that deserves wider currency because it corrects the shortfalls in one of the most central,

governing but insufficient terms in our contemporary idiom: happiness. When we nowadays try to

articulate the purpose of our lives, it is to the word happiness we commonly have recourse.

We tell ourselves and others that the ultimate rationale for our jobs, our relationships

and the conduct of our day to day lives is the pursuit of happiness. It sounds like an

innocent enough idea, but excessive reliance on the term means that we are frequently unfairly

tempted to exit or at least heavily question a great many testing but worthwhile situations.

The Ancient Greeks resolutely did not believe that the purpose of life was to be happy;

they proposed that it was to achieve Eudaimonia, a word which has been best translated as ‘fulfilment’.

What distinguishes happiness from fulfilment is pain. It is eminently possible to be fulfilled

and – at the same time – under pressure, suffering physically or mentally, overburdened

and, quite frequently, in a tetchy mood. This is a psychological nuance that the word happiness

makes it hard to capture; for it is tricky to speak of being happy yet unhappy or happy

yet suffering. However, such a combination is readily accommodated within the dignified

and noble-sounding letters of Eudaimonia. The word encourages us to trust that many

of life’s most worthwhile projects will at points be quite at odds with contentment

and yet worth pursuing nevertheless. Properly exploring our professional talents, managing

a household, keeping a relationship going, creating a new business venture or engaging

in politics… none of these goals are likely to leave us cheerful and grinning on a daily

basis. They will, in fact, involve us in all manner of challenges that will deeply exhaust

and ennervate us, provoke and wound us. And yet we will perhaps, at the end of our lives,

still feel that the tasks were worth undertaking. Through them, we’ll have accessed something

grander and more interesting than happiness: we’ll have made a difference. With the word

Eudaimonia in mind, we can stop imagining that we are aiming for a pain-free existence

– and then berating ourselves unfairly for being in a bad mood. We’ll know that we

are trying to do something far more important than smile: we’re striving to do justice

to our full human potential and to work in some small but key way towards the improvement

of our species.

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