talk to someone. This lesson is called "Conversation Skills: How to avoid a conversation." "Avoid"

和別人說話，所以這堂課叫做「對話技巧：該如何避免談話」，所謂「避免」

means you want to stop having or not have something.

指的是你想要停止或是不想要一個東西

So all of your life, probably, when you have been learning English, you've learned many

在你的一生中，很有可能在你學習英文的過程，你學了很多關於

lessons about how to have a conversation, how to talk to strangers, how to talk to people

如何對話、和陌生人交談、和地鐵上的人交談

on the subway, how to talk to people in a store. Sometimes, I don't want to talk to

和店裡面的人交談等等；不過有時候，我就是不想

anyone. Sometimes, people talk to me.

和任何人交談；有時候，是別人想找我說話

As an example, every morning, when I wake up, I have to walk my dog. It's cold outside.

舉個例，每天早上起床後，我都必須去遛狗，而天氣很冷

I've not had my coffee yet. I don't want to walk my dog. I do not want to be outside.

我甚至還沒喝咖啡，所以我不太想遛狗，我不想待在外面

And I'm generally not wanting to do anything except go back to bed. It seems that people

此時我通常什麼都不想做，我只想回去睡覺；似乎養狗的人

that have dogs love to have conversations with other people who have dogs. I don't want

都很喜歡和同樣有養狗的人聊天，可是我不想

to talk to you. I don't care. They ask me strange questions like, "Is your dog a boy

和你說話，我不在乎；他們會問我奇怪的問題，像是：「你的狗狗是男生

or a girl?" Why? Why do you care if my dog is a boy dog or a girl dog? Do you want to

還是女生？」為什麼這麼問？你為何在乎我的狗狗是男生還是女生？你是想要

have sex with my dog? Are you concerned if my dog has a penis? No. Stop it. Who cares?

和我的狗狗發生性關係嗎？你很關心我的狗狗有沒那一根？夠了，誰在乎啊？

"How old is your dog?" Why? Do you want to know his birthday? Are you going to have a

「你的狗狗幾歲？」為什麼這麼問？你為何想知道牠的生日？你是要幫牠辦派對？

party? Is your dog and my dog going to come to my house, and are we going to have a party?

還是你的狗狗跟我的狗狗要來我家，然後一起慶生？

No. Shut up. I'm walking my dog. Don't talk to me.

夠了，閉嘴，我只想安安靜靜地遛狗，別跟我說話

So tips on how to avoid a conversation. Rule No. 1, very easy, don't ever make eye contact

以下是避免談話的小秘訣：第一條，很簡單，不要跟任何你不想說話的人

with anyone you do not want to talk to. Number one rule when you want to have a conversation

有眼神接觸，談話守則第一條，如果你想和別人說話

is you must look at the people's eyes. Don't look down. Don't look up. Look at their eyes. ok?

你必須看著對方的眼睛，別低頭，也別抬頭，直視他們好嗎？

So to not have a conversation, don't look anyone in the eye. I'm not talking to you.

所以，如果不想和別人說話，就別看著任何人的眼睛，我沒在跟你說話

The second one is: Don't ask the speaker any questions. So as an example, "Oh, hi. What

第二條：別對說話的人發問，舉個例：「嗨！你的狗狗

kind of dog do you have?", "It's a Cairn terrier". "How old is it?", "Seven". "Is it a boy or

是什麼品種？」「凱恩㹴」「牠幾歲？」「七歲」「那牠是男生

a girl?", "Boy". If you've noticed, I did not ask the person about their dog because

還是女生？」「男生」；你有沒有注意到，我都沒有問對方他們的狗狗，因為

I don't care. If you wanted to have a conversation with someone, you could ask the person the

我根本不在乎，如果你想要和對方聊天，你可以問他同樣的問題

same question. As an example, "Hi", "Hi", "Good, yeah". "What kind of dog do you have?",

舉例來說，「嗨」「嗨」「過得不錯吧」「你的狗狗是什麼品種？」

"It's a Cairn terrier. How about you? What kind of dog do you have?", "It's a Jack Russell".

