If you're avidly checking up on old classmates, your ex or even your friends on Instagram or Facebook, let's be real here, are you really just curious or does it come from a dark place of self-doubt?

如果你會狂熱地在 Instagram 或臉書查看老同學、前任、或甚至你的朋友，我們誠實談談吧，你真的只是好奇，還是這行為來自自我懷疑的深淵？

It's normal to get insecure every once in a while, but when it's on overdrive, it can destroy you.

偶爾感到不安非常正常，但當這過度發生時，不安會毀了你。

Here are "10 signs Insecurity's are ruining your life."

以下是「10 個不安正在摧毀你的生活的跡象」。

1. You're a perfectionist.

第一，你是完美主義者。

Are you a straight-A student, president of your school's debate Club, juggling three other extracurricular activities and still make time to hit the gym, eat kale and finish that extra credit assignment?

你是只拿 A 的學生、學校辯論社的社長、有三個其他課外活動卻仍有時間去健身、吃甘藍菜、會完成能額外加分作業的人嗎？

On paper, you look polished, dedicated and more than capable.

在書面上，你看起來會幹練、專注、非常有能力。

But if you're only doing all these tasks to maintain your image more than as an act of fulfillment, it prevents yourself from living honestly.

但如果你做這些事情只是為了維持形象，並不只是為了自身成就感，這就會讓你無法誠實過活。

2. You're highly-competitive.

第二，你非常好勝。

When people are insecure, they have a tendency to one-up others.

當人們不安時，他們通常會想領先別人。

It's hard for them to be happy for other people's success when it makes them feel inferior, so they try to make up for it and treat everything like one big competition.

當他們覺得他人成功會讓自己低一等時，他們不會為他人感到開心，所以他們為了彌補自身情緒，會把每件事當成競賽。

Step down from the social ladder, practice gratitude and appreciate other people's accomplishments the same way you appreciate your own.

從社會階層走下來吧，練習感激、欣賞他人成就，就像你欣賞自身成就。

3. You boast about your accomplishments.

第三，你誇耀自身成就。

It's normal to brag when you go in for a job interview, but if you're always trying to impress others with your certifications, the clothes that you wear or the car that you drive, something's not right.

工作面試時誇耀很正常，但當你總是想靠證照、衣服、車子來使別人印象深刻時，顯示有事情出錯了。

Your success should speak for itself.

你的成功會自行發聲。

Remember, you're not what you say, you're what you do.

記得，不是你說的話代表你，而是你做的行為。

4. You get offended easily.

第四，你很容易被冒犯。

Do you take things personally, even if the other person was just providing constructive feedback?

你會常常讓事情往心裡去嗎，即使另一個人提出的意見是有建設性的？

It's okay to be sensitive, but when you're always quick to put your walls up, it makes it hard for people to help you or even enjoy being around you for that matter.

敏感沒關係，但如果你總是很快築起一道牆，會讓人難以幫助你，或甚至連享受待在你身邊都不行。

5. You also offend others.

第五，你也會冒犯他人。

It's one thing to feel attacked, but it's another thing to do the attacking.

感到被攻擊是一回事，去攻擊別人又是另一回事。

Have you been lashing out at others or been putting them down?

你有沒有對別人發飆過，或一直看貶他們？

If this is what you resort to in order to feel superior, you're only being rude and unapproachable.

如果你用攻擊他人來讓自己感到高人一等，你只是在讓人覺得你行為粗魯且難以靠近而已。

6. You avoid commitment.

第六，你迴避承諾。

Insecure people have a habit of ruining perfectly good relationships with others.

不安的人有毀掉完美關係的習慣。

If you've been keeping someone at arm's length or avoiding the "what are we" conversation, you're not just signing up for miscommunication, you're hurting someone who deserves a straightforward answer.

如果你把某人放在一定距離的位置，並逃避「我們現在狀況是怎樣」的對話，你不只是溝通不良，你還是在傷害一個值得收到直接答案的人。

On the contrary, you may also depend on your partner too much; wanting to feel desired but refusing to commit.

相反地，你可能也會太依賴伴侶，想感到被渴望，卻拒絕承諾。

7. You feel a need to please others.

第七，你覺得你需要去取悅他人。

Are you quick to help others before putting your own health first?

你會不會把他人擺在自身健康前面？

There's a fine line between being kind and overextending yourself.

做個友善的人和過度消耗自己有條明確的界線。

Insecurity often causes the individual to feel as though their lives do not belong to them; consequently, they may lose themselves further by fulfilling other people's happiness.

不安常常會讓人覺得生活並不屬於自己，因此，他們可能會為了滿足他人快樂而失去自我。

This can easily cause you to feel resentment.

這樣很容易讓你感到不滿。

Remember, you have more control than you think.

記住，你有比想像中擁有更多的控制權。

8. You live on social media more than in the present.

第八，比起活在現實中，你更活在社群媒體中。

Taking photos so you can look back on them one day is great, but are you constantly updating your Instagram instead of living in the moment?

為了有天能回顧而拍照很棒，但你是否不斷地在更新 Instagram，而不是專注在現實？

When you're preoccupied with your online reputation, how many Likes you get and being in the spotlight, you grow dependent on being noticed and seek validation from others.

當你全神貫注在網路上的名聲中，像拿到多少讚數和被注目，你會漸漸依賴於受到關注到這件事並向他人尋求認同。

9. You constantly think about what you don't have.

第九，你常常會想著自己不擁有的東西。

When your insecurities build up over time, you may be prone to developing anxiety and depression.

隨著時間，你的不安層層堆疊，可能會發展出焦慮或憂鬱症。

Telling yourself you're not good enough can cause you to believe you're not worthy of having friends, so you begin to retreat, which is a common symptom of these mental disorders.

不斷告訴自己自己不夠好，會讓你相信你不值得擁有朋友，所以你開始撤退，是這些心理失調的普遍症狀之一。

And 10, you run away from your potential.

第十，你會逃離自身潛力。

Do you live more in your imagination than in reality?

比起現實，你更活在想像中嗎？

Insecurity has a habit of robbing us of our opportunities to grow.

不安是種習慣，會奪走我們成長的機會。

You might have talents, brains and skills to achieve your dreams, but what holds you back are your fears.

你可能有達成夢想的天份、腦袋、技能，但恐懼把你絆住了。

Instead of moving past the fear of failure, you might just share your ideas with people to get some sort of praise, but they'll never get to see you actualize them.

與其有實際克服對失敗的恐懼的作為，你會為了得到一些稱讚而和大家分享想法，但他們永遠看不到你實際行動。

What insecurities are you struggling with right now?

你現在正和什麼不安搏鬥呢？

We're all ears; let us know in the comments down below.

我們全心傾聽，請在底下留言讓我們知道。

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