my friends.

我的朋友。

It was around midnight and we were having drinks and just chatting.

那是在午夜時分，我們喝著酒，聊著天。

And everyone was just talking about what he is working on and how his life is moving on.

而大家也只是在談論他在做什麼，他的生活如何繼續發展。

And when it was my turn, I told them what I was planning to do (which I shouldn't

當輪到我的時候，我告訴他們我打算做什麼（這是我不應該做的）。

have) but I did anyway.

有）但我還是做了。

And in the next half an hour, my friends gave me thousands of reasons, why it's a bad idea.

而在接下來的半個小時裡，我的朋友們給了我成千上萬的理由，為什麼這是一個壞主意。

The industry is so competitive and you are completely inexperienced and you think you

這個行業競爭如此激烈，你完全沒有經驗，你認為自己

can go out there and achieve something, you must be kidding.

能走出去，並取得一些成就，你一定是在開玩笑。

Well, I said that I have a plan and I genuinely believe that it might work out!

好吧，我說我有一個計劃，我真的相信它可能會成功!

What kept happening is that I kept explaining why me getting into the real estate business

一直髮生的事情是，我一直在解釋為什麼我進入房地產行業。

is a good idea!

是個好主意!

I mean, I didn't have to but for some weird reason I kept on explaining.

我的意思是，我沒有必要，但出於一些奇怪的原因，我一直在解釋。

as if I needed their permission!

彷彿我需要他們的許可！

Or as if they wouldn't approve it, I will never be able to start

或者說，如果他們不同意，我就永遠無法開始了

And to be honest, It wasn't the first time when I was trying to prove that I am actually

說實話，這不是第一次，當我試圖證明我其實是

doing the right thing!

做正確的事

When I look back at it now, it looks absolutely dumb, What on earth I was thinking about?

現在回想起來，絕對是蠢蠢欲動，我到底在想什麼？

why would I desperately explain to others my actions!

我為什麼要拼命向別人解釋我的行為!

And I am confident that you have been in similar situations before.

而且我相信，你以前也遇到過類似的情況。

Whether you acted awkwardly and you wanted to explain your awkward behavior or you just

無論你的行為是否尷尬，你想解釋你的尷尬行為，或者你只是。

wanted to do something unusual.

想做一些不尋常的事情。

We have the need to be accepted by society, so we want to be understood by the people

我們有被社會接受的需求，所以我們希望被人們理解。

around us.

在我們身邊。

Whenever we feel like we have been misunderstood, we try our best to fix that.

每當我們覺得自己被誤解的時候，我們都會盡力去彌補。

And it's not entirely our fault, We have been toughed to explain ourselves since we were

這不完全是我們的錯，我們從小時候起就一直在努力解釋自己的問題

little kids.

小孩子。

When you are just a kid, you are basically told how you should live by your parents,

當你還是個孩子的時候，你的父母基本上都會告訴你應該如何生活。

teachers and so on.

教師等。

But every now and then, we get curies and do - let's say - unusual things, however,

但是，我們時常會有捲毛，做--比方說--不尋常的事情，然而。

since we are accountable at the end of the day to our parents, we always find ourselves

因為我們每天都要向父母負責，所以我們總是發現我們自己

explaining our actions.

解釋我們的行動。

I remember, Every time I would have a fight back in school, first I would have to explain

我記得，每次在學校裡吵架，我都要先解釋一下

myself to the principle of the school and then to my parents back at home.

我自己對學校的校長，然後對家裡的父母。

And if you have strict parents, you probably have experienced that more than anyone else.

而如果你有嚴格的父母，你可能比別人更有體會。

And now as grown-up adults, we kept that habit of explaining ourselves.

而現在長大成人的我們，卻一直保持著這種習慣來解釋自己。

Mostly because we are afraid to be judged. we are not confident of who we are!

主要是因為我們害怕被評判.我們對自己的身份沒有信心!

We feel like if we don't explain the reasons behind our actions we might be deeply misunderstood.

我們覺得如果我們不解釋我們行動背後的原因，我們可能會被深深誤解。

So, Let me share with you a little secret - You Don't Have To Explain Yourself.

那麼，讓我來跟大家分享一個小祕密--你不必解釋自己。

Even, if you did something totally awkward.

甚至，如果你做了一些完全尷尬的事情。

the truth is, no one really cares!

事實上，沒有人真正關心!

I mean people are busy with their own lives, and when they see you doing some nonsense,

我的意思是，人們都在忙於自己的生活，當他們看到你在做一些胡鬧的時候。

they probably don't give as much damn as you think.

他們可能不給 因為多該死的，因為你的想法。

I understand that its not easy to get rid of this habit since you have had it for most

我知道要擺脫這個習慣並不容易，因為你已經有了大部分的時間。

of your life and you will feel uncomfortable in the beginning, but as you practice it more

你的生活，一開始你會覺得不舒服，但隨著你練習的次數增多，你會覺得不舒服。

and more, people will start respecting your actions because you, not some kind of a douchbags

越來越多的人將開始尊重你的行為，因為你，而不是某種douchbags。

who gets influenced by everyone's opinion and is trying to seek everyone's approval.

誰得到影響每個人的意見，並試圖尋求每個人的認可。

That doesn't mean you should stop sharing with people your ideas or opinions or whatever

這並不意味著你應該停止與人們分享你的想法或意見或任何東西。

and turn into an asshole, feel free to have deep fulfilling conversations where you share

變成一個混蛋，隨時可以進行深層次的充實的對話，在那裡你分享。

your ideas and opinions .

您的想法和意見

But Never explain yourself when you feel like if you don't, you will be judged.

但是，當你覺得如果你不解釋，你會被評判的時候，千萬不要解釋自己。

People will hear whatever they want, they will understand it they want it, so don't

人們想聽什麼就聽什麼，他們想聽就能聽懂，所以，不要。

waste your time trying to be accepted!

浪費你的時間，試圖被接受!