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請與需要的人分享我們的內容。

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Trauma is difficult to deal with, whether it's emotional, mental, physical, or sexual.

創傷很難處理，不論是情緒上的、心理上的、生理上的、或性相關的。

You go through life believing you have overcome it, only to exhibit unhealthy behaviors as an adult.

你慢慢長大，以為已經克服創傷了，但是成年時卻展現出不健康的行為。

If you're not careful, you'll stick to these behaviors for the rest of your life, unless you confront the past head on, by allowing yourself to feel, expressing your emotions, processing them, and then letting them go.

如果不小心，你有可能餘生都會有這些行為，除非你直面過去，允許自己感受、表達情緒、處理情緒，最後對情緒放手。

It's okay to look back, but don't stay there.

你可以回顧過去，但別沉溺在過去。

The following is a list of behaviors adults have after going through childhood trauma.

接下來是一系列的行為，顯示成人在兒時經歷過創傷的徵兆。

One, becoming overwhelmed by fear.

第一，被恐懼籠罩。

You believe playing it safely is the best option, convincing yourself with lies.

你相信打安全牌最棒，你會用謊言說服自己。

The problem here is that you're preventing yourself from living fully and pursuing your dreams.

這裡的問題是，你正阻礙自己活得充實並追逐夢想。

Two, becoming passive-aggressive.

第二，變成被動攻擊型的人。

Trauma has taught you to defend yourself by going around the problem instead of confronting it.

創傷教你防禦自己，不要直面問題，而是繞過它。

You repress your emotions and anger.

你壓抑自己的情緒和怒意。

In time, all those bottled up emotions start to slowly come out.

不久後，被塵封的情緒會慢慢流露出來。

Some of you may think you're avoiding negativity, when in fact, you're avoiding your emotions.

有些人可能覺得自己在避免負面情緒，但事實上，你在逃避情緒本身。

Three, overprotecting yourself.

第三，過度保護自己。

You believe that everyone in your life will eventually betray you, in one way or another.

你相信不論用什麼方式，身邊的人終究會背叛你。

This prevents you from having fulfilling relationships cause you're starving yourself from true connection.

這讓你不能有令人滿足的關係，因為你不允許自己產生真正的連結。

Just because you've been hurt in the past by people, doesn't mean that everyone has ill intentions.

你過去被人傷害過，不代表每個人都心懷惡意。

Four, self-victimization.

第四，自我犧牲。

When a person becomes used to being the victim, it becomes part of their identity.

當一個人習慣當受害者，這變成了他們一部分的身份認同。

It's become ingrained in their mind, and sadly, embracing this identity will affect all aspects of their life.

這被刻在他們腦海裡，悲傷的是，接受受害者的身份，會影響他們生活的每個層面。

It doesn't allow you to move forward.

會阻擋你向前走。

You're not a victim, you're a survivor.

你不是受害者，你是倖存者。

Five, preparing for problems.

第五，為問題做準備。

You unconsciously believe the same problem will reemerge, even though the traumatic event happened long ago.

你下意識地覺得相同問題會重新發生，儘管令你傷痛的事已經過去很久了。

Living like this prevent you from being present, and truly having fun with your loved ones.

這樣活著會讓你不能活在當下，也不能和你愛的人真正快樂。

Six, forgetting big chunks of your life.

第六，忘記很多生活中的事情。

An upbringing full of trauma can lead you to forget moments of your life.

成長過程若充滿創傷，可能會導致你忘記生命中的片刻。

It's called blacking out.

這叫做斷片。

You may have a hard time remembering what happened, and it can be distressing when people remember things that you can't.

你可能會很難想起來發生的事，別人記得住而你忘記時，可能會讓你苦惱。

But there are methods of therapy that may be able to help you remember, if, or when, you're ready.

但有些療法可能會讓你記起來，不過如果要的話，也要等你準備好。

Seven, feeling incomplete.

第七，感覺不完整。

Those of you who've been through severe trauma end up feeling as if a part of you is missing.

經歷過嚴重創傷的人，可能會覺得少了某部份的自己。

Trauma can leave you feeling disconnected with life—it's a survival mechanism, a sort of dissociation.

創傷會讓你覺得與生活脫節，這是生存機制，像在作分離。

To survive, you build yourself a character, or story, that you thrive on, making it difficult for you to discover who you truly are.

為了生存，你建立了一個人格幫助自己活下去，但也讓你很難了解真正的自己。

Eight, being attracted to unhealthy situations.

第八，你會被不健康的情況吸引。

Sometimes, you unconsciously look for people who have the same traits as your abuser or abusers.

有時候，你潛意識地會去找和虐待者有相同特質的人。

Therefore, you may end up in a relationship or situation that is eerily similar to your past experience.

因此你可能會進入一段關係，情況和過去的經歷怪異地相似。

This doesn't mean that you're looking for trouble, it's just your brain's way of attaching itself to similar circumstances.

這並不代表你在找麻煩，只是你的大腦會選擇依附相似的環境。

And nine, looking for external validation.

接著第九，尋找外在的認可。

Growing up in an abusive household can leave you feeling insecure.

在有虐待狀況的家庭成長，可能會讓你感到不安。

Trauma can impact you in such a way that as an adult you look for other people's validation.

傷痛會影響你，讓你在成人後，需要他人的認可。

Such as your boss's approval, or likes from friends on social media.

像是老闆的讚許，或社群媒體上朋友的按讚。

You're just yearning to feel wanted.

你渴望被別人需要。

It's difficult to move forward in life after experiencing childhood trauma.

經歷過孩童時期的創傷，會很難往前行。

And keep in mind you don't have to continue living that way.

但記住，你不需要照著那樣的方式過活。

Talk to a close friend or family member.

和親近的朋友或家庭成員聊聊。

Ask for help and guidance.

尋求幫助和指引。

Overcoming trauma isn't gonna happen in a day, but I can assure you, fighting for a better life is worth it, and it is possible.

不可能一夕間克服傷痛，但我可以向你保證，持續為更好的生活奮鬥是值得的，而且真的可能發生。

Do you relate to these points?

你能對這些觀點感同身受嗎？

If so, let me know in the comment section down below.

如果是的話，請在底下的留言區讓我知道。