Have we ever been skating before together?

我們以前一起滑過冰嗎？

I don't think we have your high like birthday parties so long ago.

我不認為我們有你的高像生日聚會這麼久了。

Yeah.

是啊。

Episode 18 Season two I feel like it's been gloomy for the past five days.

第18集 第二季 我感覺這五天都是陰沉沉的。

Maybe I'm no expert in anything.

也許我不是什麼專家

But one thing I feel that saved my life here was admitting everything that I'm struggling with and struggled with, really growing up, I just assumed that it's not OK to not be okay, because if you aren't okay, that means there's something wrong with you.

但是我覺得在這裡救了我的命的一件事，就是承認了我正在掙扎和掙扎的一切，其實在成長的過程中，我只是認為不可以，因為如果你不可以，就說明你有問題。

Um, it's not really easy admitting all the things that I've done wrong living abroad or just in life.

嗯，承認自己在國外生活或生活中做錯的所有事情，真的不容易。

But I feel like people need to admit those things.

但我覺得人們需要承認這些事情。

And e mean, there's so many things that I'm doing wrong now, and there's a lot of things that I'm doing right now.

我的意思是，有這麼多的事情，我現在做錯了，有很多的事情，我現在做的權利。

And, um, that's just how life is.

而且，嗯，這只是生活是如何。

I think the one thing that I can start off with living abroad or just in life in general is I think I was constantly, um, wanting to be with people despite being an introvert.

我想我可以從國外的生活或者是一般的生活開始，我想我是不斷的，嗯，想要和人在一起，儘管我是一個內向的人。

When I moved to Japan, I was kind of an introvert and at the same time being an introvert, you could be quite lonely.

當我搬到日本的時候，我算是一個內向的人，同時作為一個內向的人，你會很孤獨。

And, um, I think being alone, I felt like I was kind of going crazy in a way because, ah, part of me was like, I'm in this foreign country and I don't have my family around me.

而且，嗯，我想獨自一人， 我覺得我是一種瘋狂的方式，因為，啊，我的一部分是這樣的， 我在這個陌生的國家，我沒有我的家人在我身邊。

So I'm always gonna be alone unless I find that group of friends I needed that secondary family.

所以，我總是會孤獨，除非我找到那群我需要的朋友，那個第二家庭。

If I don't have that, then I'll always be alone.

如果我沒有這些，那麼我將永遠孤獨。

And I wasn't OK with being alone.

而且我也不喜歡一個人。

And I think before you move abroad, you should be OK with being alone and you should have a relationship with yourself.

而且我覺得在你出國之前，你應該是可以一個人的，你應該和自己有關係。

And I realized something that I'm doing wrong at this moment is I'm not going out enough by myself.

而我也意識到自己此刻做錯的事情，就是自己出去的次數不夠多。

I'm starting to feel myself become more introverted, and although I do have friends that I can hit up, I can call.

我開始覺得自己變得越來越內向了，雖然我也有可以搭訕的朋友，但我可以打電話。

That's something that I did wrong, and something that's very related to that today is that I'm not admitting that I am not doing enough by myself.

這是我做錯的事情，今天和這個很有關係的事情是，我不承認我自己做的不夠好。

If you don't admit what you're struggling with, it's kind of difficult to change, and nobody is struggle free, especially if you're living abroad waiting because we're way Ever been skating before?

如果你不承認自己在掙扎什麼，那就挺難改變的，沒有人是沒有掙扎的，尤其是當你生活在國外等待的時候，因為我們的方式 曾經滑冰過？

Together, I think way I rely on my husband way too much.

在一起，我覺得方式我太依賴我的丈夫了。

Once you get married to somebody who's Japanese and from this country, you just get really, really attached to a person like that and you get lazy with language.

一旦嫁給一個日本人，而且是這個國家的人，你就會對這樣的人非常非常的有好感，你就會對語言產生懶惰。

And I'm admitting I'm not good at Japanese anymore.

而且我承認我的日語不好了。

E used to be.

E曾經是。

I graduated with a degree in Japanese and I passed with very good grades and obviously I can speak to an extent.

我是日語專業畢業的，我以非常好的成績通過了，很明顯我可以說到一定程度。

I'm not like beginner level.

