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  • I've always hated confrontation.

  • I'm the least confrontational person.

  • I will run away from it.

  • I will avoid it at all costs.

  • It just makes me feel so uncomfortable.

  • And a lot of that was when I was younger when people would stare at me or say something

  • or whisper about me, and I would either hide behind my parents or whoever I was with or

  • I would see it and just hope no one else heard it so we could just keep walking and not acknowledge

  • it and just ignore it.

  • And all of that was sort of unknowingly me building up this resentment towards strangers

  • no matter what age they were, because I would thinkthey're being so mean.”

  • And I would just hold that with me without realizing it.

  • And even if it was like when adults would do it and I would catch them, and I was this

  • kid looking at an adult who's saying something about me, the anger that I would get so instantly

  • was just like, “What is wrong with you?

  • Look, whyyou're an adult, I'm a little kid.

  • I didn't do anything to you.”

  • And my parentsthe way that my parents handled every situation was so incredible.

  • I mean, when you're a parent, I know thatwell, I'm notmy kids are fur babies,

  • so I don't know like when

  • Mine too.

  • human baby, but I will do anything to protect them.

  • And I'm – I know for a fact that my parents always wanted to do the same thing for me.

  • But instead of making the other person feel bad or to call them out, they would go up

  • to them and say, “Hey, that's my daughter, Lizzie, would you like to tell her hi?”

  • And even though that was so nice, I would hate it because I feel like that was just

  • drawing more attention to me.

  • But they continued doing that as I got older.

  • I never, ever, ever once saw them go up and be mean to somebody else, even though I knew

  • deep down that's the road they probably wanted to take.

  • Sure.

  • But to be able to watch that, and then me getting older and realizing that whenever

  • you see a situation where there's a bully and a victim, we automatically just tend to

  • the victim, and the bully is just sitting there like they should be ashamed and we should

  • yell at them and put them in the corner and leave them there.

  • But how can we help this victim and how can we love them, make them feel better?

  • There's two parties in this situation, and the only way that we will be able to continue

  • to make a difference or to be able to really teach others a lesson is to realize that there

  • is a bully and there's a victim.

  • That doesn't mean one is innocent and one is not.

  • It means there's two people who need our help in different ways.

  • And that's really, really, really important to also remember that hurt people hurt people.

  • So if this bully is going through something at home or in school and they don't have the

  • tools or the resources to say, “I'm hurting someone else but I'm not doing it to hurt

  • them.

  • I'm doing it because I'm hurting.

  • So how can I channel that in another way?”

  • All they see is “I'm hurting, now let me hurt someone else.”

  • So it's really, really important for us to be able to say there are two people in

  • a situation.

  • How can we help both of them and say let's take a step back and realize what's going

  • on?

  • How can we look at the bigger picture and how can we hope, help both of you in the same

  • way?

  • It's such a big, elevated, amazing viewpoint that feels to me in my heart like the true

  • path to healing.

I've always hated confrontation.


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Lizzie Velasquez分享了一個令人驚訝的解決欺凌問題的方法。 (Lizzie Velasquez Shares A Surprising Solution to Bullying)

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