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  • Hey Ambitious Professionals, it's Linda Raynier of Lindaraynier.com guiding you to a career and life you'll truly enjoy. Now in today's video

    嘿,雄心勃勃的專業人士,我是Lindaraynier.com的Linda Raynier,引導你走向你真正喜歡的事業和生活。現在在今天的視頻中

  • I'm going to walk you through questions that you really want to ask yourself if you find that you're someone who struggles with

    我要帶你走過的問題,你真的想問自己,如果你發現你是一個人誰掙扎與

  • social anxiety at work, in the sense that you have trouble communicating and connecting with your co-workers and your bosses

    工作中的社交焦慮,即你與同事和老闆的溝通和交流有困難。

  • but you want to be able to be seen as

    但你要能被人看作是

  • leadership material and be considered for senior management positions in the future

    的上司材料,並考慮在未來擔任高級管理職位。

  • As a Career Strategist, I've had the pleasure of helping many professionals land their dream job offers

    作為一名職業策略師,我很高興幫助許多專業人士獲得他們夢想中的工作機會。

  • and if you're interested in working with me one-on-one, I can give you details about that at the end of this video. In

    如果你有興趣和我一對一合作,我可以在視頻的最後給你詳細介紹。在

  • my line of work,

    我的工作。

  • I've met all kinds of professionals

    我見過各種各樣的專業人士

  • and there are some that I've come across who, maybe this is you, where you are a very hardworking

    有一些,我已經遇到了誰,也許這是你, 你是一個非常勤奮的,

  • professional, you do a good job in your company, you are recognized for being someone who works extremely hard

    專業,你在公司的工作做得很好,你是公認的非常努力的人。

  • and you take pride in that as well.

    而你也以此為榮。

  • But at the same time, you find that when it comes to developing relationships - really solid bonds with your co-workers, with your bosses and

    但同時,你會發現,當涉及到發展人際關係時--與你的同事、與你的老闆和你的老闆之間的真正牢固的紐帶。

  • being able to portray that sense of confidence within yourself through the way you communicate

    能夠通過你的溝通方式來描繪自己內心的自信感。

  • You struggle a little bit in that area and you know that if you really want to become the leader that you deserve to be

    你在這方面有點掙扎,你知道,如果你真的想成為領導者,你就應該成為領導者

  • in the future that that's something that you really want to work on. So a lot of the time these

    在未來,這是你真正想做的事情。所以很多時候這些

  • professionals would ask me the question, "how can I learn how to communicate better

    專業人士會問我這樣的問題:"我怎樣才能學會更好的溝通?

  • to my co-workers and my bosses so that they can see me as leadership potential?Now the thing about that is that

    我的同事和我的老闆,這樣他們就可以看到我作為上司的潛力嗎?

  • communication is one aspect to it

    溝通是其中的一個方面

  • But there's actually a whole other layer that you may not even recognize is something

    但其實還有另一層你可能都不認識的東西是

  • that's holding you back from even being able to

    阻礙你甚至能夠... ...

  • communicate with them in the first place. Because one thing that I really want you to remember is when it comes to being a truly

    首先與他們溝通。因為有一件事,我真的想讓你記住的是,當涉及到成為一個真正的。

  • great leader, so for example when you look at

    偉大的領導者,是以,例如當你看著

  • inspirational people who are leaders in their fields, you find that there's an element of

    鼓舞人心的人誰是他們領域的領導者,你會發現,有一個元素的。

  • authenticity

    真實性

  • they're genuine and

    他們是真實的

  • there's a component to them that really truly knows themself. So for you,

    他們有一個真正瞭解自己的部分。所以對你來說

  • if you really want to be that great leader eventually in your career, you have to really learn more about yourself; know yourself first.

    如果你真的想在你的職業生涯中最終成為那個偉大的領導者,你必須真正瞭解更多的自己,先了解自己。

  • It's not just about working hard. And the more you can know yourself

    這不僅僅是努力工作的問題。而且你越能瞭解自己

  • it's going to give you an advantage because then the more that you're gonna get to know others.

