Placeholder Image

字幕列表 影片播放

  • Hi there.

  • I guess I'm on.

  • My son isn't here tonight.

  • So on doing this in my relatively technologically clueless manner, um, is one thing I've noticed about getting older.

  • I have kept up with computer technology pretty well, I would say, but I do.

  • Fine.

  • Maybe because of the demands on me in the last year.

  • Maybe I'm not stupid.

  • It's possible.

  • So anyways, hi, everyone.

  • Nice to see you here.

  • It looks like I've got the chat Working.

  • Is everything working?

  • Looks like it.

  • All right, So I'm going to start with some questions that people sent me.

  • Anyways, thank you for all be all you.

  • You for being here, by the way.

  • It's very much appreciated, huh?

  • It's quite remarkable a sw far as I'm concerned that you tune in to listen to me talk with you.

  • I definitely do appreciate it.

  • So I'm gonna start with some of the questions that people sent me earlier, and I'll keep an eye on the chat YouTube Jack as well.

  • So hopefully the audio's good.

  • What about that house?

  • The audio there, guys.

  • So now Adam W.

  • Patterson asked me a question that got 410 votes he said.

  • Um, I am a Web software developer.

  • Are you hiring or can I volunteer for anything?

  • I could build anything.

  • I can automate things.

  • I could simply be an assistant of sorts.

  • Thank you for your time.

  • Well, what I would like to say about that is first, Thank you, Adam.

  • It's much appreciated on A lot of people have volunteered their time to me and their and their technological expertise.

  • And as much as I'd like to make use of it, that simple truth of the matter is that I'm sufficiently overwhelmed by the complexity of my life at the moment that it's very difficult to undertake a new collaborative project with anyone.

  • Generally speaking, before all this political, um, what would you call it before all these political events overtook my life?

  • I was already scheduled, probably about six months to a year out.

  • You know, all my time was already eaten up.

  • And, of course, the addition of everything that's happened in the last year to that has occupied my time to a degree, that is was is really somewhat unimaginable.

  • And so I just can't take on additional help, which is so strange because you think that help is help that it would save time.

  • But you know, it's very difficult to enter into a collaborative relationship with someone, and especially if you want to give them credit, do things properly.

  • So at the moment, I'm afraid that I can't entertain any such offers, even though I'd like to.

  • And there may come a time in the future, especially when I'm hopefully starting to work more on this online university project.

  • Um, I've got a few projects to finish up before that.

  • The new personality test, which we've just about, got all the bugs worked out of, and also the high school version of the future authoring program.

  • We're all we're all set up long before any of this happened.

  • So I have to clear them out before I could concentrate on a new project that I finished a book over the last couple of years to called 12 Rules for Life, an antidote to chaos which is now available, by the way, if you're interested on Amazon for preorder and so anyways, this is my roundabout way of saying thank you very much, but I can't except more help at the moment because my time is too restricted to make proper use of it.

  • So, um plays, nor in how to use the results in the new personality test for progress in life, try to compensate some sides that that received fewer points Well, at the risk of sounding self serving.

  • That's actually why we developed the self authoring suite was to help people improve their let's say, performance and mental health.

  • Now we don't have direct evidence that will that will improve personality, but I suspect that that evidence would take a very long time to accumulate what we do know.

  • It was self are throwing sweet, especially the future authoring Sweet helps people helps university students, for example, stay enrolled in university.

  • It increases the probability of that by about 25% and increases grade point average by about the same.

  • And there's good theoretical reasons for assuming that writing is a good way of of writing about yourself and about your past and about.

  • Your future is a good way of catalyzing personality transformation because it appears that personality the human psyche is organized at the highest level of abstraction, using something like self narrative and a well developed narrative makes a frame for your life and helps you stabilize your negative emotions and also experience more positive emotion because you only experience positive emotion in relationship to a goal back to me.

  • Goal directed activity a lot more rewarding.

  • So you know it's a lot easier to engage in activities that aren't intrinsically rewarding if they're linked to something that you really find important.

  • And so I would say, If you want to work on your personality well, the first thing you have to do is figure out who it is that you want to be, and then you have to make a plan, and maybe you have to clean up your past as well.

  • And the South bartering suite was designed, you know, quite carefully, in order to help people do that with a relative minimum of effort.

  • Not that it's easy, because it's not but a relative minimum minimum of effort compared to other technologies, let's say and like like long term psychotherapy, and to make it cost effective as well.

  • So okay, so another question voted up 77 votes.

  • Australia is holding a plebiscite on whether to legalize gay marriage.

  • I'm against the yes campaign, but only because it's backed by cultural Marxists.

  • I'm curious to hear your views on gay marriage.

  • Well, I would be against the two of was backed by cultural Marxists because it isn't clear to me that, um it will satisfy the ever increasing What would you call demand for an assault on traditional modes of being now with regards to gay marriage.

  • Specifically, that's a really tough one for me because, you know, I didn't imagine I can't do anything really other than spoke platitudes about it.

  • I suppose.

  • Unfortunately, you know, if if the marital balls are taken seriously, then it seems to me that it's a means whereby gay people could be integrated more thoroughly into standard society, and that's probably a good thing.

