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  • Hello and welcome to this special edition of Under the Skin With Me.

  • Russell Brand.

  • I'll be talking to Dr Professor Dr Jordan Peterson.

  • I've spoken to him before, but this special commemorative wasn't really commemorative chat.

  • It's not a detail for the royal wedding between Meghan Merkel and Prince Harry.

  • It's to celebrate their release on paper.

  • Back off my book recovery and look at it now on Amazon is particular and 50 I think maybe £6.47.

  • We talk about that book recovery we took out.

  • The principles of recovery is a road to enlightenment.

  • We talk about Dr Peterson's book 12 Rules for Life is an interesting chat.

  • Talking about myth.

  • We do, of course, go for some of the mainstays of Professor Peter Sissons.

  • What a canon of ideas the commonly talked about.

  • But also I think we really get to the heart of it and discover some, uh, some people think there's an exclusion of warmth.

  • I think sometimes when talking about Peterson's ideas in these insistence on individual culpability and responsibility, we get into that stuff quite deeply.

  • I think it's a great chance those you don't know who Julian Peterson is yet.

  • Where?

  • Where have you been?

  • Obviously not watching him at the Hammersmith Apollo with 5000 others.

  • So, yeah, we're talking toe Jordan Peterson on under the skin.

  • Thanks for joining me.

  • And do check out my book Recovery on paper back.

  • Thank you, Dr Jordan.

  • PS in.

  • Thank you for coming on under the skin.

  • It's lovely to see you again.

  • It's good to see you too.

  • It's nice to meet in London.

  • Yeah, It's different, isn't it?

  • We're both of us were exiled in Los Angeles in our last conversation by Enjoyed it very much.

  • I got a lot from it.

  • I'm happy to talk to you on.

  • This is very much home turf for me.

  • Now we're in London or in a publishing office.

  • You've been promoting a book up her team.

  • That's why you're here.

  • Yes.

  • And do undoing a public couple of public lectures.

  • How do you find that?

  • Now, How are you finding what, though?

  • In a way, I've been comparing you to the British opposition leader Jeremy Corbyn in that you've been doing this for ages and now you're experiencing I on I almost perhaps unprecedented level off attention, but I'm assuming that your skill set is applicable.

  • You're a lecturer.

  • You're a clinical psychoanalyst.

  • So it's not like, Oh, my God, there's cameras, right?

  • Right.

  • Well, I mean, the the large scale lectures I'm doing aren't that much different in kind from the lectures I was doing at the university.

  • I mean, the venue's er larger and, yeah, but the Hammersmith Apollo 3000 seats, I think maybe you're Yeah, there were 5000 at the Apollo.

  • Well, that's where you're not nervous.

  • Um, I'm not as nervous doing that as I am often going to talk to journalists.

  • Individual journalists.

  • Yeah, because like the thing about those venues, there's a variety of things about them that work in my favor.

  • I mean, I like talking to crowds.

  • You know, I've always enjoyed lecturing, and so lecturing to several 1000 people isn't much different than lecturing to several 100 people.

  • But I also know that the people who have come are they're happy to be there, like I'm I'm speaking to a welcoming crowd.

  • And so and it's all All of the details are essentially under my control.

  • So So it's not it.

  • I'm actually enjoying it quite a bit.

  • I mean, I'm apprehensive beforehand because Well, because you should be.

  • You know, I want to do a good job and I want to make sure things go well.

  • And I want to get through the material properly and and and get a little farther in my thinking that I have Bean and and I'm trying to make each time I lecture better than the last time, and I don't Obviously I always don't succeed at that, but But it's good.

  • I'm enjoying it.

  • And my wife is a very good travel companion.

  • She's very stable and she helps me plan my days.

  • And so we've got it down to a bit of a routine.

  • I would say Tommy is in the room with this.

  • We have already met previously in Los Angeles.

  • You won't be on Mike.

  • There isn't my book.

  • It's just in case.

  • Listeners are wondering why Perhaps they might be able to detect in my voice.

  • I'm occasionally glancing towards the spouse.

  • The reason is because I am now they will when you're, um, doing these letters.

  • Is there no a performance component?

  • Do you know if you're definitely Yeah, Well, sure.

  • I mean, a lecture theatre is a theater, you know in a lecture is a form of theater.

  • Now it It's a serious form of theater.

  • But theater can be serious, you know, And and there's a seat, because partly what I'm doing is I'm presenting ideas to an audience.

  • But I'm also modeling the act of engaging with ideas, and that's the theatrical end of it.

  • And I don't give the same talk twice, like I have my stories and I have my collection of things.

  • I know when I talk about, but I try to try to do two things I try to.

  • I'm always talking to specific individuals in the audience, and so I'm having a conversation with the audience.

  • And so that's that's part of the dynamic element of the performance.

  • And the other thing I'm trying to do is to further my thinking on the topics that I'm addressing.

  • And there is a theatrical element to that because it's it's like I think this is the closest thing really that it compares to is probably stand up comedy.