我不喜歡初學者的水準。

If I go out or make phone calls, I have to do that.

如果我出去或打電話，我必須這樣做。

But now even that I'm getting lazy with which is really bad, because before I met my husband, um, I was doing all those things on my own.

但現在即使是這樣，我也變得懶惰了，這真的很糟糕，因為在我遇到我的丈夫之前，嗯，我是自己做所有這些事情。

My Japanese is so far gone because I was a teacher here for so long and focusing on my creative works and projects.

我的日語之所以走得這麼遠，是因為我在這裡當了這麼久的老師，專注於自己的創作和項目。

But I lost it a little bit.

但我有點失落。

So it's something that I really want to grasp and get better at.

所以，這是我真正想要把握和提高的東西。

And I want people to see this because there's something in your life that is lacking and you need Thio.

我想讓大家看到這個，因為你的生活中缺少一些東西，你需要Thio。

Find out what that is.

看看那是什麼。

This'll is me trying to lose weight, Talk to there's a game going on today, way around and go back to where we came from on, like go out and then around.

這將是我試圖減肥，說話有一個遊戲今天，方式周圍，並回到我們從哪裡來的上，像走出去，然後周圍。

Yeah, okay.

是啊，好吧。

I don't want people to think that everything is perfect.

我不想讓人們認為一切都很完美。

It's just it's not.

只是它不是。

Everybody has challenges.

每個人都有挑戰。

Everybody has things that they wish they could have done.

每個人都有希望自己能做的事情。

So you need thio admit those things in order to move forward and in order to take action.

所以，你需要承認這些事情，為了向前看，為了採取行動。

And I'm admitting those things now we're here.

而我承認這些事情，現在我們在這裡。

We live in our junior high school dreams.

我們生活在國中的夢想中。

I've never done this.

我從來沒有做過這個。

He's never done look so hard.

他從來沒有做過這麼難看的事情。

But we have this drama in just staring after three every day.

但我們在每天三點後就盯著看，就有這個戲。

E Mr Rush of He'll be fine because you snowboard e feel like I'm a baby e.

他不會有事的，因為你的滑雪板感覺就像我的孩子一樣。

I'm just learning how to walk e m.

我只是在學習如何走e m。

Ready to.

準備好了

It's been a really long time, so hopefully I can get behavior of it.

這是一個非常長的時間，所以希望我可以得到行為的它。

But nobody somebody's.

但沒有人某人的。

Yeah, it's actually makes me some ancient, but sons in dog That shit was amazing.

是啊，它實際上讓我有些古老，但兒子在狗 這狗屎是驚人的。

Way back to 1985 way screen every day and I e Mr Russia Evelyn in your life don't get your bologna.

回到1985年的時候，每天都有螢幕，而我和俄羅斯先生伊夫林在你的生活中，不要得到你的臘腸。

Don't get your glory.

不要得到你的榮耀。

You're what you got in that bag, Kenny.

你是你的囊中之物，肯尼。

Cigarettes and a playboy might have done the same thing.

香菸和一個花花公子可能做了同樣的事情。

Work?

工作？

No way.

不可能

We're talking about the nineties and how in American nineties skating rink way used to get all of the nineties food, snacks and things like Slurpees.

我們正在談論的九十年代和如何在美國九十年代滑冰場的方式用來獲得所有的九十年代的食物，小吃和像思樂冰的東西。

And not so Pressel's.

而普雷塞爾的就不一樣了。

What else?

還有什麼？

Um, Popcorn.

嗯，爆米花。

Yes, You said Slurpees and pizza.

是的，你說思樂冰和披薩。

He was a big thing.

他是個大人物。

I don't see how that so.

我不明白怎麼會這樣。

I don't know.

我不知道。

I don't think we can fully relive our childhood without that.

我想，如果沒有這些，我們是無法完全重溫童年的。

Yeah, it was so good.

是的，它是如此的好。

But like the music here is Solo Can't hear it.

但像這裡的音樂是獨奏不能聽。

I feel like you need, like, head.

我覺得你需要的是，像，頭。

I wanna get funky, get pumping.

我想得到時髦，得到泵。

She's like dancing on her own and like, awkward with no music is that actually is kind of not is exciting.