「凱恩㹴，你呢？你的狗狗是什麼品種？」「傑克羅素㹴」

"Oh, cool. Don't care. Good". "How old is your dog?" "Seven. How about you? How old

「讚喔，隨便啦，還不錯」「那你的狗狗幾歲？」「七歲，你呢？你的狗狗

is your dog?", "four". "Great", "Is your dog a boy or a girl?" "My dog's a boy. How about

幾歲？」「四歲」「很棒」「牠是男生還是女生？」「男生，那你呢？

you? How about your dog? Does your dog have a penis or a vagina?", "Girl". "Oh, do you

你的狗狗有小雞雞還是小貝殼？」「牠是女生」「哦，你知道嗎？

know what? Maybe my dog and your dog should have a party. Maybe they could have puppies.

或許我的狗狗跟你的狗狗可以一起辦個派對，也許牠們可以生小寶寶

That would be cool. Yeah. Okay. Good to see you. Bye".

這樣一定很棒，好啦，很高興見到你，後會有期」

Next one: Look at something or someone else. Now, maybe you have the magic of a cell phone.

接下來：看著某個東西或別的人，現在你有個神奇的物品叫作手機

This is a great conversation avoider. You may go as far as to pretend -- "Hi, Mom. Yeah,

這是一個很好使你避免談話的東西，你可以想要怎麼假裝就怎麼假裝--「嗨，老媽，對啊，

good. No" -- that you're talking to someone on the phone. "Mom. Yeah. Busy. No. No, I

很好，不是」--像是裝成你在講電話，「老媽，對啊，我很忙，不是，

got -- Mom, hi. Yeah. Good". This is a great tool. You can pretend that your phone rang,

我要去--嗨，媽，我很好」很棒的工具對吧，你可以假裝電話響了

and you're talking to your mother. You can pretend you got a text message. Or you can

你在跟你媽說話，你可以假裝在發簡訊，或是你可以

just look at your phone. This will indicate to the speaker that you do not want to talk

單純看手機，這會暗示對方你不想跟他說話

to them. In reverse, if you want to talk to a person and have a real conversation, put

反之，如果你想和別人說話並有實質性的談話

your phone down. Do not text or talk on the phone when you are trying to have a conversation

放下手機，別在你試圖跟前面活生生的人聊天的時候

with a real live human being. If I'm at a bar and I'm talking to you, if you take out

發簡訊或講電話，如果我在酒吧裡想和你聊天，你卻拿出

your phone and start texting someone, bye-bye. Ronnie's gone. She's getting another beer.

手機開始傳訊息，再會，Ronnie 要走啦，她要再去拿一杯啤酒

So please, if humans want to talk to you, put your phones away. You can text them later.

所以拜託，如果有人想要跟你說話，把手機收起來，你可以晚點再傳訊息

If you talk really, really, really fast and you don't say your words properly -- no one

假如你說話非常非常非常地快，而且說話不清楚--沒人會知道

has any idea what you're talking about -- they will not have a conversation with you. So

你在說什麼--他們自然不想跟你聊天，所以

if you speak or talk really, really quickly, or if you mumble -- "Mumble?" "Mumble" means

如果你講話非常快或是喃喃自語--何謂喃喃自語？就是

you do not say words clearly. Some people will talk like this. They have their hand

講話很含糊，有些人講話會這樣，他們會把手

-- they put their hand in front of their mouth, and you can't really hear anything that they're

放在嘴巴上，使你聽不清楚他們

saying because

在說什麼，因為

[inaudible]

[靜音]

So rule No.1, put your hand down, okay? Don't talk down. When I talk like this, you can't

最重要的就是，把手放下來，OK？別低頭，如果我這樣講話，你根本

even hear -- okay? "Mumbling" means you don't say your words clearly, or they're muffled.

聽不到，好嗎？喃喃自語表示你說話不清楚，或是含滷蛋

It's like this.

