I'm going to walk you through questions that you really want to ask yourself if you find that you're someone who struggles with

我要帶你走過的問題，你真的想問自己，如果你發現你是一個人誰掙扎與

social anxiety at work, in the sense that you have trouble communicating and connecting with your co-workers and your bosses

工作中的社交焦慮，即你與同事和老闆的溝通和交流有困難。

but you want to be able to be seen as

但你要能被人看作是

leadership material and be considered for senior management positions in the future

的上司材料，並考慮在未來擔任高級管理職位。

As a Career Strategist, I've had the pleasure of helping many professionals land their dream job offers

作為一名職業策略師，我很高興幫助許多專業人士獲得他們夢想中的工作機會。

and if you're interested in working with me one-on-one, I can give you details about that at the end of this video. In

如果你有興趣和我一對一合作，我可以在視頻的最後給你詳細介紹。在

my line of work,

我的工作。

I've met all kinds of professionals

我見過各種各樣的專業人士

and there are some that I've come across who, maybe this is you, where you are a very hardworking

有一些，我已經遇到了誰，也許這是你， 你是一個非常勤奮的，

professional, you do a good job in your company, you are recognized for being someone who works extremely hard

專業，你在公司的工作做得很好，你是公認的非常努力的人。

and you take pride in that as well.

而你也以此為榮。

But at the same time, you find that when it comes to developing relationships - really solid bonds with your co-workers, with your bosses and

但同時，你會發現，當涉及到發展人際關係時--與你的同事、與你的老闆和你的老闆之間的真正牢固的紐帶。

being able to portray that sense of confidence within yourself through the way you communicate

能夠通過你的溝通方式來描繪自己內心的自信感。

You struggle a little bit in that area and you know that if you really want to become the leader that you deserve to be

你在這方面有點掙扎，你知道，如果你真的想成為領導者，你就應該成為領導者

in the future that that's something that you really want to work on. So a lot of the time these

在未來，這是你真正想做的事情。所以很多時候這些

professionals would ask me the question, "how can I learn how to communicate better

專業人士會問我這樣的問題："我怎樣才能學會更好的溝通？

to my co-workers and my bosses so that they can see me as leadership potential?Now the thing about that is that

我的同事和我的老闆，這樣他們就可以看到我作為上司的潛力嗎？

communication is one aspect to it

溝通是其中的一個方面

But there's actually a whole other layer that you may not even recognize is something

但其實還有另一層你可能都不認識的東西是

that's holding you back from even being able to

阻礙你甚至能夠... ...

communicate with them in the first place. Because one thing that I really want you to remember is when it comes to being a truly

首先與他們溝通。因為有一件事，我真的想讓你記住的是，當涉及到成為一個真正的。

great leader, so for example when you look at

偉大的領導者，是以，例如當你看著

inspirational people who are leaders in their fields, you find that there's an element of

鼓舞人心的人誰是他們領域的領導者，你會發現，有一個元素的。

authenticity

真實性

they're genuine and

他們是真實的

there's a component to them that really truly knows themself. So for you,

他們有一個真正瞭解自己的部分。所以對你來說

if you really want to be that great leader eventually in your career, you have to really learn more about yourself; know yourself first.

如果你真的想在你的職業生涯中最終成為那個偉大的領導者，你必須真正瞭解更多的自己，先了解自己。

It's not just about working hard. And the more you can know yourself

這不僅僅是努力工作的問題。而且你越能瞭解自己

it's going to give you an advantage because then the more that you're gonna get to know others.

