Name: 8 Types of Love You Will Experience in this Lifetime
Uploaded: 2019-07-16T07:28:03.000Z
Duration: 6 min 18 s

Aristotle and Plato, our main Greek boys knew what they were talking about when they thought about love.

亞里士多德和柏拉圖，我們主要的希臘男孩知道他們在想愛情的時候在說什麼。

In fact, Canadian psychologist, John Allen Lee also found their work meaningful, that he borrowed some of their Greek terms and invented the color wheel theory of love.

事實上，加拿大心理學家約翰-艾倫-李也覺得他們的工作很有意義，以至於他借用了他們的一些希臘術語，發明了愛情的色輪理論。

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Vibrant and easy to follow, we will also be using this tool throughout this video to help you explore the many different types of love.

生動活潑、簡單易行，我們也將在整個視頻中使用這個工具來幫助你探索多種不同類型的愛情。

Although times have changed since Aristotle and Plato were alive, the world has evolved with dating apps, flirty emojis and romantic memes, one thing hasn't; We all yearn for affection.

雖然自從亞里士多德和柏拉圖在世以來，時代已經發生了變化，世界已經發展了約會應用、嫵媚的表情和浪漫的備忘錄，但有一件事沒有，我們都渴望感情。

Whether you're just getting into your first relationship, or you prioritize self-love first and foremost, here are the 8 types of love you will experience in this lifetime.

無論你是剛進入第一段感情，還是你首先把自愛放在首位，以下是你這輩子要經歷的8種愛情。

Are you a "no-strings-attached" sort of partner?

你是那種 "無牽無掛 "的伴侶嗎？

那麼，路德斯對你的描述就很完美了。

People who experience playful love see it as one big exciting game.

經歷過玩命愛情的人，都把它看成是一場刺激的大遊戲。

Instead of committing fully to one person, their main objective is to make things less complicated by having multiple partners or being friends with benefits.

他們的主要目的不是全身心地投入到一個人身上，而是通過擁有多個伴侶或做利益朋友來減少事情的複雜性。

On the upside, this type of love keeps things burning with excitement and childlike innocence.

從好的方面來說，這種類型的愛情讓事情保持著興奮和童真的燃燒。

But on the downside, people who prefer playful love like to feel in control, so they end up manipulating their partners, whether it means lying, deceiving or exploiting their weak spots.

但在缺點上，喜歡玩弄愛情的人喜歡控制感，所以他們最終會操縱自己的伴侶，無論是說謊、欺騙還是利用他們的弱點。

Unfortunately, if you're a highly sensitive person, then this type of love may not be for you.

不幸的是，如果你是一個高度敏感的人，那麼這種類型的愛情可能不適合你。

Daniel Kim, from "We The Kims" channel, dives deep into what a highly sensitive person is, and how they function differently.

來自 "We The Kims "頻道的Daniel Kim深入探討了什麼是高度敏感的人，以及他們的功能有何不同。

Be sure to check out his link in the description below after this video.

一定要在這個視頻後的描述中查看他的鏈接。

Ah yes, there's nothing like being bitten by the nasty old green bug, or putting on a mad hat.

啊，是的，沒有什麼比被討厭的老青蟲咬了一口，或者戴上一頂瘋狂的帽子更可怕的了。

People who experience Mania often suffer from low self-esteem, and want to feel complete.

經歷過躁狂症的人，往往會有自卑感，想要獲得完整感。

So they often latch onto their partner, which usually creates a codependent relationship.

所以他們經常會把自己的伴侶套牢，這通常會形成一種依賴關係。

The good news, however, is that one can always grow out of Mania, and move onto a different type of love that's free from obsession.

不過，好消息是，人總能從 "躁動 "中成長起來，轉入另一種沒有執念的愛情。

In order to repair a codependent relationship, Dr. Misty Hook says that it's important to set boundaries and find happiness as an individual.

為了修復依賴關係，Misty Hook博士說，作為一個個體，設定界限和尋找幸福很重要。

Whether that means spending more time with family and friends, broadening your networking circle, or picking up a new hobby, these activities can all build your independence.

無論這意味著要花更多的時間與家人和朋友在一起，擴大你的人際關係圈，還是拾起一個新的愛好，這些活動都可以培養你的獨立性。

Eros was the son of Aphrodite, the goddess of love.

愛神是愛神阿佛洛狄忒的兒子。

This is when things get real steamy and intense, like those R rated scenes your parents stop you from watching.

這時，事情就會變得真正的蒸汽和激烈，就像那些R級的場景，你的父母阻止你看。

This type of relationship involves a strong physical and emotional connection, where both partners exercise compassion.

這種類型的關係涉及到強烈的身體和情感聯繫，雙方都行使同情心。

Romantic and idealistic, Eros leaves people feeling high on love.

