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  • so I was thinking about love I was

  • thinking about how difficult it is for

  • us to find and to to maintain the love

  • that we all yearn for and it kind of

  • dawned on me that I think a big part of

  • the problem is that we miss define love

  • it's possible that no other one subject

  • has been more analyzed talked about and

  • experienced by every single person on

  • this planet than love and yet we really

  • have no clue what it is the me and Jada

  • was reflected about you cannot make a

  • person happy you can make a person smile

  • you can make a person feel good you can

  • make a person laugh but whether or not a

  • person is happy is deeply and totally

  • and utterly out of your control the

  • thing that we call love the thing that

  • we're searching for and we're trying to

  • create that we call love is actually not

  • love

  • J Krishnamurti talked about the the

  • concept of the desire pleasure paradigm

  • that we think about love in terms of

  • desire and pleasure meaning that if you

  • meet my needs then I love you if you

  • don't then I don't so that love becomes

  • transactional if you do what I want if

  • you meet my desire and give me pleasure

  • I love you if you don't meet my desire

  • and you don't give me pleasure I don't

  • love you I think that that is the

  • insatiable nature of desire trying to

  • get somebody to fill our cup

  • I think that that leads to to anger and

  • it leads to frustration and ultimately

  • it makes us break apart from people

  • my daughter Willow really taught me a

  • hard lesson I think that the real

  • paradigm for love is Gardner flour so

  • the relationship that a gardener has

  • with a flower is the the gardener wants

  • to flower to be what the flower is

  • designed to be not what the gardener

  • wants the flower to be you want the

  • flower to bloom and to blossom and to

  • become what it wants to be you want it

  • to become what God designed it to be

  • you're not demanding that it become what

  • you need it to be for your ego anything

  • other than all of your gifts wide open

  • giving and nourishing this flower into

  • their greatness is not love

  • [Music]

  • I came up with it with a thing that I

  • that has been really helpful to me love

  • is spelled l u v listen understand and

  • validate what you hear as true listening

  • is a magnificent superpower a really

  • deep listening and we can't listen if we

  • got something that we want to say

  • listening is a connective energy

  • learning how to quiet your own mind and

  • quiet your own thoughts and quiet your

  • own needs and desires and listen to what

  • the other person is saying you is

  • understand that you have to truly

  • understand what the person is saying to

  • you there is nothing that feels better

  • to a human being than to feel understood

  • the mission is to thoroughly and

  • completely understand what the person is

  • saying and what has been helpful for me

  • is to repeat back what the person has

  • said to you and then the V is validate

  • the things that you recognize as true in

  • what they say validate them as true yes

  • I get it

  • I understand that I see that got it so

  • the validation is a huge part of

  • creating a loving environment with a

  • person l UV listen understand validate

  • at its core a think love is help

  • everybody is having a hard time so love

  • is really devotion to their struggle

  • it's when you're committed to helping

  • somebody with their life helping them to

  • suffer less you know helping them to

  • manage their minds and their emotions I

  • think love is a deep desire for our

  • loved ones growth and their blossoming

  • and their all-around well-being when you

  • love somebody you want them to feel good

  • you want them to be happy and you want

  • to see them succeed in life and love

  • really demands an in-depth understanding

  • of their hopes and their dreams and

  • their fears their needs and trauma I

  • think love is giving and sharing our

  • gifts for the purpose of nurturing

  • empowering them and helping them to

  • create their greatest joys

  • [Music]

so I was thinking about love I was

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什麼是愛? (What Is Love?)

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    eunice4u4u 發佈於 2021 年 01 月 14 日
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