  • Although I think the routines that comedians have are probably more well and formerly practiced in the ones that you know that then the talks that I that I engage in, I don't really think of it as delivering a lecture to an audience.

  • I'm trying to think about complicated things in real time, with an audience there to participate and to use the audience as an indicator of whether what I'm saying is gripping and comprehensible.

  • Your apprehension and understandable adrenaline prior to going on stage doesn't lead you thio lean into shtick, which would be the opposite of what you're describing.

  • One into remain engaged in a kind of dialectic process of discovery.

  • Because I thought, I'm in off the I am a comedian, like for us, I would argue there is a There is a distinction between performing before 200 people or 5000 people around 200.

  • I feel like I'm very relaxed.

  • I'm comfortable.

  • I feel like I've got a lot of space in there.

  • 5000 after, like sharpen up.

  • Now you've got no room, particularly because the other crucial difference is then is to be a laugh toe every 2030 seconds.

  • If there isn't, it gets pretty frosty up there is appealing to me as a comedian that's interesting, interested in furthering intellectual debate looking at their new intersections between politics and spirituality.

  • Perhaps they've always been there.

  • The's some of these evaporating context, the emergence of new ideas perhaps best exemplified by your own particular trajectory.

  • Is it interesting to me that these spaces are now becoming available for forms of types of performance that aren't so contingent?

  • It is on rapture and appear no right, And I know it is a very strange thing, and I'm not sure what to make of it.

  • You know, you see Sam Harris doing something quite similar.

  • Richard Dawkins is doing something quite similar, and and it's I mean, I was thinking, because I've been trying to conceptualize this and and 11 comparable audience or one comparable situation is probably that of standup comedians.

  • Another, I suspect are traveling IV engine avenge evangelical types?

  • Yeah, you know, because there, But of course, what they're doing is explicitly religious.

  • This is it.

  • This has elements of both of those, and what's emerging that's so interesting is that there's a clear public, um, appetite for high level intellectual conversation.

  • If it's if it's dynamic and I don't know what what's accounting for that all of a sudden.

  • Maybe it's because these sorts of discussions aren't taking place like they should in the classical media space.

  • You might be right that Jordan, I mean to slightly mangle to slightly mangle the young quote that you use in your book.

  • 12 rules I'm really enjoying, actually, like the one could infer motivation from results, perhaps, is the political discourse.

  • Social discourse has become superficial and detached from meaning from purpose from experience that there isn't opening appetite for substance, that people startinto what you know.

  • And and, as you said about fear, before, you know, the origins of theater and the origins of religion are closely connected, and both of them still, our debt, or at least functionally, must relate to meaning purpose, giving us stories that help illuminate the path of Okay, well, I think that I think that's that's that's There's something about that that's profoundly correct.

  • I think that I know that The New York Times is recently written about the rise of the so called intellectual Dark Web, which is a term that Eric Weinstein so brilliantly coined, I would say, and very thoughtfully, I think that the thing that unites the people who are loosely grouped into that collection is that they are having serious conversations with an audience that they respect, and they're very diverse range of people.

  • They don't certainly don't like Salmon.

  • Sam Harris and I disagree about many things, for example, and but Sam respects his audiences and he's and he's engaging them in extremely serious discourse about very deep topics about the structure of reality, actually, and and the relationship between science and religion and and and the And I think it is a consequence of the fact that not only has our public discourse, let's say in the media and politics become shallow, I think it's become unbearably shallow in the universities.

  • So yeah, well, because it's become so ideological, you know, and it's just not helpful.

  • Look, I was interviewed by a New York Times journalist last week.

  • Uh, Nellie was her name, and she's going to publish this on Sunday, and she did a literature degree at Columbia, and she told me she was quite appalled, actually, by her degree, especially in in hindsight, she told me that she didn't know until she graduated that there was any other way of reading great literature than through a post modern lens and the postmodern lands takes a book, and basically you take a book, whatever it happens to be and you decide which power hierarchy the author was serving.

  • And who's he?

  • Who?

  • He's six or she has excluded from consideration.

  • So it's completely read through a political lens is if the book is nothing but a tool of political and economic domination?

  • Essentially, and that's the assumption and, like, look, everything's contaminated by politics and power to some degree.

  • But that doesn't mean that there's nothing to art and literature except in service of, of like, group domination.

  • It's an appalling way of looking at the world.

  • It would be an extraordinary bias.

  • To bring to Jane Eyre is a very difficult of sort of make sense of it through the lens.

  • Of course, you know economics and politics like, Oh, yes, of course, important themes are gonna be present in great works of art.

  • But I I'm interest.

  • There's still great works of art.

  • Yes, the thing.

  • And it's like, well, even even with something as transient as comedy, let's say I mean, you can't reduce comedy to the political or the economic and comics who become too ideological, let's say, like musicians who become idiot to ideological, they're just not funny anymore.

  • You have to be.

  • I mean, you can have your viewpoint left to right.

  • That's fine.

  • And people do.

  • But you have to be able to transcend that few point continually.

  • And you have to be able to criticize it because otherwise you're not a music.