浪漫而又理想化的愛神，讓人們對愛情產生了高漲的感覺。

It is also often the initial stage of an exclusive relationship.

這也往往是一段專屬關係的初始階段。

Do you often feel like butterflies are overrated, or just want something that's stable and lasting?

你是否經常覺得蝴蝶被高估了，或者只是想要一些穩定持久的東西？

People who prefer enduring love have a practical approach towards relationships.

喜歡持久愛情的人，對待感情的態度很實際。

They choose convenience over romance and are more concerned about whether their partner can bring common sense to the table.

他們選擇方便而非浪漫，更關心伴侶能否帶來常識。

The individual also finds their partner's level of education, religious beliefs, social status and financial standing important.

個人也認為伴侶的教育水準、宗教信仰、社會地位和經濟狀況很重要。

This type of love, along with the remainder, are not included in Lee's color wheel theory of love, but they are still important enough to the Greeks to be explored.

這種類型的愛情，以及其餘的愛情，並沒有包括在李的愛情色輪理論中，但它們對希臘人來說，仍然是足夠重要的，值得探討。

In fact, they consider it far superior than Eros because it's a love that's equal.

其實，他們認為它遠比愛神更優秀，因為這是一種平等的愛。

It is commonly believed that if you have one good friend in life, then you're lucky.

人們普遍認為，如果你一生中有一個好朋友，那麼你就是幸運的。

Philia is the platonic love we have for others whom we are not physically attracted to.

菲利亞是我們對自己身體上沒有吸引的他人的柏拉圖式的愛。

This type of love thrives on components of loyalty, openness and a true sense of understanding one another.

這種類型的愛情是以忠誠、開放和真正理解對方的成分為基礎發展起來的。

Storge is a Greek term that means natural affection or family love.

Storge是希臘語，意思是自然的感情或家庭的愛。

This type of love is the first you experience throughout your life.

這種愛情是你一生中第一次經歷的。

It forms between parents and their children.

Some of us are blessed with wonderful childhoods, and we can rely on our parents again and again for guidance.

我們有些人的童年是美好的，我們可以一次次地依靠父母的指導。

But those of us who grew up in a toxic household may find it difficult to achieve familial love.

但我們這些在有毒家庭中長大的人，可能很難實現家庭的愛。

This type of love shares the Buddhist philosophy of self-compassion.

這類愛情與佛教的自在慈悲理念相同。

In order to reach Philautia, one must exercise self-understanding, until they gain the strength to love themselves.

為了達到菲洛蒂亞，必須鍛鍊自我理解，直到獲得愛自己的力量。

It is only until we accept who we are that we can love others.

只有我們接受自己的身份，才能愛別人。

But, true self-love isn't just experience at certain moments.

但是，真正的自愛並不只是某些時刻的體驗。

It must be unconditional love you have for yourself.

這一定是你對自己無條件的愛。

If you've been in an abusive household or relationship, self-love will seem like a foreign concept.

如果你曾在一個虐待的家庭或關係中，自愛似乎是一個陌生的概念。

Some helpful tips that are to practice include: asking yourself what you need, allowing yourself to feel your emotions instead of tuning them out, and meditating.

一些要練習的有用技巧包括：問自己需要什麼，讓自己感受到自己的情緒而不是把它們調出來，以及冥想。

最後但並非最不重要的是，我們有Agape。

This is the highest form of love we will ever experience.

這是我們所經歷的最高形式的愛。

Agape is what Buddhists refer to as universal kindness.

Agape就是佛教徒所說的普度眾生的善心。

When we exercise selfless love, we are capable in forgiving and seeing the good in others.

當我們行使無私的愛時，我們就有能力去寬恕和看到別人的優點。

You can have Agape for strangers, religious figures or nature.

你可以對陌生人、宗教人物或自然界有Agape。

In this type of love, you learn to be altruistic and giving, helping those in great need of support.

在這種愛中，你要學會利他和付出，幫助那些非常需要支持的人。

Which type of love resonates with you the most?

哪種類型的愛情最能引起你的共鳴？

And which kind would you lke to experience before you die?

Please share your thoughts with us below.

請在下面與我們分享您的想法。

If you're curious to learn more about love, be sure to check out our video on Sternberg's theory of love.

如果你想了解更多關於愛情的知識，一定要看看我們關於斯特恩伯格愛情理論的視頻。

Also, don't forget to subscribe to our channel for more helpful tips, and share this video with others.

此外，不要忘記訂閱我們的頻道，以獲得更多有用的技巧，並與他人分享這個視頻。

With your help, we can reach more people and provide our support.

在您的幫助下，我們可以接觸到更多的人，提供我們的支持。