  • And maybe that would decrease promiscuity, which is a public health problem, although obviously that's not limited to gay people.

  • Although gay man tend to be more promiscuous than average, probably because there's no women to bind them with regards to their sexual activity.

  • Um, the problem is, is that it does seem to me to be part of a wedge, and it isn't obvious to me that that legalizing gay marriage has done anything to decrease the demands that the radical left neo Marxist types are placing on traditional society.

  • So, um, those are my views.

  • I know they're confused, you know, because I'm in favor of of extending the bounds of traditional relationships to people who wouldn't be involved in a traditional long term relationship.

  • But I'm concerned about the undermining of traditional modes of being, including marriage, which you know has technically and historically being a union between a man and a woman fundamentally, for the purpose of raising Children in a stable and, um on optimal and stable environment.

  • So and marriage has already taken a fair bit of damage over the last few decades.

  • You know, poor people are increasingly less likely to be married, and that's really not good for them.

  • As far as I'm concerned.

  • Hi, I'm currently going through a hard time.

  • Is a first time mom with a nine month old.

  • I feel depressed and anxious, and I'm highly neurotic and volatile.

  • Can you suggest anything to help me be a better mum?

  • Well, you know, lots of people have a hard time with their nine months old.

  • I guess the first question would be.

  • Are you getting enough sleep?

  • Do you have enough help?

  • Are you eating enough?

  • Especially in the morning, you know, And you're gonna feel highly neurotic and volatile to some degree because while you've been through quite a physiological trauma and it's very demanding toe have a newborn baby.

  • So the best thing I could say not knowing you is to make sure that you have people around that you could talk to about your baby and that you can and that you can take a break when you need to have someone spell you.

  • I mean, that's often the role that a husband plays in the first year of the baby's life is that he can.

  • He's supposed to watch the mother to make sure that she doesn't get overwhelmed by the demands of the baby.

  • And so I would hope that you're able to ask for support when you need it, and not to be afraid of asking for support, especially to get a rest and to get something to eat, because that's really important, especially in the morning.

  • Other than that, I can't tell you anything really specific.

  • Unfortunately, given that I don't know anything about the specifics of your situation come.

  • If it gets out of hand, you know you should go.

  • The other thing, I should say, is if it gets out of hand, you should go speak with your with your doctor with a professional because you might have postpartum depression.

  • There's some dispute about whether that exists and as an independent diagnostic entity.

  • But you can certainly be physiologically stressed.

  • And if you have a pre disposition to depression than that kind of physiological stress and sleep disruption could bring it on.

  • So I would say, if it really gets out of hand, don't hesitate to go talk to someone professional.

  • You know, it may be necessary to do that because you don't want to fall too far down the hole, that's for sure.

  • So, Emma, Jovan Novick says, Dr Peterson, I want to thank you because this isn't a question for what you do.

  • I'm a 22 year old girl and your videos, they're helping me so much with figure in my life.

  • Out you're alone are helping me be braver every day.

  • Well, I'm really happy about that.

  • You know what?

  • I like your emphasis on bravery.

  • You know, because one of the things that we've learned, as clinicians say, is that when you help people overcome anxiety, it isn't that you make them less anxious necessarily, although I think you could do that to some degree by having people confront some of the demons in their past.

  • But instead of making them less anxious, you make them braver.

  • And that's not the same thing, right, because there's lots of reason to be anxious.

  • The world's full of uncertainty and fear and reasons for fear and reasons for pain.

  • But to be braver means to confront those voluntarily.

  • And that's really a good thing.

  • When will the next five electoral occur?

  • October 24th?

  • There'll be three of them before the end of December, and I want to keep them going into the future.

  • They being quite successful, I would say I would like to go through the whole book, although that would probably take me the rest of my life.

  • But I do really think it's necessary because it is the case that the the specific narratives and the meta narrative that air that are embedded in the biblical stories and its surrounding literature are at the fundament of Western culture, and we need to reconnect with out in order to make sure that our culture stays strong.

  • And I don't think it's particularly strong right now, and that's a very bad That's a very bad thing for everyone.

  • It leads to nihilism and despair and and in an ability to plan for a meaningful future and cynicism and all of those things.

  • And that's especially bad for young people, because when you're young and your life is ahead of you, it's the lights the last time that you need to be nihilistic and cynical, it's definitely not good.

  • So dark pyre to says, How can you dispute the theory that Jesus is just a rewrite of the Sun God myth?

  • Well, I wouldn't necessarily dispute that theory, although I would dispute the just.

  • I mean, the strange things about the biblical stories and let's say about the New Testament stories is that they echo across multiple levels of analysis.

  • And so there is an astrological element to the Christ story that you wrote about a fair bit in a book called Eye On, which is a very terrifying book, and there are echoes of the myths of the Sun God.

  • And but the funny thing is, and this is one of the things I can't really understand about the biblical stories is that they manifest themselves at multiple levels of interpretation simultaneously.

  • And you could say that that's merely a consequence of continual historical re working.

  • And I suppose that could be the case.