  • You just become a demagogue of sorts.

  • Yes, I would agree that once there's a rubric to which you've become enslaved, that it becomes a dogmatic then then there's no room for nuance.

  • There's no room for hypocrisy, humor, the transcendent mirth, chaos, these forces I need to be unleashed.

  • There's also things you can no longer laugh about because you're you know you're so committed to your axioms.

  • You can't you dare not transgress against them.

  • And if that's deadly, if you're a comedian, because the rule for comedy would be on.

  • This is something I like about about Sarah Silverman, for example, is she will say anything if she thinks it's funny.

  • She's very daring in that matter, and like I've heard her tell jokes, that really would curl your hair.

  • You know, But you can tell by watching or something will pop into her head and part of her ghost chase.

  • I don't know if I should say this, and then she'll say it and it's often like horribly funny and horribly funny is a good kind of funny.

  • I mean, it's it's it's daring and And it's something I really admire about comedians, too, is that they'll they'll take that risk.

  • And and it's something also that I've found disturbing about with regards to the many things I find disturbing about university campuses is that so many comedians won't go perform on university campuses anymore because they can't be funny.

  • People get offended and it's a false Oh, fend off offended.

  • I think you're right.

  • I mean, I think it's like a kind of Simon says type of Ah, like, Do you know that game?

  • Do you have that game in your language?

  • Just like our this certain things that we know, we're not allowed to say the some things that we know is supposed to think there's a kind of a a kind of formulate dance, a courtly behavior.

  • I've heard it referred to as that we are meant to pay homage to a particular type of set of protocols and manners, and it's not necessarily anchored to a real morality is no anger to assess off a sense of spirit.

  • Present of love or kindness is about like these are the rules that we abide by.

  • I want to talk to you a bit about the 12 steps on the model for handling addiction.

  • I've written about myself in my book recovery because I want to see what you think of it.

  • Like So, like, uh, the 12 steps have anonymous fellowships, which I, if I were to belong to them, I wouldn't be able to say I belong to them without breaching their code of anonymity.

  • But what's positive about this approach to addiction is, as we have discussed off Mike, that it creates community like the other people, that I've got a similar in Devon.

  • In fact, it was young that identified tha This solution, he said that like people have got chronic addiction, issues will struggle to change, and they have a spiritually realization of some kind and the support the community on the spiritual realization component that's actually supported by the relevant addiction literature.

  • One of the classic cures for addiction is spiritual transformation, and the hard core scientists have have laid that out as as a reality in the addiction literature.

  • I agree, because they use more secular language around that a spiritual transformation could just be a change of perspective, a renewal radical change of perspective from and typically in my experience, that's from a self centered of you, a self obsessive you about getting your own needs met.

  • A solipsistic, narcissistic perspective of life is this is just a nad venture where I go around trying cumulate and the crew toe.

  • Oh, while I'm here to be off service.

  • That's off the transition, right microscopically.

  • But in addition, Thio Community like having connections between one another.

  • The 12 steps themselves, I think, are an interesting model for transformation and shouldn't be overlooked and in fact, what my book was about Canton.

  • Could that method be transposed to anybody who's interested in changed?

  • I wanted to talk to you about that to get your perspective on him.

  • The first step is acknowledging that you're powerless over your addiction and your life has become unmanageable, just admitting they see that in the right, so Okay, so two, There's two parts to that admission.

  • A one is that you're in trouble.

  • Yeah, and I guess there's three.

  • You're in trouble, and it's serious.

  • Things could be better on Dhe.

  • You don't have the wherewithal at the moment to make them better.

  • So the thing that's interesting about that is there is a kind of radical humiliation and humility that goes along with that.

  • You say I have a problem, and what I know at the moment isn't sufficient to solve it.

  • Great, because now you've opened yourself up to the possibility of learning something.

  • Yes, you say, Well, I don't know.

  • I don't know enough to fix this.

  • It's like OK, well, you could learn.

  • And one of the things that's so interesting about people is that if they decide they have a problem and they also noticed that they could learn the probability that they will learn goes way up.

  • That's very interesting.

  • You've actually conflict a it the first free steps there in your analysis off the 1st 1 Because the 1st 1 is admission, that is a problem.

  • The 2nd 1 is recognizing that things could improve, like came to believe that power.

  • Great nestles could restore us to sanity.

  • And the 3rd 1 has made a decision to turn our life and our will over to the care of God, as we understood, got so like yeah, we could talk about that from a sector goes well, we could talk about that from a secular perspective and say, Well, there's a There's a higher order moral principle that needs to be brought into the situation And you sort of describe that right at the beginning of the question because you said, Well, what Partly what you do when you move from an addicted state from a psychological perspective is moved from the viewpoint of the gratification of immediate desire and and maybe the accumulation of things as a marker of success to the notion that no, you actually have a higher purpose, and that higher purpose might involve being of service that could be of service to yourself, which means you wouldn't be addicted anymore because that's not a good way of being of service to yourself, but of service to yourself in the broader community.