這將給你一個優勢，因為 然後，你會得到更多的瞭解別人。

Because if you can understand your own feelings emotions

因為如果你能理解自己的感受情緒的話

thought

思想

processes, you can start to relate to others from that perspective so it's at a much deeper level and so the bond that you can

過程中，你可以開始從這個角度與他人聯繫，所以它是在一個更深的層次，所以你可以的紐帶，你可以

create with other people, other human beings, is going to be at a much deeper level

與其他的人，其他的人，創造是在一個更深的層次上

than just very surface level conversation. So now let's go through the questions

而不僅僅是很表面的對話。所以現在讓我們通過問題

and I want you as we go through to really ask yourself is this something that I'm dealing with and

我想讓你通過我們去真正問自己 這是我正在處理的東西和

From there you'll be able to figure out a way to really improve yourself in that area. Question #1 that you want to ask yourself:

從中你就能找出一個真正提高自己在這方面的方法。你要問自己的問題1。

"Is there a place inside of me that is seeking their approval?"

"我的內心是不是有一個地方在尋求他們的認同？"

I completely understand that if you were interacting with your boss or your boss's boss or their boss

我完全可以理解，如果你和你的老闆或者你老闆的老闆或者他們的老闆交流的話

Or anyone in the you know sort of senior executive management team that at times you may feel

或者是你知道的那種高級行政管理團隊中的任何人，有時你可能會感覺到。

Intimidated because it's hard for you to feel completely yourself around them and especially if you're coming from a background where

被嚇到了，因為你很難在他們身邊感受到完全的自我，尤其是如果你來自一個有以下背景的地方

You are told to respect your elders growing up especially for someone like me growing up in an Asian household

你從小就被告知要尊重長輩 尤其是像我這樣在亞洲家庭長大的人，更是如此

We were always told to respect our elders and so

我們總是被告知要尊重長輩，所以... ...

Whether or not they were older if they had a higher rank

如果他們有更高的級別，他們的年齡是否更大

You had to show respect you had to be polite you had to be courteous

你必須表現出尊重，你必須有禮貌 你必須有禮貌。

So it's almost like when you interact with them it you feel as though subconsciously

所以當你和他們交流的時候 你會覺得好像在潛意識裡...

You don't even realize it you're almost feeling as though you're bowing down to them

你甚至沒有意識到 你幾乎覺得自己在向他們低頭

Because on the inside you think that's a sign of respect. I'm being polite and courteous to them, but do you actually know?

因為你內心認為那是一種尊重的表現。我對他們很客氣，很有禮貌，但你真的知道嗎？

What's happening when you're interacting with them in that way? You're actually making the other person feel a little awkward

當你這樣和他們互動的時候，發生了什麼？你其實是讓對方覺得有點尷尬的

Because what's actually happening without you even realizing it is that you're looking to that person to

因為實際上發生的事情，你都沒有意識到，你在尋找那個人，以

Validate you to make you feel worthy of yourself

驗證你，讓你覺得自己有價值。

Instead of showcasing your own Worth and your own value just front on with them. You're almost

而不是展示自己的Worth和自己的價值，只是和他們正面。你幾乎

Lowering yourself to them and asking them to give you approval for who you are. Now, unless that

把自己降低到他們面前，讓他們認可你的身份。現在，除非

Senior Manager or Director or Boss, whoever they are is

高級經理或總監或老闆，不管他們是誰，都是。

someone who is wrapped up in his or her ego

妄自尊大者

And they love going on power trips unless they're that person for the most part

而且他們喜歡去權力旅行，除非他們是那個人，否則大多數情況下

they're gonna feel a little uncomfortable if you treat them that way and

他們會覺得有點不舒服，如果你對待他們的方式和

They are going to see you the way that you see yourself because you're lowering yourself in front of them

他們會看到你的方式，你看到自己的方式，因為你在他們面前降低自己的地位

They're gonna look down on you. Are they not human too?

他們會看不起你的。難道他們也不是人嗎？

Are they not of the same essence that you and I are? They are human too.

他們和你我的本質不一樣嗎？他們也是人。

Just because that they're at a higher level in their career doesn't necessarily mean that you have to

只是因為他們是在一個較高的水準 在他們的職業生涯並不一定意味著你有

lower yourself in front of them, seek their approval and

俯首帖耳，求之不得

show a certain side of you

顯山露水

That is not authentic to who you are. So if I'm telling you to not seek their approval

這不是真實的你是誰。所以，如果我告訴你不要尋求他們的認可。

what do I actually mean? I mean you need to approve of yourself first.