    這將給你一個優勢,因為 然後,你會得到更多的瞭解別人。

  • Because if you can understand your own feelings emotions

    因為如果你能理解自己的感受情緒的話

  • thought

    思想

  • processes, you can start to relate to others from that perspective so it's at a much deeper level and so the bond that you can

    過程中,你可以開始從這個角度與他人聯繫,所以它是在一個更深的層次,所以你可以的紐帶,你可以

  • create with other people, other human beings, is going to be at a much deeper level

    與其他的人,其他的人,創造是在一個更深的層次上

  • than just very surface level conversation. So now let's go through the questions

    而不僅僅是很表面的對話。所以現在讓我們通過問題

  • and I want you as we go through to really ask yourself is this something that I'm dealing with and

    我想讓你通過我們去真正問自己 這是我正在處理的東西和

  • From there you'll be able to figure out a way to really improve yourself in that area. Question #1 that you want to ask yourself:

    從中你就能找出一個真正提高自己在這方面的方法。你要問自己的問題1。

  • "Is there a place inside of me that is seeking their approval?"

    "我的內心是不是有一個地方在尋求他們的認同?"

  • I completely understand that if you were interacting with your boss or your boss's boss or their boss

    我完全可以理解,如果你和你的老闆或者你老闆的老闆或者他們的老闆交流的話

  • Or anyone in the you know sort of senior executive management team that at times you may feel

    或者是你知道的那種高級行政管理團隊中的任何人,有時你可能會感覺到。

  • Intimidated because it's hard for you to feel completely yourself around them and especially if you're coming from a background where

    被嚇到了,因為你很難在他們身邊感受到完全的自我,尤其是如果你來自一個有以下背景的地方

  • You are told to respect your elders growing up especially for someone like me growing up in an Asian household

    你從小就被告知要尊重長輩 尤其是像我這樣在亞洲家庭長大的人,更是如此

  • We were always told to respect our elders and so

    我們總是被告知要尊重長輩,所以... ...

  • Whether or not they were older if they had a higher rank

    如果他們有更高的級別,他們的年齡是否更大

  • You had to show respect you had to be polite you had to be courteous

    你必須表現出尊重,你必須有禮貌 你必須有禮貌。

  • So it's almost like when you interact with them it you feel as though subconsciously

    所以當你和他們交流的時候 你會覺得好像在潛意識裡...

  • You don't even realize it you're almost feeling as though you're bowing down to them

    你甚至沒有意識到 你幾乎覺得自己在向他們低頭

  • Because on the inside you think that's a sign of respect. I'm being polite and courteous to them, but do you actually know?

    因為你內心認為那是一種尊重的表現。我對他們很客氣,很有禮貌,但你真的知道嗎?

  • What's happening when you're interacting with them in that way? You're actually making the other person feel a little awkward

    當你這樣和他們互動的時候,發生了什麼?你其實是讓對方覺得有點尷尬的

  • Because what's actually happening without you even realizing it is that you're looking to that person to

    因為實際上發生的事情,你都沒有意識到,你在尋找那個人,以

  • Validate you to make you feel worthy of yourself

    驗證你,讓你覺得自己有價值。

  • Instead of showcasing your own Worth and your own value just front on with them. You're almost

    而不是展示自己的Worth和自己的價值,只是和他們正面。你幾乎

  • Lowering yourself to them and asking them to give you approval for who you are. Now, unless that

    把自己降低到他們面前,讓他們認可你的身份。現在,除非

  • Senior Manager or Director or Boss, whoever they are is

    高級經理或總監或老闆,不管他們是誰,都是。

  • someone who is wrapped up in his or her ego

    妄自尊大者

  • And they love going on power trips unless they're that person for the most part

    而且他們喜歡去權力旅行,除非他們是那個人,否則大多數情況下

  • they're gonna feel a little uncomfortable if you treat them that way and

    他們會覺得有點不舒服,如果你對待他們的方式和

  • They are going to see you the way that you see yourself because you're lowering yourself in front of them

    他們會看到你的方式,你看到自己的方式,因為你在他們面前降低自己的地位

  • They're gonna look down on you. Are they not human too?