  • However, you might define that that's a higher order purpose, and it can integrate your motivations at at a level that doesn't leave you at the whim of impulse.

  • That's the purpose of a higher order motivation.

  • So okay, so we've got three.

  • Yes, that's that the first race to get you to that position where you're willing to change, believe in the possibility of change and accept help in order to achieve that change.

  • The four from Fifth steps are about inventorying Get like.

  • This is where the 12 step program becomes a fusion off spirituality and psycho analysis.

  • Because the fourth step is like a four column method where you write down a list of all your resentment in your life childhood resentment, your resentment against the government people you work with you right all down.

  • And then there's a diagnostic tool where you identify what it is in you that doesn't like that on.

  • And also interestingly, in in 12 step theology, let's call it it says that anything, any time that you are personally disturbed, there is.

  • You have to take responsibility for it.

  • To a degree, there is something in you that's being affected.

  • She's at least ask yourself that question.

  • Is it me, or is it the world?

  • Yes, like, Well, let's consider first the possibility that it might be.

  • I wrote about that in the sixth rule, right?

  • Put yourself Jose.

  • Yes, yes.

  • In fact, I've got our to rule.

  • I might like I did a truncated and somewhat more linguistically explicit, an expletive laden version of the 12 steps on I've got your 12 rules for life here, and they don't necessarily correlate, but like because, like you said, your 1st 1 stand up straight with your shoulders back, That's a great chapter.

  • I think I love you know the lobster staff in this off.

  • That ancient, timeless, almost roots of hierarchies and the chemicals that are at play.

  • What's happening when you're what is that play when we talk about self esteem, like and this year the 61 set your own house in perfect order, I said, before you criticize the world steps four and five in the 12 step program.

  • Deal with that inventory.

  • What's going on in your life inventory, what your baggage is in your own personal.

  • You think it's very practical doubt.

  • It's like, Well, let's say you want to fix up your house, which is actually quite a lot like fixing yourself up, which is a very common dream metaphor.

  • Yeah, well, the first thing you want to do is go look around and see what needs to be fixed, you know, and this The interesting thing about that and this is akin to what comedians two is that as soon as you're willing to admit comedians, look at a problem and then rise above it right away and make a joke about it.

  • But as soon as you're willing to admit that you have a problem, then you're immediately contacted the part of yourself that's at least strong enough to admit that you have a problem.

  • And so soon the act of admitting the problem is actually the first step to solving it.

  • If he might say well, and it's an optimistic step because you might say, Oh my God, I can't admit toe that I have a problem because what if I can't solve it?

  • Exactly.

  • So then maybe you won't admit to it.

  • If you do admit to it, you're simultaneously admitting to the possibility that you could solve Yes, and then it can actually become something that's optimistic.

  • You could say, Well, my life is horrible It's like, OK, but I'm doing 50 things wrong.

  • Well, great.

  • I could fix those things and then maybe it wouldn't be so horrible.

  • It demonstrated.

  • The admission itself demonstrates progression and possibility for further progression.

  • I think it relates.

  • That's why humility is always stressed in great religious traditions.

  • Humility is precisely that.

  • It's like you have to look at why you're not so good.

  • Yeah, and you know that that has to break down your pride to some degree and your arrogance.

  • It's like, Well, that's great, because if you break down your pride and your arrogance, then you're primed to learn and you can solve your problems.

  • So there's nothing in that.

  • It's a bit crushing to begin with, because you might think, Oh my God, there's a pretty a lot of things wrong with me But at least then you're on the on the road to fixing them.

  • My personal journey of recovery has Bean like a kind of death, like look at that when I was 27 is like the death off the drug at itself.

  • That guy does funny because I told Tammy when we were coming here today that when you were 27 you made the decision to live.

  • I knew it was 27 because that's when people say like you.

  • But you know, celebrities who who are sort of on fire they die all the time in 27 because they don't make that decision.

  • They decide that they don't decide that they're going to take that final step into maturation.

  • They want to hold on to that Peter Pan thing that that part of Britain is You bet you exactly that they wanna hold on to that and you can't hold on to that and live Yes.

  • And then there's a further death I'm noticing now in my early forties that, like are now at the midway point at the middle in its of Dante esque way on.

  • Now I'm moving towards the grave, and now I'm like, there's a different kind of alertness emerging on back to this step four or five moments process of inventory after you've made an imagery and you've you've correctly you honestly and openly put down everything incidents of child abuse, things that you've said to other people, things that your shame once you've been willing to inscribe your shame, then you tell another person a person that you trust in the original literature.

  • It says, You know, it could be a cleric, a doctor or wherever it typically in ah, in 12 step structures.

  • It's like a mentor figure.

  • But that has that.

  • That's the role of confession, which offered a huge part of psycho analysis.

  • The point in your book.

  • I think this potato is when you talk about the dragon and the dragon gave, You said.

  • There's that kid's book that you read, where it talks about the dragon getting bigger and bigger.

  • If it's no identified, I think four or five are somewhat like that.

