Placeholder Image

字幕列表 影片播放

已審核 字幕已審核
  • Social anxiety is a big problem that I know a lot of people have.


  • And I'll be honest with you guys, it was something that I struggled with a lot in high school as well as my early days of college.


  • See the reason we feel anxious especially in large groups of people we don't know is because of what goes on in our head.


  • The moment you walk into a party, you immediately think: "what are they whispering about, what do people think about me, am I acting like a fool?"


  • And because of these thoughts we start feeling anxious, we feel like everyone is watching us waiting for us to mess up.


  • And this was basically me, every party I went to I was a nervous wreck but they all changed for me, once I started reading a book called What Everybody Is Saying.

    我就是如此,每一場派對我都緊張得要命,但在讀了《FBI 教你讀心術:看穿肢體動作的真實訊息》這本書後,我因此改變了。

  • It's a book written by an ex-FBI agent who teaches you how to read people by looking at their body language.

    這本書是由前 FBI 探員所撰寫的,他教你如何從身體語言讀出他人的想法。

  • He teaches you things like oh if someone is crossing their arms, they're adopting a defensive position which means they either feel threatened or they're unhappy with the situation.


  • Another one is oh you can tell if someone wants to leave a conversation by the direction their feet are pointed.


  • If her feet are pointed at the door, you know she wants to get out of there as soon as possiblethings like this.


  • And once you learn this stuff once you internalize these concepts, you start noticing them more.


  • You notice how people are standing where their feet are pointed.


  • You can tell who's nervous who's having a good time.


  • You can kind of guess where a person's state of mind is that and what happens next is something very very powerful.


  • Instead of focusing on yourself all the time, your thoughts become focused on the people around you.


  • So the next time you're in a social gathering, it's no longer: "oh what are people thinking about me, oh do I look awkward?"


  • It becomes: "oh that's interesting, it looks like he's not having a good time I wonder why."


  • Or: "oh that's interesting it looks like she is not very interested in him I wonder why."


  • And once your dots become focused about other people, you realize that no one is really thinking about you.


  • Most people are in their own head thinking about themselves.


  • And once you internalize this once you've proven to yourself that this is true, something very special happens.


  • You realize that nobody is watching you or what you do.


  • Once you internalize this concept, your social anxiety can literally disappear overnight.


  • So for those of you who really struggle social anxiety, start learning about body language and start watching other people.


  • I guarantee you it will change the way you think and feel around others.


  • It's no longer going to be "me me me me me," it becomes "you you you."


  • And funny enough, when you start watching out for others, when you start giving a damn about how they feel in a social situation, guess what, they start liking you a whole lot more.


  • Stay tuned guys.


Social anxiety is a big problem that I know a lot of people have.


已審核 字幕已審核

單字即點即查 點擊單字可以查詢單字解釋

A2 初級 中文 美國腔 焦慮 社交 想法 概念 派對 愉快

對社交感到焦慮?教你如何克服社交恐懼症! (The CURE for SOCIAL ANXIETY)

  • 10144 532
    Annie Huang 發佈於 2020 年 06 月 08 日