  • But the fact that they manifest themselves as a personal story and as a cosmic story and as a historical story and as a mythological story and that it all works at the same time strikes me as as pointing to something that's really somewhat beyond our current level of understanding.

  • Um, I can't elaborate on that a lot because it would take us into places that I really would rather not go.

  • But I do believe that, like there's something synchronous using Young's terminology about about death and resurrection story.

  • And the synchronised element is is associated with the fact that the story echoes across so many levels of analysis.

  • And my sense is that when something echoes across many levels of analysis, that means that it's approaching something like a very deep truth.

  • So I know that isn't normally how we go about determining what constitutes truth.

  • But we don't know everything about howto determine what constitutes truth yet, and there are many things that we have yet to figure out.

  • That's certainly one of them, as far as I'm concerned.

  • So there is a sun God myth elements certainly on parallels between Christ and Horace, for example.

  • But that doesn't mean you can just say it's just a rewrite.

  • I don't think that I don't think that that's historically or psychologically accurate.

  • Um, have you watched Rick and Morty?

  • No, I haven't Many people have told me to watch Rick and Morty, although they said it's very dark and well, that doesn't bother me so much, I suppose, although I'm plenty dark, perhaps without adding to it so.

  • But I would like to watch it, and I probably will.

  • So I would love for you to do come and do a talk in Montreal.

  • Well, you never know.

  • That might happen.

  • I've been talking to God sod about that, a fair bit.

  • You know.

  • He's coming to Toronto November 11th so we could do the talk that was shut down by Ryerson back in August.

  • So I'm looking forward to that.

  • So what's the best way to stop drinking alcohol and start doing my best in my psychology degree?

  • It's affecting my study, but I could do very well if I stop.

  • I'm 26.

  • Well, Paul, what I would say is, I think you should do the future authoring program, and you should really concentrate.

  • There's a section in it that helps you determine what you're positive view of your future would be, but another section that helps you determine what would happen in your life if you're negative habits got out of control.

  • And one of the things that can really help you control your alcohol intake is to really, really think through what you're giving up on where you could be in five years.

  • If you don't get it under control and proclivity, the alcoholism could be a really vicious thing.

  • You know, lots of people get dragged down into the mud by alcohol, excessive alcohol intake, especially if they're sensitive to the opiate response that alcohol can produce.

  • And you could tell that if you when you drink, you know you get alert and let's same or enthusiastic and energetic, and then you don't want to stop drinking.

  • That's Ah, that's definitely a bad sign with regards to developing alcoholism.

  • So I would say you need to figure out something that's that's more important to you than drinking and also think through very hard the negative consequences of continuing your you're at about the age 26 where you should stop.

  • I mean, guys who are going to stop generally start slow down pretty, pretty intensely around that each, um, you know, also treating your psychology.

  • Studying as a full time job can also be helpful.

  • So, you know, get up at eight.

  • Morning, you're 7 30 in the morning and start hitting the books by nine and put in a six state our date.

  • And then even if you do keep drinking, at least you're moving forward.

  • So that's what I would say it built up.

  • RUS science fiction fan.

  • You referenced timelines, Starship Troopers and lecture, and your ideas often remind me of Harry Seldon Plan from a Z Moves Foundation.

  • Siri's Hey, Well, when I was a kid, which is quite a long time ago now, I lived in this town called Fairview, Alberta, which was a pound of about 3000 people way the hell North 350 miles northwest of Edmonton.

  • And I have this neighbor across the street across the Ellie, actually, and he had a huge science fiction library must have.

  • Bean, I don't know, 5000 books.

  • They're 19 seventies, 19 sixties and 19 seventies classics like Hind London and as Marvin.

  • He would let me go over there and take like, 20 books at the time, and I was reading about a book today at that point, and I read science fiction like mad, probably till I was about 19 or so, maybe a little younger than that, then turn more to classic literature when I got to college and and also partly as a consequence of some lessons that the local library and taught me about what to read.

  • So I was a science fiction fan.

  • I haven't read science fiction for a very long time, although I was pretty happy with it when I was a kid.

  • So Richard Van Koppen says, Yes, I have.

  • I gra phobia and would love to hear about anxiety.

  • Well, that's a that's a rough thing to have a beautiful so Agra phobics get increasingly isolated and afraid of things outside of their domain of familiarity.

  • And often what happens of agoraphobia is that people who develop it are afraid of two things.

  • They're afraid that something is going to go dreadfully wrong with their health, especially with regards to their hearts.

  • So they start to become afraid that maybe they'll have a heart attack and that they'll die in public far from the hospital, and that they'll make a fool of themselves while they're doing it or, well, well, they think they're done.

  • So it's a combination of two fears, and one is fear of mortality, and the other is fear of social judgment.

  • And you might think about those is the two main categories of fear that possessed people because one is associating while obviously with mortality and death, and the other is associated with exclusion from the group, which course can lead to mortality and death.

  • And so the Agra phobics get the worst of both worlds.

  • It's often a disease of middle aged women, but not always, and they're often people who've been somewhat dependent in their previous lives and then undergo some traumatic event like a divorce or the death of someone close and and at the same time, our perhaps experiencing heart palpitations that are associated with menopause that brings ideas of immortality to mind.

