He hasn't texted me in a week.

他整整一個禮拜都沒有傳訊息給我。

But his Venmo transaction history seems to indicate that he's really busy eating pizza with his friends.

但是，他的 Venmo 裡的交易紀錄顯示，他買了很多披薩和朋友一起狂歡。

And a friend of mine who clearly took pity on the pathetic rationalizations she was witnessing sat me down and said...

我有個朋友再也看不下去我這樣被感情折磨，她決定和我坐下來好好聊聊。

You know, my mom had the best piece of dating advice about how to tell if someone likes you or not.

我媽曾經告訴我一個判斷對方愛不愛你的方法。

Yeah? Is it in his Venmo transaction history?

真的嗎？是從他的 Venmo 交易紀錄裡看嗎？

No.

不是。

How often he initiates texts?

不然，是從他主動傳訊息的次數決定的嗎？

I made a chart.

我畫了一個圖表。

No, If they like you, you'll know.

不是，如果他喜歡妳，妳自然而然就會知道。

And if they don't, you'll be confused.

如果你一直都摸不清他的心意，那就代表他並不喜歡妳。

What...

妳說什麼...

Yeah, I'm sorry.

我很抱歉，但事實就是這麼殘酷。

There you have it!

這就是方法！

It's that easy.

相當簡單。

That's how easy it is.

這方法就是這麼簡單明瞭。

I don't need to give you a three minutes video for this shit.

討論這主題根本不需要三分鐘。

The average person opens Instagram 150 times a day.

平均每個人一天點開 Instagram 的次數是 150 次。

So guess what?

所以，妳覺得呢？

Even though we like to tell ourselves that they're busy, or they're shy, or they're intimidated.

我們總是喜歡自我催眠說「他在忙」、「他很害羞」或是「他們生性膽怯」。

Nope!

但別被自己騙了！

Stop making excuses.

不要再找有的沒的藉口了。

It's simple. Really it's simple.

這道理很簡單，真的非常簡單。

If you're upfront with your interest and who you are, and they aren't reciprocating, they are not your person!

如果你不斷地向他示好且積極地讓他認識妳，但是對方仍無動於衷，這就代表了他不是那個「對的人」！

Move on!

另尋他人吧！

There's a billion other fish in the sea, but there's also a lot of trash.

大海裡還有千百萬種魚等你去發掘，不過也相當多垃圾。

Oh, there's a lot of trash.

這世界的人渣不少。

And you're going to be out there cleaning up the beach, looking for one solid shiny fish to bring home.

你現在要做的是，找到那隻專屬於你的魚。

But you're wading through water bottles and plastic bags and mixed signals.

在這過程中，你可能會碰到一些瓶瓶罐罐和塑膠袋，一些使你焦慮難受的感情雜訊。

So if you're not getting a green light, go!

如果你一直都沒有接收到乾脆的訊號提示，邁開步伐向前走吧！

Go off!

不要再留戀於這個人。

Like I am now.

就像我一樣。

Also, I'm doing my first headline show on July 24th at the Moroccan Lounge in downtown LA.

對了，七月二十四日我將在洛杉磯市中心的摩洛哥酒吧，舉辦我的首場演出。

If you're interested, tickets are in the description below as well as a VIP upgrade package that comes with a meet-and-greet, early show and sound check access, and a merch item.

如果你有興趣，底下資訊欄裡有購票資訊，以及 VIP 的套票方案，裡頭包含了見面會、觀看綵排和周邊商品。

Hope to see you there.

期待與你們相見。

But finally, thank you to Squarespace for sponsoring today's wisdom.

最後，我要感謝 Squarespace 贊助這部影片。

Squarespace has award-winning templates and all-in-one platforms, so there's no installs, patches, or double texts ever.

Squarespace 是個全方位的網站製作平台，不需要額外下載程式和修補程式，也不需要擔心會有訊息轟炸的問題。

And if you don't have a domain, Squarespace offers a simple and straight-up set up experience.

如果你對網站製作不是很熟悉， Squarespace 也提供了簡單明瞭的教學。

Plus they have twenty-four-hour customer service so they're not gonna leave you on read.

此外，他們的客服是二十四小時的，你不用擔心自己會被已讀不回。

Go to squarespace.com/Anna to start your free trial today.

快去 squarespace.com/Anna 開啟你的免費試用。

And use the offer code "Anna" at checkout for 10% off.

然後輸入優惠代碼 Anna 即可享有九折優惠。

Good luck, with the trash.

祝你們好運...遠離人渣。