像這樣

[Inaudible]

[靜音]

And talking really, really, really quickly. Maybe you are very excited to meet someone.

而講話很快很快，也許你是因為見到某人很興奮

That's cool. But try and speak a little slowly so that the person can understand you.

那很好，不過請你試著講話稍微慢一點，這樣別人才聽得懂你在說什麼

Okay. So this one: strange facial expressions. If I'm having a conversation with you and

OK，接下來：奇怪表情，如果我在和你說話

you're smiling and you're nodding and you're doing this, I think, "Okay, this person is

你微笑、點頭、你這麼做，我會覺得：「好喔，這個人

happy. They like what I'm saying to them". But if your face is very strange or you kind

很高興，他喜歡我說的話」，假如你的表情很奇怪或是

of make weird facial expressions or you have -- you do strange things. If you pick your

你在做鬼臉--做一些奇怪的事情，像是挖鼻孔

nose or pick your ear or something, the person thinks that you don't care about what they're

挖耳屎什麼的，別人就會覺得你是不是不太在乎他們

saying to you. So this is a good thing. If someone's talking to you, you just go...

跟你說話，這是件好事，如果有人想跟你講話，你就這樣...

[makes faces]

[做怪表情]

I guarantee you they will stop talking to you, especially if you pick your nose. Number 1.

我敢保證他們會停止跟你說話，尤其當你在挖鼻孔，要訣就是

[picks nose] -- person's gone.

[挖鼻孔]--別人就會先閃開

The other one is body language. Now, this may seem strange to you, but if you're talking

另一個是肢體語言，這可能對你來說很奇怪，但如果你正在

to someone, and you use hand expressions, it's easier for them to understand you. But

和別人說話，並用一些手勢，會讓人比較容易理解你所說的

if you are talking to someone and your hands are folded and you don't even look at them

但是當你在跟別人說話時，你的雙手交叉胸前，或甚至不看對方

and you're like this, they think that you don't want to talk to them. So eye contact,

像這樣，別人就會覺得你不太想跟他說話，所以眼神接觸、

your facial expressions, and your body language are really important to avoid or to have a

臉部表情，以及肢體語言對於避免或開啟談話

conversation with someone. If you do not want to talk to someone, you can fold your hands

是至關重要的，如果你不想和別人說話，你可以雙手交叉胸前、

and look at the ground. They will stop talking to you hopefully.

看著地板，他們大概就不會跟你說話了

One thing that could be very useful if you are in a bar and maybe someone -- a man or

有一招很有效，特別是當你在酒吧裡而有人--可能是男

a woman -- is talking to you that you don't want to talk to, a really good technique is

是女--想跟你說話可是你不想，有個小技巧就是

to use slang. Maybe the person's older than you, and you know some crazy whooped up slang

使用俚語，也許人家比你老，而你知道一些浮誇的話術

words. Instead of speaking to them like you would your mother, you would speak to them

來取代你對別人說話像是他們的媽媽

like you would your best friend. You'd be like, "Yo! Hey! What's going on? What's happening

或是好朋友一樣，你可能這樣：「Yo，hey！老兄過得如何？你們家

in the crib? Yo!" And the person who's trying to talk to you will be like, [hesitates].

近來可好？Yo！ 」那個想跟你說話的人可能就會，[猶豫一下]

They're gone. I guarantee it.

然後走人，我敢保證

On the other hand, if you are talking to someone and you know very -- we say "big words" or

另一方面，如果你在跟別人說話，而你知道一些--我們稱之為深奧的詞彙

people who are educated say "educated words". Rather than use simple language, if you are

或是有點教育程度的人才懂得單字，來取代簡單易懂的詞語

going to use very big words, it can be intimidating to people. So if you are trying to speak English

假如你使用這些字，別人便不太敢接近你；因此，當你試著用英文聊天

to someone who has a very, very large vocabulary and your vocabulary is very small, there's

對方的單字量非常之龐大，而你的卻十分微小，那麼

going to be a communication breakdown because you're going to use words the other person

你們之間會有代溝，因為你們彼此所用的詞彙

doesn't know. So the other person is not going to understand you and is not going to want

是對方不能理解的，所以當對方聽不懂，他自然就不會

to talk to you. So it's really important that when you try to have a conversation, you realize

想要跟你說話；很重要的一點就是，當你跟別人說話時，你必須知道

what vocabulary or what words you and the speaker -- or you and the listener -- both know.

