I'vejustbeentoldthatmydonationisnotgoingtobeacceptedtodayandfornootherreason, then I'm gay.
Lucas s stock, wholiveswithhishusbandinNewYorkCity, sayshewantedtohelpothersafterSurvivingCovein 19.
I'veneverbeenthatsickinmylife, and I justrememberbasicallythatthefeverwentnearlynunsupfor 12 or 13 days, andasmysymptomswerekindoflikeattheverytailend, I justwantedtobeabletohelpinanyway.
It's a newtreatmentthattakestheantibodiesfrom a recoveredpatientandgivesthemtosomeonewhoiscurrentlyillwithhopesthatitwillboosttheirabilitytofightthevirus.
Afterweeksofbeingsymptomfree, Lucaswasdeemed a perfectcandidatetodonate, buthewasturnedawaybytheNewYorkbloodcenter.
I wenttherefirsttoMountSinaitobereswampedandtohavesamplesofmybloodtakenonthatday.
I wasn't evenaskedstandarddonorscreeningquestions.
I wasinandoutinabout 90 minutes, and I noticedwhen I walkeduptothecheckinstationwith a nursethattheyhad a littleprintedoutsignedtheyhadputnexttothestation.
ThatmadeitclearthatMountSinaiacknowledgedandrespectedallformsofgenderidentityandexpression, andtherewas a prideflagonit.
Andsothekindofinnerturmoilthat I hadoverwhetherornot I wasgonnahavetolieaboutthisbecame a loteasierwhen I realizedthatthatrelaxedstandardmeant I wouldnot.
TheFDAannouncedtheywouldrelaxthatregulationamidtheCoronavirus, a movethatmanyadvocatessayhasbeenlongoverdue.
Thenextdaytheycalledandtheygavememytestresultsand I hadtestednegative.
Twodayslater I gottheresultsfromthebloodtestsandtheytoldmethat I hadhighlevelsofantibodiesinmybloodandsotheywererecommendingmeas a primecandidatefordonation, andtheyaskedmewhat I assumeareverystandarddonorscreeningquestionsaboutwhereyoutraveledtokindofmedications.
Youmightbeonsomebasicfamilyhistorythings.
Andthen I waswaitingforthisquestion, andthelastquestionwaswhetherornot I hadhadsexualcontactinthelastthreemonthswithanothermanandsoansweredNoon.
Theytoldmewiththatthat I hadpassedthescreening, andthenextday I didget a callfromthebloodcenterandtheyputmethroughthesamescreeningquestions, and I wasgivenanappointment.
I waslabelled a primecandidateand I wasexcited.
I wasnervousifyou'vedonatedsince I was 18 andso I wentin, itwasthenextdayorthedayafterthat.
I wentinformyappointment.
Theyweregoingdownandcollectingphoto I D.
S andjustkindofaskingsomebasicquestions.
Youknow?
Haveyoueverdonatedbloodbefore?
And I said, youknow, notsincehighschool, notsince I was 18.
I haven't reallybeenableto, and I'm I'm excited.
I'm a littlenervous.
Uh, atthatmoment, theresponsequestionwas.
Whyhaven't youbeenabletothinking?
I'vepassedthescreenings, right?
Youknow, I letmyguarddown a littlebitand I justvolunteered.
Couldseetheexpressionoftheperson's eyeseventhoughtheyhad a facemaskonchangeandimmediatelytheresponse.
Waas, youwon't bedonatingtoday.
Um, thatwassurprisinginhindsight.
And, uh, I hatesayingthis.
I feellike I shouldn't havebeensurprised.
Andeveninthatmoment, it's notlike I wasgenuinelywonderingwhatmighthavepossiblyhappened.
Whatwentwronginthisconversation.
But I didaskforclarification.
Listen, ifthisisbecause I'm a gayman, I knowtheFDArecentlyrelaxeditsrestrictionsongaymendonating, andatthatpoint, I wascutoffAndtheresponsewaas, I don't knowwhatyouthinkyouknow, butyouwillnotbedonatingheretoday.
I kindofjustfelt a rushofemotions.
I feltupset.
I feltembarrassed.
I felt, uh, youknow, angry.
I feltmyself I feltbloodrushinginmyface.
I wasembarrassednoadditionalscreeningquestionsaskedtheonlypieceofinformation I volunteered.
Andinhindsight, I regretvolunteeringitbecausetheyhadnorighttoknowwasthat I wasgay.
Andthentheytoldmethatitwasn't likeflipping a lightswitchthatyoucan't justsuddenlyacceptthesedonations.
Theonlyrealresponse I wasgivenwasthatcomputersneedtobeupdated.
Staffneedstoberetrained.
Thatdoesn't seemlikeanacceptableresponsetome, butthat's whattheresponseWaas I feltdeflated, madeitthroughthislastmonthofhell, moreorless, anditsuckedcomingback.
But I'm sogratefultobeback, andall I wanttodoishelp.
Um, butthatwasn't anoptionforme.
I wasultimatelyleftwithoutbeingabletodonate, anditiswhatitis.
I'm frustrated.
I'm healthy.
I am a qualifiedandevenprimedonorRightnow.
I justwanttobetreatedlikeanyoneelsewhoisheterosexual, whomightwalkinoffthestreetlookingTeohhelpandtodonateandtocontributerightnow, at a timewhenit's prettyeasytofeelhelpless.
A spokespersonwiththeNewYorkBloodCenter, toldinsideeditiondotcom.