  • And that contributor a panic attack, which is very what would you call it?

  • Unpleasant experience, to say the least.

  • And then that fear of panic attack starts making people avoid.

  • And that's when agoraphobia develops out of anxiety disorders with panic attacks.

  • So you go out and maybe you go to a mall and maybe you're in a crowd.

  • And maybe you start thinking about while your heart beat and about the fact that someone close to you has died.

  • And maybe then you become aware of your heartbeat and you start to panic because you feel that maybe it's the beat.

  • Is it regular or or that or that you can't detect it as well as you usually can, And then that makes your heart accelerate because it makes you afraid.

  • And then you get more more what you call sensitive to that and that makes your heart rate beat even faster.

  • And then you panic.

  • You want to get to the hospital to get checked out to make sure that you're all right, And then you make your fatal mistake, which is that you avoid going back to the mall and then you go to the grocery store and the same thing happens, and then you start to avoid going to the grocery store.

  • Then you start.

  • Avoid avoiding the subway or taxis or crowds, or anywhere you might get trapped and wouldn't be able to get to a hospital.

  • Soon you end up avoiding everything, and that's when your life really starts to become a living hell.

  • So the basic way to treat agoraphobia There's two ways, and one is to develop some control of breathing to do progressive relaxation.

  • And the way you do that is that you start with your start by concentrating on your toes and your feet and then your ankles and then your shins on your knees.

  • You move all the way up your body and let the tension flow out of your muscles and regulate your breathing calmly and carefully, so that you could learn to relax and then you go out.

  • You go out voluntarily and start to confront the things you're afraid of.

  • So, for example, if you're afraid of the mall, maybe you go to the parking lot and you look at the mall and then you walk close to the door and you look inside, you know, and then you go home because that's enough for one day.

  • But you do progressive exposure, and that's the base.

  • One of the basic rules of psychotherapy is that if you're afraid of something, you progressively and voluntarily expose yourself to it and that generally it's the voluntary exposure that's curative, right.

  • Accidental exposure could make you worse, but voluntary exposure could be curative.

  • That's sort of associated with the myth of the hero in the dragon.

  • You know, the hero was the person who goes out voluntarily to confront the dragon and overcome it and get the treasure.

  • So if you voluntarily expose yourself to things you're afraid of, like no more than you can tolerate, then you'll find that you get braver and you learn that you tolerate the fear and that can chase the egg or if we'll be back.

  • But it's very important to do it on a regular basis.

  • And if you have egg or if it'll be a full fledged anger for you should probably consult professional help because it's a very tricky condition and it could be very can really impair you badly.

  • So that's what I would recommend.

  • Hi, J P.

  • I'm wondering how the computer program that rates university courses as worthwhile or not is coming along well, it isn't rating them as worthwhile.

  • Its rating them as postmodern, neo Marxist or not, and it's actually fully developed is going to launch it.

  • And I didn't I didn't design it.

  • A Somebody volunteered to design it and presented it to me, and it seems to work very well.

  • I was going to launch it at the end of August so that this year's university students could benefit from it.

  • But there was the Charlottesville event, and then I got busy and I also wasn't feeling great, and so I just didn't hit the window of time properly.

  • But I hope to be able to launch it for the January incoming class to do a video about what's wrong with the university system, that many things that are wrong with the university system and to launch the website at the same time.

  • I also had people suggest to me that maybe it wasn't a good idea that it would increase polarization.

  • But I've thought about that for about a month and 1/2 and I think that the benefit to the consumer so that would be the informed student outweighs any danger of polarization.

  • And besides that, something has to be done because the situation in universities is really ridiculous.

  • So all right, so let's see what else we've got here in the chat room.

  • DVS s k a T E r.

  • Three.

  • That's quite a mouthful, says I'm studying to be a teacher, but I'm also an introvert.

  • Could this be a big problem?

  • Can I still be a successful teacher?

  • Actually, what seems to predict success of teaching best is intelligence and conscientiousness.

  • That's the data so far.

  • So if you're conscientious, then you'll probably be fine.

  • I mean, extra introverts have a harder time speaking in front of groups, but you can learn to do that.

  • You know, an introvert could become a very successful public speaker, may not enjoy it the same way that an extra vert might.

  • But that doesn't mean that you can't learn the skills, and what I would recommend for an introvert is the same thing that I do when I'm lecturing is I never talked to the whole group.

  • You know, it doesn't matter how big the crowd is.

  • I'm always picking out individuals in the group and talking specifically to them.

  • So I'll make a point to an individual.

  • And I watched their face and see if they're nodding and understanding right, because that way you make contact with the entire audience.

  • And then you know I'll talk to someone for about 15 seconds or so.

  • I don't want to put them on the spot too much, and then I shift my attention to someone else and I sort of pinpoint around the room.

  • And that keeps everybody in the room focused on what I'm saying, because each person reflects the entire crowd back to you.

  • And so I would say, If you're an introvert or if you want to speak in public in general, forget about the damn crowd.

  • It doesn't exist.

