and life you love.

If you want to experience more joy and more love and more ease as you reach your goals,

this, my friend, is the episode for you.

Gabrielle Bernstein is the number one New York Times bestselling author of The Universe

Has Your Back, Miracles Now, May Cause Miracles, Add More Ing to Your Life, Spirit Junkie,

and the Judgment Detox.

She was featured on Oprah's Super Soul Sunday as the next generation thought leader, and

the New York Times named her a new role model.

Gabby leads talks and meditations for sold out audiences around the world and teamed

up with Deepak Chopra at a co-host, the Guinness World Records largest group meditation.

Her newest book is Super Attractor, Methods for Manifesting a Life Beyond Your Wildest

Dreams.

Gabby.

Marie.

I'm so happy.

First of all, you're the first one on our new beautiful set.

I feel really good on your set.

Yeah.

You color coordinate well.

Pretty glad I didn't wear pink, though.

Yeah.

No, it's a good choice.

So much has happened since the last time that you've been on the show.

Congratulations.

You have a beautiful son named Oliver now.

I'm a mom.

Yeah.

How's that feel?

It's profound, and I just have so much respect for all the mamas out there.

It is a life-changing experience.

People always say to you and you're like, "Oh, yeah.

Totally."

And then you have a baby, and you're like, "Oh my God.

What just happened to me?"

You know, it's been mind blowing and he's an angel.

I have an angel baby.

He's so easy.

He sleeps so well.

He is so happy and he has red hair.

Really?

He has red hair and my face.

Like if you just took my face and just put it on a little baby, this is my child.

Yeah.

He's the cutest.

Every picture I've seen so far, he's amazing.

Okay, so Super Attractor.

You guys, phenomenal.

Tell me about this latest book.

What was the inspiration behind it?

You know, my son actually really inspired a lot of this book.

I've spoken very publicly about how it took me several years, three years, to conceive.

And I had to adjust my belief system to allow myself to be in a state of alignment, to really

manifest what became my child.

You know, birthing this boy.

He's a big story throughout the book.

And a big part of it was about having to just really do a complete adjustment of my attitude

and my belief systems and really walk my talk as a spiritual teacher and a manifestor and

someone who believes in a higher power.

And so I made that commitment in my own life, and then it was really clear that this was

something I had to start to write about in a bigger way.

In some ways, it's sort of like the next step to my book, The Universe Has Your Back, because

The Universe Has Your Back was really about transforming your fear into faith.

Then, there was this moment of, "And then what?

Now that I've done this heavy lifting, what can I do with that new energy?"

And that's what Super Attractor is.

And what does it mean to a super attractor?

How would you define that?

What it means to be a super attractor is that what you believe, you will receive.

You align yourself with an energy and a belief system and a thought system that magnetizes

what it is that you desire.

So you start to really commit fully to what I referred to in the book as your alignment,

being in full alignment with feeling good and sticking to, leaning towards the better

feeling thoughts and working your way out of the negative holes and patterns and momentum

behind the negativity so that you can be an amazing attractor for what it is that you

desire without having to do so much.

It's a really hard thing for many of us.

I know, you know, especially in our culture right now.

I'll say, you know, you grew up with and one of my strongest qualities is my work ethic,

so it can be challenging for some of us to hear this and go like, "But wait."

You know what I mean?

Yeah.

It's like kind of shakes the ground to think that things could actually happen with more

ease, but it makes so much sense to think about.

Also, just the wellbeing that comes from aligning yourself with feeling good.

There's so much that we can dig into here.

Well, I actually want to say something to that, though, because you are a really good

example of someone who's a super attractor given you work a lot.

Yeah.

But you are so aligned with your work that it doesn't feel like work.

Right.

Sometimes it does, but a lot of the time, like...

And so those times when it does, that's when you want to check yourself, go read the book,

and get yourself back into alignment, because...

Well, for the most part, the successes you've had are a result of you taking action from

alignment.

Yeah.

And we've known each other for such a long time, so you...

You know, Gabby and I have been friends for so long, so she has seen me in front of the

camera, behind the camera.

We have so many conversations, and I really do love what I do.

I love what you wrote on page 51.

You write, "The key to feeling good is to decide to stop feeling bad.

It's as simple and profound as that."

So for anyone watching right now, and I know there are thousands if not hundreds of thousands

of folks who are saying to themselves, "But I have really tough circumstances at the moment.

I have an illness.

I'm suffering from a loss.

There was a situation that came and just rocked me back that I didn't expect.

For anyone that feels that maybe the key to feeling good is to decide to stop feeling

bad, that feels like an unrealistic jump, what would you say to them to start to make

this shift so it can feel authentic?