她就像在她自己的舞蹈和喜歡，尷尬與沒有音樂是，其實是一種不是令人興奮。

And last but not least, my health.

最後但同樣重要的是，我的健康。

When I moved to Japan, I thought, Oh, gosh, there's so many healthy foods.

搬到日本的時候，我就想，天哪，這裡有這麼多健康食品。

I'm gonna be so, so healthy.

我將會是如此，如此健康。

And that wasn't the case, because growing up, my parents would always cook for me.

而事實並非如此，因為從小到大，父母總是會給我做飯。

My mom was the best chef, and I would eat all of her food.

我媽媽是最好的廚師，我願意吃她所有的食物。

And I loved coming home to a home cooked meal.

而且我喜歡回家吃家常菜。

And then when I moved to Japan when I went to college, you know, when I went to college, I had a lunch ticket in a dinner ticket, so I was able to go to a cafeteria and eat.

然後我上大學的時候搬到日本，你知道，我上大學的時候，我有一張午餐票在晚餐票，所以我可以去食堂吃飯。

And then I moved to Japan and it was totally different, and I didn't know how to cook very well.

然後我搬到了日本，完全不一樣了，我不知道怎麼做飯很好。

I knew how toe follow a recipe, and I wasn't that bad.

我知道如何按照食譜做，而且我也不是那麼差。

So I would buy Bentos.

所以我會買本託斯。

And in Japan, you get the bentos are gorgeous, you know, there, they're healthy, they're fresh, so you would think that it would be good for you.

而在日本，你得到的bentos是華麗的， 你知道，有，他們是健康的，他們是新鮮的， 所以你會認為這將是對你有好處。

But in reality, there's a lot of sodium and things and salt and sugar.

但實際上，有很多鈉和東西，還有鹽和糖。

I ate a lot of that and I ate a lot of rice, and it didn't help with my gut health and everything like that.

我吃了很多，我吃了很多米飯，對我的腸道健康和諸如此類的事情都沒有幫助。

And I was eating out a lot and drinking with friends, and I think that you're gonna lose the weight.

而且我經常在外面吃東西，和朋友喝酒，我覺得你會減肥的。

And then I mean, at the time I was I was a good weight, like I was at a weight that I wanted to be, and I now I'm struggling a little bit.

然後我的意思是，當時我是我是一個很好的體重，就像我是在一個重量，我想成為，我現在我掙扎一點點。

I'm 30 now and I gained weight from quarantine.

我現在已經30歲了，我的體重也因檢疫而增加。

I think I neglected my health a lot because I wanted to travel and have fun and all the good food.

我想我忽視了自己的健康，因為我想去旅行，想去玩，想去享受所有的美食。

And I didnt really take care of myself.

我也沒有真正照顧好自己。

I was always skinny.

我一直很瘦。

I never was overweight.

我從來沒有超重。

I was.

我是。

I could eat and eat and eat and never gain weight.

我可以吃了又吃，吃了又吃，永遠不會胖。

I was just I was in love with food.

我只是我愛上了美食。

I started to suffer.

我開始痛苦了。

And you know the consequences to started coming in.

你也知道後果，開始來了。

I'm no health coach.

我不是健康教練。

Um, not a nutritionist.

嗯，不是一個營養師。

I'm not a fitness coach.

我不是一個健身教練。

So those are things that I wanna learn more of taking care of your health.

所以這些都是我想多學習的養生知識。

It's very important.

這是非常重要的。

Japanese e sweating e absolutely so hard, e even over here, I honestly think we neglect our health a lot when we're in an exciting situation.

日本人e出汗e絕對太辛苦了，e即使在這邊，我真心覺得我們在激動的情況下，也會忽略很多健康。

Moving to Japan was literally one of them, and it made me feel like I was on a permanent vacation most days and it still does sometimes.

搬到日本真的是其中之一，它讓我覺得自己大部分時間都是在度假，有時候還是這樣。

So I love to indulge.

所以我喜歡放縱。

So be careful.

所以要小心。

The food may look healthy, but a lot has secret ingredients.

這些食物看似健康，但很多都有祕密成分。

E o E o E.

而E。

Whenever you're in a new situation, always keep a beginner's mind.

