Have you ever wondered, what kind of parenting you grew up under?

你是否曾經想過，你在哪種教養方式下成長？

Do you think your relationship with your parents is toxic?

你認為你和父母的關係是惡毒的嗎？

A parent is toxic when their negative behavior impacts and even damages their children's emotional and mental well being.

當父母的負面行為影響甚至損害到孩子的情緒和心理健康時，父母就算是有毒家長。

So here are five types of toxic parents.

那麼，這邊來介紹五種有毒家長的類型。

One, "The Controlling Parent."

第一種是「控制型父母」。

Do your parents control what you do?

你的父母是否會控制你的一舉一動？

Do they constantly try to manipulate and control your decisions, feelings, and actions?

他們是否不斷地嘗試操縱和控制你的決定，感受和行為？

For example: They try to dictate what career path to take.

例如：他們試圖為你決定你的職涯。

Even if it goes against what you want.

即便那不是你想從事的行業。

While their involvement can lead to positive outcomes, inappropriate or excessive involvement can lead to a higher level of anxiety and depression in their children.

雖然他們的參與可能會有正面的效果，然而不適當或過度的參與會導致孩子更加焦慮和沮喪。

Two, "The Parent with Unrealistic Expectations."

第二種是「懷有不切實際期望的父母」。

Were you ever scared of failing to meet your parent's expectations and disappointing them?

你是否曾經害怕無法達到父母的期望並讓他們失望？

It's normal for parents to want the best for their children.

父母想要孩子好是正常的。

However, when these expectations become unrealistic, it can place a lot of pressure on their children.

但是，當這些期望變得不切實際時，就會給孩子帶來很大的壓力。

You may feel stressed about being unable to meet those expectations, which could lead to feelings of inadequacy and low self-esteem.

你可能會因為無法達到這些期望而感到壓力，導致你認為自己有不足的地方或感到自卑。

Number three, "The Verbally Abusive Parent."

第三種是「言語暴力型父母」。

There's a difference between scolding and verbal abuse.

責罵和言語侮辱不一樣。

They might say, "Why aren't you studying? Doing some practice questions can help you feel more prepared."

父母責罵時可能會說：「你為什麼沒有在讀書？做一些練習題可能會讓你更有把握。」

Verbal Abuse, on the other hand, is a destructive form of communication.

然而，言語侮辱是一種有害的溝通方式。

They may say something like, "Why aren't you studying? You're so lazy and useless."

他們可能會說：「你為什麼沒有在讀書？你真的很懶惰、沒用。」

When this happens, you could end up internalizing the remarks.

當這種情況發生時，你可能會把這些話放在心裡。

Which could lead to self-deprecation and low self-esteem.

這有可能導致自我貶低和自卑的情緒。

Four, "The Invasive Parent."

第四種是「侵入型的父母」。

Do your parents know little about having boundaries?

你的父母是否對界限這個觀念不太了解？

Did they look through your phone or your diary without your permission?

他們是否在未經你允許的情況下看你的手機或日記？

It's important that you have your own personal space.

擁有自己的私人空間非常重要。

Especially, when you're growing up.

特別是在你成長的過程中。

The constant invasion of privacy may lead you to find yourself resorting to lying and hiding.

不斷侵犯隱私的行為有可能會導致你只能說謊或躲避。

The lack of personal space can be the cause of an uneasy and distant relationship between parent and child.

缺乏私人空間有可能是父母和子女之間不安和疏遠關係的原因。

Five, "The Neglectful Parent."

第五種是「忽視小孩的父母」。

On the other hand, do your parents rarely check in on your everyday life?

另一方面，你的父母是否很少關心你的日常生活？

Neglect is a form of child maltreatment that can lead to negative social, behavioral, and cognitive impacts on a child.

忽視孩子是對孩子的一種虐待，也有可能導致孩子在社交、行為和認知上有負面的影響。

Having a neglectful parent can also result in a distant relationship, as you may feel like they were never present in your life.

父母的疏忽也有可能導致疏遠的關係，因為你會覺得他們好像跟你毫無關係。

For example: Parents who are substance or alcohol abusers may have difficulty giving the proper care that their children need.

例如：濫用毒品或酗酒的父母可能會無法給予孩子所需的照料。

What are your thoughts on these types of toxic parents?

你對這種有毒家長有什麼看法？

Do you relate to any of the parenting types in this video?

你有體會過影片中提到的教養方式嗎？

Let us know in the comments below.

在底下留言告訴我們。

If you find this video helpful, be sure to like, subscribe, and share this video with those who might benefit from it.

如果這個影片對你有幫助，記得按讚、訂閱我們的頻道，並分享給看了可能會有收穫的人。

References and studies used in this video are added in the description below.

這支影片所使用的參考資料和研究都備註在底下資訊欄。

Thanks for watching, and we'll see you on our next one!

謝謝觀賞，我們在下一支影片見！