  • Yeah, well, in part of the point of that kid's book is that as soon as you turn around and look at something, it tends to shrink.

  • And that's partly because imagine that you have a memory that you won't confront.

  • Well, there's something in that memory that's terrifying, but and that means it's sort of associated with everything else that's terrifying.

  • And so it's whore.

  • It's horrible.

  • But then when you turn around and look at it, you think, yeah, it's horrible, but it's it's horrible in this precise and defined way on that takes it away from all the other potential horrors of it.

  • It starts to shrink it right away.

  • It also makes you into the thing that can turn around and look at the horror, which is a real, real, positive, transformational act on your part.

  • So it is true that somehow in like being being prescriptive and being specific, the problem becomes manageable because otherwise it's limitless.

  • It's not mutual.

  • It becomes apocalyptic in the end.

  • What what's the worst thing?

  • That's Cabinet?

  • I could be destroyed and everyone I love could be destroyed on Earth itself could be destroyed until you say, Well, actually know what this is is you feel inadequate because you weren't role model correctly.

  • That's all right.

  • Well, I could maybe take care of that right?

  • That's still bad.

  • But it's not everything.

  • And then you phrase that exactly right is that without that attentive de limiting, it becomes apocalyptic.

  • That and that that's a very, very old idea.

  • So one of the things that happens in the Mesopotamian creation myth Ian Umi Elish is that the guards were created there.

  • There, there, there, the offspring of chaos.

  • That's a good way of thinking about it and they become very careless and they destroy their category system.

  • They destroy their father essentially, and chaos comes flooding back.

  • And that's what happens to people who aren't looking at things and d limiting them properly.

  • They become up apocalyptic and do the mitt so.

  • But sometimes in mythology there is the positive conference confronting off the God G Prometheus.

  • So sometimes we need to steal steal the fire.

  • Sometimes we need thio challenge these orthodoxies, don't we?

  • Yes, absolutely.

  • I mean part part of the well part of the death that you're describing is actually the confrontation with a form of tyrant like your previously addicted self.

  • Was the tyrant over your emergence self?

  • Yes.

  • And so it's an internal tyrant.

  • And you said it was predicated on a false value system that's a false set of gods, essentially, and so you had to confront that That is a kind of death.

  • I also think that some of the addiction or addictive tendencies and I don't mean a severe is chemical dependency or forms of addiction addiction or a kind of self constructed formaldehyde to preserve you in the state of trauma.

  • But trauma is acknowledged.

  • No means to navigate trauma are present because of the isolation.

  • Because you have no mentor, you have no, you have no doctrine.

  • You have no community, so addiction steps in.

  • This is how well preserved.

  • This is how I will not die.

  • I will find this repeat notice.

  • That is a habit, a repeated pattern to sustain you.

  • Ah, holding pattern so that you don't die because there is no way out.

  • There's no guide.

  • There's no path.

  • You're just in the forest and there isn't a way out.

  • So I thought that addiction for personal experience and I hope and expect more broadly, is a means force off Stasis for preservation after trauma.

  • The rupture occurred is no addressed.

  • Onda means for survival emerges in the form of addiction.

  • Addiction is not your nemesis is your friend, at least while you're in Wall Street.

  • And while there is certainly a literature on addiction that indicates that many people use addictive substances as a form of self medication and they tend to find the drug that best best medicate sthe, Um, let's say And for different people, that's different drugs.

  • Yes, even against all.

  • Yeah, like I think And now one of the other things that I'm proposing in my book is to use rather grandiose terminology is that the the template for a recovery from obvious forms of addiction could be applicable to less evident forms of addiction.

  • I'II just patterns and habits because, well, so far, the things you've laid out would be would be in keeping with that.

  • I was like, Well, you admit to the problem.

  • Yeah, I really also, I think the idea of laying out your resentments is unbelievably useful because that's also a way of dealing with the malevolence within you that might interfere with your own recovery.

  • If you're angry at yourself if you're angry at your parents, if you're angry at the world, the probability that you're going to be in the mental state that's going to allow you to chart a pause, of course for yourself is very, very low.

  • How can you have a clear and authentic relationship with your wife if you've not correctly understood what you feel about your own mother?

  • If you feel like that you were in meshed or trapped in some way, how am I supposed to have another If I have not understood that I have not gained a new perspective if I've not transcended it by sharing of another Percy that in the sleeping beauty story in the Disney Story, when the prince is encapsulated in the castle, in the dungeon at the end and before he goes and rescue Sleeping Beauty, he has to confront his terrible mother.

  • She turns into the dragon of chaos itself.

  • He has to use honesty and truth to confront her.

  • And until he does that, he can't free the maiden from her sleep s O That that's called the That's called the freeing of the animal from the negative mother archetype in human psychology is precisely that.

  • And that and that negative feminine will be over laid on your partner unless you unless you're able to clarify it and clarify your relationship with it.

  • And that could be something like over protection.

  • Or it could, you know, in your past.

  • Or it could be neglect, for that matter.

  • Or it could be the rejection at many at the hands of many, many women before you encountered this woman and that.