    他們會看不起你的。難道他們也不是人嗎?

  • Are they not of the same essence that you and I are? They are human too.

    他們和你我的本質不一樣嗎?他們也是人。

  • Just because that they're at a higher level in their career doesn't necessarily mean that you have to

    只是因為他們是在一個較高的水準 在他們的職業生涯並不一定意味著你有

  • lower yourself in front of them, seek their approval and

    俯首帖耳,求之不得

  • show a certain side of you

    顯山露水

  • That is not authentic to who you are. So if I'm telling you to not seek their approval

    這不是真實的你是誰。所以,如果我告訴你不要尋求他們的認可。

  • what do I actually mean? I mean you need to approve of yourself first.

    我到底是什麼意思?我的意思是你要先認可自己。

  • You need to know your value and what your worth is. What you have to remember is this:

    你要知道自己的價值,知道自己的價值是什麼。你要記住的是。

  • people will see you the way that you see yourself.

    人們會看到你的方式,你看到自己。

  • So you need to turn the lens around and instead of looking at how other people react to you

    所以你需要把鏡頭轉過來,而不是看別人對你的反應。

  • And how they view you you need to first ask yourself. How do I view myself?

    而他們如何看待你,你需要先問問自己。我如何看待自己?

  • because if you can embody the

    因為如果你能體現出

  • valuable, worthy, confident person that you are, the professional that you are, knowing that you're hardworking, knowing that you're smart, knowing that you're capable,

    有價值、有價值、有自信的人,你是專業的人,知道你很努力,知道你很聰明,知道你很有能力。

  • knowing that any company would be happy to have you in the role that you're doing

    知道任何一家公司都會很樂意讓你擔任你正在做的角色

  • because you know you've been able to do well if you can start to embody all of that and believe that within yourself then that's

    因為你知道你已經能夠做得很好 如果你能開始體現這一切,並相信你自己的內心,那麼這就是

  • going to

    將要

  • present a different energy

    異能

  • To these higher up individuals or even to just your colleagues and as you see yourself in a more valuable

    對這些更高層的人,甚至只是對你的同事,當你看到自己在一個更有價值的。

  • Worthy from a more valuable worthy point of view they're gonna see that of you as well. Question #2:

    從更有價值的價值角度來看,他們也會看到你的價值。問題二:

  • "Why do I feel less or smaller than these people in their presence?" Now,

    "為什麼在這些人面前,我覺得自己不如他們,或者說比他們小?"現在

  • This is very similar to what we talked about in question number one, but this is really about knowing yourself

    這與我們在問題一中談到的非常相似,但這其實是關於認識自己的問題。

  • So let's take it to the next level and dive deeper into this. If you find yourself struggling to develop strong

    是以,讓我們把它提升到一個新的水準,並深入研究這個問題。如果你發現自己在努力發展強大的

  • bonds with people around you, in your workplace, your co-workers, your

    與你周圍的人,在你的工作場所,你的同事,你的紐帶。

  • bosses and whatnot... you really have to ask yourself. What is causing me to feel

    老闆什麼的... 你真的要問自己,是什麼讓我覺得

  • smaller than them? Where did that come from?

    比他們小?哪裡來的?

  • That's the real key. The reason why it's important to ask yourself the source

    這才是真正的關鍵。為什麼要問自己的源頭?

  • where the source of this truly came from is is because as soon as you can identify?

    這真正的源頭來自於哪裡,就是因為只要你能確定?

  • Where it originated from this feeling of feeling not good enough feeling small is

    這種感覺不夠好感覺渺小的感覺起源於哪裡呢?

