five reasons why you need to cut it off,

五個你必須分手的理由，

and move forward with your life

如果對方現在還不確定，

if there is someone right now

你是不是那個「對的人」時，

who is not sure about you.

請繼續向你的人生前進。

Number One

第一個，

You have to do

你必須做

what he's not strong enough to do.

他無法做的事。

In his weak moments

在他脆弱的時刻，

where he's lonely and needy,

寂寞且需要陪伴的時候，

and wants to be connected to you...

他想要你陪在他身邊...

He'll come back to you.

他會來找你。

You'll have a great time together,

你們擁有在一起的美好時光，

but in his strong moments

但當他處於風光的時刻，

he'll be questioning again

他又會再次感到疑惑，

whether this is the right relationship,

這真的是對的關係嗎？

whether you're the right person.

你真的是對的人嗎？

So you'll be on a loop with this guy

因此你會和這個人處在無限循環中，

where this pain will come back to revisit you

痛苦會再次找上你，

over and over again.

一次又一次。

Every time you think you've got past it...

當你每次覺得你們克服了 ...

It'll come back.

痛苦又回來了。

You have to cut it off,

因為這是個他永遠都沒有的好機會，

because there's a very good chance

所以你必須

he never will.

提出分手。

Number Two

第二個。

There is someone out there waiting for you

有一個認定你的人

who will be sure of you.

在等你。

They won't think you're seventy percent

他們並不懷疑你是不是

of what they want.

他們想要的那個人。

They'll be absolutely certain of you.

他們很確定那個人就是你。

You are depriving yourself of that person

你在和某人約會，而且那個人並不確定愛你，

by hanging around with someone who's not sure about you,

你剝奪了你可以得到真正愛你的人的感情。

and by the way,

順便提一下，

you're also depriving that person

你也剝奪了真正愛你的人擁有你

of you.

的權利。

Number Three

第三個。

Life is short enough

人生太短暫了，

with the right person.

能和對的人相處時間也很短暫。

When you find that person that you're sure of

當你找到確定真正

who's sure of you

愛你的人時，

you're already gonna feel like

你感覺到世界上，

there isn't enough time in the world to love each other.

已經沒有足夠的時間去相愛了。

So why would you spend a portion of that finite, precious time

所以為什麼你要花有限且寶貴的時間，

with someone who's not even sure about you?

在一個不確定是否愛你的人身上？

Number Four

第四個。

Even when he's with you,

即使他在你身邊，

you're not getting his best.

他沒有盡全力愛你。

How do I know that?

我怎麼知道的呢？

Because when a man isn't all in,

因為當一個男人沒有盡全力去愛，

when he hasn't really decided that this is the person,

他還不確定你是不是真愛的時候，

he's always holding back.

他總是會退縮。

He's not giving as much of his emotional energy,

他不會付出太多情感能量，

as much of his time,

還有時間，

he's not going out of his way

他並不會盡力去做

to do the gestures that he would do...

他會做的示愛舉動 ...

So you're getting scraps of him

因此，即使你對他感覺很好，

even when you feel like it's good,

但你仍會有所不滿，

and my response to that is that is an insult to you.

我對此的回應是那是對你的侮辱。

It's an insult to your time.

是對你時間的侮辱。

It's an insult to how much you care about this person.

是對你多麼在乎這個人的侮辱。

That you're going to a show every night,

就像你每晚都去看表演，

and the cast isn't even showing up.

但演員甚至沒有出現。

They're not doing their best performance.

他們並沒有盡全力去表演。

Why would you be with someone who's not giving you their best performance?

為什麼你要和一個沒有盡力去愛你的人在一起呢？

And Number Five

第五個。

Relationships are hard enough

即使是合適的兩個人，

even when it's the right person.

維持關係也是非常困難的。

When two people find each other,

當兩個人相識，

and they're certain of each other,

認定彼此的感情，

there's still gonna be issues,

在他們之間仍會有許多問題，

and we're still gonna strive everyday

而我們每天都在克服困難，

to do better,

讓所有事變得更好，

to grow,

發展更好，

to give more,

付出更多，

but in a relationship

但是在一段關係中，

we should be giving more

我們應該付出更多，

to try to be our best,

努力讓自己做到最好，

not to try to be enough.

而不是做到好而已。

If you have to kill yourself

如果你必須殺了自己，

just to be enough for someone...

只是為了滿足某人 ...

That is gonna destroy you over time.

隨著時間流逝，那會摧毀你的。

You're gonna be exhausted.

你會感到很疲憊。

We should be enough just by being us,

我們只要成為我們就夠了，

and everything else

而其他一切，

is effort to be our best for our partner.

都是為我們的另一半盡力而為。

Don't strive to be enough.

不要努力做到滿意。

Find someone you are enough for,

找一個你滿意的人，

and then strive to be your best for that person.

然後為那個人盡力而為。

Look, guys will say they're uncertain for a lot of reasons,

許多人會說由於許多原因，所以才會覺得疑惑，

and they may be true,

也許這是真的，

they may be completely, logically correct.

在邏輯上也完全正確。

Maybe he is working three jobs.

也許他做三份工作，

Maybe it is a tough time in his life.

也許這是他人生中最艱困的時候。

Maybe there is something going on for him internally

也許他內心深處有一些事情，

that he can't deal with right now,

是他現在無法克服的，

but I don't care about his reasons right now,

但我現在不管這些理由，

I care about your reality.

我只在乎你的現實面。

The one where you are entertaining

現實生活你正在做的，

giving your time,

付出你的時間，

giving your energy,

付出你的精力，

giving your emotion

付出你的情緒，

to someone who is not sure about you.

為一個不確定是不是真心愛你的人。

That's the reality,

這就是現實，

and that's the thing that you have to focus on.

你必須專注面對這件事情。

Life is too short to spend it

人生太短暫了，

with someone who is not sure about you.

無法與不是真正愛你的人度過，

Set the bar higher than that.

請設置更高的標準。

I will see you next week.

我們下週再見。