[The Universe: I need you to know your value]

[ 宇宙：你必須知道你的自我價值]

This message is the next step in our personal and spiritual development, the lesson that we need to learn to grow.

而訊息通常都是跟個人心靈發展相關，引導你變得更成熟堅強。

And if you ignore the Universe, it'll just get louder.

如果你故意忽視宇宙的訊息，那它只會越來越大聲。

Oh, a phone call.

喔，我電話響了！

What is this, a personal attack?

什麼東西，騷擾電話嗎？

And louder...

越來越明顯...

You can't ignore me Anna, this is the universe.

Anna 你別想忽視我，我是宇宙。

I have a very important message for you.

我有個很重要的訊息要告訴你。

Okay, I need you to know your value.

你必須清楚了解你的自我價值。

Until finally, it seems kind of ridiculous.

情況越來越荒謬了。

In theory, would you want this... twenty dollars?

理論上，你想要這張二十美金嗎？

In theory?

理論上？

Yeah, but I guess also in reality, yeah.

當然，不只理論上，事實上也是。

Even if I did this?

就算我這麼做嗎？

Uhh... yeah?

呃...對。

What about this?

那這樣呢？

Yeah, I mean it's still 20 dollars.

當然啊，它還是二十美金啊！

What if I farted on it?

那如果我在上面放屁呢？

No, actually, I would definitely pass in that case.

好吧，如果是那樣的話，我就不要了。

Okay, well, I mean never mind then, but like isn't it interesting that no matter how much I beat up this twenty-dollar bill, it still has its inherent value?

當我沒說，我想說的是，無論我怎麼揉捏這張二十美金，它依舊保有它價值，你不覺得很有趣嗎？

Okay, I get it!

好啦，我懂了！

Who are you talking to?

你在和誰說話啊？

So for the last few years, my one goal has been to recognize my self-worth and to practice self-love.

了解自我價值和學習愛自己成為我最近幾年的人生目標。

And you know, in the midst of things, it's really hard to tell whether or not change is actually happening.

而在一連串大小事件當中，你很難察覺自己是否真的有所改變。

But, a few months ago, someone I've been seeing romantically told me.

不過，就在前幾個月，我的另一半跟我說...

So I've like, decided, I don't actually want a relationship anymore, but don't worry.

我決定了...我目前不想要談戀愛，不過別擔心。

I'm still down to like chill and have all the perks of a relationship without any of the emotional accountability.

我還是可以跟你繼續像男女朋友般相處，只是不想對這段感情有所負責而已。

Now freeze on my big, dumb, stupid face!

你這個王八蛋最好快滾出我的視線。

Old Anna would have a hundred percent said...

以前的我百分之百會這麼回...

- Oh, yeah, of course. - That's tight, right, that's like a solid deal.

- 喔好啊，當然。- 那種關係太制約，讓人喘不過氣對吧？

Yeah I mean, that's exactly what I want that lines up.

對啊，那正好是我想說的。

While inside I would have thought...

然而事實上，我內心想的是...

Why don't they like me enough to commit, you know.

為什麼他不喜歡我，覺得我不值得他付出嗎？

Maybe if I stick around, they'll see how awesome I am and change their mind like, I can prove to them that I'm a really great person and I would make a great partner.

或許只要我繼續跟他在一起，他就能看到我的好，然後就會改變他的想法，我可以向他證明我很好，我也能當個好伴侶。

But not today, Satan, today, I said...

不過現在的我不一樣了，我會說...

Okay, well, I totally understand that, but I'm actually looking for a commitment, and I can't just like hang out with people without developing feelings so...

好，我知道了，但想要的是彼此負責的感情關係，我沒辦法跟不想更進一步的人談戀愛。

I'll have to bow out, but it was really nice getting to know you.

所以，我必須從這段關係中退出，不過很高興認識你。

I was so proud of myself, you guys.

我真為我感到驕傲。

And I know it doesn't seem like a big deal.

我知道這看似沒什麼大不了。

But this, this is me knowing that I am worthy of being committed to.

不過，這顯示出我知道自己是個值得被真心對待的人。

In the past, my usual M.O. has been that "I'll stick around," confident that I'm gonna grow on them like a barnacle and, or fungus, and become so indispensable to their life that they can't help but make me their girlfriend.

根據我過去的行事作風，我會選擇繼續跟他在一起，認為自己就像藤壺或某種菌物，依附在他的身上生存著，直到他有天發現我是個不可或缺的存在，要我當他的女朋友。

But not anymore!

不過現在不一樣了！

I have listened to the universe, I have learned!

我聽取宇宙的建議，我學會了！

So for those of you struggling with knowing your value, how do we get here?

那些也對自我價值感到迷惑的人，我就來跟你們分享要怎麼做。

Well, in therapy, I'm learning about positive resilience.

有一種方式叫「正向的復原力」。

So my therapist says that our brains pick out our flaws, right?