  • When you can fully understand yourself, and you can fully understand how you came to

    當你能充分了解自己,你也能充分了解你是如何走過來的

  • Feel the way that you feel about yourself and once you understand it you bring awareness to it

    感受你對自己的感覺,一旦你瞭解它,你就會把意識帶到它的身上

  • What ends up happening is you end up detaching from it it ends up. Just oh I get it now

    最後發生的事情是你最終脫離了它的結局。只是哦,我現在明白了

  • That's why I feel this way. Oh well

    所以我才會有這樣的感覺。哦,好吧

  • I don't have to hold on that hold on to that any longer

    我不需要再抱著那個抱著那個了。

  • And I can let that go. So if you can start to take yourself down to that deep level and say where did this start?

    而我可以讓它去。所以,如果你能開始把自己帶到那個深層次,說這是從哪裡開始的?

  • It could have been from your upbringing

    可能是你的成長環境造成的。

  • Actually the likelihood is that it came from your upbringing

    其實很有可能是你的成長環境造成的。

  • Where perhaps your parents, your family situation,

    哪裡或許你的父母,你的家庭情況。

  • you were raised in a way where you were taught that you had to lower yourself in front of

    你從小就被灌輸了一個道理 你必須在你的面前放低自己的身段

  • "older wiser people" and

    "老年智者 "和

  • You had to assume that you just didn't know as much and if that was the case

    你不得不認為你只是不知道那麼多,如果是這樣的話。

  • You really need to make sure that

    你真的需要確保

  • That was something that happened to you when you were younger that happened to you back then

    那是你年輕時發生的事情,那時候發生在你身上的事情。

  • But it doesn't have to be something that you carry forward with you now as an adult.

    但它不一定是你現在作為一個成年人所要繼承的東西。

  • It could have just been an experience that you dealt with but now it's time to

    這可能只是你處理的一次經歷,但現在是時候了。

  • Recognize it for what it is, where it came from,

    認清它是什麼,它從哪裡來。

  • understand it fully and then fully let it go. And the great thing about going through this

    完全理解它,然後完全放手。而最偉大的事情是通過這個

  • self-reflection deep-dive process of understanding where the source of these feelings come from is

    自我反思 深入瞭解這些感受的來源的過程是

  • That it doesn't have to take years... it can be instantaneous as long as you're willing to put in the effort to dig deep so

    不一定要花好幾年的時間... 只要你願意花力氣去深挖,就能瞬間實現。

  • Reflect on this and once you are able to find the answer to where the source of your feelings come from, you're able to

    反思一下,一旦你能夠找到答案,你的感情源頭來自哪裡,你就能夠做到

  • understand yourself better you're able to detach from it let it go and

    你能更好地瞭解你自己,你就能從它那裡脫離出來,讓它去,並

  • you're able to appreciate the lesson that it's taught you about yourself and

    你能夠體會到它所教給你的關於你自己的教訓和

  • Then from there you're going to be able to move forward in your career with a more positive outlook and with greater levels of confidence.

    那麼從那以後,你將能夠以更積極的態度和更大的信心在你的職業生涯中前進。

  • Question #3:

    問題3:

  • "Do I know

    "我知道

  • how to truly be myself and

    如何真正做自己和

  • express who I really am?" After you've gone through questions 1 & 2 you'll probably get to a point where you're gonna say now:

    表達我到底是誰?"在你經歷了問題1和2之後,你可能會到了現在要說的地步。

  • so what? now what? how do I act in front of others? How do I present myself? How do I express who I am?

    所以呢,現在怎麼辦,我怎麼在別人面前表現呢?我如何表現自己?我如何表達我是誰?

  • Who am I? and the answer is you don't present... you don't act...

    我是誰 答案是你沒有表現... 你沒有行動...

  • You're just simply there.