  • Speak to people, wanna one at a time, and an introvert could do that just fine.

  • So you know that's where you strength would be.

  • And I would say you're much more likely to be unsuccessful as a teacher if you don't work hard at it and if you're not interested in it, so if you're an introvert, I wouldn't worry about that.

  • I don't think that that will be the biggest problem that you face.

  • So Knicks are overrated, says Ditch your barber.

  • Well, I would actually like my barber quite a bit that had this hair cuts a little shorter than I'm accustomed to.

  • And there's some reasons for that.

  • But come O what can I say?

  • How hair grows back and I'll be just as beautiful as I was before.

  • No time.

  • So I guess that's how that see now, Richard Van Copan says, My haircuts looking fresh.

  • So who's that?

  • The Knicks are overrated.

  • Take that.

  • Yeah.

  • So would you consider having a discussion with Thomas Soul?

  • That Sam Dugan, Dugan.

  • Dugan?

  • Probably.

  • Yeah.

  • Definitely considered.

  • I I'm thinking hard about reaching out to him.

  • I have some discussions coming up that you might be interested in.

  • So, um, are going to talk on Jackal?

  • Will ings podcast.

  • And he was the leader of the Navy Seals team in Ramadan, and he's quite the tough character.

  • I met him down in San Diego a while back a month ago or so, and that was very interesting.

  • I have ah, video already prepared.

  • That's an interview with Eye out Hersey Aly.

  • It was done by Skype and needs some editing.

  • And so that's being a bit delayed.

  • I interviewed or discussed.

  • I had a discussion with Nina Paley, who's a great animator.

  • You guys should look her up.

  • That's Nina Paley.

  • She animated a lot of the Old Testament and set it to music, and I think her animations air unbelievably beautiful in the meeting.

  • She has great musical taste, their illegal videos.

  • Basically, she's making an illegal movie.

  • Um, but anyways, I really like your stuff.

  • I also had a discussion with Claire Layman, who runs Quill ET, which is a new news magazine online, which I think has got real promise.

  • And we had a good discussion.

  • And, um, let's see, is that it?

  • I think that's it on.

  • You probably know.

  • Or maybe you don't.

  • I just finished a discussion with Camille Paglia on.

  • We went down there.

  • I took a film crew down there to Philadelphia and met her at her university, and we talked for a couple of hours, and that was really interesting.

  • She's quite the fireball, that woman and unbelievably, verbally fluent and sharp.

  • And so I finally met someone who could talk more than me, and and that's probably good.

  • So but I really enjoyed speaking with her.

  • And I think about 100,000 people have watched that now in a day, So that's pretty good.

  • So we talked about postmodernism and the Malays that confronts the modern university and all of those sorts of things.

  • So Robin Dione says, Do you ever miss Montreal?

  • Hey, I was just in Montreal.

  • I went there to saw Saw a band called Half Moon Run, which abound.

  • I would highly recommend they were playing with the Montreal Symphony Orchestra, and I got invited to meet one of the singers and also go in and see the concert, which was excellent.

  • And yeah, I miss Montreal.

  • Montreal is a great city for you Americans who are listening.

  • Go visit Montreal, man.

  • It's a cool place and spend a week there in the summer.

  • It's It's a really good city in every way.

  • So yeah, so it seems we're bound to repeat history and what is old becomes new again.

  • Why is it that we can't seem to find equilibrium within a society.

  • Ideas begin with good intentions but lead towards the extreme.

  • Yeah, well, the reason we can't find equilibrium is because the environment that we live in isn't an equilibrium.

  • And so I I kind of imagine it this way.

  • It's like we're traversing the back of a giant.

  • This is obviously a symbolic reference of a giant serpent, and it's weaves back and forth, and you don't know at any moment which way it's gonna curve in turn.

  • And so sometimes it turns to the right, and sometimes it turns to the left.

  • And what that means politically is that sometimes we have to turn to the right, and sometimes we have to turn to the left, and we don't know exactly when those what you call.

  • We don't know exactly how to time that, and so what we all have to do is keep our ours open and tell the truth and discuss things with each other, especially with people who have political beliefs that are different than us, so that we can ensure that we haven't tilted too far one way or the other.

  • And that's why I'm an advocate of free speech or one of the many reasons I'm an advocate of free speech is because it's the continual dialogue between people of different, temperamental types that keeps us oriented.

  • As close as we count to the center of the serpent's back.

  • And so there is no permanent equilibrium.

  • There's only the equilibrium that's produced by continual negotiation in a democracy is a formalized negotiation.

  • And so, um, and it's free speech that keeps it healthy and alive, so there's no permanent equivalent equilibrium state except death.

  • No, it's always negotiation in relationships to look.

  • If you have an intimate relationship for a familial relationship or even a friendship, there's no final equilibrium state.

  • You have to communicate with each other honestly all the time and keep the relationship moving to adjust the environment that the relationship is operating in.

  • That's how it stays alive in an intimate, long term intimate relationship.

  • Like a marriage, it's a continual it takes continual effort.

  • I mean, it's worthwhile effort now, but you have to be conscious and await to keep your relationship alive, and you have to be communicating all the time.

