what it means exposed to you guys what is the first step for this journey of

evolution of self self-love will be the result of that all hi guys welcome back

to my channel today I want to talk about a subject that I'm kind of sick of

seeing everywhere self-love I know it's kind of

contradicting everything I've been saying so far but let me explain why am

i sick of seeing the term self-love everywhere because I feel like it got to

a point where it's such dislike really trendy word everyone's using yet a lot

of people don't know what it means and how to get there and how does it feel I

really wanted to sit down and explain to you how to get to that final destination

that is self-love because self-love is the end product of a journey that you

all have to go through to get here yet what we see in the media is just this

and I feel like it leaves a lot of question marks and a lot of wrong

definitions of what it is I decided that instead of focusing on that I want to

get to the root of what led me to get to the end result and the root of it all in

my opinion is self awareness so what is self awareness self awareness is and I'm

going to read the definition of it so I'm not gonna mess it up because I don't

want to say things that are not true okay

self awareness is the capacity for introspection and the ability to

recognize oneself as an individual separate from the environment and other

individuals so I'm starting this talk about self awareness to expose to you

guys what is the first step for this journey of evolution of self and the

growing and they're learning to embrace yourself and your imperfections and who

you are and know that you're worthy and know that you have value to bring to the

world and own it that's what gets you to that position of self-love of respecting

who you are loving who you are and just be

strong enough to go out there and be who you are because it's not easy these days

so it was a journey and it's still a journey I think that it's a lifelong

journey and that's so beautiful about it you will be faced with new challenges

every single day that we put who you are as a person your morals your values to

the test if you want to go after what you want if you want to build a career

that you want if you want to find the right partner if you want to just feel

comfortable with who you are self-awareness has to happen you have to

plant that seed right away so I wanted to tell you about five ways that I

practice self-awareness every single day things that I truly feel are making a

huge difference and just connecting myself more with myself and hopefully it

will help you as well the first thing is quality alone time as I mentioned with

my modeling career it really threw me into this alone time it's not something

that I intentionally chose to do but I'm so happy that it happened quality alone

time is not when you just alone in your room turn on Netflix and spend time with

yourself no it has to be an intentional alone time it has to be a time where you

can reflect where you can connect yourself where you are alone with your

thoughts and your feelings and there's no distractions around you the second

thing is getting a feedback and constructive criticism from the people

around you that's a wonderful tool that can help you grow and learn more about

yourself because a lot of the times were so caught up in our own head and in our

own thoughts that we can't see things clearly so going to the people that you

love and trust and you know one the best for you and ask them for their opinion

for their feedback it's such a cheap easy way to learn more about yourself

it's valuable information that will just help you grow and have more insight

about who you are and how you present yourself to the world but something very

very important to remember when you do go out there and ask for feedback and

ask for criticism and ask for advice make sure to qualify those people I

wouldn't go for my mother for business advice but I would go to my mother for

things like family and the choices she made as a young woman and anything with

children I would go to someone that I respect in different areas of life so I

think that what happens a lot of the times is that we go and ask for advice

from people that haven't been themselves don't have the knowledge don't have the

expertise and when they say oh you know it's all gonna be okay and you just get

frustrated because you're like how is it gonna be okay

I feel like it's a very kind of dead and thing so be smart about who you go to

for different things and learn from those people the third thing is

mindfulness and meditation that's something that is extremely important

and today we do live at a time where there's so many studies that's been done

to show the benefits of it on our quality of life on her brain on the way

we feel and act so meditation is definitely more complicated thing and

that's something that I'm actually kind of attacking right now where I'm going

out there looking for help looking for someone knowledgeable that can teach me

on a deeper level what meditation is because right now I feel what's out

there in the world is very surfaced so I really want to get to the root of it and

then mindfulness is that you can do every single thing in your life from

making your coffee to talking to someone to listening in a mindful state of mind

I think that's so much more powerful it also lets you listen and be open to

things rather than just react and be close to all the lessons that other

people in the universe can teach you so being mindful is definitely a powerful

wonderful thing that just helps you slow down and learn how to breathe

which surprisingly enough we are not doing enough of it today remember to

read you guys we don't read enough the next thing is asking yourself the

question why this is so extremely important and really ties in to kind of

the first thing you can ask yourself the question why when you

that intentional alone-time also at the end of every single day ask yourself the

question why why something made you feel a certain way why something triggered a

negative reaction in you why do you do the things that you do why did you say

the thing that you say keep asking that question why will really help you to get

to the deeper deeper deeper cause of an issue a lot of the times when we get

triggered by different things that other people say is actually just a mere - you

know an unsolved issue that's going on inside other people's anger or other

people's attitude shouldn't trigger something in you so remember that and

challenge yourself challenge your thoughts challenge the way react and

your patterns as a person that's the only way to grow the next thing is

journaling a lot of people do journaling and I'm so happy to see that but some of

you that maybe don't know what journaling is it's basically just

putting your thoughts and your lessons and anything and everything on paper not

only will it gives you time to reflect it also your spitting out those thoughts

so they don't like block and clog your head and become a bigger thing that it

actually is because that's something that as humans do quite often and it

also helps you to hold yourself accountable if there are things that you

wrote there that you promise you're gonna do or things that you promise

you're gonna change new patterns that you want to adapt it will hold you

accountable so these are the five ways that I don't see a reason that anyone

can't incorporate it into their lives on a daily basis and I truly feel like it's

gonna make a huge difference just please remember you have to be consistent and

it has to be intentional and keep doing it keep at it we are on such a beautiful

journey of growing and forming into the powerful beings that we all are so give

yourself the space to do it it's really really important and very

beneficial practicing these five ways and adapting more and bring more

self-awareness into your life will give you you back the power to be in charge

of your own happiness of your thoughts of your emotions of the way you behave

and there's nothing more powerful than that can you imagine if you are so happy

and so content with yourself that no matter what's going on around you you

are in tune and in control of your own being that's what I want us to focus on

self-love will be the result of that all thank you guys so much for watching I'll

see you next time