我到底是什麼意思？我的意思是你要先認可自己。

You need to know your value and what your worth is. What you have to remember is this:

你要知道自己的價值，知道自己的價值是什麼。你要記住的是。

people will see you the way that you see yourself.

人們會看到你的方式，你看到自己。

So you need to turn the lens around and instead of looking at how other people react to you

所以你需要把鏡頭轉過來，而不是看別人對你的反應。

And how they view you you need to first ask yourself. How do I view myself?

而他們如何看待你，你需要先問問自己。我如何看待自己？

because if you can embody the

因為如果你能體現出

valuable, worthy, confident person that you are, the professional that you are, knowing that you're hardworking, knowing that you're smart, knowing that you're capable,

有價值、有價值、有自信的人，你是專業的人，知道你很努力，知道你很聰明，知道你很有能力。

knowing that any company would be happy to have you in the role that you're doing

知道任何一家公司都會很樂意讓你擔任你正在做的角色

because you know you've been able to do well if you can start to embody all of that and believe that within yourself then that's

因為你知道你已經能夠做得很好 如果你能開始體現這一切，並相信你自己的內心，那麼這就是

going to

將要

present a different energy

異能

To these higher up individuals or even to just your colleagues and as you see yourself in a more valuable

對這些更高層的人，甚至只是對你的同事，當你看到自己在一個更有價值的。

Worthy from a more valuable worthy point of view they're gonna see that of you as well. Question #2:

從更有價值的價值角度來看，他們也會看到你的價值。問題二：

"Why do I feel less or smaller than these people in their presence?" Now,

"為什麼在這些人面前，我覺得自己不如他們，或者說比他們小？"現在

This is very similar to what we talked about in question number one, but this is really about knowing yourself

這與我們在問題一中談到的非常相似，但這其實是關於認識自己的問題。

So let's take it to the next level and dive deeper into this. If you find yourself struggling to develop strong

是以，讓我們把它提升到一個新的水準，並深入研究這個問題。如果你發現自己在努力發展強大的

bonds with people around you, in your workplace, your co-workers, your

與你周圍的人，在你的工作場所，你的同事，你的紐帶。

bosses and whatnot... you really have to ask yourself. What is causing me to feel

老闆什麼的... 你真的要問自己，是什麼讓我覺得

smaller than them? Where did that come from?

比他們小？哪裡來的？

That's the real key. The reason why it's important to ask yourself the source

這才是真正的關鍵。為什麼要問自己的源頭？

where the source of this truly came from is is because as soon as you can identify?

這真正的源頭來自於哪裡，就是因為只要你能確定?

Where it originated from this feeling of feeling not good enough feeling small is

這種感覺不夠好感覺渺小的感覺起源於哪裡呢？

When you can fully understand yourself, and you can fully understand how you came to

當你能充分了解自己，你也能充分了解你是如何走過來的

Feel the way that you feel about yourself and once you understand it you bring awareness to it

感受你對自己的感覺，一旦你瞭解它，你就會把意識帶到它的身上

What ends up happening is you end up detaching from it it ends up. Just oh I get it now

最後發生的事情是你最終脫離了它的結局。只是哦，我現在明白了

That's why I feel this way. Oh well

所以我才會有這樣的感覺。哦，好吧

I don't have to hold on that hold on to that any longer

我不需要再抱著那個抱著那個了。

And I can let that go. So if you can start to take yourself down to that deep level and say where did this start?