  • Then you're gonna bring that bitterness forward as a kind of projection.

  • If we are unwilling to undertake this kind of excavation.

  • Then we are doomed to continually have relationships that are cutaneous.

  • Just the superficial coordinates will govern our experience of relationships.

  • S A.

  • That's the repetition.

  • Compulsion from a Freudian perspective is that I mean, that isn't how Freud explained it.

  • That's how union would explain.

  • But but the simple explanation of it is well, if you bring the same set of prison unexamined pre suppositions to every situation, the same fate will play out.

  • You might say, Well, all those women are the same.

  • It's like, Well, actually, no.

  • But the part of the the part of them that you're able to make contact with acts the same every time.

  • That's a very different thing.

  • Brilliant.

  • And this is where six and seven, the next two steps or chronologically occur like that six.

  • Having done this inventory, you recognize what patterns have been a play in your life, which particular in the Mexican off the recovery defects of character of governed you often pride.

  • One Internet troll over people's perspective.

  • Self pay, self centered nurse, intolerance in patients, green jealousy, envy, lust, slice for you, identify the seven deadly sins and how they play out in your life.

  • Essentially, yes, and so you become in the set.

  • Step six is about becoming willing to live differently.

  • Landlady saying I are you actually willing to let go of last?

  • Are you or do you like lust when it comes to it?

  • Do you like being impatient?

  • Does it serve you in some way to be slothful?

  • It's highly probable that it does.

  • Yeah, you know, it's it's It's easy, It's gratifying.

  • It's powerful.

  • It's pleasurable, especially in the short term, like there's lots of their reasons that people are tempted by by the seven deadly, since they can't find a glorious there, Doc glory and they have a room that's exactly right there.

  • There's a dark romantics, and you really see that in the deaths of celebrities around 27 is they?

  • They fall in love with the allure of that kind of of that romantic death and does them in.

  • So the anti libido, the dark libido, the death force.

  • So with once you have diagnosed which particular defects of character of being most prominent in your path and become willing to let go of them.

  • This, like it's step seven is making a concerted and riel effort to live without them, and this is where it kind of becomes a sacrifice theory.

  • That's what are you willing to sacrifice?

  • In order to move forward?

  • You have to give up something that you love, and you may have to give up the thing you love the best.

  • That's the fundamental sacrificial motif, sacrifices and unattractive idea in our self in our society that's based on consuming and the indulgence, and this is not something I would like.

  • So this is again, perhaps you, where you and I somewhat differ is that I would not.

  • Whilst this will not change about the individuals engagement, a kind of step one, an acknowledgement that needs to be changed.

  • This is where I say there is a social responsibility.

  • For whatever reason, our society has become a manifestation of thes darker impulses.

  • These old the prevalent forces, at least in the kind of society I live in.

  • I think it was like to live in China or Libya.

  • I'm just saying, like in London, like what?

  • You're much emphasis on immediate gratification.

  • Too much embassies on, because immediate gratification is a tall of consumerism this would be my argument I'm so like.

  • But at this point, the program, it's where the spirituality becomes.

  • I find personally undeniable that you have to, uh, you have to call to something else.

  • You have, in a sense, because lay yourself open to an idea of prayer becomes quite important now.

  • So there's a There's a union idea there.

  • So the union's self is the thing that guides the ego through transformations.

  • So imagine the eagle, which is what you think you are.

  • Well, the thing about the ego is the eagle could be wrong, and the ego could die and be reborn.

  • So what that indicates is that there's something underneath the eagle.

  • Yes, it can guide that process of transformation and partly what you're calling on when you call on this.

  • Higher power is, at least from a psychological perspective, it's a decision to rely on that thing that can guide you through transformations.

  • Yes, because surely, as we said in relation to another, we are likely relate into a set of coordinates that we impose on invoke commas, the female.

  • The true same will be true of the cell that we have created an impression une going impression we have constructed in our official self, but beneath it there is a higher self or another area self has often composed of.

  • It's often composed of things that you refused to our wood weren't willing to develop.

  • And so when young talks about, for example, the incorporation of the Shadow is that you've constructed an ego and there's things that can do and can't do that it's allowed to do.

  • It isn't allowed to do.

  • And then there's a shadow domain that would consist of those things that you could do but haven't.

  • And some of that's terrible.

  • But some of it's what you need to break free is them infinite variety in the shadow.

  • RR this off templates there.

  • Would you say that you know, a common component off the show She's last aggression, aggression to because they're the most the 200 most realized.

  • Yeah, they're the two that are most difficult to integrate into the ego because aggression destroys and of course, lust subsumes the individual to to to well, to sexual sexual desire is such a lust isn't but identified is a very powerful self.

  • It can it can subsume, so I suppose that's why a lot of theological doctrines focus on the control off last.

  • And there is.

  • Of course, it's a disruptive force, you know, because, for example, if you make a medium to long term relationship with someone and you negotiate that that provides you with a stable structure that can operate across your entire life is good for you.

  • It's good for them.