你和跟你說話的人或是聽者是否都懂你們用的詞語

The last one is how you project your voice, okay? The tone of your voice -- right here.

最後一條，如何控制你的音量和語氣；你的語調--這樣

Angry tone. -- makes the person nervous, thinks that you're angry. I have a lot of people

生氣的語調--會讓人感到緊張，別人會覺得你不開心；我有很多學生

in my class from different countries. Sometimes, a person will ask a student a question. For

他們來自別的國家，有時候，當別人問我的學生問題

example, "What's your name?" "My name is Ronnie". "[Shouts] What?" "Oh, my God. Why is this

舉例，「你叫什麼名字？」「我叫 Ronnie」「啥？(用吼的)」「(我的天啊這個人

person yelling at me? [Softly] My name is Ronnie". If you don't hear someone, it's okay

為什麼要對我大吼大叫？) 我叫 Ronnie [小聲說]」假如你聽不到別人說什麼，你可以

to say, "What?" Maybe you're going to want to smile, but be careful of your tone. You

這麼說：「什麼？」，也許你可以微微笑，但注意你的語調

do not want to use an angry voice if you're not angry. If you're angry, you let that person

你不會想要在你不生氣的時候卻使用生氣的語調，如果你很生氣，你想要

know that you're angry. You can say, "Why do you care what kind of dog I have? Is it

讓別人知道你很生氣，你可以這麼說：「你幹嘛在乎我的狗是什麼品種？我有沒有養狗

important to you that I have a dog? Do you really care what kind it is? Where did I get

對你很重要嗎？你真的很在乎牠是哪一種？我去哪裡得到牠的？

it? Who cares? Okay. I am pissed off. I have not had my coffee yet. So don't talk to me,

誰在乎啊？我現在很不爽，我還沒喝咖啡勒，別跟我說話，

okay?"

好嗎？」

So if you want to avoid a conversation -- maybe the person is creepy, scary. Maybe they smell

所以，如果你想要避免交談--可能對方很奇怪、很可怕，或是他們

bad. Maybe they're drunk. Maybe you're drunk. Do all of these things. But if you want to

聞起來很臭，也許他們喝醉了，或是你醉了也說不定，那就照我所說的去做

have a conversation, don't do these things. To have a conversation with someone, make

不過如果你想要跟別人交談，別做這些；和別人談話必須要有

eye contact. Ask them questions. You can ask them the same questions. It doesn't have to

眼神接觸，你可以問他們問題，他們問你什麼你也問同樣的

be about a dog. Look at the people directly in the eye. Look at who you're talking to.

不一定要跟狗有關，你必須直視別人的眼睛，看著跟你說話的人

Don't look at someone else, okay? Don't talk really quickly. Don't mumble. Don't make strange

記住，不要看其他人，也不要說太快，或是太小聲，別做怪表情

faces. Don't use strange body language. Don't use slang or words the person doesn't know.

不要做出奇怪的肢體動作，別用俚語或是別人聽不懂的詞彙

And don't use an angry tone. Make sure that all of these things are positive. Do and don't.

不要使用生氣的語調，你必須確認你所做的一切都是正面的，該做與不該做的

Please tell me about a situation that you've had where you did not want to have a conversation

請告訴我，你曾經在什麼情況下不想和別人交談

with someone. And tell me a situation where you wish you could've had a conversation with

以及在什麼情況下你會想要和別人聊天

someone. I'll let you know some tips later on in life. Goodbye.

之後的影片我將會告訴你一些小秘訣，再會