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  • One of the most common things that you'll see in people when they're anxious is they

  • bounce their legs up and down, right? So some people are just habitual bouncer. It's something

  • that they commonly do. But as people tend to get more comfortable with each other, they'll

  • slowly stop.

  • So one of the things that you'll see in an interaction is that for the first ten or 15

  • minutes, he might bounce his legs up and down. But as he becomes less anxious and as he becomes

  • more comfortable with her, he's going to slow down. So what you're looking for is a deviation

  • or a change in that behavior.

  • It's the same thing as in a presentation. Let's say that I was giving a presentation

  • to these two. And all of a sudden one of them was bouncing their leg for the first 15 minutes.

  • A goal of mine would be to get that bouncy leg behavior to stop. Because I know that

  • once they're more engage or interested in what I have to say, it's less likely for them

  • to commit those kind of behaviors.

  • So as we talk, you're talking back and forth. And then slowly, you'll see you're naturally

  • a good communicator so you naturally orientating towards me. But you don't want it to be natural.

  • If you we're disinterested in me you'd be pointing that way. Alright? You'll be faced

  • that way. But as you get more and more interesting no matter what you do, no matter how hard

  • your body just squares up with the person. So it's like "Oh really? du dud dud". So the

  • example will be like you're talking and your here and it's like, "Oh, no. I kind of did

  • the same. Yeah" And then slowly and slowly and slowly we're squared up. And that's the

  • orientation we're looking for.

  • So if you walk up to a girl and the all of a sudden you're like "Hi". And she looks over

  • at you and like " Hi, du du dud," you want to see a gradual change in orientation. You

  • don't want it to be. It's not going to be sudden unless you say something surprising.

  • So if all of sudden if, "So where you from?" "Texas." "Oh my god we just," then you see

  • that kind of thing. But usually you don't see that. You see slight deviation. It's the

  • best when you get a sharp one then it's easy. And it goes both way. So if all of a sudden

  • she's deviating this way and things are going good, when she starts to deviate back, things

  • are going bad.

  • A method for successfully guiding a conversation is to watch whether the person is oriented

  • or disoriented. And what topics they orient and which topics the disorient towards.

One of the most common things that you'll see in people when they're anxious is they

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如何讀懂腿部動作|肢體語言 (How to Read Leg Movements | Body Language)

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    nckuba 發佈於 2021 年 01 月 14 日
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