  • Well, maybe not all the time, because you Conover communicate, too, but, um so Well, So that's why we can't reach a state of permanent equilibrium.

  • Okay, let's go back to the previously submitted questions.

  • How could I overcome my fear of driving on freeways?

  • Well, one of the things you could do this is, Ellis is do a fair bit of imagining driving on freeways and try to make the imagining as realistic as possible.

  • But then the other thing you could do is, and again it's graduated exposure.

  • If you're afraid of driving, go drive with someone you trust in a parking lot on Sunday morning, when there's no one there and then drive around the block, a street that isn't busy, and then go to a slightly busier street and then go to a slightly busier street and then find a highway that's like just a two later so that you know, you could practice merging and that sort of thing, and you gotta build a plan, say, with 20 degrees of difficulty, with the highest degree of difficulty maybe being merging onto a busy four lane highway and you could go a night and practice merging onto the busy highway because it won't be busy at night.

  • So I would say what you do is you break it down into small steps and then practice each step until you're bored with step.

  • And when you're bored with it, that means you're no longer anxious about it and don't quit.

  • You know, like stick at it because it's really useful to overcome a fear.

  • And once you've identified in fear, then you've identified something to overcome that could definitely make you stronger.

  • So, like good luck with it and get professional, like take a driving course of you need to as well and find someone to work with.

  • That isn't going to make you nervous and isn't gonna harass you.

  • But don't quit.

  • It's really important to overcome a fear like that.

  • No, I just picked something I shouldn't have clicked.

  • Actually, I'm pretty happy with myself.

  • My son isn't here.

  • As I mentioned, I'm still not like destroying this completely.

  • Although I may have done it now.

  • No.

  • Mmm.

  • See, that's what happens when you brag.

  • Because now all I've got is one question from Pigeon Hole and not all of them.

  • Let's see, gone it back to chart was the trick.

  • So Hey, I'm actually managing this up too badly.

  • So let's see here some more questions from the from the YouTube people.

  • Dr.

  • Peterson, I'm really hoping you can share your thoughts on the Vegas shooting you have.

  • Well, what I would do is recommend the biblical lecture I did on Cain and Abel, I would say, because I think that that's good summary of the state of mind that somebody has to be in in order to do what was done at Las Vegas.

  • So you have to be very, very embittered by life in order to do that sort of thing, and you have to be searching for revenge, I would say, and it's not, you know, you might think well, it's only revenge on other people because you've developed hatred for people.

  • But it's deeper than that.

  • It's not just hatred for people.

  • I would say it's hatred for being itself and the desire to take revenge on being for the outrage of the tragedy and suffering that's associated with being and maybe the tragedy and suffering that's being part parcel of your own life.

  • And that makes you embittered and then passed.

  • Embittered becomes outraged.

  • Past outrage becomes well homicidal or even genocidal, and that's a terrible state of mind to be in its a hellish state.

  • Well, I believe that the best way to conceptualize the state of mind that someone has to be an in order to do something like the Columbine shootings, for example, or what happened in Las Vegas is that you're really not.

  • You have to speak about it.

  • Religious languages.

  • You're really out for revenge against God, for the outrage of creation.

  • That's what it looks like to me, and that's a state of mind that's truly hellish.

  • And you could get there by brooding long enough.

  • Now it's also possible.

  • I mean, this guy didn't have any previous history, criminal history or anything like that.

  • He's pretty old.

  • So you know, there's also also also the possibility of some kind of neurological pathology that that might be characteristic of him.

  • You know, some degenerated neurological disease.

  • There was a kid years ago at the University of Texas in Austin who climbed up on the tower there and shot a number of people with a high powered rifle, and he had a fast growing tumor on his hypothalamus and had reported like these being overcome with extreme feelings of rage.

  • So that's another possibility.

  • But I would say the M betterment hypothesis is the strongest one.

  • I would also say, too, I noticed the Steven Pinker tweeted this today is that one of the ways of controlling this sort of thing would be for the press to agree.

  • Not for there to be a blanket agreement, not to publicize the name or any other identity markers of the people who do the shooting.

  • Because there's also this, really, what would you call it?

  • Arrogance.

  • It's a kind of arrogance and pride, last ditch, arrogance and pride that that is associated with the fantasies that drive this sort of behavior.

  • And the fantasy is something like, Well, after I do this, everyone will sure know that who the hell I waas, you know, even though maybe I was ignored or unhappy when I was alive After I'm dead, everybody's gonna know who I wasn't what idea, you know.

  • So there is this underground desire for fame.

  • I guess it's notoriety, but notoriety might be preferable to being ignored.

  • And so you know, there's a lot of talk about gun control, and that's understandable, especially with regards to automatic rifles, although I also understand why the people who are gun owners are afraid of allowing what they regard as one of their fundamental rights to be infringed upon.

  • But it would certainly be useful if we stop giving people who do this sort of thing $100 million worth of free publicity and all the notoriety they could manage.

  • So you know, that's another way of thinking about controlling it.

  • So Antonio Selva says you need a break, Have a glass of wine.

  • Relax.

