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congenial
US /kənˈdʒinjəl/
・UK /kənˈdʒi:niəl/
C1 高級
adj.形容詞同性質的；意氣相投的
Koreans are known for their congenial manner
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每個孤單都是給你的獨特練習！ (Remember That EVERYONE Is Lonely)
- One of the reasons why we tend not to make friends as often as we might comes down to a powerful background idea whose full destructive force we may not even be aware of, the belief that any decent person already has all the friends they need. Somewhere in our minds, the notion has been lodged that only very sad and inept people would, at this stage in their lives, still have a space in their social agenda for a new entrant. Almost everyone else – anyone worth knowing, talented, interesting or good – would long ago have acquired the gang to which they are now continually and irredeemably wedded. What this punishing idea misses is the extent to which a feeling of loneliness and disenchantment is in reality an ongoing and universal possibility, in no way limited to those of reduced appeal. Right now, the enchanting actor is, despite the crowds, perhaps lonely, as is the fated concert pianist, the renowned biologist, the skilled airline pilot, the miraculous neurosurgeon and that rather nice-looking person you've just spotted in the corner of the room, laughing animatedly with a group of fashionable companions. It's open to anyone of sensitivity and charm to fail to find the right sort of allies, to have outgrown their friends from school or university, to not have landed on congenial spirits at work or in the sports centre and therefore to be spending a lot of their evenings on their own. And we can know this for certain of other people because we know it, first and foremost, from a very reliable source – ourselves. We need to battle the modest part of our minds that reads our isolation as a selective punishment and vanquish it with a crucial bit of evidence available directly from our own experience. Other people who know us at a social level almost certainly find it hard to imagine the degree to which we are exposed to loneliness and how much we would still like to locate a wise, tender, funny and interesting new friend. We have built a predominantly cold and guarded society by imagining a thesis which we implicitly know to be untrue on the basis of our experience. The next time we spot an interesting person, we should stop contravening the moral of our own lives. We don't have exactly the right people in our social circle and nor, most probably, do they. So we can afford to shed our false background ideas of social life and go up and say hello.
我們之所以不經常交朋友，其中一個原因是我們有一個強大的背景觀念，這個觀念的破壞力甚至連我們自己都沒有意識到，那就是認為任何一個正直的人都已經擁有了他們所需要的所有朋友。在我們頭腦中的某個角落，已經形成了這樣一種觀念：只有非常可悲和無能的人才會在他們人生的這個階段，在他們的社交議程中為新加入的人留出一席之地。幾乎所有其他人--任何值得了解的人、有才華的人、有趣的人或優秀的人--都早已加入了他們現在不斷地、不可救藥地加入的幫派。這種懲罰性的想法所忽略的是，孤獨感和失落感實際上是一種持續的、普遍的可能性，絕不僅
- It's open to anyone of sensitivity and charm to fail to find the right sort of allies—to have outgrown their friends from school or university, to not have landed on congenial spirits at work or in the sports centre,
【品德教育】小心言論自由讓你成為霸凌者！(How to Become a Dangerous Person)
- Staff now worried that they'd lose their jobs and health insurance if Ristretto were forced to close; that I—a person with whom they'd heretofore had a perfectly congenial relationship—might, in fact, be a secret monster, a rape culture apologist.
員工們擔心若 Ristretto 被迫要收店，他們就會失去工作與健保；而先前與員工們相處融洽的我，可能其實是個秘密怪物，一個強暴文化的辯護者。
