happen to be right now. In today's lesson we're going to talk a little

今天,我們要來討論

bit about being shy or being confident when you are speaking English to people.

當你害羞或是自信的跟別人講英語

Actually today's lesson was a request from one of my YouTube viewers and that person

今天的課是一位Youtube的觀眾所要求的

said "I have a chance to meet foreigners once a

他說:"他有機會見外國人一個禮拜

week but ... when in front of them, I get nervous and my mind goes blank, so I can't speak

一次,但當我面對他們時,我無法講英文,因為我都會緊張,也不知道要說什麼,

English at all. What should I do?" Today I'm going to try and answer that question

我該怎麼做呢?" 所以今天我會盡我最大的努力來回答這個問題

as best as I can and I am going to give you five tips for speaking English confidently In a group of people.

所以我現在要給你五個撇步 讓你有自信的在一群人面前講英文

Welcome back.

歡迎再次收看

We actually have a word in English to describe this feeling of our minds going blank when

我們的確有個字可以去形容當你面對人時,你卻想不到要說什麼的時候,

faced with people. This feeling of freezing in front of people.

這樣的感覺是在別人面前呆住

We say "stage fright." A "stage fright" of course comes form the idea

我們可以說Stage Fright 怯場,當然,這個字是來自

of performing or acting on a stage in front of people.

在舞台表演給人看

The Free Dictionary defines stage fright as acute nervousness associated with performing

從Free Dictionary 定義"怯場"指的是在一個觀眾面前,表演或演講時的急性焦慮的情形

or speaking in front of an audience. A little nervousness is never a bad thing,

有一點緊張並不是件壞事

however if you become too nervous we can't think straight and we can't perform properly

但是,如果變得很緊張,我們就無法想得仔細,也無法在人的面前表現得得體

in front of people. This feeling of shyness basically comes down

這樣的害羞主要的來自

to three fears. I talk about those three fears, and how you

三個害怕,我要講的這三個害怕,和你要如何

can overcome them, in a lot of detail in a special report, or bonus lesson, that I made

去克服他們,細節可以在我的報告和額外的課程裡

you can find out more about that if you join the Doing English newsletter.

你可以找到更多相關的,只要你加入the Doing English newsletter

First of all, it is important that you remember that it isn't just you that feels shy or

第一,重要的是你記得不是只有你感到害羞

nervous. In fact everyone feels shy and nervous to

緊張,事實上,在特定的時候每個人都會感到害羞和緊張

a certain extent. It's just that some people are much better

只是有些人比較會

at ignoring it or hiding it from other people. But the fact remains, that everyone feels

忽略和掩飾它,但是事實上,每個人都是會感到

shy and nervous. So don't think it is just you that feels that

害羞和緊張的。所以不要只以為只有自己會這樣

way. It isn't. It's everyone.

不是，是每個人

my first tip is simply to prepare. If we have no preparation, then we will feel

第一個撇步是準備，如果我們沒準備，我們都會覺得

more nervous because we don't know what to expect.

格外的緊張,因為我們不知道會發生什麼事情

And that will make it much harder for us to get over our nervousness.

這樣會使得我們更難去克服緊張

So try and imagine in advance the kinds of things you might need to talk about.

所以試著事先去想像哪些事情你可能會講到

Or the kinds of people might meet. Think about what you might say and work out

或者是什麼樣的人你可能會遇到,想想你可能會說的,和嘗試

how you could say it. If you don't know the English now is a good

你要如何去說,如果你不知道英語現在是個

time to find out. Also you can prepare a topic to talk about.

好時機去找出。同時你也可以準備一些討論的主題

It could be anything for example if you've read an interesting book recently find out

可以是任何事情，像是如果你最近讀了一本有趣的書，去想想

how you would talk about that interesting book.

你會怎麼去講那本有趣的書

Prehaps you won't need that topic. But regardless of whether you need it or not,

或許你也不那個主題，但是不管你需不需要

you will feel much better for having something ready that you can talk about easily if you

如果你有所準備，當你需要講時，你會覺得得心應手

need it. It might seem like a lot of trouble to prepare

但似乎會有困難去準備

in this way but actually over time you will find that more and more you don't need preparation.

但是經過時間，你會發現你會越來越不需要再準備了

That you don't need to prepare a topic. Because you will get used to being in this

你再不需要準備一個主題。因為你早就習慣這樣的

kind of situation. And things will naturally be much easier and

情形。然後事情就會自然的變簡單

make you feel less nervous. Something that has always worked very well

你也覺得較不緊張。有件方式在我身上非常有管用

for me is to set a "nervous stop time". What does that mean?

就是設定一個"nervous stop time" 這是什麼意思呢?

Think of it this way You're going to meet a group of people at

就是想想,你即將要去面對一群人在

12:30 in the afteroon. Allow yourself the first 30 minutes to feel

下午12:30 ,允許你自己可以非常緊張在前30分鐘

really nervous don't try to stop yourself from feeling really nervous.

不要讓自己停止緊張

Just go with it. But after that 30 minutes is over, at 1:00,

就隨自己緊張,但在30分鐘後,就得停止,在1:00

at that time you have to stop. You have to stop feeling nervous and just

在這時候你就得停止,你必須停止緊張的感覺然後

get on with it. By allowing yourself to have this 'nervous

習慣它,允許你自己有這樣的"緊張時段"

time', this first 30 minutes it is actually much easier to get it out of your system.

