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  • good morning tickets Tuesday.

  • I really liked your video on Friday about sibling rivalry and competition, and it made me think about participation.

  • Trophies like today's young people are sometimes called a participation trophy generation, who expect to be lavished with praise for even the smallest accomplishments and rewarded for failure.

  • That kind of pseudo culture of analysis always oversimplifies, of course, but I feel like I might have some insight into participation trophy culture because I had a profound and literal experience with it decades before.

  • It was a thing.

  • The year 1984.

  • I'm seven years old and I'm a baseball player.

  • Specifically, I am the oldest player on my Little League T ball team and T ball.

  • The ball has not pitched.

  • Instead, it's placed on a tea to make it easier to hit.

  • Most kids my age had moved on from T ball, but not me.

  • The thing about my childhood sporting adventures is that even though I was a terrible athlete, I loved sports like I was so passionate and also so hopeless like I went on to play for my middle school soccer team and I remember in one game I came off the bench like midway through the first half, and I was feeling really good about myself because usually I didn't get in until we were up or down by at least five goals.

  • And then at halftime, the coach said.

  • You know why I put Green on?

  • Because at least he cares.

  • I was like a motivational tool.

  • Anyway, back to T ball.

  • I had a pretty good season that year owing to the fact that I was 123 years older than all of my fellow competitors.

  • And then came the end of season awards banquet like all the other kids that got a small participation award.

  • But then they started handing out the real trophies, the ones that you've got, if you were selected for the T Ball All Star team, which I was not.

  • But then, the coach said, and this year's alternates for the All Star team are some kid's name and John Green.

  • I was an alternate star and almost star.

  • Should an All star get injured or otherwise be indisposed, I would become an All Star and if we won the All Star Game, I would get a trophy.

  • There was only one problem.

  • Our family was scheduled to be out of town during the All Star Game, visiting my grandparent's, which clearly needed to be rescheduled because I was an alternate for the All Star team.

  • They were counting on me.

  • What if I argued to my parents, one of the All Stars contracts, Chickenpox?

  • Is the All Star Game gonna get called off because the alternate is unavailable?

  • Or is the alternate going to go into the All Star game, hit the winning a home run and get a trophy?

  • Eventually, my parents settled on a solution.

  • We would still go visit my grand parents and I would miss the All Star game.

  • But I would get a trophy to be precise.

  • My parents went to the trophy store and had a trophy made for me.

  • That said, John Green, 1984 all star in our hearts.

  • I mean, it's the ultimate participation trophy.

  • Not only did I not earn it, my parents paid for it, so I would feel like a winner, even though I was not a winner.

  • So how did this experience affect me?

  • Yeah, I don't know.

  • I think I turned out mostly.

  • Okay.

  • My parents always praised my effort much more than my achievements, like even now when something nice happens to one of my books, my mom is much more likely to say, I know you worked really hard on that story than congratulations on winning that award.

  • I think the All Star in our hearts trophy was an extension of that, and for awhile I was really proud of it.

  • I mean, I had almost been an All Star, and then it became a funny story to tell because he talked about on Friday.

  • People ask us all the time if we're competitive as brothers and we are in the sense that when we play sports or board games, I definitely wanna win.

  • But if somebody pointed out in comments, the word compete comes from the Latin words Puteri, meaning to seek or to strive and calm meaning together.

  • I don't see your success as my failure because it isn't my failure.

  • We're striving together.

  • To be honest, I'm not sure the social order ought to reinforce the idea that you winning means someone else losing because life is not a zero sum game.

  • No.

  • Do I think we should teach kids that winning and high achievement are the only praiseworthy outcomes.

  • I think we need to raise teammates who know how to collaborate and how to strive together.

  • In short, I think we all need to learn how to participate, Hank and absolutely remarkable thing comes out one week from today.

  • And I am so proud of you because I know how hard you worked on it.

  • I'll see you on Friday.

good morning tickets Tuesday.


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關於參與獎盃 (On the Participation Trophy)

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    林宜悉 發佈於 2021 年 01 月 14 日