Well, that's when you need it most.

Actually, I'll get very personal with your MarieTV people today.

I had to really live this one recently.

Five months into my postpartum, I was diagnosed with postpartum anxiety and went off the rails.

This is something that people don't talk about.

This is something I'm so proud to talk about here on MarieTV with so many women watching.

Yes.

And it was very, very scary.

And so in those dark, dark moments, when you're having a biochemical issue and you don't know

what's going on, how can you just decide to feel good?

I want to really speak to that person out there who is thinking, "You know, I've lost

my job.

I have no money to pay the bills or I'm dealing with depression and I can't get out of it.

Or, you know, I've lost a family member or a loved one.

I'm grieving.

What the hell are you talking about?

How can I decide to feel good?"

Well, I've been there recently.

And in that recent experience of really hitting another bottom in my life, the only way up

was to decide to feel good.

And when I say I had to decide to feel good, I didn't have to just say overnight, "Okay,

I'm going to feel better right now."

I had to make a commitment to do whatever it took to get to the next better feeling.

That meant calling a specific doctor.

That might've meant reaching for a different thought.

That might've meant not telling the same negative story over and over and over again, not calling

a thousand people to obsess about the problem.

These small adjustments were my decision to feel good.

And so when you say, "I'm going to decide to feel good," it doesn't mean that I'm going

to be better tomorrow.

But it means that I'm going to start to reach for a better feeling each second so that I

can get myself out and start to create different momentum rather than the momentum of the feeling.

I love that.

And we're going to get to that in a little bit, in terms of the Abraham Hicks kind of

emotional feelings.

Actually, why don't we just go there now?

Let's talk about that, because I know Abraham Hicks...

I have run into so many friends recently––it's wild––that have talked about the power

of that teaching.

You and I've talked about it before, but I feel like it's kind of in the zeitgeist again

in a bigger way right now.

You refer to...

I think it's here.

I have it flagged in my Super Attractor book.

It is the emotional guidance scale.

Tell us a little bit about what this is and why it's important, how it's relevant to what

you just shared.

Esther Hicks is a channel for these beings of love, I would say, really, voices of love

called Abraham.

And it's a big theme throughout this book, which is really the teachings of Abraham.

Anyone that's speaking about the law of attraction in an authentic way is in some way referencing

Abraham.

Period.

End of story.

I mean, The Secret was based on the principles of Abraham.

And so one of their beautiful methods is this method called the emotional guidance scale.

The theory is that you wouldn't go from doubt or devastation to love over one beat.

You wouldn't just leap there, but you would start to go up the scale.

The top of the scale is joy.

But I'm actually going to start at the bottom of the scale, because you want to reach for

the next best emotion.

And so it starts with hatred and rage.

And then if you get to a place of revenge, that's actually a better vibration than hatred

and rage.

Whereas if you're going to anger, anger is a better vibration than revenge.

Then, it goes to discouragement, blame, worry, doubt.

This is all moving up.

Doubt is better than worry.

Disappointment, better than doubt.

Overwhelm, frustration.

Pessimism.

Boredom.

Contentment.

And so now, you're at contentment, and the next leap is hopefulness.

The next leap is now optimism.

The next leap is positive expectation, then enthusiasm, passion, and then joy, appreciation

and love.

The concept here is that let's say you're super angry at somebody and you're just so

stuck in that anger and then you move into blame.

You just leap up and you're in blame.

You're like, "I'm going to blame them for all my..."

It's actually a better feeling that anger.

So the concept here is that you're reaching for a better feeling vibration, and you're

reaching yourself out of that low vibration of hatred and rage and getting yourself up

the scale.

I think what's so cool about this when I read it was it gives people an opportunity to take

a tiny step in the right direction.

Totally.

Because for so many of us, you know, there may be times⁠—right?⁠⁠—when we can

shift out and it can be that fast and you just have that possibility.

But for the times when we can't, to have another option just feels hopeful.

Absolutely.

Feels really hopeful.

Yeah.

So let's talk about your three-step choose again method, which recurred throughout the

book.

And I thought it was...

I love simple concepts, because we can remember them and we can practice them and they actually

work.

So tell us about the choose again method.

This is how I've probably lived my life for over a decade now with this three-step process.

And it's something that's always going on in the background.

In some ways, it's a little bit like cognitive behavioral therapy where you're rethinking

something and you're reprogramming and revisiting and reframing.

It's a moment-to-moment subtle shift that you create on your own to start to create

a new pattern and a new energy.

So the first step is you witness the fear-based thought.

You look at the thought.

You're looking at it, you're like, "This isn't what I want.