  • It's good for your kids, is good for society.

  • But then, if you're really attracted to someone momentarily, you could be driven to act on that, and every all the rest of that can burn up.

  • It's not good.

  • And so it's no wonder that it's viewed as a a force of tremendous disruption Now.

  • It's also a force of tremendous life, right, because you want to be attracted to people you want to have that that that vital libido as part of part of what's driving you forward.

  • But hopefully it's on your side and not working against you.

  • And so you know, if you're successful and you've put yourself together and you're disciplined, you should still be maximally sexually attractive.

  • But it should be under your control.

  • You're not you're not the puppet of that force anymore.

  • It's integrated into you, and that's a much better way to manage it.

  • How do you do in your understanding?

  • How is the shadow incorporated?

  • What rituals?

  • What ceremonies?

  • What behaviors successfully incorporate a shadow, say in the using the example of lust?

  • What's a way back in for the for lust that is being disembodied or repressed?

  • What's a safe way for it back in?

  • Is there one?

  • Well, I think part of it is to is to admit to your desires within your own relationship, you know, because you might say, Well, I'm I'm tired of my wife.

  • It's like Well, yeah, maybe maybe you're tired of the games that you're intelligent enough to play with your wife, but she's as pure e potential as you are.

  • And so you have to admit to your desires.

  • Let's say, and maybe you have to make them consciously manifest within your own relationship.

  • And then you know when people can do that, people do that by by dressing up or by by playing sexually.

  • I would say the guy by play exactly that plays a transformative element, and that is you know, it might be that you're uncomfortable with the idea of of your wife as sexual play thing because you think that a woman who's married should be proper and prim and should only behave sexually in a certain way.

  • In which case will that become sterile and dull?

  • And you're more likely to be tempted by something on the outside.

  • For me, that's a very obvious example of how habitual ized thinking is prohibitive, even without reaching the extremes of self destructive, addictive tendencies.

  • If I have a habit of regarding my wife as a CZ object, they even if that's not objectification, is we're typically take care but limiting beliefs about my wife that the tools that breakdown addictive thought patterns could be used to create new terrain.

  • Sze New Liberty New play Thank you s so like.

  • So once you've done up to step seven, which is essentially steps on your rights or sacrifice of the old self in handing over to some kind of sublime divine self, that step is you make a list of people that you have harmed ongoing.

  • I'm willing to make amends to them.

  • You look back in a particle garnishment of stolen that I should have done that.

  • I treat that person badly.

  • That was wrong.

  • I lied.

  • So its moral, it becomes quite moral.

  • And that's a real repentance, right?

  • An atonement.

  • Atonement is at one meant, and if you're carrying transgressions that you regard his transgressions now in your life, then you want to carry those forward you want.

  • You want.

  • You want to step forward in life without that moral burden because you'll have contempt for yourself otherwise and you won't take care of yourself.

  • It also, in the sense that we would talk about about allowing last backing, incorporating last just then This is, ah, more a broader method for incorporate in annexed aspects of the self.

  • Like, you know, how can you fully love?

  • How can I fully love myself?

  • I know I treat that person abominably.

  • Well, if I go back and say that was wrong, I did.

  • You're wrong.

  • I owe you an amends.

  • You are.

  • You invite that part of your life in you amended your path through life as well as teaching yourself that that is not the way we proceed anymore.

  • That's why, and that's a really that's that's taking out that's re election in the world.

  • It's not a hypothetical at that point, right?

  • Yes, it's kind of like telling people what you've written down about your about your faults.

  • Yes, yes, because it makes it really when you when you're acting it out with someone else, It's not only a mental thing at that time, doesn't it?

  • Furthermore, indicate step up step is done separately.

  • The step is right up the list of people Step nine is now go through it.

  • It makes the distinction, I think, to create a space for you where you are, where you're not continually thinking I'm not fucking doing that.

  • I'm not going to apologize.

  • I was abused by then.

  • Fuck that.

  • They didn't do much wrong as I did, just which is not the point.

  • It is not the point on.

  • Also, I think they might have done more wrong than you did.

  • Yes, but you're still stuck with the fact that you did something wrong.

  • That's what's not good.

  • And if you refuse to surmount the obstacle of like, you know some arbitrary measure of who is more wrong than you continue to cast yourself in victimhood, you have no personal autonomy.

  • Choose to go for it doesn't.

  • It doesn't matter if you're only 5% at fault and it also doesn't matter if the other person apologizes to you.

  • They should.

  • It would be better for them.

  • It might make things will lay out.

  • That's not the point.

  • And this, perhaps, is where what I think is significant that now your life has become not negotiation between you and other be beings as they materially present themselves.

  • But between yourself and this higher purpose that is being declared earlier that you are now operating on the inverted commas spiritual plane you are no longer about.

  • If I do that, I'll get that it precisely doesn't matter if every person goes.

  • I don't care if you apologize.

  • I'm not religious language that would be expressed as the discovery of your father in heaven instead of your earthly father, because your father in heaven would be the higher spiritual authority to which you owe allegiance.

