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  • So Jun and I have been asked how we handle our long distance relationship, and more than

  • just thatit seems like a lot of people are interested in our relationship in general,

  • so today I'm gonna talk a little bit about that. I think there's one quote that kinda

  • represents our relationship pretty well. Most of you have probably heard it shared on like

  • Facebook, or something like that. It's the quote that goes: "We're all a little weird.

  • And life is a little weird. And when we find someone whose weirdness is compatible with

  • ours, we join up with them and fall into mutually satisfying weirdness and call it lovetrue

  • love." -by Robert Fulgham. And I think that quote is pretty representative of our relationship.

  • And by the end of this video I think a lot of you will probably agree with me. So Jun

  • and I are the type of people who don't need to be in a relationship at all. Like, neither

  • of us have ever actively sought out a relationship except for our relationship with each other.

  • And more than just thatwe take relationships really seriously from the very beginning.

  • Neither of us are people who can just see someone on the street and be like, "Wow, that

  • person's really attractive!" We have to have that emotional connection. We don't date around

  • for fun. Neither of us flirt with people. A relationship is just something that's really

  • serious to both of us. And for both of us, even though we had dated before we met each

  • other, we had never really found someone that we were truly attracted to until we met each

  • other. So, from the beginning, for our relationship, being that we both take relationships so seriously

  • from the first place, our relationship in particular was pretty much set from the beginning.

  • Like, we knew each other for five weeks before Jun asked me out, and then that very same

  • day that he asked me out, that evening, we were discussing marriage. And... I mean, I

  • knew from the very beginning that I wanted to marry him. I knew I wanted to marry him

  • before we even started dating, which is completely crazy, and I agree that that's crazy. And

  • I'm sure most of you will probably be like, "Wow, you guys were probably just kinda dumb

  • and in love and infatuated and stuff." And maybe you're right, I don't know. But I mean,

  • three years later I just appreciate and love him more every day so it worked out really

  • well for us, regardless of whether or not we were kinda crazy about it. I mean, it's

  • not like we justthat very first day it's not like we were just like, "Hey, let's get

  • married!" It was more like a natural discussion. I mean, I'm the type of person who likes to

  • face problems head on and come up with a solution right away or at least have plans and then

  • back up plans. And I was studying abroad at the time that Jun and I met and I knew...

  • we both knew that I would have to go home soon. So immediately after we started dating

  • I knew that something was going to have to happen because I would be leaving in a few

  • months. So Jun and I were talking that first day we were together and I brought up this

  • whole situation. And we just knew that if we wanted to be together, we were going to

  • have to commit kinda for the long term. Because, if you're in an international relationship,

  • eventually if you wanna be together one person if going to have to move to the other country.

  • And while you can just kinda hope that you can get a job in the other country and then

  • just kinda work on things, that's a really big step to take just to be in a casual relationship.

  • So really if you're that serious about someone, then you're kinda gonna have to get married

  • in an international relationship, because that's really the only way that you guys are

  • going to be able to be together in the future. So that's kind of how the conversation came

  • up, and that's how we discussed it. It was more of like, a natural progression for how

  • things were realistically going to have to be if we wanted to be together. So I mean

  • it wasn't just like, "Hey, let's get married now!" So I brought that up with Jun and I

  • asked him if that would be something he'd be willing to do, and he said yes! And so

  • kinda from that day on, from our very first day, I- we both had marriage as the ultimate

  • goal for us. Even though we hadn't necessarily committed or really asked each other, we both

  • knew that that was what we were aiming for. I asked Jun to make a clip for this video

  • so that he could talk about it a little bit, too, but he was kinda embarrassed so he said

  • he would do it in the future, but he did have a quote that he said I could use, which was:

  • "If one of my friends had told me that [getting married so soon], I would think it was really

  • weird. But because it was with you, I didn't find it weird at all." And I feel the same

  • way. I mean, I never thought I would be in a relationship where I would want to get married

  • so soon, but it just seemed like the right thing for both of us. I mean, I kinda knew

  • from the beginning that he was the person that I wanted to be with. And neither of us

  • believe in fate, or destiny, or "the one" or anything like that. Although, if I did,

  • this kinda seems like a situation where it would apply. But we really did just feel like

  • we were supposed to be together from the very beginning. And it turned out that we were

  • pretty much perfectly compatible with all of our values and beliefs and everything,

  • so it worked out really well for both of us. And as I mentioned we've been together for

  • three years now, and while we've been long distance for pretty much that whole time,

  • we have lived together for like, four sets of three month periods, uhh... like a two

  • month period, a five week period, and then I'm going back to visit him in a week! So

  • I'm so excited! I'll get to see him again! And it'll be the first time I've been to Japan

  • in over a year! So I'm super excited about that. We'll be taking lots of videos so hopefully

  • we'll have some stuff for you guys to see for that. And when we are long distance we

  • do Skype at least twice a day every single day. It kinda works out well that our time

  • zones are almost completely opposite because that means that every day when he's going

  • to sleep I'm waking up and vice versa. So it's easy for us to talk at both of those

  • times. And it also works out that he's the first person I can see when I wake up every

  • morning. He actually calls me on Skype to wake me up every day for work. And he's the

  • last person I see when I go to sleep at night, too. So I think that helps in our relationship.

  • So that's kinda why being in a long distance relationship works out so well for us, because

  • neither of us need to be in a relationship in the first place, so there's no threat of

  • someone coming along and seducing us. We don't go out and party and like flirt with people,

  • or get drunk and kiss people. I mean, I know I made that video a while ago where I was

  • drunk, but that is actually the first time in my life I've ever been drunk. And it's

  • the only time so far. So, since we knew that we wanted to be with each other so much, we

  • don't have a problem waiting for each other as long as it takes, even though it's difficult

  • being apart. I mean, to me it doesn't even make sense to break up because of a long distance

  • relationship because time's going to pass eventually anyway. And there would come that

  • day at some point where we could have been together. And if we break up then I wouldn't

  • have him now and I wouldn't have him in the future. And why would I even do that? Because

  • eventually we will be able to be together. I mean it's painful, but I would much rather

  • wait for him as long as necessary than not have him at all. So that's a little bit about

  • our relationship. I hope that satisfied some of your curiosity for now. We'll talk about

  • more about how we met and everything in the future at some point. But for now please look

  • forward to some videos of us together starting next week! And I'll see you guys next time!

  • Bye!

So Jun and I have been asked how we handle our long distance relationship, and more than

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