而我可以讓它去。所以，如果你能開始把自己帶到那個深層次，說這是從哪裡開始的？

It could have been from your upbringing

可能是你的成長環境造成的。

Actually the likelihood is that it came from your upbringing

其實很有可能是你的成長環境造成的。

Where perhaps your parents, your family situation,

哪裡或許你的父母，你的家庭情況。

you were raised in a way where you were taught that you had to lower yourself in front of

你從小就被灌輸了一個道理 你必須在你的面前放低自己的身段

"older wiser people" and

"老年智者 "和

You had to assume that you just didn't know as much and if that was the case

你不得不認為你只是不知道那麼多，如果是這樣的話。

You really need to make sure that

你真的需要確保

That was something that happened to you when you were younger that happened to you back then

那是你年輕時發生的事情，那時候發生在你身上的事情。

But it doesn't have to be something that you carry forward with you now as an adult.

但它不一定是你現在作為一個成年人所要繼承的東西。

It could have just been an experience that you dealt with but now it's time to

這可能只是你處理的一次經歷，但現在是時候了。

Recognize it for what it is, where it came from,

認清它是什麼，它從哪裡來。

understand it fully and then fully let it go. And the great thing about going through this

完全理解它，然後完全放手。而最偉大的事情是通過這個

self-reflection deep-dive process of understanding where the source of these feelings come from is

自我反思 深入瞭解這些感受的來源的過程是

That it doesn't have to take years... it can be instantaneous as long as you're willing to put in the effort to dig deep so

不一定要花好幾年的時間... 只要你願意花力氣去深挖，就能瞬間實現。

Reflect on this and once you are able to find the answer to where the source of your feelings come from, you're able to

反思一下，一旦你能夠找到答案，你的感情源頭來自哪裡，你就能夠做到

understand yourself better you're able to detach from it let it go and

你能更好地瞭解你自己，你就能從它那裡脫離出來，讓它去，並

you're able to appreciate the lesson that it's taught you about yourself and

你能夠體會到它所教給你的關於你自己的教訓和

Then from there you're going to be able to move forward in your career with a more positive outlook and with greater levels of confidence.

那麼從那以後，你將能夠以更積極的態度和更大的信心在你的職業生涯中前進。

Question #3:

問題3：

"Do I know

"我知道

how to truly be myself and

如何真正做自己和

express who I really am?" After you've gone through questions 1 & 2 you'll probably get to a point where you're gonna say now:

表達我到底是誰？"在你經歷了問題1和2之後，你可能會到了現在要說的地步。

so what? now what? how do I act in front of others? How do I present myself? How do I express who I am?

所以呢，現在怎麼辦，我怎麼在別人面前表現呢？我如何表現自己？我如何表達我是誰？

Who am I? and the answer is you don't present... you don't act...

我是誰 答案是你沒有表現... 你沒有行動...

You're just simply there.

你只是簡單地在那裡。

You're just simply you. You connect. You connect with the people that are around you in a genuine way without

你只是簡單的你。你與人溝通。你與你周圍的人以一種真誠的方式連接起來，而不需要

looking to them for approval, without looking to them

仰人鼻息，俯人耳目

to determine who you are. You are instead determining who you are first

來決定你是誰。你首先要確定自己是誰

Knowing who you are from the inside first and portraying that outwards

先從內心瞭解自己是誰，然後再向外展示。

Not looking to the world for feedback about who you are and what makes you special and then

不向世界尋求關於你是誰以及你的特別之處的反饋，然後。

Swallowing and taking that in. That's the reverse way of living, so to be a truly authentic genuine leader

吞吞吐吐的接受。這就是逆向的生活方式，所以要想成為一個真正的真正的領導者

It's about living from the inside out. It's about understanding who you are

這是關於由內而外的生活。這是關於瞭解你是誰

truthfully from the inside understanding all your nuances and then being able to connect with another

從內心深處真實地瞭解你所有的細微差別，然後能夠與另一個人溝通。

human being in a genuine way

真正的人

Because the more you understand yourself like I said the more you can understand the other person and the wonderful thing about this is

因為你越瞭解自己 就像我說的那樣 你就越能瞭解對方 這一點很奇妙

You're gonna start feeling less fearful and worried about what others think of you because you realize that actually