    你只是簡單地在那裡。

  • You're just simply you. You connect. You connect with the people that are around you in a genuine way without

    你只是簡單的你。你與人溝通。你與你周圍的人以一種真誠的方式連接起來,而不需要

  • looking to them for approval, without looking to them

    仰人鼻息,俯人耳目

  • to determine who you are. You are instead determining who you are first

    來決定你是誰。你首先要確定自己是誰

  • Knowing who you are from the inside first and portraying that outwards

    先從內心瞭解自己是誰,然後再向外展示。

  • Not looking to the world for feedback about who you are and what makes you special and then

    不向世界尋求關於你是誰以及你的特別之處的反饋,然後。

  • Swallowing and taking that in. That's the reverse way of living, so to be a truly authentic genuine leader

    吞吞吐吐的接受。這就是逆向的生活方式,所以要想成為一個真正的真正的領導者

  • It's about living from the inside out. It's about understanding who you are

    這是關於由內而外的生活。這是關於瞭解你是誰

  • truthfully from the inside understanding all your nuances and then being able to connect with another

    從內心深處真實地瞭解你所有的細微差別,然後能夠與另一個人溝通。

  • human being in a genuine way

    真正的人

  • Because the more you understand yourself like I said the more you can understand the other person and the wonderful thing about this is

    因為你越瞭解自己 就像我說的那樣 你就越能瞭解對方 這一點很奇妙

  • You're gonna start feeling less fearful and worried about what others think of you because you realize that actually

    你會開始覺得不那麼害怕和擔心別人對你的看法,因為你意識到,實際上

  • They're also going through the same

    他們也在經歷同樣的

  • struggles as you that they are also looking to the world looking to others to determine their worth their value and

    掙扎,因為你,他們也在尋找世界尋找別人確定他們的價值他們的價值和。

  • You can see it in them because you've already recognized it in yourself

    你能在他們身上看到它,因為你已經在自己身上認識到了它

  • And so when you can understand another person you start to feel less fearful about what they'll think of you what they're

    所以當你能理解另一個人的時候 你就會開始不那麼害怕他們會怎麼想你 他們會怎麼想你

  • What you start worrying less about?

    你開始少擔心什麼?

  • Other people's thoughts because it has no value at the end of the day people are wrapped up in their own issues anyway

    別人的想法,因為它沒有價值,反正到最後人們都被自己的問題纏住了。

  • So as long as you can clear your own issues then you can move into the world with more confidence

    所以,只要你能清除自己的問題,那麼你就可以更自信地走向世界了。

  • And if you see someone or interact with a co-worker who is dealing with their own issues you can just be present,

    而如果你看到某個人或與同事交流時,他們正在處理自己的問題,你可以只在現場。

  • observe, assist them if you can, give them advice if you need to,

    觀察,如果可以的話就協助他們,如果需要的話就給他們建議。

  • help them along the way, guide them and interact with them in a way that they're going to feel comforted.

    一路幫助他們,引導他們,與他們互動,讓他們感到欣慰。

  • And you're not doing anything above and beyond who you already are if you don't feel like doing that you don't

    你沒有做任何事情超過和超越你已經是誰 如果你不覺得想做,你不

  • have to, but it's just gonna be you

    不得不這樣做,但它只是會是你。

  • interacting with the world, with people in a completely different way and

    以完全不同的方式與世界、與人互動,並且

  • That's what's going to generate your leadership abilities

    這就是要產生你的上司能力了

  • You know your ability to connect with others, your ability to understand others is what's going to allow you to?

    你知道你與他人溝通的能力,你理解他人的能力,才會讓你?

  • Feel like a genuine leader, and then once you feel like a genuine leader people are going to feel that you are as well.

    覺得自己是一個真正的領導者,那麼一旦你覺得自己是一個真正的領導者,人們也會覺得你是。

  • So there you have it my three questions on how you can overcome

    所以,你有它我的三個問題,你如何克服

  • social anxiety at work and so that you can become the true leader that you're meant to be.

    工作中的社交焦慮,讓你成為真正的領導者,你的意思是。

  • Now if you're someone who is in your current job,

    現在如果你是一個在你現在工作的人。

  • you're not happy there because you realize there is limited growth potential for you, and you're wanting to find the next opportunity

    你在那裡不開心,因為你意識到自己的發展潛力有限,你想尋找下一個機會。

  • But you've been looking