這樣的前30分鐘 的確可以不再緊張

And to get over it. So when we reach our stop time at 1:00 you

克服它,所以當時間到1:00時,你就

can just forget all about feeling shy and nervous.

可以忘記所有的害羞和緊張

My third tip seems very simple and very basic, but it is something that often people fail

第三個撇步是非常簡單和基本的,但是人們時常失敗

to do. Introduce yourself to, or greet, everyone

就是介紹你自己,或者是打招呼,每個人都

as quickly as you possibly can. Again, this sounds very basic but actually

盡可能的快,再一次,這個聽起來是很基本的但實際上

making the first contact is the hardest part and the longer you leave it the harder it

第一次的互動是最困難的部分,你拖越久這反而會使得更難

will be. So just do it.

所以就是做吧

Get it done fast. Make first contact and then after that, things

很快地完成它,先有一個互動,之後事情

will be much easier. You can also think of it like this:

會更容易,你也可以這樣想,

Everybody is probably feeling the same as you are that means, if you stop thinking about

每個人大概都會有同樣的感覺,就是如果你快速的自我介紹,你不再想你

yourself and start thinking about other people you're actually making things much easier for

自己,開始去想其他人,這樣會讓他們容易了解你

them if you introduce yourself quickly. Also, introduce other people that you know,

同時,介紹其他你認識的人

or that have just met to the new people that you meet.

或者只是剛認識的新朋友

This will make it much easier for everyone to join a conversation.

這樣的方式可以讓每個人都能一起對話

And it will also mean that people will turn to you as a person who they can trust and

也就是說人們會認為你是一個可以信任

talk to easily. Basically stop thinking about yourself, and

可以很好聊的人,基本上就是不再想自己,和

start worrying about other people, and things will be much easier and much smoother.

開始擔心他人,然後事情就會更簡單更順利

My forth tip is to be authentic, and true to yourself.

第四個撇步是做一個可靠的真實的自己

Now, this works two ways. First of all, don't apologise for yourself.

現在,這有兩個方式,第一是,不要為自己感到抱歉

As an English learner speaking English as a second language it is only natural that

作為一個英語學習者,英語就像是個第二外語,這是正常的

you might make mistakes. Maybe you will make grammar mistakes.

你可能會犯錯,你可能會有文法錯誤

Maybe you will misunderstand some things that people say.

或者你會誤解別人的話

Maybe they will mistunderstand you. But it doesn't matter.

或者他們會誤解你,但這都是沒關係

Everybody understsand that you are an English learner. And nobody minds about these mistakes.

每個人都知道你是個英語學習者,沒人會在意這些錯誤

So don't feel like you have to apologise for them.

所以不要覺得你必須對這些錯誤道歉

At the same time, don't try to make yourself seem much greater than you are.

同時,不要讓你自己變得很偉大

When they get nervous, many people will exaggerate and boast about the things that they have

當人緊張時,他們通常會誇耀吹噓他們已經

done and have achieved. You don't need to do this.

做過和達到的事情,你不需要這麼做

Be humble. Be authentic.

謙虛,和真誠的

Be honest about yourself. And people will respect you for it.

對自己誠實,人們也就會尊重你

My fifth tip today, and possible the most important, is to talk less and listen more.

第五個撇步是,有可能是最重要的,就是少講多聽

Everybody likes to talk about themselves which means for you, if you want to seem like somebody

每個人愛去講他們自己,如果你想要成為一個

who is a very good talker, and is very good communicating with people the best thing you

很好的談話者,一個很好的與人談話方式就是

can do is to give them a chance to talk about themselves and to listen with interest.

你要給他人機會去講他們自己,也要去認真去聽

Instead of talking about things yourself try to find questions to ask.

不要一直講你自己的事, 你反而該去想一些可以問的問題

Ask things to other people, and listen to their answers.

問他人問題,和聽他們的回答

What sort of things should you ask? It doesn't matter.

什麼事情你應該問? 無所謂

Again, the point is simply that people like to talk about themselves.

再一次,要點很簡單,就是人們愛講他們自己

So think of something. Thing of anything and ask them that.

所以想想看,想想每件事物在問他們

Listen and keep the conversation going by asking more questions.

好好聽, 然後藉由問更多問題讓對話繼續進行

And that is it for today. So just remember everybody gets nervous.

所以今天就這樣,只要記得每個人都會緊張

Everybody gets stage fright. But it isn't something which has to stop you

每個人都有怯場的時候,但這不是一個讓你停止

from doing what you want to do. Just follow the tips in this video, and soon

去做你想做的事情,只要跟著這些影片的撇步,很快的

you'll forget all about feeling nervous. My question for you today, is do you have

你會忘記所有的緊張,今天,我有個問題給你們,就是當你和他人講英語時,你們有

any tips of your own for overcoming nervousness and feeling more confident when speaking to

自己的技巧去克服緊張和感到信心的嗎?

people in English? If you do, leave us a comment under this video.

如果你有,在影片的底下,留下你們的意見

And I will see you in the next lesson.

我會在下次的課程中再見到你