我的治療師說，我們大腦會特別挑出我們的缺點。

We're designed to look for the negative and focus on our weaknesses because it's how we survive

因為讓我們意識到自己的短處和弱點有助於生存。

So to cultivate a sense of self-worth, we need to shift that focus onto our strengths, believe in ourselves, and be clear about our values.

所以如果要了解自我價值，你需要把注意力放在自己的優點，對自己有信心，才能清楚知道自己是有價值的。

That means knowing your boundaries, having the courage to speak up for yourself, and finding ways to validate yourself from within, instead of externally.

也就是說，你要了解自己的極限，勇敢為自己發聲，利用內在驗證自我價值，而非外在。

That one I haven't quite figured out yet because I love attention.

不過這一點我還做不到，因為我就愛成為眾所矚目的焦點。

Now, I know this is all very abstract, right?

我知道這些聽起來都很抽象。

Like how do we get to this practically?

究竟要怎麼實際執行呢？

Well, there are many ways, and you can find the ones that speak to you, whether that's taking the Clifton strengths assessment and taking a moment to reflect every week about how you exhibited your strengths.

執行方法有很多種，你可以從中找一個最適合自己的，好比去做評估優勢測驗或者花時間回想每週自己做得好的地方。

Therefore, doing one rep and mentally solidifying positive resilience, or you can write affirmations over and over again to take advantage of the link between what we write down, and how we affect our subconscious beliefs.

總而言之，你可以繼續向內心正向喊話，或是重複寫下自己的優點直到你的潛意識和你所寫下的東西產生緊密連結。

You can explore these issues in therapy, future- self journal to shift your patterns, and, or listen to guided meditations.

還有其他方法，例如：記錄下對未來自己的期許直到改變思考模式，或是練習冥想。

One thing you must absolutely do is give yourself time, measure change in six-month increments, sometimes year increments.

有一點相當重要，那就是要給自己時間，改變可能需要花六個月以上的時間，甚至需要好幾年也說不定。

Because when you're in the muck of day-to-day journaling or repeating affirmations in the mirror.

因為當你持續不斷在日記中寫下或是在對鏡子中的自己說...

I'm beautiful, I'm beautiful, I'm beautiful!

我很美，我很美，我很美。

It can be hard to really see whether or not it's working.

其實很難察覺自己是否有進步改變。

But after you've been at it for a substantial amount of time, when the opportunity arises, you'll see whether or not you're making progress.

但只要你持續好一段時間後，當機會來臨，你自然而然就會發現自己是不是有所長進。

So do not be discouraged, because before you know it, you will see the difference.

所以不要氣餒，因為在你意識到之前，你一定會察覺到自己的改變。

I want a relationship with you.

我想跟妳談場戀愛。

And also you, and you

還有妳，和妳。

No, absolutely not!

不要，我才不要。

-Eyy, look at us! -Look at us! -Look at us!

-嘿，看看我們！-看看我們！-看看我們！

-Yes, -Oh my God. -Oh my God -I didn't even know he was cheating on us... the entire time... with all of you.

-我的老天，真是太棒了！-我甚至不知道他之前背著我們偷吃... 一直以來都是... 跟你們全部的人。

I'm Anna Akana, thank you to CARE OF for sponsoring today's video.

我是 Anna Akana，感謝 CARE OF 贊助今天這部影片。

Because I am both a vegetarian and a bit of a health nut.

因為我是個素食主義，同時也是個健康達人。

Everyday, I take the multivitamin, probiotic and biotin for my hair and nails.

我每天都會攝取多種維生素、益生菌、生物素來保養我的頭髮和指甲。

Vitamins to me have always been like insurance, in case I get too stressed out and I haven't eaten what I need to, or if I'm not paying attention to my protein sources and being a junk food vegetarian.

攝取維他命對我來說就是讓健康多份保障，以防萬一當我太過於忙碌的時候，我會忘記攝取我所需的營養，或是，當我沒有注意蛋白質的來源，變成一個「垃圾食物之素食主義者」。

I definitely notice a difference in my sleep quality and my mood when I'm getting what my body needs.

我確實有發覺，當我攝取足夠的營養素，睡眠品質和情緒都會出現變化。

But I know that figuring out what your body needs can be annoying and overwhelming, so CARE OF makes vitamins easy.

而我知道，弄清楚身體到底需要什麼營養素是一件惱人的事，不過 CARE OF 讓這件事情變簡單了。

You just take a five-minute quiz and they suggest which vitamins you need based on your dietary requirements and lifestyle.

你只需要做個五分鐘的小測驗，「care/of」會根據你的飲食需求和生活方式來訂定出你所需要的營養素。

They also have some new veggie protein powders and on the go sticks that I am living for.

他們現在也推出新的素食蛋白粉，還有我最愛的隨身小包裝。

Prices start at just 20 dollars a month and vary depending on your personalized pack.

價錢的部分，一個月 20 美金再根據個人的營養素組合調整價錢。

The first 200 people to click the link in the description can use my code and get 25 percent off their first month.

前兩百位點擊下方連結的使用者，可以使用我的優惠代碼，並得到首月七十五折的優惠價格。

Bye!

再見！