你會開始覺得不那麼害怕和擔心別人對你的看法，因為你意識到，實際上

They're also going through the same

他們也在經歷同樣的

struggles as you that they are also looking to the world looking to others to determine their worth their value and

掙扎，因為你，他們也在尋找世界尋找別人確定他們的價值他們的價值和。

You can see it in them because you've already recognized it in yourself

你能在他們身上看到它，因為你已經在自己身上認識到了它

And so when you can understand another person you start to feel less fearful about what they'll think of you what they're

所以當你能理解另一個人的時候 你就會開始不那麼害怕他們會怎麼想你 他們會怎麼想你

What you start worrying less about?

你開始少擔心什麼？

Other people's thoughts because it has no value at the end of the day people are wrapped up in their own issues anyway

別人的想法，因為它沒有價值，反正到最後人們都被自己的問題纏住了。

So as long as you can clear your own issues then you can move into the world with more confidence

所以，只要你能清除自己的問題，那麼你就可以更自信地走向世界了。

And if you see someone or interact with a co-worker who is dealing with their own issues you can just be present,

而如果你看到某個人或與同事交流時，他們正在處理自己的問題，你可以只在現場。

observe, assist them if you can, give them advice if you need to,

觀察，如果可以的話就協助他們，如果需要的話就給他們建議。

help them along the way, guide them and interact with them in a way that they're going to feel comforted.

一路幫助他們，引導他們，與他們互動，讓他們感到欣慰。

And you're not doing anything above and beyond who you already are if you don't feel like doing that you don't

你沒有做任何事情超過和超越你已經是誰 如果你不覺得想做，你不

have to, but it's just gonna be you

不得不這樣做，但它只是會是你。

interacting with the world, with people in a completely different way and

以完全不同的方式與世界、與人互動，並且

That's what's going to generate your leadership abilities

這就是要產生你的上司能力了

You know your ability to connect with others, your ability to understand others is what's going to allow you to?

你知道你與他人溝通的能力，你理解他人的能力，才會讓你?

Feel like a genuine leader, and then once you feel like a genuine leader people are going to feel that you are as well.

覺得自己是一個真正的領導者，那麼一旦你覺得自己是一個真正的領導者，人們也會覺得你是。

So there you have it my three questions on how you can overcome

所以，你有它我的三個問題，你如何克服

social anxiety at work and so that you can become the true leader that you're meant to be.

工作中的社交焦慮，讓你成為真正的領導者，你的意思是。

Now if you're someone who is in your current job,

現在如果你是一個在你現在工作的人。

you're not happy there because you realize there is limited growth potential for you, and you're wanting to find the next opportunity

你在那裡不開心，因為你意識到自己的發展潛力有限，你想尋找下一個機會。

But you've been looking for several months

但你已經找了幾個月了

And it just has not been working and you realize that you need to learn how to sell yourself more

而它只是一直沒有工作，你意識到你需要學習如何更多的推銷自己。

Effectively then feel free to head on over to my website lindaraynier.com/standoutgethired

有效地，那麼請隨意前往我的網站lindaraynier.com/standoutgethired。

That's my 1-on-1 coaching program where I work with professionals

這是我的1對1教練計劃，我和專業人士一起工作。

Who are looking to land their dream job offers and I help them along that way

哪些人正在尋找他們夢想中的工作機會，而我則幫助他們實現這一目標。

Along the way and along the process so if this is something that you're interested in then fill out the application form if and

一路走來，一路走來，所以如果這是你感興趣的東西，那麼填寫申請表，如果和。

if I feel that you're a fit,

如果我覺得你適合。

I will reach out to you. [Music queue] If you like this video then please give it a thumbs up subscribe share it with your friends

我會主動聯繫你的。[音樂隊列]如果你喜歡這個視頻，那麼請豎起大拇指訂閱，與你的朋友分享它

Thank you so much for watching, and I will see you next time.

非常感謝你的觀看，我們下次再見。