  • And you can think about that either.

  • In religious terms are non religious terms, is that what you've done is you've in some senses, you've abstracted the the idea of a higher authority on a higher purpose, and you've decided to devote yourself to that.

  • That's a religious act, and that's precisely antithetical to post modernism is saying that there No, no, no, no, there is.

  • In essence, there is a country.

  • There is a way.

  • There is a difference.

  • That's right.

  • That's that's That's what is precisely antithetical.

  • Yes, because the post modern claim is that there are multiple ways of looking at the world many ways, and that's true.

  • But the antithesis of that is yes.

  • Just because there's multiple ways of looking at the world doesn't mean there are multiple, proper ways of looking at the West.

  • In fact, there's a very narrow range of proper ways of looking at the world.

  • My, my concern with atheism has always bean.

  • It's easy affiliation with nihilism.

  • Why don't you just wonder if it's not fucking people?

  • Then that's like, That's like That's where my mind immediately goes.

  • If there is no an order, why not just smash everything for me, the reins and you're saying ideologically?

  • That is what's happening ideologically with deconstructing God with the the constructing morality without was gender with deconstructing, and that was the danger that both both nature and Dostoyevsky pointed to.

  • Clearly It's like you dispense with the transcendent principle and you open up the landscape for impulsive nihilism.

  • What they responded to post enlightenment rationalism.

  • Is that what those dusky and nature responding to, why they weren't responding essentially to the idea of the death of God, both of them and and that explicitly?

  • And is that an enlightenment idea like, where is that?

  • Where is death of God happening?

  • That they had to be at the hands of a of a kind of arrogant and narrow rationalism and materialism and the exposition off the exponentially That has led us to where we're going now, which is a kind of okay, we're sort of digging the earth from beneath our feet.

  • Putting us that's going to be a base.

  • That's right, that that's that's that.

  • That's the hypothesis.

  • Precisely, Yes, 10 11 The last free step.

  • Step 10 is like continue to make inventory.

  • So, like, let this process continue like that for me in sight, coming out analytic terms.

  • I see a therapist, obviously like is when, like when there's a moment I know any spike in my energy if I go oh, I felt something that was interesting.

  • I felt jealous there.

  • I felt I felt small in that thing.

  • These are the moments I know and go out.

  • How was I participate in that?

  • What belief of mine was being challenged is that helpful belief, belief being a thought that I like having 11 right?

  • That's a kind of consciousness is like, Well, I'm gonna fall apart.

  • I'm gonna make mistakes.

  • I don't want to make mistakes.

  • I'm gonna keep an eye out for when I do make mistakes and I'm going to make them conscious.

  • And then I'm gonna try to work on them, Yes.

  • Bringing them into into consciousness Because my fear, my number one fear on a personal level possible on a social level I don't know quite how to extrapolate or conflate.

  • Those two notions is unconsciousness.

  • I get very afraid when I'm dealing with unconscious individuals.

  • When Pete, when I'm people don't know why they're doing what they're doing.

  • You may see this into a violent rage or even in less dramatic or theatrical behaviors.

  • I know there's a great idea that lurks at the bottom of the Christian mythological tradition Is that a little bit of consciousness destroyed the original paradise.

  • We became conscious enough to be aware of our own mortality.

  • But the cure for that is way more consciousness, not a return to unconsciousness.

  • Yes, there's no going back.

  • There's no going back.

  • I sometimes think the plethora of zombie movies is, you know, they don't know they're already dead, like so.

  • Like that danger of the zombie is the danger of the desire for unconsciousness, a solution to life's problem.

  • And I think that this is again something will be invited to to participate in fruit consumerism that live your life continually on the frequency of unconscious energy such as desire and fear that we're not being We're not being invited to participate on the level of consciousness conscious interaction presence in the moment.

  • While you could make that case, if you made the case that consumerism promotes the gratification of immediate desires above all else, I think it does.

  • That's my That's what I'm pushing form with his original sin, like a little bit of conscience is a dangerous thing.

  • We've become where the vulnerability of mortality, our nakedness and corporeal nature.

  • But the solution to this is tow.

  • Become more conscious.

  • We have s o.

  • How do you how was that the rest of the Bible?

  • Yes, Windows reminding, Where does that get resolved?

  • Know when they get kicked out of the garden?

  • Well ingrained part of part of what happens in the in the redemptive story is, if you think about Christ, is a symbolic figure, say a symbolic of the process of transformation that we just described is one of the one of the morals of the Christian passion is that you need to radically accept your limitations and so part of this keeping your sins before your eyes, which you just described.

  • Here's all the ways that I fall short of the glory of God.

  • Let's say you know, I make this mistake.

  • I make this mistake.

  • I make this mistake.

  • That's all consciousness.

  • And it's painful, right?

  • Because you think, well, you become more conscious.

  • It's this glorious process of enlightenment, and overall it is.

  • But the details are exactly this.

  • The things you need to become consciousness conscious off are precisely those things that you least want to become conscious off, and that this is the motif that young identified in

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