  • Yeah, well, I was just up.

  • I have this little cabin up north of Toronto, about three hours north, that my wife bought with some money that her dad left her gave her.

  • Actually, he's still alive.

  • And I was up there this weekend and it was relaxing.

  • I was working a bit on this new personality scale and on the Palley a video.

  • But I did relax a bit, and I'm actually feeling a lot better than I was for the last human eye.

  • So mornings air still rough, but by this time of night, I'm feeling vaguely human.

  • So thank God for that because it was pretty brutal.

  • So anyhow, Franklin says, fans are cancer for the authentic individual.

  • Well, huh, that's a tough one, you know.

  • I mean cancer.

  • No, that that's too.

  • That's too dramatic.

  • I mean, I guess that what you're pointing at is the danger of fame, and I can certainly appreciate that.

  • I can't say that I'm particularly comfortable with it, which might seem to be rather hypocritical, as it isn't like I've shied away from exposing my views in public, but I felt that I was driven to that by necessity and also by my desire to educate people.

  • However, I would say, despite the fact that I'm somewhat uncomfortable with it, I think that's mostly because of the responsibility.

  • You know, being terrified for a whole year that I'd say something unforgivably stupid and, you know, demolish myself in public and, you know, feel guilty and horrible about that, for the rest of my life.

  • So far have been fortunate.

  • There's being some close calls, but I've been fortunate.

  • But you know now when I go places people often recognized me.

  • Even at this little town we went up to this weekend, there were two people that came up to me in the parking lot, and we're excited to meet me and, you know, the vast majority of encounters.

  • All of the encounters I have with people in public have bean really wonderful.

  • I have to say that the people have been extremely friendly.

  • You know, sometimes they're a bit starstruck, which I find strange.

  • I can see the projection, you know, So it's It's unsettling for me, although I'm not judging anybody for it.

  • It's just a strange thing to observe.

  • But, you know, I can't complain about the fact that people are are are positively predisposed to what I'm doing.

  • I mean, it's such a privilege.

  • I can't imagine what it would be like to be hated publicly.

  • I think that would just kill me.

  • I really think that.

  • But, um so I mean, it's it's, I suppose there's the possibility of having that sort of thing go to your head, and it's, I mean, that happens to people.

  • But I think I've said this before, maybe on the Q and A's.

  • I have a pretty sensible family and I have a pretty um, what would you say?

  • I have a pretty good sense of my limitations.

  • I would say, Let's we could even call it an acute sense.

  • And so I'm not particularly worried that this is going to go to my head in some way that that would, you know, inflate my ego or something like that, huh?

  • I mean, I think one of the things I have noticed is that I might be a little less patient with people when I'm speaking.

  • Um, because I more used to that more used to that might be good for me to be listened to.

  • And so I have to watch that.

  • But I'm pretty.

  • I've always been pretty noisy and talkative, and so that's probably something that's played me or being a characteristic of me ever since I was a little tiny kid.

  • I mean, I used to talk all the time when I was little.

  • A little little guy.

  • I mean, I think my cousin Eric opponent, he probably listens to this.

  • He used to call the motor mouth, and that was about exactly right.

  • I was like a miniature Camille Talia.

  • So, um, anyways, I can't complain about having let's say fans people have been unbelievably good to me, and I'm really grateful for that.

  • So um, what is the best way to find a routine when you're diagnosed?

  • Bipolar?

  • Well, I would say a couple of things.

  • The first is Try to set your sleep Wake cycle stable e.

  • So pick a time in the morning to get up.

  • That's the most important thing.

  • Get up at the same time every morning.

  • And that might be difficult both when you're mad again when you're depressed.

  • But the closer you can stick to that, the better.

  • And I would also say Try to stabilize when you go to bed and maybe a little later, rather than a little earlier, because you don't want to be laying there, flipping around like a like a fish trying to go to sleep.

  • You want to stabilize your sleep.

  • Wait routines, because bipolar disorder is in part a circadian rhythm disorder.

  • And so anything that destabilizes your circadian rhythms is going to increase the probability that you'll have an episode, and that includes flying.

  • I do believe that at Gatwick Airport there's a name in England.

  • There's a special team that deals with people whose mania has been triggered by the overnight flight.

  • So and then the other thing I would say is stabilized the times you eat, because these basic biological rhythms, eating and sleeping in particular, are part of what stabilize your nervous system.

  • And if you have bipolar disorder than you're likely to be, um, very susceptible to destabilize destabilized, routine routinized activities.

  • Road denies your life to the degree that that's possible.

  • And I would say the other thing you could do is use a calendar, you know, and like a Google calendar and whatever, whatever calendar.

  • And I would say that's a good thing for everyone who's listening to think about.

  • So wanna plan out your days in your weeks and you don't plan to prison right?

  • Use the calendar to design the days that you would like to have.

  • And so part of that's gonna be responsibility, obviously, because you have to keep up with your responsibilities or they overwhelm you and they multiply like hydrates.

  • And but you need to plan for things that you really want to do is well, and the calendar could really be your friend.

  • And I would say of all the things that you could do to organize yourself routinized yourself.

