不是看這個視頻， 你可以做所有的事情， 但你犧牲了。

all of that to watch this video.

所有的，看這個視頻。

Good Job!

做得好！

So, how about you also give it a thumbs up, so we can continue with the rest of the video!

所以，不如你也豎起大拇指，讓我們繼續看剩下的視頻吧!

There are small sacrifices and there are big sacrifices.

有小犧牲，也有大犧牲。

You can't have everything in life if you want to have a balanced life, you probably

如果你想擁有一個平衡的生活，你不可能擁有生活中的一切，你可能會。

won't be super successful financially.

不會在經濟上取得超級成功。

If you chose to become an entrepreneur and start your own thing, you might have to put

如果你選擇了成為一個創業者，開始自己的事情，你可能要把。

aside your social life for example.

比如說拋開你的社交生活。

A lot of people avoid this question, some even think that they can have everything but

很多人都在迴避這個問題，有的人甚至認為自己什麼都可以有，但是

what ends up happening is that they will keep chasing everything till they run out of time

最後的結果是，他們將繼續追逐所有的東西，直到他們的時間耗盡。

but achieve nothing at the end of the day.

但到頭來卻一事無成。

5.

5.

And finally, Will you let your preconceptions dictate your life

最後，你會讓你的先入為主決定你的生活嗎？

most people live with their preconceptions and that's normal because as you grow up

大多數人都是帶著自己的偏見生活，這很正常，因為隨著你的成長。

as a little kid, your entire perspective on everything starting from religion to money

小時候，你對一切的看法從宗教到金錢都是如此

to relationships to politics is shaped by your parents, teachers, siblings.

到關係到政治是由你的父母、老師、兄弟姐妹塑造的。

and guess what?!

你猜怎麼著？

those preconceptions influence every other decision that you take?

這些先入為主的觀念影響了你所做的每一個其他決定？

Of course, you can keep living by these preconceptions but the problem is that they might not always

當然，你可以繼續按照這些先入為主的觀念生活，但問題是，這些觀念可能並不總是

be true, or accurate.

是真實的，或準確的。

Therefore, you will end up making bad decisions because they will be based on those preconceptions.

是以，你最終會做出錯誤的決定，因為他們會基於這些先入為主的觀念。

At some point, you have to revisit everything you have been taught as a little kid. when

在某些時候，你必須重新審視你小時候被教導的一切。

you make your own mind base on facts and the reality you live in, a huge window of opportunity

你根據事實和你所處的現實情況做出自己的想法，這是一個巨大的機會之窗。

will open in front of you!

會在你面前打開!

some of you will probably disagree with me that there are far important decisions like

你們中的一些人可能會不同意我的看法，認為有一些更重要的決定，如

whether you should buy a house or not or go to college or whatever.

你到底該不該買房，該不該上大學什麼的。

But when you make such decisions, you usually gather the facts first and then make up your

但當你做出這樣的決定時，你通常會先收集事實，然後再做決定。

mind, however when it comes to these five choices, you just make them unconsciously

心中，然而當涉及到這五個選擇時，你只是無意識地做出了這五個選擇

but they end up affecting your entire life and if you make the wrong decisions, you will

但它們最終會影響你的整個生活，如果你做了錯誤的決定，你將。

end up living miserably.

落得個身敗名裂的下場。

even these decisions aren't equally important,

即使這些決定也不同樣重要。

which one do you is the most important one? at least to you, and base on your life.

至少對你來說是最重要的，並基於你的生活。

let me know down in the comments!

請在評論中告訴我

Even if you have taken a poor decision earlier, remmeber, you can change that whenever you

即使你之前做了一個錯誤的決定，也要記住，你可以隨時改變這個決定。

want.

因為...

Its something that we all can control.

它的東西，我們都可以控制。

In anyways, make sure you hit that like button if you have enjoyed this video and click that

不管怎麼說，如果你喜歡這個視頻，一定要點擊那個喜歡的按鈕，然後點擊那個

subscribe button and the bells besides.

訂閱按鈕和鐘聲之外。

thanks for watching and until next time!

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