每當你在一個新的環境中，始終保持一個初學者的心態。

Also known as Shaoshan and Japanese.

又稱韶山、日本。

The concept teaches us to view ourselves as works in progress, and it takes confidence and the ability to admit we aren't always doing everything right in order to live without pressure.

這個概念教會我們把自己看成是正在進行中的作品，需要有信心和能力承認自己並不是總能做對所有的事情，才能沒有壓力地生活。

In the end, it's all about resilience, innovating, pivoting and analyzing new perspectives and new ways of doing well.

歸根結底，就是要有韌性，要有創新，要有支點，要分析好新的視角和新的方法。

Anything does it look?

有什麼好看的嗎？

Whoa, that looks so crazy.

哇，這看起來如此瘋狂。

Whoa!

哇！

Eso Yeah, There you go.

是的，給你。

We have language, health, independence as something that I struggle with today, and I'm going to be on this continuous journey with these things.

我們有語言、健康、獨立作為我今天奮鬥的東西，我將在這個持續的旅程中與這些東西為伍。

But when it comes to my accomplishments, which is something that you always have to recognize in in the middle of change you have to go back to your accomplishments and recognize those to keep you going to make changes in other parts of your life.

但是當談到我的成就時，這是你在變化中總是要認識到的東西，你必須回到你的成就中去，認識到這些才能讓你繼續在生活的其他方面做出改變。

And I have accomplished so much since then.

而從那時起，我已經取得了很多成就。

I've found somebody that treats me like a queen that loves me.

我已經找到了一個人，對待我像一個女王，愛我。

I'm in this beautiful home that we have, and I started my own service in my own business, which I'm so grateful for the fact that people believe in it and that people have signed up for it and we have a little community and just gonna grow from there.

我在我們這個美麗的家，我在自己的事業中開始了我自己的服務，我很感謝人們相信它，人們已經註冊了它，我們有一個小社區，只是要從那裡發展。

And I'm so happy I found my purpose in life and that I'm working towards goals.

而我很高興我找到了自己的人生目標，我正在為目標而努力。

And I'm recognizing the things that I want to change.

而我也認識到了我想要改變的事情。

And I want to share that with you.

我想與你分享。

I wanna document every day of my life, which is why I started girl abroad.

我想記錄下我生活中的每一天，這也是我為什麼要開始女孩出國的原因。

So I can show you my transformations in life in another country.

所以，我可以向你展示我在另一個國家的生活轉變。

And it's intriguing to me.

而這對我來說是很有吸引力的。

And I'm sure hopefully for you I want to start a challenge.

我相信希望對你來說，我也想開始挑戰。

Take out a piece of paper, right?

拿出一張紙，對吧？

A timeline of all of your accomplishments and then next to that, right?

你所有成就的時間軸，然後在旁邊，對吧？

What you got out of it?

你從裡面得到了什麼？

Did it give you some strength?

有沒有給你一些力量？

Courage, confidence?

勇氣、信心？

What did those accomplishments?

這些成績是什麼？

Those tiny ones, too.

那些小的，也。

Don't forget the tiny ones, even the ones when you when you were two years old.

不要忘記那些微小的，甚至是你兩歲時的那些。

If you can remember, what gift did that give you?

如果你還記得，那送你什麼禮物？

Write it on a piece of paper and tag me tag Kelly Marie, Suzanne.

把它寫在一張紙上，然後給我貼上標籤... ...標籤是凱利-瑪麗，蘇珊娜。

And show me your accomplishments because sharing them with the world is the next step in doing something that's out of your comfort zone.

並向我展示你的成就，因為與世界分享它們是下一步做一些超出你舒適區的事情。

Just do it.

就這樣做吧。

Trust me.

相信我吧

You're gonna feel really good.

你會感覺非常好。

Yeah.

是啊。

Thank you guys for watching.

謝謝你們的觀看。

And I just wanted to let you know that my geeky guy lifestyle courses now open.

我只是想讓你知道，我的宅男生活方式課程現在開放。

So find your purpose.

所以要找到自己的目標。

Live the life you want and gain confidence today.

今天就過上你想要的生活，獲得自信。

And I will see you in the next video.

我們下一個視頻中見。