have about love, lust, romance, and everything in between. For more, visit me on twitter

你們對於 愛 慾望 浪漫 以及所有相關的問題 如果還想知道其他的事情

@downtownshallon or be sure to check out my website shallononline.com. Now boys, I know

請在推特 @downtownshallon 上找我 或是 搜尋我的網站 shallononline.com

that first dates can be incredibly nerve racking, but think of girls like spiders. They're more

男生們 我知道第一次約會讓人超緊張 但是想一想那些怕蜘蛛的女生們

afraid of you than you are of them. But still. you can take several key steps to make sure

她們比你更擔心 但是 你可以採取以下幾個重要步驟

that your first date is awesome. Number one: take some time to dress nice. The worst date

來確保你的第一次約會完美無缺 首先 花點時間打扮自己

I ever went on is when I showed up wearing a super cute dress like this one and the guy

我遇過最糟的約會是 當我穿著像這樣類似超級可愛洋裝的時候

was literally in a track suit. Like he'd just come from the gym. And he was slouched down

而那位先生竟然直接穿運動裝出現 好像剛從體育館出來一樣

in his chair with his legs open. Sit up in you chair. Sit up straight. A girl is definitely

而且他無精打采 兩腳開開坐在椅子上 坐要有坐相 然後坐直挺胸

taking her time to look nice. You should do the same. This means doing your hair. Putting

一個女孩絕對會花時間好好裝扮自己 你也應該這樣做 意思是說 弄個頭髮

on a clean, wrinkle free shirt, I know, what a concept. And a few spritz off cologne. No

穿上乾淨 平整的襯衫 我知道這是常識 然後再噴上一點古龍水

more than two. Cause girls love the way you smell and not enough boys wear cologne but

別噴太多 因為女生們喜歡你身上的香味 但很少男生會噴古龍水

you can bet that she's gonna have a little bit of perfume on. Always, always open doors.

可是你總會希望女生身上有點香味吧? 然後拜託! 一定要幫女生開門

Girls notice your manners way more than they're gonna notice whether or not you have on the

女生們會注意你的禮貌 而不是把重點放在你穿多好看的鞋子

coolest shoes. One of the best boyfriends I ever had was also the most polite. He would

我曾有個超棒的某任男友 他超有禮貌

stand up when I would get up and leave the table. He would open doors. And you know what

當我離開座位的時候 他會跟著站起來 他會幫我開門 你知道他還會做什麼嗎?

else he would do boys, he would always pay for the date. I know, the girl's gonna do

他約會吃飯都會付清 我知道 女生基於禮貌

the polite reach, 'oh, can I give you some money', you say no. This is a trap. You say

還是會給錢 說: 噢 我可以幫忙付一點 你說不用 這是個陷阱 你要說不用

no. You're taking a woman out. And dating is just like anything else. You have to be

約會就像所有事情一樣 你帶女生出門

able to afford it to do it. This doesn't mean that you have to be super rich to date a girl.

就是要能負擔的起所有事情 不是說你得要變成土豪才能跟女生約會

There are plenty of things you can do that are low budget, or free. You can have a picnic

你可以有很多低預算的事可以做 甚至不用花一毛錢 像是你們可以去野餐啊

and go for a walk on the beach. You can just watch a movie at your house. There's a lot

或是在沙灘上走走也可以 你們也可以只在家看電影也好

of things you can do that don't require a ton of money. But, one thing you do have to

有太多事你可以不用花很多錢也可以做的到 但是有件事是你第一次約會要做的

have for a first date is a plan. Real men make plans. There's nothing worse than a guy

那就是 計畫 真正的男人會規劃 沒有任何事比一種男人更糟了!

showing up and being like, 'so what do you want to do tonight, where do you wanna go?'.

那就是他出現之後 就說: 所以妳今晚要幹嘛? 妳想去哪?

You're a man. make a plan. It doesn't have to be super extravagant and over the top.

你是個男人欸 你就要規劃好啊 不需要多奢侈 豪華的計畫

It can be something as mellow as having a picnic and going on a walk. But if you put

可以像是有個美好的野餐然後一起散步

a little bit of thought into it, the girl will know that you're actually serious.

假設你在約會後 有想更進一步交往的話 那個女孩會知道你是認真的