  • Learning to use a calendar is probably among the foremost and doesn't matter if it takes you a year to get good at it.

  • You know you've got the rest of your life then to benefit from now, you should make friends with the calendar.

  • Like I said, I don't treat it like a prison.

  • But it's really important to Thio.

  • Stabilize yourself as much as possible.

  • So periphery, Pete says.

  • I fell asleep listening to you.

  • My bad.

  • I'm gonna change it all right?

  • Looks like everything's OK again.

  • It's not.

  • I use it reflex camera on my and, uh, it has a battery.

  • No electrical plug in.

  • So I'm afraid I'm at the mercy of its batteries.

  • A very high quality camera, though, so I think it's worth worth the trouble anyways.

  • Periphery Pete said.

  • I fell asleep listening to you, which, you know, that doesn't sound so good.

  • So that part's not so good.

  • But this part's good.

  • The next day, my 60 filter list cigarettes a day habit disappeared.

  • Not sure what you said, but thank you.

  • Clearer ex head.

  • Well, if you can figure out what you were listening Thio, maybe I could make a tape of things to listen, to buy Jordan Peterson while you're falling asleep to fix your cigarette habit.

  • But anyways, I think that's great.

  • Don't don't start again.

  • Or if you do, make sure you quit again.

  • I'm really glad to hear that, and I've never had that particular talent pointed out to me before, so that's pretty interesting and comical.

  • So do you believe there's a strong undercurrent of Knost is's, um, in our country?

  • Narcissism, by the way, is the doctrine heretical doctor from a classical Christian perspective that you can attain religious insight through understanding That's that's over simplified view.

  • But, um, things like the sacred, feminine and hatred of the creative world.

  • God, that's a complicated question.

  • I think there's an undercurrent of wannabe Costis ism in our country.

  • You know, I think that people believe they can come too religious enlightenment through understanding, but that they're generally less willing to do the work that would be necessary to do that.

  • Then that is, in fact necessary.

  • It takes an awful lot of study like it took me years of reading Young to really start to understand what he was talking about.

  • You know, you could think about Young as agnostic, but most people who talk about you haven't read anything, he wrote.

  • While that's true often of things that people talk about in general, But I mean, I think there is a place for understanding and religious belief or other.

  • Otherwise, I wouldn't be doing this biblical lecture series, but I think it's pseudo agnosticism.

  • Fundamentally, it's people putting forward ill considered opinions in the place of solid, religious symbolic doctor.

  • I think that's a big problem.

  • I think it's part of what makes us week, and I think we are at the moment beak in our foundations as a civilization.

  • So I have trouble regulating my emotions.

  • I have a suspicion It's to do with the fact that I'm 90 percentile on openness, conscientiousness and eroticism and second percentile, agreeableness and extra version.

  • Any tips on dealing with that?

  • Yeah, well, if you really high in openness and you're really high neuroticism, that could be a rough combination.

  • Conscientiousness should actually help without, although it might make you a bit perfectionistic.

  • Um, the problem with being high and openness, which is creativity and interest in ideas and high and neuroticism, which is a tendency towards anxiety and emotional pain, is that like open people like to break open boxes, conceptual boxes and see what's inside, like Pandora's Box.

  • But people are high and neuroticism r r more likely to respond negatively to complexity and uncertainty.

  • And if you're an open person and you're always thinking up new things, you tend to, um, saw off the branch that you're sitting on on a regular basis, and that could be pretty destabilizing.

  • Any tips on dealing with out Well, I would repeat what I said earlier.

  • I think that one of the things that you do, if you're high and anxiety, is to stabilize your sleep wake cycles, so get up at the same time, go to bed at the same time and eat at the same time.

  • Make sure that you eat breakfast and a big breakfast do.

  • That's heavy on fat and protein, because if you're hungry and then you stress yourself, especially if you're high neuroticism destabilize your your insulin production system, and it won't re stabilize to go to sleep again.

  • So I would say like two things.

  • One is have a big breakfast and then also, if you're feeling particularly anxious, try eating something, not carbohydrates and see if that helps, because you might be somewhat permanently dis regulated in your insulin stress related insulin production, that would be worth trying.

  • I would also say that you should shield yourself to some degree from news sources and sources of bad news, especially contact catastrophic news because most of it isn't news.

  • It's the repetition of things that we already know full well.

  • And there's reason to protect yourself from onslaught of negative information, especially when it's not really necessary for you.

  • I mean, I don't think you should bury your head in the sand but constant exposure to the catastrophes of the world.

  • Um, especially when there's nothing that you could do about those catastrophes.

  • Even hypothetically is something that can really destabilize people.

  • I often tell people in my clinical practice, which isn't operating right now, by the way, to shield themselves from news reports because it's just too much.

  • If you're depressed and anxious, it's just not something that you need.

  • It's not helpful to you.

  • Second percen

Hi there.

字幕與單字

單字即點即查 點擊單字可以查詢單字解釋

B1 中級

問答2017年10月10日 (Q & A 2017 10 October)

  • 7 0
    林宜悉 發佈於 2021 年 01 月 14 日
影片單字